August/September 2019 Babies (Due in Sept 19)

[IVEgottheDECAF]

Couldnt see a post natal group so have taken it upon myself to start one! Will obviously still keep up on antenatal also until babies have all arrived!

Shall we start a list of arrivals?

IVEgotheDECAF - DC5 - boy - 07/09/19 - 9lb1oz

Me too decaf but needs must! Heh!

Hi! Could I join please?

DD1 was born 25/09 and we are loving her so so much. Feeding has been more difficult than I expected, still feeling very engorged and sore but it is beginning to ease up I hope! She's feeding a lot though so only dropped 50g from her birth weight at day 5 so I'm chuffed with that!

She's begun to start choking a little which she first goes on the boob and it seems to take her a little while to settle on it which it never used to! Anyone else had this at all?

I'm also feeling sad at the thought of not being pregnant again nor having a newborn. Never thought I'd say that but this time round has been so much better! DH has absolutely banned a third child or more so I need to make my peace with that. Sigh.

We're co sleeping too, DS would sleep in the bedside cot but it annoys me having to scoot down the bed to get out and just so much easier having him right beside me. @DustyDoorframes how are you getting an actual nights sleep? Teach me please!

Last time I weighed myself I was back to pre pregnancy weight however my hips are much wider (literally cannot get some trousers up over them) and my stomach still definitely looks pregnant so not sure what's going on there!!

@yevans could she be choking on your let down? I have a fast let down (it literally shoots out) so when I feel it coming I take DD off for a minute and hold a muslin or milk collector against my nipple then pop her back on when the flow has calmed down!

@knobJockey we will have the same on the name, everyoneelse getting far too obsessed about it.
MiL said today we took forever, weeks on end over DDs name, It was about 4 days it's on Facebook we have proof!
Then she gave the dirtiest look to OHs fave name and asked me twice what he had said which made me laugh. But then said exactly what I didnt want her to do...referred to Jasper (my fave name) as Yasper and OH went mad - they had a dog Jasper years ago and never called him Yasper once but when it's a boys name she inflicts her scandi roots, had no idea what she kept saying. Wish we had just kept it to ourselves!

@Tefiti2 it could be, it does feel quite strong and if she comes off half way through choking a bit it's always gushing out a bit! I'll give that a go and see if that helps at all, thanks :)

Honestly so surprised at how much feeding takes up my every thought. I'm analysing absolutely everything and constantly worrying about it!

Hah yes @BBell2 never let on about names until it's too late and people have to suck it up! (I guess with the possible exception of v delicate cases like using the name of someone who has recently died and running it past their nearest and dearest. But otherwise it's nobody's business and someone will always object!)

@happydays00 I think I've lucked out with a miracle newborn at this stage- I just lie down, latch on, and we both go to sleep until DC2 (who is 3) comes into the bed, at which point we change sides so I'm between them, possibly change a nappy, and carry on. I'm fully expecting this not to last, it's too easy!

@yevans I was going to say power letdown too - it will settle as your milk settles and as she gets bigger and more able to glug! I'd say it's a very good sign that you two are doing really well. It's hard to relax into it, but you just need to trust that between the two of you, you are just making it work. Her by taking what she needs, and you by producing more as she takes more, all pretty invisibly. Magic!

decaf please tell me you have someone who does your washing & ironing?!! I feel like I'm constantly washing and just have clothes everywhere!! Can't even imagine what it's like with 5 kids!!

Unfortunately not boodles Current trying to decide if i should get a second washer, second dryer or washer dryer....

Oh you so deserve a washer/ironing service! Definitely get the 2nd washer/dryer. You must be so super organized with everything. Hats off to you!

boodles STOP IRONING. Honestly, there's no need. Any clothes that absolutely require ironing are not suitable for a lifestyle with tiny babies and little children!

Ha first task every day is wash clothes and last task every night is to wash the nappies. Getting s little routine going here!

Definitely no ironing though

Agree about ironing. I only do dcs school uniforms but with three of them at school even that takes a while

3 days PP and the hormones have hit, apologies this is such a rant!
I'm so pissed at our "support network". I call mum Thursday, to warn her about DD needing looking after- she said "ok, we are our for tea Saturday night so need to drop her off" zero discussion on them missing a meal out. So DD goes to MIL (who despite being a nightmare in the past says nothing of her plans).
But my SIL goes round, facebk status about being sick, then a picture of her and DD.

Monday we are in the hospital and asked to collect DD from nursery, temp of 39, hacking cough. She meets her brother absolutely miserable.
Tuesday mum wants to visit, despite being told about DD brings great gran (94, has had pneumonia within 3 months). Mum offers to take DD a couple of nights, it clearly difficult, everyone is just crying...but not tonight because they are "out for a curry". I'm grateful but question who with and it's the two of them.
Meantime SIL bumps her car and has fecked up her insurance - endless phone calls asking for help which she will then ignore.
FiL has broken the car seat and calls as I'm in labour and bleeding irate asking how to fix it and can we come back (?!) Gets told no. But comes today for 3 hrs+, repeats the story to the same response- no one gives a fuck. Blatantly hanging for an invite to lunch, I just refused to make.
OH has stepped in and told everyone to bog off, but it means another night of two crying children and probably one crying mum! We were all at it earlier in sync.
Milks coming in, I'll feel better tommorow right!?

Oh I definitely only iron the essentials, mainly DHs work shirts. I'm living in leggings and DS is a typical messy boy at nursery so zero effort goes into his clothes when he just ruins them anyway! Just feels like I have a constant cycle of baby grows! Guess that's what 2 newborns that poo, piss and puke everywhere is like!

Oh gosh BBEll that's not what you need at all right now. I found I was at my most emotional when my milk came in. You will definitely feel better but don't be afraid to tell your family that they are not helping! Be straight with them and say you need their help and support. Or if it's not wanted then don't answer the phone right now.

Hey all.

I have a new frustration...baby is refusing a bottle. I'm breastfeeding all the time but I don't want him to forget how to take a bottle so that I can leave him with my parents in a couple weeks when we have a wedding to go to.
He took a bottle no problem 9 days ago. About 3 or 4 days ago I tried him with bottle and he refused and got into a state.
Same again tonight. Argh!
So frustrating since the first 2 weeks of his life all we did was feed from bottles. Not sure what to do :(

@Horehound argh - we're out on Friday evening so I'm hoping ds hasn't forgotten how either!! Have you tried him with a dummy in between? I use same brand as bottles just to get him off to sleep so I'm hoping this has kept his practice up!! It has never affected his latch on the breast.

@kyles101 Yeh I've been giving him a dummy but it's not the same shape as the medala calma teat on the bottle. I have a feeling that teat is maybe a bit too hard but he did take it last week.
I've just tried him with a 3rd teat type and he has taken that. Think it may have been because he was still kind of dozing when I gave him it although he only took about 30ml. Anyway, it's a start!
Honestly didn't realise how many different issues there would be!
Will you try a bottle before you go out to make sure he's ok with it?

@Horehound I am bottle feeding so can’t offer personal advice however my sister finds that her DS will only take a bottle off other people and not off her? Have you tried that? If she leaves the room and her partner gives the bottle he will take it but won’t ever take it from her.

@Horehound DS doesn't seem to mind the Medela test but DD hated it, we had to use Tonner Tippee for her. The Medela one is quite hard.

It could also be because it's you offering the bottle? Have you had any luck with other people?

We do one expressed feed a day to give him colief and DH does it. I've not had to yet, but I suspect he would protest

@Stroan do you think the colief is having much effect? DS was grunting, straining and generally appearing very uncomfortable last night from about 2:30am! It seems to have got a lot worse in the last week (7 weeks today)

How much are the formula fed babies now drinking?

BabyDECAF is now draining 5oz every 2.5-3 hours, he may end up the size of a house

Babyhappy is combi fed but will easily drain 5oz when I give him a bottle. He feeds every 3-4 hours though apart from a daily cluster feed when who knows how much he's consuming 🤷‍♀️

@happydays00 yes. I wasn't convinced but we ran out the other night and he was a lot more grunty, lots of wriggling all night. It's SO expensive though