The March-ers 2019 - Baby Talk #1

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Congratulations to all the mamas with their new babies 🌸

Now the fun really starts 😄

@toastfiend - baby boy - 28/01/2019
@TheWanderlust - Baby girl - Althea - 7lb6oz - 16/02/2019
@PurpleFlower1983 - Baby girl - Matilda - 17/02/2019
@Wineandchoccy - Baby girl - Lois - 6lb12oz - 19/02/2019
@Harley8888 - Baby boy- Logan - 7lb4oz - 01/03/2019

@badbadbeans totally get where you're coming from reg your thoughts about breast feeding. I know you've said previously that your husband isn't one for emotion but hopefully he gets why you're upset even if there's little that he can do to comfort you. I tend to find that my husband just sits there and looks on when I get weepy about not being there for when our baby is older etc but ultimately I know he cares, it's just his way of dealing with it. Can you access counselling or something via the health visitor team? I've been offered various things which I'm not taking up right now but would consider when I'm actually having the treatment as a way to vent/acknowledge that this is happening in my life.

@assumeitwassomethingclever 30k seems pretty standard in some episodes! It's when they're like "oh we don't have a budget, we need to find the dress and then we will start talking numbers" that confuses me as it's not like you'd go looking for a house with an unlimited budget because you need to know how many bedrooms etc you want which would impact the budget... Maybe I'm not supposed to think about things this seriously though!

@gronk27 we are kind of combi feeding (1 or 2 bottles formula a day) and as @melissa112 said you've got to do what's right for you, although I will echo that it does get easier. We are into week 4 now and it's def better than week 1 or 2 and in some ways I'm sad that we will need to stop bf soon as I can see the practical benefits when you're out and about (no sterilising!) and it is a bonding thing for me, but I guess using bottles also means dad can join in and there's less pressure on me to produce milk.

To whoever said their next to me crib is currently an expensive bed side table... I concur! It's also useful to hang clothes off, whilst the baby sleeps in the thing we got on a whim for £10 in the charity shop. Sods law. He has been progressively spending more time in it though so hoping it's just a slow burner and we get there eventually.

Also.... Happy Mother's Day!!! Anyone doing anything for it, particularly those with older kids?

We are just going for a walk in the park providing the weather stays decent.. See if we can spot some deer!

@cardboard33 Happy Mother's Day to you & all the other mamas! We're going for lunch with my parents & to introduce baby R to another auntie & uncle. Was hoping DH would orchestrate a lie-in for me this morning, but as it stands he's happily snoring away as I write

Happy Mother's Day everyone! DD2 has given me the gift of a massive poosplosion in her nappy that required a full strip down bath and probably the bombing of a bodysuit and sleepsuit It's DH's birthday today too so I've let him have a lie in (it's a big, midlife crisis one) and he's getting us a takeaway tonight.

My expensive bedside table transformed back into a side sleeper last night as DD2 managed to stay in there until 5am - a Mother's Day miracle! It won't last, but it was nice to get a decent sleep and I feel a million times better for it today.

I hope everyone else had a good day today and gets spoilt!

Dd1 wanted to paint this morning so painted me a picture I got the joy of cleaning the mess up She well DH bought me a bar of chocolate and some flowers she keeps pestering to share the chocolate dd2 smiled for the first time so that gift was priceless

Hope everyone has a lovely day

Happy mothers day all!

My husband didnt get me anything... he forgot apparently.. i got a bit teary that i didnt get a card or flowers or anything and felt super silly and embarassed but hey. Its not that im demanding to be showered in gifts but a little recognition would be nice... Guess ill always remember my first mothers day

Happy Mother's Day everyone.

DH didn't think about giving me a lie in... Until I got pretty mad at him and he left me in peace for an hour's sleep. I'd take anything I can get... And to be fair he hasn't made me move out of bed. DS is being pretty good but just feels like another day.

@harley888 I know the feeling - I am still mad he didn't get me a card from DS for my birthday (2 days after he was born I admit but he went to a big tesco in the meantime so really no excuse!) He just didn't even think about it.

DHs can be a bit pants can't they?! I asked mine where my card was & he said I'd have to wait a few years until baby was older. My bottom lip must've started to wobble because he then said he'd make me one & managed to find a card (in my card box) & write it while I was feeding the bub... here's to getting that lie-in next year, if not before!

Happy mother’s day everyone! My DH was really sweet and him and the kids got me a package of lots of nice bits - gluten free biscuits, some posh writing pens (I’m a big geek about that kind of thing), some Haribo, tins of G&T and gluten free beer. I was very touched! It’s been a bit of a manic weekend though as DS turned 5 yesterday - we had a party at local soft play for 16 kids then family for tea and cake so I am shattered now and the house is trashed - mostly with toys DS has opened then abandoned! I usually do a toy sort before birthdays/ Xmas but I haven’t had chance with the new arrival so I feel like we’re literally over run with stuff!

Happy Mother's Day everyone. We went to the park for a walk today but George was unsettled in his pram so ended up holding him with his head buried in me so don't think he got much out of it. Does anyone else's baby not open their eyes when outside? Our house isn't overly bright but not really dark either but it seems like the outside is just too bright for him and he just pins his eyes shut. Do i need to worry about it or just get him out more? As he hates both the car seat and pram I'm worried about taking him out alone so we've not really been out much.

@melissa112 Lois is usually asleep when we are outside in the pram but she tends to shut her eyes if the lights are to bright. Do you have a sling? I have a close caboo which is great for getting out and about, mine was second hand you can pick them up for about £15-20

@melissa112 I’d second the Close Caboo recommendation- really comfy, easy to use carrier and it folds up small enough to fit in your changing bag.

Happy Mother’s Day all! I hope you all had a nice day whatever you ended up doing. For those of you who’s days didn’t quite go as planned, you are still awesome mama’s no matter what!

Today was meant to be baby’s due date so we’d made no plans! But always nice to have a bit of a relax at home. Did a bit of baking with DD1 ‘helping’!

Definitely too early to worry about them seeing - remember early on they can basically only see the distance from your nipple to your face!

DH managed to get me a card but bugger all else. I don't understand how he can order his mum beautiful flowers and not even bother to get me a box of chocolates!

Had a hell of an evening with DD struggling with wind. Poor thing is really struggling to clear it tonight and doesn't want to feed, just screams at me in discomfort. Poor thing has spent the best part of 2 hours sucking my little finger :( poor bean

@SquirtlesMumAgain that’s rubbish they really don’t think at times do they hope dd settles it’s horrible seeing them struggle

@SquirtlesMumAgain we're dealing with the same here. After an amazing night last night DD2 has be writhing in pain since 3am with trapped wind. She seems to be settling now but I've put her in an awkward place on the bed and am now terrified to move her!

Adela has lost 12 percent body weight so getting the formula was absolutely the right thing to do. The midwife was so lovely, very reassuring and kind. I’m booked in with the midwife today (Monday) to have her weighed again to check she’s out on some weight overnight and then again in a week. Also where the clinic is is a breastfeeding support group so I’ll go to that too.

Been told to BF then top up with formula every feed and then pump (when it arrives!) and top up with that.

I’m felt so guilty and like a failure but I’m doing well now I see how content she is with a full belly.

In myself I think I have some kind of virus or infection, it could be just exhaustion but I feel shivery at times. Had a weird feeling in my ear since labour. I was given painkillers and antiobiotics when I left hospital but don’t know what for. I’ll be taking the last one in the morning but think I’ll head to GP has I don’t feel right.

Thanks to all those who reassured me.

@melissa112 It's a good name, George!

Thanks everyone for reassuring me about the weepiness. I was much better yesterday so hopefully it's passing.

Hope everyone had a good Mother's Day. Sorry to everyone whose DHs forgot to get cards and gifts ☹️

Apologies for the below.. a bit tmi..
I had to call triage last night as I was passing some quite big clots- about the size of my thumb. Didn't really get a very good answer. She said that it's normal and they expect to see anything up to the size of a 50p piece anything more they'd be concerned about... when I said these are the size of my entire thumb not my thumb nail, she just kind of said oh. Keep an eye on it. It's probably just because you've been laid/ sat down all day. I've passed another one early this morning which was about the size of a 50p. Has anyone else had blot clots and what were you advised? I think I'll wait and see if there's anymore then call back in.

@assumeitssomethingclever I had a few clots v early on and they said it was ok as long as it was no bigger than a 50p. They also said they can be worse if you've been sat/lying down for a while or after you've fed baby as it's when the womb contracts in the early days. How long has it been since you had George? I didn't get that much bleeding & had zero pain but when I had the clots it was like day 0-5 or something really early, whereas later would be slightly odder (but depends on how much you've bled generally I guess) -- I'd take photos of the clots so you've got examples and then call again if it's still happening?

@gronk27 glad Adela is happier now, you're definitely not a failure!! Yiu come across as a v strong independent woman = exactly what a baby girl needs. She won't care at all where her food is coming from!

Does anyone know if formula leads to less pooey nappies and/or constipation? We've started doing one feed (at 10/11pm) of formula and last night he went more than 12 hours without doing a poo but had 3 wet nappies during that period. He was clearly trying to get a poo out though as did his usual straining faces/wriggling around for several hours before he finally did, wheras previously he has only needed to do that for a wee while before the poo coming. He's 4 weeks, if it's just something to do with how his body is developing?

@cardboard33 I don't think it's constipation as such (as long as you're making up the bottles correctly) but I read somewhere that BF babies tend to poo when they've been fed because it's an automatic process when they eat - formula takes slightly longer to be processed by the body.

We've formula fed since day 2 - he's going to be 4 weeks on Wednesday (no idea where the time is going) and we have one or two dirty nappies a day. There were more at first but this has settled into the routine now

@cardboard33 This might help because formula poo can look / smell different to breast fed poo as well so might calm any other fears that you / others get if you start using/introducing formula

Just realised the pictures too big to be clear.
I got it from here

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Hope everyone managed to have a nice Mother’s Day. Sorry some are sad about no cards/ presents 😔 hopefully lots of baby cuddles helped.

Still trying to keep up with this busy thread!

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever I had some quite large clots. I would say bigger than my whole hand. Midwife asked me about them every visit and because they calmed down and bleeding didn’t get worse, there wasn’t a concern. Keep telling your midwife if you have them.

@Gronk27 I have been the same by combi feeding our dd. I don’t feel guilty as such, but sad/ worried incase she chooses the bottle over me and breastfeeding will stop. You’re doing a great job by meeting baby’s needs, whichever way it is.

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@cardboard33 He was born on Thursday. They said because I had a c section I needed to look out for it more. Not entirely sure why it makes a difference but apparently it does..? I'm hoping that it was just down to me being unable to move really since Saturday due to the pain of my stitches ripping.
@BeHereNowx32 oh wow, mine are much much smaller in comparison. Thank you, glad they weren't worried in your case either. The triage phone rang off twice so I was just worried she was over busy and didn't really listen to me. Glad that doesn't seem to be the case!

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever I did get a fright! Probably had 5 in total. If you’re able to keep one on a pad, show the midwife