Born in June - waiting on the last few!

[bumperlicious]

new thread, sorry for the unimaginative title!

daisy thank you, we have got 3 app to go to so we think they give us then one for her hips one for her going blue and on for her kidneys dont know which is which though, also waiting for her wee resluts had to do 4 they want to make sure what they tell us is right . so know thers some thing just dont know what yet, the waiting and not knowing is horrible. maybe when, if theres some thing wrong we can hoppfully treat it and get on with our lifes

don't know if its any comfort but dd went blue 3 times when we were feeding her. we ended up in a&e when she was 3 days old. they thought it might be reflux but tbh I think it was just a crap feeding position (breastfeeding) she was choking but wouldn't (or couldn't) pull away. it was terrifying but seems to have sorted itself out now.

I've heard of silent reflux though don't know what it quite is. could it be that? here

i will add its putting a strain on my marrige too

bumperlicious its so frightning anit it? did you panic? yes they did mention silent reflux but also said she dont have enough milk but i hope thats what it is even thought i know its still bad and can kill them it can be controlled

god yeah, and I felt worse because I thought it was my fault (was literally pressing her on the breast in desperation to get her to feed - no wonder she couldn't pull off) convinced myself she would have brain damage (hospital assured me she would ) dh and i were both crying by the time we got there.

I'm sorry it's putting a strain on your marriage. I hope your dh is supporting you. This is hopefully just a short but very scary period. things will get better. can anyone give you both a break, even just for an hour so you can both pop out, or just lay in bed together? Wish there was something i could do to help. hang in there and just make sure you and dh are communicating.

they gave us infant gaviscon by the way, for the reflux (but we didn't stick at it coz fairly sure she doesn't have reflux)

Right going to pop to the shops before next feed so we have at least got out of the house today! trace, sorry to abandon you, I really hope things get better. keep us updated, thinking of you x

Hi Trace, you must be having such a difficult and upsetting time, I really hope things improve for you soon, and I bet the lack of sleep isn't helping things. Have you thought of using a sling or baby carrier? That way you can keep an eye on her and get a few things done, i know you have other kids so it must be really hard for you.

Trace my friend's dd stopped breathing numerous times when first born. It was reflux tho she was never sick. She was very ill & weak until they found out what was wrong. Then she was on a breathing monitor for a good many months but the problem was sorted out & she is now a strapping & very healthy 7 year old.

hi again sorry forgot time needed to pick ds up from school, lol

yes they gave us that aswell but dont now if it helps but i think it makes her poo more

sputnik no i carnt use a sling yet as my pelvis still not right, physo put me on bedrest on monday lol as if

TALLULAHBELLE thanks for that info so glad there may be a light at the end of it all

HV came today & weighed DD. She is now 7lb 3oz so has gained 5oz since birth (3.5 weeks). Know this is measly compared to the rest but such a relief as finally gaining not losing . Maybe someday soon she'll fit the newborn clothes we bought!

Afternoon all

Glad my early feelings towards DD were considered normal . I didn't really discuss my labour with anyone at the hospital but was fully aware of why I needed emergency CS - I was just suprised that I didn't see DD properly until I went to the ward. At the time I wasn't overly worried as DH got some lovely time with just the two of them and her gave her first feed, I was just a bit concerned later on that it affected our bonding - but all seems ok now . I suspect I got the CS partly of becasue I handled labour (badly ). When I asked for G&A, the MW said to me "already?" . As I said earlier about BF - I am such a wuss and fall at the first hurdle - hence epidural, CS and FF!

Agree with TA re weight gain in FF babies - mine didn't lose any of her birth weight and has gone from 6lb 7oz to over 8lb in five and a half weeks.

She has a little bit of the squits atm - I don't know if its something I've done or if its to do with her growth spurt - she's gone from 1 poo a day to 5 or 6 - opposite problem to most of you!!

tallulah, that's really good news

is the fennel tea and guinness working then?

were you awake for the cs charlie? did your dh take the LO out while you were sewn up? i thought that wasn't done these days. dh was sat next to me holding babyboo the whole time, and i even got a bit of a cuddle myself.

oh, your earlier question about driving.....i started driving again last week when lo was four weeks, but would've been doing it sooner if my wound had healed quicker. I waited six weeks last time and hated it as i was reliant on my sis to ferry me around (DH (or ex BF as he was then) was temporarily off the scene). like you i didn't bother checking with my insurance company....they don't need to know i've had a cs really. my doc last time said there was no need to wait six weeks anyway.

Hi Daisy, yeah was awake and MW took DH and DD to wardwhile I was sewn up and then I had to go to recovery for 20 mins - very fustrating as I just wanted to see both of them. They gave DD straight to DH when she was born and he was showing her to me for about 5 mins, but tbh I couldn't see a bloody thing as I was craning my neck round - could only just see her. Anyway, so be it. Next time, elective CS and things will be different.

Everyone told me I HAD to wait 6 weeks till I could drive - MW, HV and GP! Was going nuts - feel much better now I'm out & about. Took DD to work the other day and she was handed around like pass the parcel and she was as good as gold .

Has your DD been a bit happier this afternoon? I've had a good day with mine - will probably pay for it tonight

she has, but only if i let her sleep on top of me. need to put her down to get DSs tea on the go...only just managed it last night and had to eat with her in my arms.

the cuddles are lovely though and i could quite happily sit here all day and let DS starve

i'm really at your hospital.....skin to skin immediately after the birth is well documented for getting bf off to a flying start.

well I have to say - I'm a bit gob-smacked too now - didn't know any different at the time.

Well as I say - will be differernt next time. Was the elective route a better experience?

Right, gotta do dinner myself - lets hope LO will go down without screaming!

Hi Daisy - yep Guiness seems to be doing the trick. Haven't been brave enough to try the fennel tea. Can just imagine the beer belly I'm going to have by the end of this though - won't pack away the maternity gear just yet

Just to clarify, I've ben drinking the Guiness, not giving it directly to DD - tho my folks here last night & were saying how a little drop of whisky in my nighttime bottle really helped me sleep through the night. And they wonder where I got a taste for the stuff.

oops - sp- Guinness, I should say.

definately a better experience in that i had control over the situation (ie it was my decision); relaxed and calm and i wasn't bloody knackered after days of sleeplessness and a 12 hour labour.

however, i had thought long and hard about a vbac, but chickened out at the last minute. in hindsight i wish i'd had the courage of my initial conviction, but i'm happy with the whole experience overall. i had a lot of pain afterwards and wound trouble which i wasn't expecting, but overall it was a good experience and my aftercare was second to none i thought.

I'm not planning on doing it again though

tallulah at the things our parents did....baby rice in the bottle was another favourite IIRC.

Try oats...they're supposed to be good as well.

Yeah been having porridge for brekky too. My mum swears by a rich tea biscuit mashed up with milk as perfect first food when weaning (at about 10 weeks old!!!!!)
Still, suppose I survived.