Nov '05 Toddlers plus baby bro's (& sis)

[Rodeo]

Here we are!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY S
Hope you are having a lovely day

Londoner - Eek at E getting the hang of the scooter straight away, I was hoping it would take him a few days
That means I've got just over a week to get running

HappyBirthday to S. Hope you had a great day.

Hi everyone, thanks for your happy birthday messages

We've had a lovely day, Seth has been given every type of Bob toy imaginable he loves them though.
He got a work bench from MIL, lots of lovely clothes, jigsaws and books, so think he was very pleased.
We went to White post farm today, the weather was great and we had a lovely time, he was quite brave!

Birthday tea was very loud messy and raucous, few more turned up than expected but there was no fights!!

I feel absolutely whacked now, poor DH has gone off to do a night shift but hes been up since 6:30 with all of us .

xxx

Hello

Not been on for a while - am getting quite useless at this - sorry

Also - Happy Birthday to all those I have already missed - and all those that are happening in the next week or so.

Nova - sounds like you have had a hellish couple of weeks, but hopefully are through the other side of it now...

Rodeo - hop you are doing well...

Diege, hope new job is settling down and that the dds are doing well too.

Chacha - glad that you are enjoying your time away, best wishes for the festivals that I know are happening( but have forgotten the names of - sorry!)

Well, news from here is that me and DH are off to Spain for a couple of nights on Friday - but T is staying behind to have 2 mini holidays with 2 sets of grandparents! WE are off to stay with DH's step brother, only away for 3 nights, but am really looking forward to it - have lots to do before we go tho, like pack the cases, start a load of decorating etc!

Anyone else finding that they are very disorganised lately? I am starting with all good intentions, for all works of life, but am failing miserably in many of them.....not sure what is going on - must get more organised, am forgetting so much it's untrue!

Right, best clear off and get on with all the work I need to get doen before my hols (today is the last day at work for just over a week! - hooray!!)

Promise will try and pop in more often, and really must get some more photos on the yahoo site (I know, I have been saying that for ages!)

B
xxxxxx

Hello everyone. Have a little bit of news here.

I am now no longer with dp. Very long story, quick version is I was cheating on him with a guy from work, he found out last week. This week we have been tryingto sort things out. Today it all kicked off, ended up him blamiong the boys, throwing a strop because I said they are the most important things in my life...he thenwouldn't let me near the boys, scared the hell out of them while giving me a kicking. Neighbour heard things and came and got us, called the police. They eventually arrived and he was arrested for drink driving, police took statement from me. I'm hurting, will be covered in bruises tomorrow. I'm gonna have to o see solicitor, get house on market etc.

What a mess. I'm never going to excuse my actions, they were wrong I know that.

I'm glad there's a finality to this, I'm not going to be wondering what I really want, I just wish it hadn't been this way.

Don't think I'll sleep tonight, got lots of glass & blood to clear up. Gotta pack him a bag for when he's released...

I tried for some sleep, but even though 5 mins previously I'd been yawning my head off, I just couldn't sleep, so I've had a bath, and I've just finished sorting out all the financial papers etc. A bag full of his stuff, and a box file with mine, plus tons to go in the shredder. There's a small bag of his bits in by the front door, so when he comes for it he can just take it (have been told will most likely be with police officer due to bail conditions tha will probably be put on him). I'm feeling I'm being a little too clinical about this all. Surely I should be a wreck crying my eyes out, but tbh it feels like a huge weight has been lifted. I feel relieved that it's over, and ultimately no going back. I won't be staying with him just to keep him happy while sacrificing my own happiness. That was how I've been feeling. But boy does my back, arms & shoulders hurt! It'll probably hit me when the for sale board goes up outside.

Think I might have a little play on here, then sort out bits for charity shops. Start getting the house cleared, make it look presentable for when it is on the market.

Wow GG what a night, I hope you managed to get a little rest after your posting. I'm sorry to hear it had to end in such an explosive way, but it's good for you to think about it in a positive way. Don't worry about dealing with it in a clinical way, it'll probably hit you once it's all sorted and your head is clear. I hope your boys are ok after their scare, give them lots of kisses and hugs. Always remember we're here for you to talk to, sometimes it can be easier to pour your feelings out to people who don't 'know' you and don't judge. Look after yourself, and don't forget the arnica for the bruising x

Hello all, and apologies again for the infrequent posting ; suffering very much with 5am starts at the moment, what with the clocks going back , but fingers crossed that things will settle down soon. Have had a quick skim read through - GG: echo Nova's sentiments - we are all here for you. What your dp did to you (and I'm sorry to say the ds's too, with them being there) is inexcusable, regardless of your actions. No excuses for violence . Think you're right to think of the postivies - you will look back in a year's time and see this as such an important time in your life. Lots of hugs...take care, and love to you and the boys
NOVA: Pretty traumatic times for you too by the sounds of things during the last few weeks..Sounds like you have managed to find a great balance between a (tiny) bit if time to yourself, and family-life! Bet Noo's a great swimmer by now! By the way, I blame you for my recent splurge on Uttam Kids website . Remember the hat and scarf set you kindly sent me? (still being worn by L by the way!!)...it was the beginning of a life long love affair ..LONDONER: Have lovely picture in my mind of E riding up and down on scooter Sounds like you have such a blissful family life, and agree about the new site - what's with all this arrows busines??? HOW confusing - and is page 1 most recent or least so? . BB: oh HOW am I!!! You will have a WONDERFUL time!!! The lie-ins!! The relaxing!!! How WILL you cope!!! LASM: sounds a fun party! Hope your tooth isn't so painful, ouch!! Have to say, thought about the 'stuff' you mentioned that shouldn;t come out at several points that day (if this makes any sense!) Hello too to FH/BEKS/RODEO/CHACHA/TWINKLE and MASSIVE apologies for being a total waste of space over birthdays!!! Many happy belated birthdays to all!!!! Have to admit to being a bit naughty about L's next week . Scarlett's is the week after, so much effort has gone into organising party, presents etc for dd2, and the budget is pretty low, so...will give a pile of pressies made up with those from my parents/MILs/friends/sisters etc, with no 'big' present from me and dh...; think we can get away with it for this year, and have already got In the Night Garden trike for Christmas.
Things much the same here - new job v.good, though the commute is killing me what with the early starts too - winge, winge...but SO much better than that horrid eveining teaching last year! Have also been tentatively starting to think about my GREAT PLAN for next Spring (ttc no.4). Still keen, but levels of 'keeness' do rise and fall at alarming rates...is this usual do you think?? .
Right, better check work e-mails (working from home today as it's half term where I work so the students are 'off' - shame our's was laST week, lol!! Love to all x

Hi girls

Blimey GG I'm sorry things ended so traumatically for you both and no matter what you've done, there was no excuse for violence towards you and especially not in front of your boys. After all you've been through with him you deserved better. I'm on the other end of the phone if you need to talk and there's always spare beds here if you need to get away for a few days.

Diege good to see you post, eek at the 5am starts. I'll make you feel better and tell you that we didn't end up giving T his big present from us either as he just had soooo much. We'll give it to him at Christmas instead.

Londoner what a lovely picture that creates of E zooming around on her scooter, hope you can run fast with all those hills in G Park.

Tex if you're lurking Happy Birthday Rosie, have a great day sweetheart.

Chacha thanks for thinking of us while you're away.

B had his operation yesterday and I've got to say that I am so amazed by that boy, he is just fantastic, he only complained once that he was hungry, he didn't make a sound when they put in the canula and didn't flinch or even cry when they gave him the general anaesthetic. He woke up very disorientated and dizzy with terrible pins and needles but only cried and writhed around a little bit and half hour later was asking for toast and dinner. Then went faint and sickie when they took the canula out but we were home by 8pm last night and he slept through.
Today he is very sore, finding it painful to walk, is black and blue front and back but is still not complaining.

T had a great b'day party although his actual b'day was a bit subdued as we spent it at my sils and they don't celebrate in as big a way as we do, but all in all I think he had a great time and keeps walking around and touching his presents and saying "mine" with a big grin on his face

Hope everyone else is well sorry for the me post but realised I hadn't given any proper news for a while.

BEKS all the best for the little soldier! Wow, kids really put adults to shame on the hospital front! Lol at T and his 'mine' to each present can just imagine the scenario; L is the same 'MY chair', and 'MY mummy' when the older dds dare toi climb on my knee . Glad I'm not alone with 'present deferral'

Hi guys,

Belated b.day wishes to Tex's Rosie.
Nova, so sorry to hear all you've been through recently and hoping you are moving onwards and upwards okay now.
GG, how awful, you poor thing. I'm so sorry to hear about the break down of your relationship and about you being hurt it must have been such a shock for you and the little ones, I hope your cuts and bruises heal quickly and it sounds like you are being so amazing and strong and dealing with things as well as you can at such a difficult time.
Beks, B is amazing you must feel so proud of him. And well done to you for getting through it, it must have been so hard being there for him and looking after T as well. I'm so glad he's come out the other side well and it's DONE, yay!
Love to all, gotta go now.x

Hi again quickly, trying to catch up in fits & starts..... Feetheart and Diege, yes she loves the scooter and it is hilarious but she's not fast yet thankfully so I can stick to walking. In fact yesterday when I took her out I had to carry it because she wanted to carry her cuddly toy instead, unfortunately it's only for 3-5 year olds so I couldn't sneak a quick go. Lol at 'mine' Diege & Beks.

Nova, how's the new house and did your furniture arrive safely? Did it feel good to spend time there?

BB & Beks, Feetheart, Layla&Seth, lovely to catch up on all your news. ChaCHa, good to hear from you and that all is going well.

Had a little tea party on Baby's b.day -just a few friends and it was lovely. I feel so emotional really thinking my goodness this baby is really 2 now, so amazing. She's just gorgeous. Have spent last 2 days at different friends' houses and been cooked lunch both days so I'm having a whale of a time, and to top it all it's the weekend -yaaaaay. Wishing you all lovely weekends, bye!x

Lovely to hear you so upbeat Londoner, I must confess I thought I might cry at noos birthday party, it's all very emotional seeing them grow up . I've snuck a go on noos scooter and it's quite scary - they go quite fast!

Diege, can I ask what time you go to bed? If you're working full time and getting up at 5am how much sleep are you getting? I only ask because DH gets really annoyed if I want to go to bed early and complains that we don't see enough of each other, but he's not the one getting up in the night and then starting the day at any time from 5.30-6.30 with miniman . I end up making myself more tired by staying up to keep him happy.

Beks, glad the op was a success, it must be quite worrying to see your child go through that.

I find it really funny how much noo copies things. I never realised how much I shouted at one of our cats until noo did the same . She uses exactly the same tone of voice and tries to bat him out of the way! She also has a toy buggy and sits one teddy in the front and puts the other underneath like the Phil & Teds. She picks things up so quickly, it never ceases to amaze me. Unfortunately she's also going through a deeply possesive phase with her toys and miniman has been hit on numerous occasions for daring to touch them. Her current obsession is The Simpsons, especially Homer who has to have one of her coats put on him and ride in the buggy/car whenever we go out (DH is to blame for the Simpsons, I caught him sat with her one sunday explaining who all the characters are and now whenever they are on TV she shouts 'Homer, D'oh'.

A Q - how often does your lo gets sweets/chocolate/crisps, and how much do they get in that portion? Obviously where I live isn't normal, no-one would dare give their child anything other than rice cakes or carrot sticks, so I just wondered what regular people do? FWIW noo is allowed two fun sized chocs when we get home from nursery, or she gets a little bit of what we have whenever we eat it.

Arghh!! Just lost a post . To summise...LONDONDER, sounds a blissufl few days, what with nice lunches etc!! I was thinking of you the other day, when thinking about plans for no.4. Just wondering if you found the pregnancy any different to the others? I have a friend who's pregnant with no.4 and her bump appeared virtually straight away, and she's finding it physically very hard (more so than the others). Also, did you feel your family was complete after no.4, or do you still have the odd yearning for another? Just being nosey; don't annswer if you don't want to!! .
NOVA: I have to admit that bedtime for me is very early - 9.30 to 10, although it does creepy up (usually due to computer!!) to 10.45 when I force myself to get up the stairs!!. If I leave it any later - especially a few nights in a row - I actually feel physically ill during the day. I have the 'we're not spending enough time together' thing with dh too, but I think he is resentful of the fact that the hours between 7 (when they are in bed) and 9.30 (when I am heading up the stairs) tend to be filled by TV, rather than any I thing meaningful!! Maybe you could agree to one night a week when you stay up a little later (perhaps fri night/weekend)when you can take it in turns for lie-ins?? I think it's really hard when you're at home, as I guess the ownus is on you to do the lion's share of getting up with them, but having said that you don't get the chance to rest at 'paid work!!' I'd put my foot down and just go earlier - OR, maybe stay up later with dh, on the condition that he gets up at least once in the night/early morning??.
Right, that's enough of my ranting!!! Hope everyone is having a good weekend here! We're off to the park soon, then YAH!!! X-factor!!! Come on RODEO, I miss my old TV buddy!!!

Hi everyone, thanks for your thoughts. I'm pretty upbeat, although feeling I'm being cold and emotionless but shouldn't be. The way I feel is as though the relationship ended a long time ago and we've just been going through the motions of being a couple, which I think is probably true. The boys are fine, doesn't seem to have really affected them which I'm obviously very relieved about, although maybe O will change in the future when it all becomes reality.

Beks, how's your brave boy doing?

Nova, your post made me giggle! I love the way LOs copy what others around them doing, and it can be quite enlightening when they come out with something that quite obviously came from yourself! Hve a lovely image of DH giving Noo Simpsons lessons!

Off to the lone parent boards for some advice. 'Lone parent'...sounds really odd. I suppose I'm going to have to deal with the filthy looks off people from now on being a single mum!

Hey GG, good to see you posting, I think you're handling things really well, in a mature fashion and I'm sure you'll have some rough times with the boys in the future, but they'll also see the true side of their dad at some time and realise you did the best thing for you all in the end.

Don't you go deserting us for the lone parents threads now and I hope you're not going to give a flying fart as to what other people think about you being a single parent. Your boys are lovely and you've brought them up really well, so why should that change just because you're on your own. Treat anyone who looks down their nose at you with the contempt they deserve and ask them if they fancy spending 24/7 with their own kids, most would run a mile. Beks

Don't worry Beks, I won't be deserting you yet! Just have to control my facebook addiction!

Hi everyone Hope you are doing ok GG - been thinking of you . Nothing much to report here - have a stinky cold, but other than that things are fine .Started xmas shopping today - got dd1 High school musical mp3 thingy, won a toy laptop thing off e-bay for dd2 for £6, and have 'reserved' an in the night garden trike for L. We decided half way through yesterday to make it LKL's birhtday that day - on part due to us having fireworks that night, so a rather bemused L came down to her nap to balloons and pressie ('Cake!!! MY cake!!). She will be at nursery 'on the day' so better to do when we're all off!
Have been reading the due in Nov thread ,ahhh, d'you remember it all girls? Anyone else get a bit nostalgic now around bonfire night

Lol Diege how sweet, bet L was totally confused but delighted all teh same

Not sure about nostalgic, just kept thinking if those bloody fireworks wake him up I'll scream - same thought as the last 5 years then but x2 Looking forward to hearing good news about no.4 from you, i'll be well broody by then!

Right better go as i'm supposed to be typing a letter Beks

Up to my ears here in chocolate crispies (for Mums and Tots tomorrow) and chocolate cake for Wednesday - I may be on a sugar high for a while

GG - sorry to hear that you have been having such a traumatic time. I do believe that your body often lets you deal with what you can cope with at the time, hence the feeling of being detached emotionally at the moment. Things will sneak in when you are more ready to deal with them and, as others have said, we'll be here when they do.

Londoner - v relieved to hear that E hasn't mastered running speed yet. Unfortunately I'm not sure that will translate to A. We will be in the park come Wednesday morning and I am debating putting the trainers on before we go - favourite phrases at the moment are "Me rum" (he really means 'run' honest!), "Ready GO" and "Off we go", usually said before haring off as fast as he can go though he does have an early morning, standing in the cot, version "Mummy, ME, off we go"...............repeat as necessary until someone gets up

Nova - bet they all feed them chocolate when at home
FWIW my two don't get that much in the way of bought sweets/chocolate, mainly because I don't want it to become a habit that I buy something whenever we go shopping/swimming/to the park/etc. I'd rather it was ramdom and not expected. However we seem to be forever making brownies/cakes/chocolate crispies/flapjacks/etc so I don't feel any of us are missing out

Hi ya

Just a quickie to wish Libby & Ash a Very Happy 2nd Birthday hope you have a great great day guys.

Sorry had planned on sending cards and a little gift to all, but only got as far as Jess and Noo so sorry it wasn't favouritism just bad planning on my part.

Hope everyone else is well and having a fun day Beks

Hello All....have got back from Spain (what a fab few days away that was!) Don't want to make you all too but we had some mega lie-ins, as we left T with various Grandparents for the weekend (who absolutely loved having him - so it worked out quite well all round!) Weather good, specially for November! Brought T a fab pressie back, it was a radio controlled ducati motorbike (he is turning into a petrol-head, and loves anything acars or bikes!) He loves it, it is a mega-hit!!!!

Missed him loads (although not the 6m starts!) and we are planning to take him with us next year for just under a week. Spose it makes a difference that we were staying with family, so somehow seems easier iyswim?

Hope everyone is doing ok? GG chin-up, not a nice place to be right now, and sure it will hit the boys at some point in the future, but for now, go with your gut and take each day as it comes. Remember, we are all here for if you need a shoulder, or somewhere to rant / vent or moan......

Hope everyone else is ok, just a quick one for me, as have just got a moments peace while dh & T have nipped out - I have made a stew for tonight, and it is now slow cooking int he oven - no idea what it will taste like - good I hope!?

Love B
x

Helloooooooooooo!
Just a quickie to say..........

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO DIEGE'S L! & HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO FEETHEART'S A!

.....hope you are all having a wonderful day today.

Things are so busy and I have caught up with posts but am finding it v. difficult to find a chance to actually post atm as I think are all of us. Where's Rodeo? Hope you're okay out there?

Just had to let you know 2 things that made me laugh that Baby said this week.....

........on being given her bowl of cereal at breakfast...." thank you that's wonderful darling...."[rofl] and when her sister had her foot on her chair at tea tonight....." don't your foot my chair ,idiot!"

...... thought you might like those. Love to everyone, byeee!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY L

Thanks for your messages (and the thoughts behind your idea BEKS - that was enough )

We have had a great day, I think A likes birthdays, he certainly likes singing 'Happy Birthday' to himself

The scooter is a HUGE hit and fears regarding running round the park haven't quite been realised - yet. Though he has mastered scootering by himself and was seen pushing himself down a little slope and putting both feet on the scooter whilst shouting 'Weeeeeeeeeeeeeee'

Need to collapse on sofa now following BIG pub meal (with 13 kids and 9 adults - luckily its got a soft play area!) and much chocolate 'ChooChoo' cake - may try and put a picture on Yahoo as I'm rather proud of it!

Happy Birthday L!! Sounds like you all had a great time! Phew, time for a glass of wine I'd say FH .
Well, pretty low key for L today having celebrated on Sunday. but nursery still make a bit of a thing about it, which was nice . And there were more presents waiting at home that the older dds have pounced on and made their own .
Looking forward to a few easier days work-wise working from home, as feeling pretty bleugh with a bad cold ( I am a man when ill .
Speak soon, diege