The March-ers 2019 - Baby Talk #2

[Angelmiracle]

Thread 2 for all our newborns ❤🤗👣

Hi all been reading but not had time to reply like @ballanj

Think we've finished the sleep regression, it lasted about 7-10 days for us. She now goes down about 9pm and wakes around 8am. She's stated to sleep on her stomach and seems much happier and sleeps a lot better now. Day time naps are ok not perfect. Still needs rocking to sleep for 5 mins then i put her in her stomach and she will nap for about 2-3 hours around 2pm.
She's 20+3 weeks and going to start weaning in a couple of weeks, she's had little tasters of things and lives it, she's constantly watching us when we eat.

@wineandchoccy & @melissa112 thanks!! Pretty sure I checked boots and couldn't find the model... Planning to order it today. I want to spend some of our ridiculous number of vouchers on it so needed to pick shops where we have some (which is most of the high street stores) - thanks!

Also think that we finished the sleep regression about a week ago. He's 5 and a bit months... So around 23 weeks, I think? He started it a bit late and it lasted about 3-4 weeks. Like @kee80 baby mine now sleeps on his side and has gone back settling himself, waking up once in the night for food and going down again without a fuss. He also seems to have stopped the very early morning wake ups/chat sessions and sleeps until about 6.30/7 now which again was what he used to do. Sorry to hear others are struggling - there is end in sight!

@Angelmiracle thanks!! Annoyingly we got a Tesco delivery the night you posted that and we don't go into the stores as there's not a big one near us so it will need to wait for next time.

www.boots.com/baby-child/baby-event/mimzy-lx-highchair-abstract-arrows-10224713
@cardboard33 is it this one?

@wineandchoccy yes that's the one! What are your thoughts? The main thing that puts me off it is that I read a review where someone said it was annoying that the crotch bar is attached to the tray as it makes it difficult when you're trying to clean it up, and it's a shame it doesn't have a basket thing under it to store things.

We've looked at the IKEA one and considered getting it but we want/need something that can do different levels and I envisage that he will probs sleep in it once he gets too big for his rocker chair thing so need it to recline too.

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever I reckon it's been a good 4 weeks on the regression front. I think he is sleeping better generally being in his own room. Although we've had a couple of nights this week where he's woken up probably where he's dreaming and I've had to rock him back to sleep. Saying that we're coming out the other side, this morning he decided to wake up for a feed at 4:30 😴😴😴 fed and back down at 5:00, to which I then struggled to get back off and he was up for the day at 7:30. Was hoping OH would do the dream feed tonight so I can get to bed before 10 but just remembered he's on call so can't risk him doing it and not getting enough sleep should he get called out early hours of the morning.

What are others going to start with in terms of weaning, it seems like a bloody minefield. Little man's highchair arrived today so want to start him off soon

@cardboard33 sorry I can’t help I dont like the padded high chairs because they are to reclined and a pain to clean.
I have the Ikea one and it’s great.

@ballanj we are doing baby led weaning so just bits of whatever we are having we started a week earlier than planned as she grabbed some bread off dh last weekend and shoved it in her mouth and howled when we tried to take it off her
Her favourites so far have been carrot, strawberry and tomato pasta. Broccoli she looked like we were poisoning her

Is it just me who's baby isn't self settling and sleeping almost through the night 😂 swear he wants food every 2-3 hours during the night or maybe he's just nursing for comfort.. Idk.

In terms of BLW, I'm only starting around 6 months when my HV says it's suitable. I wanted to start earlier because ds is 18 weeks and almost 18lbs. He's a big boy! Gonna start with fruit and veg only at first which is fine with me because I snack on fruit and veg myself. Then probably introduce meat and lastly dairy for allergy purposes :)

For the people who have started BLW.. Are your little ones born early March or late or have you just started early, and why? Just intrigued cause I want to start a bit earlier than 6 months.

@Sianlouise432 my due date was originally the 1st March so I joined this thread but then my dates changed to the end of Feb with dd arriving on the 19/02. So I really should be on the February thread
I had planned to start when she was 6 months until she took a fancy to some bread last weekend but I figured 2 weeks isn’t going to do any harm.
Today she has hardly eaten anything I think she is struggling with her teeth as she has been very dribbly.

@Sianlouise432 we didn't have a problem but I'm in a rural area with lots of options. It's worth making sure whoever you go with is able to accommodate flexibility, this one will but many are so full it's a nightmare. I expected to have to register with a couple just in case. With regards to food I've started at 20 weeks with tiny amounts of baby rice, once a day. She's loving it though so I'm going to slowly increase the offerings to include fruit and veggies now at 21 weeks. My DS started at 17weeks as was the advice of the HV at the time (2013) and had no issues.

@melissa112 there's three main ones here and I knew about them from others anyway. All have pros and cons but parents I know are happy with them all so it was fine.

@Wineandchoccy great news!

@ballanj I've given in and offered very small quantities of baby rice at 20weeks. She's loving it and grabbed my cheese and onion pasty today (now 21 weeks). I'm letting her take the lead but going to try some veggies this week.

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever another one who seem to have come through sleep regression and is now sleeping better and longer than before. Had just over a week of absolute hell, just had 3 nights of 9.30pm - 5am, then back down after her feed. She does cluster feed (breast fed) in the evenings and first thing now though.

@sianlouise my due date was end of March but he came right at the start so I've got one of the oldest in this thread. However I'm not planning on starting until he is actually 6 months though, particularly given he was quite early as I don't see there's any rush even though he looks at us so keenly when we are eating now...

Have been following just not had chance to chat . Don't know if anyone remembers but I have been at my mum's since LO was born and partner at his mum's from 3weeks old but our house is ready to move into probably in a week or 2 . I literally have been parenting on my own so I am so happy to have some help once I move in. The sleeping is just getting worst . Last night I think I stopped counting when I got to as to how many times she woke in the night . Either for feed or just unsettled ..it's so hard . I have her 24/7 no partner to help out . He works away and won't come to my mum's due to a fall out. Hoping the sleep picks up . She used to go 2-3 hours between feeds at night but now barley make a 90mins. Not sure if it's because she feeds 2 hourly in the day . Don't know why she does little and often . I'm looking to wean at 6 months . Can't believe we talking about weaning already . Madness . Also looking to wean her off the breast starting at 6months. Going to do it gradual . Hoping to be off the breast completely by 8 months ready for when I go back to work.

@jenlou1992 hugs to you about parenting solo whilst the rest of your life falls into place. I'm almost in the exact same scenario. My partner and I live separate whilst sorting out living arrangements. so I'm at my mums. Luckily he comes over 2 days a week so I do get a break but I totally know how you feel with the long nights and long days. Does your mum help out at all? To be honest, I feel my mum is a better co-parent than my partner cause she isn't as clueless
😂 Im also breastfeeding so LO is very dependent on me regardless.
I Co-sleep with mine so in the night I can roll over to feed maybe 4-5 times. They say if they get enough calories in the day they should sleep through the night but not mine! Almost every 2-3 hours around the clock. It will all get better soon as they get older. I hear 6 months plus is a lovely age until the toddler years haha x

Ladies, sorry, I'm reading only these days. We're still in some kind of regression/development leap + constipated and quite windy, so it's no fun in the house.
I just wanted to ask if any of you can recommend a decent price cot bed mattress? We just got a second hand cot bed and I want to start using it, just to get him used to it more than anything else. I don't have any hopes of him sleeping in there for now, but he's quite happy rolling around in his next2me, so I thought he might like some extra space
I don't want to pay more than £100, if I don't have to, as I have no idea if it will ever get used for actual sleeping!

www.mamasandpapas.com/en-gb/essential-pocket-spring-cotbed-mattress/p/espsmcb00?pdg=pla-295729914239:cmp-2010328308:adg-71742980592:crv-353748331333:pos-:dev-m&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIprPwvOuH4wIVZbXtCh27EQTREAQYASABEgIWWPD_BwE&source=aw&utm_source=awin&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Skimlinks&awc=6526_1561766738_a8708dacada7faee8ef966311078c326

@Sheeni I bookmarked this mattress as the ladies on here recommended it.

Hope the regression/leap passes for you soon!

@jenlou1992 that's so great your house is nearly ready, although such a sad that your partner hasn't been around to support you and also see Rose's first few months in great depth. Will he still work away a lot when you move in together or will he take some time just to be with his family?

@sianlouise432 also sorry you're in the same situation as jenlou... The early weeks are tough as if is without doing it on your own although sounds like you've had a lot of support from your mum which must be lovely?

@sheeni we've got a m&p cotbed one which I think @melissa112 has too. It's a which magazine best buy. We got it on sale for £80 but I've just seen it's in the clearance now for £69. Disclaimer though in that we've obviously not used it other than to store things on as he's still in the Chicco.

www.mamasandpapas.com/en-gb/essential-pocket-spring-cotbed-mattress/p/espsmcb00

Thank you so much @Angelmiracle & @cardboard33. I just ordered one!

Very proud of myself today, managed to get a Mountain Buggy for £80 and a practically unused Joie Mimzy highchair for £8.50! I'm working hard on not making this parenting thing more expensive than it needs to be.

@Sianlouise432 it's tough going isn't it . I don't really get any help . If i ask my mum she will watch her if I needed a bath etc but I don't ask her I just get on with it . It wasn't so bad when I was getting a bit of sleep but not sure when that will next be ..i get frustrated because I resent my partner for not being there, he doesn't realise how hard it can be sometimes and he just expects as I'm on maternity to deal with it. It's put me off having anymore children with him if I'm honest .

@cardboard33 yeah be glad once in the house as it's just been a night mare . He won't work away as much and won't work weekends once were in .

I've not even got any nursery furniture yet . Rose will still be in next to me crib probably till she is 6 months . Anyone got any deals or just nice cots etc then send links over please . I can't wait to do her nursery. Talking of nursery I need to look for a nursery or child minder for when I go back to work in December . When is every one else going back to work ? Also have you gone for a nursery or child minder?

@Jenlou1992 I am going back in February just after her 1st Birthday.
We will be sending her to the nursery that dd1 has just left.
We did look at a childminder last time but I needed to guarantee that childcare was always there with regards to work and I was worried if the childminder was off sick etc

@Sheeni I love a bargain and you are right apart from childcare it doesn’t need to be expensive

@Sheeni good going, I love a bargain too... We've got most baby stuff second hand and then the stuff we have got new has generally been discounted, I don't think we've paid full price anything as I'm the kind of person who decides what I want in advance and then price watches until it's the price I want to pay, and we are also fortunate that there's lots of excellent child specific charity shops in my area so when I was pregnant I spent a lot of time doing loops of them and picking off things from my list or going to baby specific second hand sales. I've found that trickier since having a baby in tow though as I can't just knock off five shops in an afternoon as the buses/trains etc take longer and he needs feeding etc...so annoying this having a baby lark!!

@Jenlou1992 that sounds tough, and I'm not surprised you're unsure whether to have more children with him as you need support from your partner (if there is one) in order to parent effectively, and Rose will want to see her dad too rather than him being a stranger to her. If you've got some good charity shops near you then I'd look there for good cots then you've just got to buy the mattress new. Likewise eBay or Facebook market place. We got ours from JL half price in their post Christmas sale.

I'll be putting mine with a childminder, for various reasons, I think. I think it's better for them to be in a family unit rather than in a large set up @Wineandchoccy as long as they've got agreements with other childminders for when they're ill it shouldn't be a problem. I went to a childminder growing up from 5 months as my parents both worked full time in professional jobs and I don't recall my mum ever mentioning that she had to leave work early etc as my childminder was ill. My parents are still really good family friends with ours, they came to my baby's christening a few weeks ago with loads of photos of when I was small.

@Jenlou1992 That sounds so tough. Honestly, the only thing that kept me sane since the LO was born was having my husband here to help. I don't think I would cope at all in your situation and don't blame you for being frustrated with him. He doesn't get it because he doesn't see how much work it is, probably. I'm really lucky as my husband recognises that he wouldn't last a week in my shoes. Hopefully once you're in your own, it will get better
As for the furniture, I just got a JL cot bed on Gumtree for £30. Definitely look at eBay, Gumtree, Facebook. Although usually you need to pick it up, so that might be the only issue.

@jenlou1992 sorry you're feeling this way. Your Partner will have a shock to the system when you live together then. I'm really fortunate to have my mum around but similarly she only watches him when I ask. When she goes out with mates and to the gym and I'm left on my own I really feel fed up. Fingers crossed that your dp will step up a bit when your LO is older and more independent from you. I know it's hard not to resent him but just think about the incredible bond you and your LO have and noone can take that away from you.