March 2007 - can't keep up

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Hi all -miss a few days due to nightmare things happening at home and I can't keep up now - so started a new thread. Perhaps thought we could remind each other when babes were born - I have lost track at who is the oldest etc.

Been busy here. Prac nanny is okay but hard work - feel like I can't totally relax in my own home etc. She is not sure how to deal with /take dd1 - making it hard. Dd1 had major meltdown after swimming the other day and then at hospital appt, then nanny took eyes from her for a second and she is finally found out on the footpath beside a major road and a sensible and lovely man brought her back. Unlike hospital volunteer who managed to stop dd1 taking a lift anywhere but when she could not get dd1 to hold her hand - she just left her It is clear the minute you speak to dd1 she has special needs FGS. poor nanny student was beside herself.

Saturday dh was gone all day on training exercise and dds only wanted daddy - long day. I managed to get out to a trivia night - MY TEAM WON - i found the questions very easy and answered most of them ( not bragging- just surprised my brain still functioned) I took dd3 - she would not go to sleep - come 11pm still wide awake and beyond over tired... got her home - to see dd2 in bed with dh cause she had an explosive puke that covered everything in her room. She was still up at 1am puking and I had dd3 still crying as she was exhausted.

so long rant - long few days - I am wrecked!!

dd3 - 12 weeks old.

Oh so sorry about your poor sister Muppet That's so sad.

Kiwi - when Monti is tired he does a moany little cry, as opposed to the frantic cry when he's hungry, so I stick a dummy in his gob and rock him. He also sleeps before each feed for about 30 minutes, so I can guess, depending on the timing.

DH woke Monti last night by mistake and it took about an hour to get hime off again

Hope everyone is well today. Its really sunny here

Muppet very sad for your sister
And your poor friend

You were very funny about little Kitty

Kiwi hope you feel better soon. It is awful to be unwell and in charge of children.

I have a grizzly baby too, he has a snotty nose now and think I'll have to postpone his jabs this afternoon.

Mossy great that you are going out friday. slightly

Muppet, very sorry 4 your sister. Hope she recovers in all ways soon as much as is possible.

Am tired today because stupidly stayed up to watch a film but am also feeling a bit depressed atm. I'm getting lots of weird feelings back about no being able to breastfeed, especially after today being in babymassage with lots of breastfeeding mothers. It makes me feel really emotional, oh god have started crying. Definitely tired. also just about the whole prem experience.

sorry will post again when more coherent andd ont have baby in one arm!

Muppet, so sorry about your sister micarriages are horrible things. I hope she feels better soo na dis able to have a successful preg next time.

That's awful about your friend, I bet she's really shocked. that dog shou;ld be out down .

V funny about my small bum, there must be some distortion on your tv.

Excellent news on your dinner date mossy, try not to spend the whole evening talking about the baby , dp and haven't managed a conversation that isn't about the kids for a very long time now. I wonder if we have anything else in common really .

Kiwi, sick day ???? Ronnie's very grisley today too. He hates being hot and i've been feeding him but that's made him even more cross so i guessd he was tired. i've just fed him lying down on my bed and he's finally dropped off. I have no idea for how long though. his sleep patterens during the day are still very erratic.
Last night he didn't wake once though, first feed was at 6 am !!!

I hope this doesn't seem like I'm blowing my own trumpet here or have a perverse urge to show my bum to all and sundry, but if anyone wants a copy of the prog I'm more than happy to send you one, just email me your address

bloody laughing boy's crying AGAIN. I thought we were turning a corner with him I can't stand it. Sometimes I have not nice feelings towards him

kitty it is so hard when they grizzle

muppet-sorry to hear about your sister

callie-i know its a different thing altogether but after having dd2 ill in hospital,i felt wonderful till she was about 3 months old then it all suddenly hit me and i got really down.is there anybody you can talk to about how you feel?

kitty-i would love to see your bum

Elsie slept from 8pm-6am last night.which would have been great if dd2 had also slept through!i had to bring her downstairs at one point,and that gordon ramsey thing was on,they were killing pigs and i was in a panic trying to find the remote to turn it over,but dd2 was laughing her head offshe's a proper northerner,that one.

i'm not doing too good atm,feel like everything is getting to me.im fed up with it.

Kitty - I don't understand how you cope really!! I barely cope with 3 and Monti is No 2 dream baby (Finn being No 1 - oops forgot about Hasan - OK Monti is No 3 )I'm surprised you didn't srop on the bed too¬!

Callie - you poor thing. You have coped so well and you gave him masses of breast milk both expressed and BF! Diva is probably right, you know. [big hugs]

Hi everyone else - right its DS1's brithday, so off to put candles in the Dr Who cake!!

thanks 4 all your kind messages re my sis... just spoke to her she's home from hosi and comfy now in bed. being very philosophical 'bout it... s'pose there's not much more to say really...

callie - keep your chin up girl - you did such a fab job with all that expressing when jordi was in hosi... b'feeding is a funny old business and incredibly emotive... each baby i've had it's been different... had to give up with ds1 after few weeks as kept getting mastitis and couldn't cope with that plus toddler and baby... but this time round i'm managing longer... so who knows? next baby you could do extended feeding! Either way i'm sending you lots of hugs and hope you can realise how much you've actually done for jordi.

lol at kitty wanting to show off her bum... if my bum was in such good nick I'd be posting dvds of it too . Do you think you'll be filmed for no.7 Kitty?

diva at elsie's sleeping!

muppet, no I don't think so .

callie, like everyone has said. You are doing such a fab job and Jordie is thriving, try not to be so hard on yourself.

Diva lol at dd2

fox hope ds1 has a great time. Is your house full of lunatic 8 year old boys? !!!

We had a lovely birthday tea, and party is next week (not here thankfully!!)

hugs callie, hope you are feeling better, those hormones creep up on us sometimes. do you have a lot of stress about the premie thing coming out now? i know with ds1 (when he was ill, not premie) it all hit me some time after the event, as if you have to get on with things and be strong while its happening and your body waits til everything is safe and settled then just goes 'aaargh'

for your sister muppet

at cake comment, kitty!! just what I always say, with her chunky thighs and love of non stop snacking. know those bad mummy feelings well - ds2 was the nightmare colicky baby from hell and it was soooo hard the first few months.

hiya elkidee, sorry your birth didn't go as you had planned, how are things going now with your baby? don't worry - you don't have to rule out stuff like hb just cos of age, I have a good friend who had her second at 42 at home, and my dd is a hbac which isn't exactly on a consultant's wish list either rofl
kiwi - i have no clue with dd, just still working on the old 'feed, check, nappy,check, wants a kick, check, must be tired' routine. she usually does so well for ages then totally cracks all of a sudden and squawks then suddenly with no warning goes straight to sleep. bizarre. when i think she might be tired, I stick her in the sling and hide her at the bottom of it then walk round fast til she gives up. can you get her off to sleep in a sling in the morning while you get kids ready for school? I quite often have to do that, then either walk her down still in sling or stick her in car seat when she usually wakes up but is fairly happy about it. pmsl about gp btw - very observant!!

fox-happy birthday to your ds.

is there some reason why other people get loads more replies to threads than me?whenever i post on feeling depressed i only ever get a couple of replies.is it because im a hopeless case,or because people think im moaning about nothing?i wish i hadnt bothered as its just proved what i think about myself is right.

muppet- i think Elsie's long sleep was due to ab's and calpol.there wont be a reapeat tonight,as she drank her last bottle then had a coughing fit and threw it all back up

callie-morocco put it much better than me.i was strong while dd2 was in hospital,then for the first few weeks i felt so lucky to have her,and glad she was alive,that i was almost on a high,but then it all came crashing down once i was sure she was going to be ok.

Diva - everyone ignores my threads too I always have to bump them 10 times a day and even then, I'm talking to myself!

I think you have to write something dead juicy to get many replies!

I agree BTW re. trauma. I think you cope in a crisis 'cos you have to then suddenly, weeks later when everything is fine, you can collapse into tears/depression - its a delayed reaction. You kind of wait until its safe to let all the emotion out.

hi there- yeah, i keep it together til dp comes home then sob at anything.
diva, i posted a new thread recently about birth trauma and got one nasty response-the other mn told her/ him off, but it still hurt and i wished i hadn't read their thoughts.... so sometimes its lucky not to get a response

am worried baby is getting bored just seeing me all the time and dp when he is home. haven't bothered to make new fiends as am moving soon, a little further north (an extra cardi)

where are you moving to ,sponge?

fox-the only thread i started that got loads of replies was that one about ds2 swearing in the playground.

i just had a big cry at dp,feel a bit better now.

diva, am moving to north glos, its a bit further north for us. hopefully there will be some nice people there, with babies, who will be friendly to a new person. now now, mustn't waste wishes

spongecake - if you're going to be in north glos, you'll not be too far away from me, and Amie, in Warwickshire, so perhaps we could oganise a south Midlands meetup.

Just popping in to say hello... or I thought I was... but my very own "laughing boy" is grizzling... sounds like it's about to turn into a full blown cry so I'd better go and come back later!!

Callie you went through such a traumatic time and did the very best you could possibly do for little Jordi. If I was you, instead of feeling guilty about the bf thing, I would feel incredibly proud that you bf him for as long as you did, under such intensely difficult circumstances. {{{hugs}}}

Kitty ikwym about the crying. I call Bertie "Gollum" when he's being like that. I love him dearly but when he is having one of those days (which is still more often than not) I can't say that I like him, iyswim. And that's me with no other dc's to look after. I think you're doing amazing just for getting through the day!!

Foxy happy birthday to your ds1, which cake did you get, a Dalek one?

Diva where is your thread? Whenever I start a thread I post the link on here so all of you lot can reply! I'm a bit of Elsie's sleeping! Still, Bertie manages four hours straight most nights now (between eight and midnight so I go to bed at eight!) so it's better than nothing!

Kiwibella - "are you stressed" what a silly question with a crying baby on your lap!!

Spongecake I hope your move goes all right, and when you are moved you can join lots of mums and babies groups and make friends that way, hopefully help you feel less isolated?

Hope the rest of you are doing okay...

I'm off to have a nice decaff coffee and watch the remainder of the news while Bertie isn't screaming (how long will it last I wonder??)

sponge can you do me a link to that thread you started?

mossy-here it is ,but i dont like to post links to my moaning threads on here too often as i feel like im always bloody moaning and i should go and do it elsewhere

sponge-yes,where is your thread?

Elsie slept till 3.15 am,which is pretty good considerinf she puked most of her last feed up.

shes crying now better go and feed her.