The March-ers 2019 - Baby Talk #3

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@BadBadBeans funnily enough I was talking with my husband yesterday about how little time we get just us and the baby compared to our first. I would never complain about spending time as a foursome but it is very different as a parenting experience.

@Footymum81 I'm back in work on 1st October too. As jealous as I am of those who could take longer I appreciate that we can get what we did as some countries have horrendous maternity leave.

@babycatcher411 wow! I'd be looking to move him into his room rather than buy another cot tbh.

@Brobot so good to hear great progress is being made!

@melissa112 I put little man to sleep at 7. Unless he wakes up I don't go up unless a) I need to the bathroom or b) when I go up to bed which is any time between 8 and 10.

I've got a video monitor so I just spend a lot of time really concentrating on the screen to look for tiny movements!

I do have the movement sensor but I don't use it because it's not that big and when I tried it in the snuz pod he managed to move off it and set it off

LO still has a cold .. She is fine in the day but awful at night ..feel tight on her . Going to start weaning this weekend . Also going to trial her in her own room next week ..altho I'm not so sure due to how many times she wakes a night .

Went in work today to sort out my return and have decided to go back January 6th . They allowed me to take the whole of December annual leave . Such a relief as I don't think I would of been ready . I'll be doing nights and don't think rose will be night weaned (I am.hoping she will be but wishful thinking )

Not sure what my anxiety is related to. Maybe lack of sleep . It's been better when my partner isn't working away ..suppose moving into a new house is scary for me haha.

@babycatcher411 i would consider camping on the floor next to babys cot . Don't waste money on a new one .

@melissa112 I would try not to panic too much . They are more clever than we think and if that's how he is comfy when he sleeps then just go with it. Like you say he does it whilst your sleeping . It won't be long before they are rolling standing turning and jumping all round the cot and there's nothing we can do about it.

@melissa112 I actually realised tonight that what I said was wrong. I don't tend to go up but I've got an Ollie the Owl white noise and I have it on the setting where the noise kicks back in. I don't usually go up before bed because I can see him moving or I know he's set the owl off. If I put him to bed and the owl didn't go back off within like an hour or so - I'd go up and check

Thanks for the replies. Thankfully we’ve located a cot (in my mums loft!) which whilst it takes the same size mattress as ours, is physically small and just fits in the bedroom next to my side. Plus it’s got a drop down side so that’ll make it a little easier. 🙏

Another here who’s bubs is full of cold and not sleeping well as a result!

How’s everyone getting on with weaning? I still sometimes sit watching him chopping away thinking how did we get here already!!

@melissa112 Houston we have a tooth!! It's just starting to break through so it explains the past week! After a difficult time trying to get him to sleep last night he actually eventually went to sleep sucking his dummy while lying beside me instead of latched to me. So although he is teething there is still little bits of progress being made.

Update : I had to go out for an appointment today and left Elliot with hubby and when I got back he had not only taken a bottle but he had fallen asleep in his arms with the dummy in his mouth!! Lol. This sounds so trivial to other humans but I'm jumping for joy lol. They kinda look at me like ummm OK.. But considering only matter of days ago he could only fall asleep latched to me through the entire night this is gargantuan lol

On a sad note (sorry to kill the craic) my cousin was found dead 3 days ago in her bed. No explanation. Not even after an autopsy. She was in her early 40s. I feel strangely detached about it but I think it's because after my brother died last month it seems less shocking to me than it would if he hadn't. Feel a bit guilty about that. 😕

@Brobot Sorry to hear about your cousin, my condolences.
Also, congrats to all the positive changes, I'm very happy for you and I completely understand how happy it must have made you.

We have the sleep consultant coming tomorrow. As we ended up not going on holiday this year, and because I'm actually super anxious about this, we are actually having her in overnight. I'm actually really emotional about tonight possibly being the last bedsharing night 😭
I say possibly because we might have to postpone. LO has a little sniffle and we're praying it won't develop into a full blown cold.
Am I the only one who would stay at home with a sniffly child instead of taking them to a baby class? I tried so hard keeping him away from the babies with cold few days ago, but it's practically impossible during sensory play. 😒

Lol, just noticed all those actuallys 🤦

@Sheeni no I totally understand. I've had two people visit in the past 3 days and their children had major colds so I told them they could still call but to arm themselves with Milton wipes lol. That way they knew I was anxious about it and I'd be keeping a safe distance lol. After we parted company I sprayed everything in sight 😂😂. If it was a tummy bug it would be a different story. No chance they'd be near us.

Ok. Update. Last night Elliot fell asleep on the sofa beside me so when I carried him upstairs to put him in his COT he woke up, but I decided to persevere and popped his dummy in. I stood beside him and stroked his hair and he FELL BACK TO SLEEP lol. I'm in shock lol. Then instead of waking up crying he woke at half 1 and moaned so I popped his dummy back in to see what happened and he fell asleep again! This happened again at half 3 and then at 5 but by that stage I took him into bed thinking he might be hungry as he seemed wide awake. He took a little feed and went back to sleep. I cannot believe I've managed to get him to sleep without latching on me all while he's teething. I want to shout it from the rooftops lol. There is hope!!!! On the other hand, when I told my hubby about it he said "oh so maybe him teething has been a good thing". I just looked at him and said "ummm no. This has happened in spite of him teething! It's happening because of all my hard work!!" lol

@Brobot Well done!!! I'm really happy for you.

We have postponed the sleep training until Wednesday, as my LO is still unwell and the consultant said it would make it harder for him. To be honest, he was all over the place at night, struggling to breathe, so I don't think I would want to torture him even more.
Three more anxious days/nights. 😢

@Sheeni if it helps, I wouldn't call what I've been doing sleep training. I've just made teensy tiny changes as I see the opportunity arise. For example, whilst feeding him I started making less contact with him to get him used to not needing me in direct contact with him all the time. Very slowly. Then I made a point of not holding him when putting him down to sleep while feeding, just lying next to him so that I could move if needed. It was then that I started attempting the dummy which took many attempts until one night he just took it and I made sure I stayed beside him so that he knew that having the dummy didn't mean I was leaving. It's just been lots if little changes. Hopefully progress keeps happening (I can hear him crying downstairs now ugh).

Can someone find my mind because I'm totally losing it right now . Last night baby woke every 40 mins and would not settle with dummy . She is also awake for an hour at around 4/5 o'clock . Tonight I put her down at half 7 and I have already fed her three times . She is just not settling with the shhh pat or the dummy. She wasn't like this last week . Every week just seems to be getting worst . I am supposed to be putting her in her cot this week and I just can't even face it . My partner going working away tomorrow . I just feel stressed . Just started her on food yesterday altho she has had probably zero as it all just come straight back out . So it surely can't be because of that .

I just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel . I can't see it ever getting better . Sorry for moaning but I just fed up with no sleep and feeling like it's just all me . Because I breast feed which does then make it all me . Needed a good rant .

@Jenlou1992 I don't really have any advice, just know you're not the only one. I don't regret breastfeeding, I love it, but at the same time it's got its negatives, I guess. She might just be going through a phase and will be much better in a week or less.

Well we can safely scrap everything I've said for the last 2 days. Last night we were back to square one. He wouldn't go near the cot. Ended up in bed with me again. I feel so disheartened even though I know it's amazing that he even went into the cot at all. I suppose I was just stupid to think that now I suddenly had everything fixed 😂.

Sorry haven't been posting for a while, have been reading though!

@jenlou1992 sorry you're having a difficult time. I wouldn't let the fact that Rose wakes up a lot put you off moving her though as we (and lots of others) have found that baby sleeps better when not in the same room as you disrupt each other less. I'm also still bf and have found I need to stop myself feeding so much at night as it's become my go to and it can't be in the new year, and also they definitely don't need feeding every hour or so at 6 months.. I now usually only feed him once or twice a night and the other times we just change/burp him etc. If your baby is over 7.3kg then they can apparently go for 6-7 hours without food. Mine wasn't quite there at the last weigh in when he was 6 months but probably is about there now 3 weeks later, so I aim at 2-3am for the first feed and then cross my fingers he then sleeps until around 7am. The second part of the night is more hit and miss though. It's so difficult though when they're crying and you know that your breast will solve it to not do that, but I hope it's setting him up for something in the long run... But if he's screaming screaming then I'll feed him, it's only if he's grumbling that I'll try to put him off.

Whilst I've said all of the above, my baby has been a right pain these last few weeks due to a mixture of starting solids, teething and a cold. He had a period where he woke up screaming at around midnight and nothing would console him for about an hour and a half which he's never done before and then systematically woke up every 90 mins after that which nearly broke me. We then introduced a dream feed for a few nights in anticipation of him waking up which seemed to break that sleep habit so we've stopped the dream feed again now. His poo also went really really adult like and he was very much straining to poo, it took 5 days to get one out. We were doing baby led weaning (mostly just fruits and veg though) but following poo saga we are pureeing it more now as I'm unsure if his body just couldn't cope with breaking the solids down. I wondered if it was because he was almost a month early but everything I've read says still start them at 6 months and there's an argument for doing it earlier given he will have missed out on the iron stores from me in the last few weeks. He's also got his cold back which has been fun and games... I think someone else said their baby's cold lasts forever?!

(On a train... Will come back and reply to others later but want to get this posted before I lose it)

Also @Jenlou1992 think back to where you were 6 months ago when they were first born... You've done so well, pretty much on your own too! I've also felt like we've gone back to the newborn phase at timers recently too. The food has def played havoc with my baby's system and I've wanted to just keep him on milk at times (he's still not really eating much and we've been doing it for nearly a month now) but I know that's not helpful longer term.

Can't remember who said about their baby sucking the hard bit of the dummy rather than the dummy bit... Mine is the same. I figured he just likes the hard bits on his gums!

@melissa112 how are you getting on with George in his own room and feeding?

@sheeni good luck with the sleep consultant! With baby classes it'd depend on how bad he was as to whether I'd take him... As like, baby's colds go on for weeks so it's unrealistic to expect them to stay away for weeks on end but if he's actually miserable and crying then I obviously would keep him away, as even if we did go he's unlikely to be happy or enjoy it! I figure if he'd be well enough to go to hypothetical nursery (given how strict they are about this kind of thing) then he's well enough for classes.

@brobot sorry to hear about your cousin. Your family have had a run of bad luck recently. But yay for all of the progress you've been making. I know your latest update didn't sound as promising but hopefully he'll have retained some of the teachings and will get on track again once he's gone through this temp blip.

@badbadbeans how are you getting on? When is your next date with the hospital? On the way there now for mine, woop do woop.

Sorry people are suffering with their LOs having cold. George seems to have a sore throat as his voice very hoarse. Definitely think he's got something coming which is brilliant because we go away for the week next week.
I've just realised our suite only has a shower so I have no idea how we're going to bath him. I don't want to take the baby bath as it'll be something else to lug around. I'm thinking of doing it in the bathroom sink but don't know if he'll be too big. Could always use the kitchen sink but for some reason the thought people have washed their dirty dishes in it puts me off. Has anyone got any tips?

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever I think it might depend on confidence levels but on holiday my ex took baby into the shower with him to get chlorine off from the pool. I'd stand by with a flannel to give him a wash. Made it quick and painless but I think it probably depends on how much your baby enjoys bath time and if there's a risk of them trying to buck out your / DP's arms?

Alternatively - depending on where you're going could you possibly just get a cheap bath whilst you're there that you can get rid off at the end?

I was also going to say take him in the shower with you. You could always sit on the floor if you were worried about him jumping off you - is he at the stage of wanting to stand up constantly? Mine is and always wants to stand up in the bath anyway. Then someone else in the bathroom with you to hold towels, pass the baby to and from etc.

I think he'd be far too big for the sink now as we tried that when we went to my husband's parents house and our baby was just 3 months. He was verging on too big then which made it difficult so by 6-7 months I think they're def going to be too big.

@Cardboard33 @WhatALearningCurve Thankyou! I'll try him in the shower. Hoping it's not a fixed one and I can take it off the wall and hose him down!

Why can I never post photos on here??! I've tried so many times 😑😑