The March-ers 2019 - Baby Talk #2

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Thread 2 for all our newborns ❤🤗👣

@whatalearningcurve That sounds like he got plenty during the night. Might not be hungry, simple as that.
No poop since Saturday though! I'm scared of what's coming my way and he only skipped a day! Thinking of you.

@Sheeni thank you 😂 it just happened......thought "oh that's not too bad!"

I spoke too soon. Turned round to get a nappy and he hadn't quite finished and it was all on the changing mat ha

He has just eaten 5oz now though so the poor man was clearly just full to the brim ha

@whatalearningcurve Haha! Had the exact same thing with my LO two days ago. He seemed so unfazed, I thought it was hilarious.

@whatalearningcurve mine is also not interested in food sometimes... But the poos after a week are horrific if ours are anything to go by!! Had your baby been doing really smelly farts in the interim? Mine has also started doing extra poo on the changing mat after we'd taken his nappy off so we now shove the next one under him at the same time to (hopefully) catch it. I'm amazed at the speed it comes out sometimes, it's ploughed into my hair and 2m across the room before!

We also got weighed today and he's 13lb 2oz at almost 17 weeks. They were happy as he's now around 15th percentile whereas he had been tracking the 7/9th percentile before now.

@ballanj that's good that he isn't missing the dream feed! We feed our little one around 10:30 when we go up and though he normally has 7oz in the day he only takes about 4 at 10:30. Do you do a nappy change at any point or does he go through? Sounds like we have similar feeding. 7oz bottles at 6:30am, 10:30am, 2:30pm and 6:30pm and still have the dream feed, though he doesn't stay asleep for it! He falls asleep during though. Sleep wise, we put him to bed at 7:15-7:30pm ish downstairs in his basket and then take him up to feed him at 10:30. He just falls asleep on me afterwards/during but I sit him up for 20mins while he's asleep as he's prone to bringing up milk, then he sleeps til 6am ish. Can't complain! His latest new skills are to scratch the seatbelt in the car, the noise proper goes through me, now he's started doing it on the mesh on his snuzpod!

Oh and I'm not sure if LO is teething but he's always got something in his mouth. He takes my hands, pulls himself into a sitting up position and puts my hands in his mouth. Doesn't suck them, he gums them! Loads of dribble too but not sure if thats just all the spit bubbles he likes to blow 🤣

@Jenlou1992 another planning on weaning at 6 months. My DP is off work the week he turns 6 months so think we may as well start then. Would like to do baby led weaning but terrified of choking so will probably do a mix of puree and BLW. A course is a good idea, my HV is coming out in a few weeks to chat about it with me

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever baby has been grasping for a few weeks with more precision. He was 15weeks on Monday and does pick things up now if he's dropped them but I think he's just so desperate to get them in his mouth that he's focused all his energy onto that particular skill and let others such as tummy time go by the wayside! I did read on his wonder weeks thing that they focus on ones that have the most importance to them. Being able to eat everything in sight is definitely top of his list. We have a little mamas and papas seat that he sits up in which has a tray on it with loads of stuff attached. He picked up the entire tray and tried to get it into his mouth.

@Sheeni aw that made me smile about LO holding your hand while feeding, how sweet! That's a shame that the Omeprazole is so grim! You'd think they'd make it palatable for little ones!

@Wineandchoccy oh no! Sorry to hear the sleep regression has hit! How is it going? How old is your LO? We hit 4 months in 2weeks so dreading it! Hope you are feeling better soon!

@kee80 you poor thing, you've had a bit of a rough time of it, hope you feel better soon too!

@WhatALearningCurve haha i did laugh at your update with the poo not finished when you turned your back! My LO has done that before and it is proper grim! Does sound like he was just full up 🤣

@cardboard33 haha another chuckle at the poo flying across the room! Haha oh dear, my DP describes it as toothpaste coming out which makes me want to vom!

Can anyone recommend a cotbed mattress? We did have ours already sorted and have had it set up but Which have recently reviewed it and it came out as a Do not buy! I've emailed the company and they were really good and are sending someone to collect it tomorrow for free and giving a full refund. I've still got my Which trial so will be having a look for some on there but does anyone have any idea on a good one?

@melissa112 we've got the SnuzKot so the mattress came with it. Which one did you have?

@WhatALearningCurve we had the eve baby mattress. It failed because the cover shrinks apparently when it was washed and could reduce mattress size so they were saying potential for baby to get trapped. Eve did say that it passed all British regulations, just an EU one that failed apparently which is voluntary only. So probably ok but i know what I'm like and how much i worry so its just easier to get another and save myself the worry!

Argh, baby just banged his head against mine. We were playing a game where he stands on me and i slowly bring him towards my face and he tries to eat my face. He finds it hilarious and a bit enthusiastic and pushed himself with his legs and we bumped heads. He just giggled afterwards but it did hurt me a little so must have hurt him and thinking of his soft spot?! Do i need to worry, he didn't cry and carried on laughing at the game?

@melissa112 oh I wouldn't worry at all! If he was hurt he'd let you know. Babies are far more resilient than you think.

Plus if you do a search on Mumsnet there's a thread of people saying the things they've accidentally dropped on their babies. Honestly. Your little one will be fine

@WhatALearningCurve i hope so! He seems absolutely fine, still happy. No crying. It was his forehead not the top. Now I'm convincing myself i can see a dent on his forehead, then the rational side of my brain is fighting telling me that he'd be screaming if his head had caved in!

@melissa112 if it helps at all - both me and my partner have accidentally dropped our phones on our little man ........ me as I was taking a photo and it dropped and my partner because he put it on the back of the couch and didn't catch it before it slipped off when I was holding the baby. (Not sure of that helps or just labels me the bad mum of the group ha)

Haha it does help, my phone once slid off the arm of the sofa onto him when he was little (well littler!). He was on the sofa too so wasn't like it fell onto him on the floor but I felt horrible! Other times I've winded him over my shoulder and he's suddenly got cranky and bashed his head into my cheek. Doesn't do it so much anymore but made me feel bad!

@melissa112 what a pain!!! We've got the mamas & papas essential sprung cot mattress as it was the main which? best buy that wasn't ridiculously expensive. We paid about £80 in the post Christmas sales but they seem to continuously be having a sale from their emails so you'd probs be able to get it similarly priced.

My baby had pretty good head control from the offset so has enjoyed swinging his head around to look at things from 2 weeks, then forgets he isn't as great as he thinks he is at it and wacks into teeth, heads etc. You'd think 14 weeks on that he'd have learned not to do it by now... But nooo! Our friends have dropped their baby etc (I very nearly did going up the stairs) ... George will definitely live to tell the tale!

@whatalearningcurve another one who has dropped her phone on baby when trying to take photos... Perils of being a mum in 2019.

@melissa112 Sounds like nothing to worry about. I smashed J's head into a metal door latch a few weeks ago because I was distracted by my misbehaving toddler. He screamed! I panicked massively. He was totally fine though. Then a few days ago I found a shallow red dent in his head - no idea what caused it. I monitored it for a few hours and it gradually disappeared. I think it must have been caused by him sleeping against a button on my husband's shirt.

I got a Little Green Sheep mattress for my eldest son's cot bed and it has been wonderful. I am actually planning to reuse it for J - anyone else sharing mattresses between siblings? I'm a little worried about the SIDS risk but from what I have read it seems that it's not so bad if the mattress is from a sibling?

Sorry to have been a bit quiet on here. My first appointment with the consultant breast surgeon is rapidly approaching and I've been doing a lot of research! I will know more afterwards about how long I can breastfeed for but I suspect I'm already past the halfway point which makes me feel very sad. Feeding - now the cracked nipple has healed - has been so much better than with my first son. I even fed J while lying down in bed this morning which is something I never achieved with DS1. It was so beautiful and relaxing. I'm going to find it very hard to give up!

I've had a referral to physio for diastasis recti but the earliest they can do is the end of July. Anyone know of any good exercises I can do in the meantime? I want to strengthen my core but am scared of making things worse.

Had both boys on my own in the house all day today and was a terrible shouty parent with my toddler. I really must go out to a playgroup on days like this in future. I knew it was going to be awful as I just can't entertain DS1 sufficiently while also pretty much constantly feeding, changing or cuddling J!

Baby is now wide awake as "D"P let him nap from 6 to 6:30 when I was putting laundry away rather than use his tiny brain and shout up the stairs "He's getting tired earlier than usual - why don't you run the bath and we'll start the routine early"

I'm swear he is incapable of using his brain to formulate thoughts and make a plan

@melissa112 L is 18 weeks and is doing a 5 hour stretch but then after that she likes to keep me on my toes by waking every hour it’s a good job she’s cute

@melissa112 sure he will be fine. My partner opened the door once on my little ones head and she was fine!

@WhatALearningCurve oh my partner is like that just lets her fall asleep on him when it's nearly time for bed or plays with her and gets her hyper when I'm just putting her down!!

Just a bit of advice please. I'm meeting a friend at a park tomorrow and the weather is going to be quite warm, she's just told me you can't put sunscreen on babies under 6 months. Is this correct does anyone know?
I feel really bad now cos I put some on her Saturday at a family bbq

@kee80 you're not supposed to put it on, it's something to do with the pores on the skin. Little one will be fine in the park, just keep them out of direct sunlight. We've just come back from Mexico and just made sure the baby was either in the shade (the bar had an excellent canopy area ha) or in the pram with the sunshade down as far as possible

Thanks @WhatALearningCurve I'll try and stay in the shade and also use the sun canopy. Great excuse to sit in the bar haha. Hope you had a great time

Eurgh just got my period for the first time since getting pregnant . Safe to say I have not missed them one bit!

Also was looking at getting a bumbo seat..Not sure if that's the right name for them . Has anyone already got one or got any recommendations .

Thanks all for sharing your stories about little head bumps, thankfully LO is fine! Glad I'm not the only one, I can only imagine my posts when starts learning to sit up and falls over!

@cardboard33 ah that's the mattress we are looking to get. Is it this one?

www.mamasandpapas.com/en-gb/essential-pocket-spring-cotbed-mattress/p/espsmcb00?pdg=pla-295729914239:cmp-2010328308:adg-71742980592:crv-353748331333:pos-:dev-m&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIprPwvOuH4wIVZbXtCh27EQTREAQYASABEgIWWPD_BwE

I cant fault the customer service from eve at all. They've collected the mattress and paid for the postage via UPS, next day to when i took them up on the offer and will refund in 3-5 days. Think I'll go with the mamas and papas one as it does get ja good Which review. Ive got a £1 week free trial and intend to make the most of it haha.

@BadBadBeans oh we have a little green sheep mattress protector for the cotbed and i love it, feels so nice! I'm sorry you're feeling down about the upcoming appointment and giving up breastfeeding. Even if you stopped now you have done so amazingly well to do it for so long, i know that wont change how you feel but you should be proud of yourself. I wish i had lasted as long, you've given him a great start. No advice on the exercises sorry but hope others have some. Ahh don't worry about being shouty, i find it hard enough with just one so i take my hat of to those of you with a toddler too!

@WhatALearningCurve ah my DP does things like that too. We normally try and cuddle him with him sat upright after his bedtime bottle so he'll fall asleep but so his milk can settle and he knows after his bath and that bottle that it's sleepy time and time for bed. DP sometimes sits him up on his knee facing him for chatty time which wakes him up. I get that he hasn't seen him all day and i do feel guilty but then he ends up overtired. And last night I'd just put him down asleep in his basket. DP was putting a pizza in and snapped that polystyrene bit under the pizza in half really loudly which woke LO and i had to settle him. And DP still continued to put plates away way too loudly. I had to go in and shush him! Honestly!

@Wineandchoccy oh bless her! Does she need feeding or can you settle her without picking her up?

@kee80 we went to a park nearby last weekend when it was quite warm. We just kept LO under a tree and then with the pram hood up in the shade when we ate. He seemed ok!

@Jenlou1992 oh i feel you on the period front. I'm on number 3 this week and I was saying how great it was when I was pregnant not having to bother with all this!

We have my friend's daughter's party next weekend. It's in their garden 1-4pm and I'm not sure what to do. We're gonna go anyway and she's my god daughter so wouldn't miss it but her garden isn't very shady and I'm really worried about the baby being in the sun and the probably very high heat and UV at that time! At least it overlaps on his feed time at 2pm so I can escape with him indoors for a bit but not sure what to do otherwise. I could bring the pram into the garden i suppose but not sure how long he'll settle in there without getting cranky. Would it be unreasonable to leave around 3ish. I know last year it was only her family that stayed for hours and she did say she understood about the baby and the sun. Argh.

@melissa112 could you leave baby in the pram or a bouncer chair near patio doors so they're inside but you can still be outside?

*£1 week free trial - not that £1is free!

Has anyone had an increase or had bad anxiety since giving birth? I've had anxiety for about 5 years now, it ramped up when pregnant and now seems worse than ever. I googled postnatal depression and didnt seem to have symptoms of that but definitely have bad anxiety. I wash my hands after every little thing but now its got to the point where one wash doesn't feel enough. It went to two and now i could wash my hands 4 times in a row and still worry that they weren't clean.

This morning was awful. LO was in a great mood and on his play mat. I went in the kitchen and a hair fell onto the draining board that we put his bottles on. I had an itchy scalp for a few weeks which has since gone but convinced myself my hair was infected with something. So instead of just moving the hair, i had to move all his bottles, disinfect disinfect the whole thing, then a hair landed onto the table where his steriliser is so again had to go through all that. I'd just brushed my hair before coming downstairs so obviously had some loose ones just on my top.

Washed my hands a million times then touched the work surface near the oven and convinced myself that there could be germs from raw meat on there. There couldn't be because me and DP are very careful and wipe everything down. Plus it was near the kettle and not where we prepare food. But once it was in my mind i couldn't get it out.

Anyway to cut it down, i had to wash my hands again. I think LO was left on his mat for about 40mins in total. I kept popping in to check on him and he was just playing but thats 40mins i could have spent with him. How much more time am i going to miss out on with hand washing and cleaning? In my mind I'm doing all this to protect him. I must wash my hands well over 100 times a day. DP finds it hard as i ask him to wash his hands more too and sometimes he does get frustrated because he feels he doesn't need to and it causes a bit of an argument

I did go and see someone when i was pregnant after advice from you guys on here and ended up doing an online CBT course but it didnt do anything for me. I could understand what it was trying to achieve but every time i try not to wash my hands or worry my mind pops up with 'what if'? I don't want to pass this on to my LO. Any suggestions? I'm finding it quite tough to get on top of this.

@WhatALearningCurve thats a good idea but unfortunately they dont have patio doors. Its a fairly old house with the only access to the back garden via the kitchen door which is small and everyone including lots of 2 year olds would be in and out of. Guess I'll have to see what the weather is like on the day and try and position him in the best way i can.