The March-ers 2019 - Baby Talk #1

[Angelmiracle]

Congratulations to all the mamas with their new babies 🌸

Now the fun really starts 😄

@toastfiend - baby boy - 28/01/2019
@TheWanderlust - Baby girl - Althea - 7lb6oz - 16/02/2019
@PurpleFlower1983 - Baby girl - Matilda - 17/02/2019
@Wineandchoccy - Baby girl - Lois - 6lb12oz - 19/02/2019
@Harley8888 - Baby boy- Logan - 7lb4oz - 01/03/2019

That sounds really stressful @harley888 - I really feel for you. Do you have a partner who can step in and explain to your mum that whilst she may think she's being helpful you all just need some space to get to grips with the new normal as just you guys? Or if not then please just be honest with her yourself and quite literally say what you've said here - your feelings do matter and must be taken into account regardless of how excited or otherwise your mum is about the baby.

Do you live with your mum, or separately? As I get why this must be even harder of you all live together but the above still applies.

We are on the other side of the fence with closest family 3+ hours away so the immediate family have all now been but only for a short period and it's only both sets of parents plus a sibling (no partner) each.

@cardboard33 - DS5 has been pretty okay about everything. He has DH with him, which is good but does means I’m spending a lot of time alone in hospital with the baby. We don’t have extended family, so it’s a bit of a juggle for us.

@WhatALearningCurve - sorry to hear your experiencing jaundice too. We were let home, with slight jaundice and midwifes did flash tests over the course of a few days, which seemed okay. Then, as you said, had a really bad feeding day and flash test came back with borderline results. Midwife referred us back to hospital, and blood tests were astronomically high; to the point they were discussion complete blood transfusion. Ended up on double lights and a billiblanket, which thankfully seems to have worked. Rebound results looking good, so hopefully liver has been kick started.

Hope all is well with your little one. It’s terrifying when they start talking about all the different things that could go wrong.

The whole experience has knocked us off feeding, we’re breastfeeding, but doctors were insistent on formula topups. And now we’re completely lost the breastfeeding knack. Devastated, as it was the one thing I was really focussed on doing.

@harley888 that sounds really stressful. I’ve got to say, one of the best things about this being DC3 so we haven’t been inundated with visitors. I really hate that feeling of watching the baby be passed around when all you want is a snuggle. I agree with @cardboard33 you should tell your Mum or ask your partner to be a really strict gatekeeper on your behalf.

Welcoming @melissa112 to the thread with baby boy - George - 7lb10oz - 11/03/2019

Congratulations x

@Exhaustedmummy1811 - Baby girl Freya - 5lb11oz - 11/03/2019 🌸 Congratulations x

We have been to a baby group today there was a 2 week old boy that was 10lb 9oz and next to dd he looked like he was a few months old

@Harley8888 that sounds awful I would have to say something otherwise you will be shattered and newborns need their Mummies not to be passed around

No I don't live with my mum but we live 10 mins away from each other and she has a key!!

We managed to have a conversation with my dad who is a bit more logical about these things and he had a word with my mum. We explained it's not good for the baby to be seeing that many people when he's so young due to risk of infection. She hasn't organised any visitors this week so I guess it's worked.

It's just been such a hectic start and I feel like I didn't have time with Logan at the beginning - we had visitors straight away. My family were already at my house (as my mum has a key) when we got home from hospital. My brothers girlfriend held my son for an hour when we got home before I even got to hold him when we got home. I feel like I lost out on the first few days with him and I feel like crying just thinking about it..

@Harley8888 I remember the 1st weekend that we had at home with our 1st daughter at one point there was 16 people in my house I just wanted to scream at everyone to get out and leave me alone
I have quite enjoyed it this time as it’s our 2nd baby we have hardly had any visitors

@Harley8888 I would have hated that too. As excited as people get they really should respect boundaries more and we shouldn't feel that we have to pander to their needs. I hope you manage to get some space from here forward.

@SoBoredOfWaiting - Baby boy - 5lb12oz - 11/03/2019

Congratulations!

@march19 - baby girl- Tamsin - 7lb10.5oz - 12/03/2019

Congratulations 💗

Hi everyone, can I join on this thread now as DD2 is now 8days old and I've only just remembered we have a postnatal thread too 🙈😂. How is everyone getting on? Xx

Oh my god @SharonO225 her hair 😍😍. Congratulations!!

Thank you @WhatALearningCurve she does have quite a mop...the heartburn was worth it lol 😂

Hey everyone can I join. I didn't even realise there was a postnatal thread.
We 12 days in now and the sleep deprivation is hard. Struggling to find a routine that suits everyone including my 8 year old daughter. I'd forgotten what the newborn days were like it was so long ago but I also think I'd blocked it out!!

Please could I join? DS1 born 4/3/29, 8.1lb. Just getting settled for the night shift while DH snores away on the futon!

Everyone more than welcome @SDP84 @KarBB

Congratulations on your babies 😍😊

My baby is now about a week and a half old and over the last few days has been getting fussier with reg to bedtime in particular, as he will sleep fine all day in the crib but point blank refuses to at night. He's also recently started screaming every time my husband picks him up so now husband is in a grump about what a bad dad he is and refuses to do anything because "it's not like it will help" .... Last night I was up all night due to baby wanting to cluster feed combined with my husband refusing to settle him but I know this isn't sustainable or realistic to do in the long term as I can not be awake 24/7. I've literally just fed him for 20 min and put him in the crib asleep and I can now hear him crying with my husband. We are hoping to express within a few days and I hope that the bottle feeding will then mean my husband can feel more involved but don't know if I'm just kidding myself? I know it's ridiculously early days right now so maybe we just have too high expectations and this is normal? I've told him to ask his friends what they all did as it must be common but won't as he says it will make him look like a bad dad.

@cardboard33 mines the same. In our case it turns out she’s got a lot of wind causing discomfort at night. The midwife suggested we put her on infacol with every feed which definitely helped - after about 5 day’s taking it we had two nights running with decent sleep. Only trouble is it seems to be making her quite sicky, and with it more grisly during the day. We stopped the infacol yesterday to test whether it was causing the sickiness and had a much better daytime / far less sicky baby, but another nightmare night where she was squirming around screaming with wind. She’s back on it again today but will have to see how it goes - I’m wondering whether just giving it with the evening feeds will give us the best of both worlds. The HV also taught me some baby massage techniques which should help - I think there are courses around which you could join...and we are now making sure we burp/wind her regularly. They say breastfed babies don’t need winding, but it’s not always the case.

@cardboard33 I was going to say the same as @Jellybean023 Lois is very windy especially at night so doesn’t settle very easily. Google the tiger in the tree hold it seems to help her burp quicker.
It is hard because they do seem unsettled with the men in our lives but they have been with us for 9 months and don’t want anybody else. DH wore my dressing gown and carried her around inside it the other evening and she settled a lot better.

@Jellybean023 we used infacol with our 1st dd with success but it seems to make Lois really sick so I’m not sure whether like you to stop or just use it at night.

@cardboard33 my DS is a week and a half too and was also up all night cluster feeding! Can you sleep in the day? I find psychologically it helps to think of it as a 24hour period to get through rather than day and night. And I’m trying to remember it’s normal and it will pass...

@SPD84 how is your 8yo with the baby? I have a 7yo and she really loves her baby brother but it’s a bit TOO much - she’s constantly wanting to kiss/ hold/ stroke him and I find myself having to grit my teeth to not snap at her for messing with him just as he’s nodded off to sleep!!

@Hermagsjesty @cardboard33 I feel you! We has a cluster marathon last night from early evening until after 5am.... baby was only happy when attached to my boob or being held by me. By about 4am the tears started (mine, that is) and by 6am I was sitting there in floods with baby sucking my nipple (but not really feeding) and DH lying conked out beside me on the bed. I'm not sure how many more like that I could handle - I've been napping on and off all morning but still feel tearful and shaken by the experience. Baby is only 10 days old so fear lots more to come and I'm so worried I'll never get used to it...

Welcoming @Squirtlesmumagain- baby girl- Alice - 5lb9oz - 13/03/2019

Congratulations again!!💗

Thank you!

Was a hell of a birth... Will post the story but not for the faint hearted!
Ended up being induced just before midday and all was progressing nicely (and gently) then suddenly within about half an hour contractions went from 2 in 10 mins to 6 in 10 mins. They popped me on trace and her heartbeat was OK, then again started reacting really badly really quickly. Had to have medicine to slow down the contractions and was quickly moved to labour ward, where they gave me some Paracetamol. They slowed slightly and I got gas and air (thankfully!) but not for long... Soon my body was wanting to push and her heart rate was dipping, but I was only about 6cm. They ended up breaking my waters to be able to get a head probe on her and started prepping for theatre, at which point my body did push.... I somehow managed to thin the cervix just enough for the midwife to move the last bit out of the way and I pushed her out naturally (just as the doctor was trying to take bloods for surgery!)!!!!
Was bloody terrifying and I was so spaced on gas and air. Thankfully got away with very few stitches and I genuinely don't know how - probably just a good job she was so small!

Her cord was so short that she barely reached my tummy, so may explain why she never dropped properly, and why we were getting the decels on the trace previously.

She has been a pain when it comes to feeding, she just isn't interested really so having to express and give her colostrum through a syringe. Says everything really about her life to date!

She is so beautiful though - you do forget how precious they are in a way when they get big. Though DS came to visit today and he was just so in love with her it was amazing!

Another welcome to @ballanj - Baby boy - Charlie James Wolfgang - 7lb8oz - 14/03/2019

Congratulations 💙