August/September 2019 Babies (Due in Sept 19)

[IVEgottheDECAF]

Couldnt see a post natal group so have taken it upon myself to start one! Will obviously still keep up on antenatal also until babies have all arrived!

Shall we start a list of arrivals?

IVEgotheDECAF - DC5 - boy - 07/09/19 - 9lb1oz

Hello all! I’ve missed a few days on here so trying to catch up now.

We finally got home last night after almost a week in hospital due to a few nights in scbu. Sophie was on a course of antibiotics for possible infection. She’s fine now and we’re home which is lovely but I’m feeling really low about my birth experience. The induction was so long, painful and ultimately fruitless as I never dilated beyond 3cm and ended having to have the c-section anyway. Baby’s heart rate sky rocketed and I’m worried that she’s suffered some sort of trauma as well, topped off by watching her be poked and prodded for a few days in scbu and having to have blood tests and a canula fed into her hand. I know I should just be glad that we’ve bought a healthy baby home but I just feel awful about the whole process.

Is anyone else struggling with their birth experience? I’m hoping it’s just a normal process and that I’ll feel better in a few days so I can start enjoying Sophie a bit more, I just feel like I’ve let her down in some way.

@Puglover88 i Hope you feel better about things soon. You didn't let Sophie down and you had a very stressful and upsetting time. It takes time to process. Just because everyone made it out ok does mean it wasn't traumatic. Give yourself time. Don't set a deadline for feeling better just keep an eye on yourself. If you have people who will listen talk to them! Perhaps book a review with the MWs?
I had ptsd after my first due to a traumatic birth/stay in hospital. My main tip is to ask for help if you feel you need it. Don't let anyone tell you that you should be over it because you're both ok! That's bollocks!

Oh @Puglover88 I'm so glad you are gone! I've been thinking of you!
Re birth trauma- it's totally a thing, and giving yourself space to acknowledge that is so important, and talking about it and making sense of it. You can ask for a debrief with a midwife who can go through your notes with you.
Sophie is very very unlikely to have any trauma, but I have several friends who have taken their babies to a specialist cranial osteopath after difficult births, and found it really helpful. If you are in London you can sometimes see one for free.

Err glad you are home I mean!!!

@iano @DustyDoorframes thank you for your replies and advice. I think you’re right, I need to book an appointment with my midwife to go over every thing that happened - it just feels like everything that could go wrong did, the pessaries made Sophie’s heart rate go very high so they only did two, after 17 hours of painful contractions I was only 1cm dilated but due to the spike in her heart rate they broke my waters anyway and put me on drip. Cue another 13 hours of intense contractions every 2 minutes, a failed epidural which didn’t work to block the pain and only dilating another 2cm, Sophie was also back to back and not engaged at all. I seem to remember afterwards as well the MW saying that the placenta didn’t look great so I want to know more about that.

@DustyDoorframes thanks for that suggestion, I’ve just googled the osteopath thing - I might look into it.

@Puglover88
Bless you! That sounds horrific. A debrief sounds like it might help answer some questions. You can also apply to see a full copy of your notes. They might charge a copying fee though. I found seeing the notes helped me work out where I had questions and cleared up some things for me.
If you want to speak to a therapist try reaching out to iapt. They prioritise mum's with children under 1.
Keep talking and sharing!
Drop me a message anytime if you want a rant.

Thanks @iano I’ll look into that 😊

@Stroan I have one too who doesn't like to be put down during the day. Very cute, but not good when I have stuff that has to be done. He does however go down at night so can't complain too much.

I've got about 5kg to lose. Back in some of my jeans but they were loose before and are now tight (straining at the seams) I did used to do loads of exercise before though so hopefully when I manage to start again it'll come off.

On the plus side, we've had three nappy changes over the last day where I haven't required ear plugs!

Hi all,
Baby bell was born yesterday evening.
I have a boy! I'm over the moon, he is 7.4lb

After a labour which was felt like it was going no where fast since Saturday morning and constant bleeds from lunchtime. At 5pm I was conceding I'd need a section but was in irregular agony so got a check and was at 5cm.
We got our Vaginal Breech Birth, upright on the bed with only the midwives prescent, (some legend called the DR lateish so he was only in the corridor) and totally hands off, 8 mins pushing. Tiny tear, I'm beside myself, elated and tired. VBB is quite rare in the hospital, we have been treat brilliantly, have a private room and ok he cried all night but compared to the ward last time its heaven.

@BBell2 that's brilliant!!!!!!!!!!! The midwife was probably calmer than the doctor would have been, so who knows, maybe just as well! Huge congratulations!

Bbell well done you! Congratulations on your son!

Congrats Bbell

Kyles I'm struggling with my post baby body but trying to be kind to myself. I lost 15kg in the first 5days, it literally just fell off me. But I still have a bump that makes me look a few months pregnant. Guess that's what having twins does to you! I won't be fitting into my jeans just yet. But I did take some photos at 1 week, 3 weeks and today 6 weeks and actually it's looking alot better today than I thought in my head.

I think that’s just pregnancy. It takes 9 months to expand and you need to allow the same to be slim again.

What karigan said! Our bodies have just done something hugely incredible, and are still reassembling themselves. There's no rush.

Hi everyone! I've been reading to keep up to date, but not posting. Dd2 is now 5 days old, still nameless- which everyone else is very stressed about 😁 she was 9lb 14.5 at birth, got weighed today at 9lb 14, no worries there then! She already looks a lot older than she is, which I hate!

The lack of sleep is not pleasant at all. The only way I get any sleep is if she's cuddled in to me, which I have been trying to avoid but it gets to about 4.30 am and I just can't help myself. There's been way too many visitors for daytime naps too, which is very frustrating.

How's everyone getting on?

@Karigan195 - love that - 9 months it is!

She's gorgeous @KnobJockey and has lovely hair too!! Do you have any contenders for names?

Ha ha @KnobJockey our eldest was 6 weeks old before he got a name... we got the second two named before leaving hospital (partly for the benefit of older siblings) but feeling a bit unconvinced by DC3's name now. I think I just find it absurd to call a baby anything more sensible than "potato" or something!
Re sleep, I've fully embraced cosleeping. The sidecar cot is basically an expensive bed rail at this point. We are only 6 days in, there's time. And for now I'm REALLY enjoying the sleep! Other than the odd two minute wake-up to adjust latch we are both getting an actual night's sleep which is like some kind of miracle.

I'm beginning to feel a bit sad about not being pregnant again! All through the pregnancy I was adamant it's my last, I didn't enjoy the pregnancy, and there's no way I could cope with 4. And besides, I'm not a spring chicken. @decaf this is how it begins, right??? How is your resolve doing re this being your last???

Congratulations to all the newest mums. I rarely have two hands free to type so don't seem to manage to reply as much now.

Body wise, I'm back in pre-pregnancy jeans. Well, jeggings really as jeans never stay up on me. Definitely not happy but I grew a person! And then had my stomach muscles chopped up. So I'm going easy on myself and trying to slowly cut down on the bad snacks. I'll get out walking more now too, although I seem much slower.

@knobjockey how long do you have to register baby? I always forget that we get less time in Scotland

We're six weeks in and the sleep is much better. He would still always prefer to sleep on me (and I am all for that during the day) but nights are a mix of safer co-sleeping and the bedside crib.

@DustyDoorframes baby rarely gets his proper name here. When people ask me it, I sometimes take a while to remember and it has ALWAYS been our boys name. For 10 years! He gets RooRoo or sausage mostly.

I am definitely not feeling sad about not being pregnant but feeling a little bereft that my tiny, squishy newborn is way less tiny and not as curled up anymore. I won't have the newborn days again and as lovely as it is that things are generally easier, those first days are just the best.

How long can we call them newborns anyway?! Can I push it to at least 3 months?

@BBell2 Congratulations. You did amazing!

@DustyDoorframes Lol at potato. We call Nate 'Nato potato' so that made me chuckle.

I ventured out yesterday to a new parents group. Find it hard putting myself out there, but I survived and everyone was really nice. Might even go back next week!

Omg Dusty that is how it begins indeed! I am SO over pregnancy. But i would love to keep babyDECAF a newborn. Any ideas how i do that?

Have all of the babies arrived now? Did we do it before 1/10!? 👶

@BBell2 congratulations! So glad you got the birth you wanted! Hope you’re both doing well! xx

Baby Noah born 27/09/2019. 9lb at 2:50am 😍

Aaaahhh congratulations @Sassy234 ! Great news!

@Stroan easily 12 weeks for a newborn. Can we say up to 6 months??? Just to keep me and @decaf 's broodiness at bay. 6 years??

@Geegrl19 well done getting out! I've still not left the house- one week old today! Not really spending much time on my feet... the midwives might discharge me on Saturday so feel like I ought to be making sure I'm actually functional before then. I hate being discharged by the midwives, it feels so final!

6 years eh. In that case i have three!

Congrats sassy