March 2007 - can't keep up

[eidsvold]

Hi all -miss a few days due to nightmare things happening at home and I can't keep up now - so started a new thread. Perhaps thought we could remind each other when babes were born - I have lost track at who is the oldest etc.

Been busy here. Prac nanny is okay but hard work - feel like I can't totally relax in my own home etc. She is not sure how to deal with /take dd1 - making it hard. Dd1 had major meltdown after swimming the other day and then at hospital appt, then nanny took eyes from her for a second and she is finally found out on the footpath beside a major road and a sensible and lovely man brought her back. Unlike hospital volunteer who managed to stop dd1 taking a lift anywhere but when she could not get dd1 to hold her hand - she just left her It is clear the minute you speak to dd1 she has special needs FGS. poor nanny student was beside herself.

Saturday dh was gone all day on training exercise and dds only wanted daddy - long day. I managed to get out to a trivia night - MY TEAM WON - i found the questions very easy and answered most of them ( not bragging- just surprised my brain still functioned) I took dd3 - she would not go to sleep - come 11pm still wide awake and beyond over tired... got her home - to see dd2 in bed with dh cause she had an explosive puke that covered everything in her room. She was still up at 1am puking and I had dd3 still crying as she was exhausted.

so long rant - long few days - I am wrecked!!

dd3 - 12 weeks old.

Hello girls, I'm back from west Wales. We had a nice time, if a bit wet sometimes, but the weather was better than I'd hoped.

Diva, so sorry about your nan. How old was she? I know you said she had been ill for a while.

Kitty, I like the look of that Ergo sling. I've got a sling, but it's front only I think, and only goes up to 22lb, which Jordi is only 5.5 lbs away from.... Oh by the way, I also almost choked when you said six children weren't enough!

Piffle, Jordi is dead strong in the legs too. He's been pushing himself up to standing since he was just past EDD I think and will 'walk' on your lap quite happily. In contrast, he's not strong at all in his upper body it seems, and is still not keen on being put on his front, and showing no sign of wanting to roll over either. So I reckon he might skip the crawling phase and go straight to walking.

Hello Mamabear

Tranny Rosy , nice wallpaper.

My baby massage teacher is away tomorrow so no class - gutted, as it's the highlight of my week. I might investigate a mother and baby cinema screening which is on at the same time. Has anyone ever been to one?

Morocco, cross posts. You poor thing, that must have been such a shock. I didn't know your DS had a kidney problem - it must be awful having something hanging over your heads like that, however small the risk of something bad happening. I hope you feel a bit better after posting. Something a bit similar happened to me a few months ago. I've been a couple of times to a support group for prem babies and when I was there I recognised one of the mums from the hospital, even though she was only in for a few days. However, after a while I realised she and her husband just had a girl of about three with them and not a baby. We got talking, and right at the end of the session she said I must have wondered where the baby was, then told me he had died of cot death three weeks after they took him home. It was absolutely awful, obviously because I didn't know what to say apart from I'm sorry, repeatedly, but also because prem babies have a higher risk of cot death and it made me paranoid about anything happening to Jordi. For quite a few days afterwards, I couldn't leave the room when he was sleeping for more than a few minutes.

Big hugs to you and your DS.

Morocco, my dd has a serious peanut allergy and recently a girl died locally with anaphalactic shock when her epipen misfired and she didn't have a spare. Dd is starting school in september so I know exactly how you feel. It is a huge worry and hopefully the school will address it properly and reassure you.

Callie how sad and frightening Some people have such hard, hard things to bear.

morocco and callie - it is hard when things like that happen. I know for us when we read of little ones dying of heart defects especially those that had down syndrome and heart defects - it makes me so grateful for dd1 and her recovery from her surgery.

lilly - thanks for that link but I am in Aus and no verbaudet here.

However - it has dawned sunny today but windy I knew it would now that I have ordered a clothes dryer I am still going to use it anyway - especially in winter. I tend to wash once a week and the last few loads of the day seem to be on the line for ages drying.

morocco/callie-its so sad to hear of things like that.i understand theres a tendency to think 'there but for the grace of god go i' ,and i remember when dd2 was ill,when the room filled with doctors and the crash trolley appeared,i was thinnking 'i cant stand outside this situation and feel bad but at the same time feel glad its not me,cos it is me'.

callie-my nan was 83.

my ds2 always preffered to be on his feet and showed no interest in rolling over till he was about 8 months old,but he did crawl,and walked at 17 months.

dd2 is still only taking a few steps at a time.she just cant be bothered,she's more concerned with learning new words every day.why walk when you can ask somebody to pass things to you?

ds2 has a hospital appt in the morning about his ears.i tried to explain to him why he was going but he reckons the lighbulbs in his ears have gone and he needs new ones from tesco.

Morning ladies!

Shanks I hope the mums and babies group gets better for you. Perhaps they are jealous of your cute little Deanna? But seriously it could be that they are shy and maybe you have to make the first move as it were. Good luck; I have found those sort of groups a real godsend.

Callie I have just had a call from the clinic, baby massage is cancelled for me, too, today.

Morocco what a scary thing to happen. I am sure your ds' school's secretary is just a one-off and the rest of the school staff are more understanding.

Eids good to hear your weather has perked up bit!

Diva pmsl at "why walk when you can ask somebody to pass things to you?"

Re: standing up, Bertie's a bit like that, he has very strong legs and if you sit him on your knees pushes upwards with his legs, but hates being on his tummy. I knowyou're meant to lie them on their tummys to play sometimes but if I do that he screams instantly! So not an early crawler here!

He's having a bit of a "gollum" day today though... only happy if feeding... will I get to wash today do you think?

Finn sleeps on his tummy and is quite happy there when awake. can push himself up quite a bit and spin around 360 deg - not always a good thing came back after going to the loo and found him nearly headfirst into the top n tail bowl

Morocco I totaly understand I also belong to a US based support group for DD's noonan syndrome and dd has it mildly, children sometimes die on there too due to heart problems amongst other things, some suddenyl as they get older - it's always devastating and I feel I can never truly breathe out and be 100% sure with dd. Very sad, my dp also does not like me using that support group.

Mossy hope Bertie cheers up in the next hour or so....

funny... our baby massage is cancelled until further notice...

Mossy and Piffle, perhaps your massage teachers are on the same course in the south of France as mine is... I was very when she told us where it was.

Oh I'm so sorry for all the worries people are having about their DCs [mega hugs]

I think I must have missed somebody's news - is one of our babies sitting up already???

Well Bertie's had an apalling(sp?) day today, after so many reasonable days I don't know why "laughing boy" is back!

So I had better go and deal with him!

Been a funny day today. DS not in good form, lots of crying, particularly after feeding. Maybe we kept him up too late last night, although after waking at 5.15 he did finally go back to sleep about 6.30-7ish when I brought him into bed with me and then slept till 10 . I haven't done that for a while, and it was so lovely to cuddle him then just watch his little face sleeping. Am hoping for an early bed for him tonight. I hear squwalks coming from on high where he was napping, so time to go and run a bath I think.

Two Jehovas witnesses called and I was sitting at the computor and Hasan had just come unplugged and one boob was hanging out...I think they got an eyefull when they looked in the window beside the door
Anyway, they didn't stop long

Callie and Mossy, Ronnie's also been a laugh a minute this afternoon. He's started sleeping most of the morning though .
I have got all the 6-12month clothes out today and some are a bit on the small side !

Tranny that's a funny image I have of you and the jw's.!!!!!!

I went to a Steiner based playgroup with dd3 this morning. Not sure irt's my cup of tea. Evrytime they did something they burst into song. Dd3 knocked down their play areas and rolled on various children, still that's freedom of expression for you

kitty-whats a steiner based playgroup?

i took ds2 to the hospital this morning(amusing bus journey there with him shouting 'crash' everytime the driver hit the breaks).he defo has glue ear and the options are either grommets or hearing aids.i said id rather go with the grommets as i cant imaging him keeping hearing aids in(plus im worried about teasing,i know its awful but i worry about things like that),but im worried about my little boy having an op.

think i might start a thread about it,im sure there must be a few mners who's dc has had grommets.

Elsie is getting back to being her normal self slowly.

sorry to hear there are unhappy babies around.maybe its growth spurt time for some of the younger members of the thread?i know Elsie suddenly got about 6 inches longer and all pudgey about 3 weeks ago.

morocco/callie - that must be so hard and morocco of course you should talk to us about it. I can imagine boards like that sometimes are a mixed blessing. When they thought I had obstetric cholestasis, I found a support group on the net (as you do) and was devastated to find a page dedicated to all the babies who'd been stillborn as a result of OC. Obviously it's not comparable as I didn't actually have it but I did spend a few days thinking that Elliot might die before he was even born which was just dreadful

Onto more cheery matters - I think we've found a nursery. I went to see 2 yesterday and was so underwhelmed by both of them I nearly didn't go to see this one today as I thought they'd be much of a muchness. But they were lovely today so have spent every nap time since doing sums and I think I can just about manage it. Phew! I'd rather stay home of course but that isn't an option - we wouldn't have a home if I did that But I feel much happier sending him somewhere I'm actually enthusiastic about

He is nowhere near rolling over - I'm amazed at your clever babies! Although I'm keen for him to do stuff, I'm not that much in a hurry for him to become mobile. There was a baby in the nursery today who shot across the room on her hands and knees at an alarming rate!

LOL at you and your JWs lily. I had an evangelist lady last night telling me she was doing prayers for the neighbourhood but she wanted a donation for a namecheck so I declined

Elliot had his 2nd lot of jabs today and was quite okay about them. He weighs nearly 16lbs - little porker!

Hello me again. Can you tell I haven't left the house today? . Don't know why I'm grinning, it's not that funny really. I was hoping there was going to be something good on telly tonight after a fretful day, but 30 plus channels and nothing...

Has anyone got tips for bathing a baby once they get bigger? I've still got Jordi in the baby bath, but he is going to outgrow it soon, and has got quite splash happy so it's getting more precarious every time (in terms of me getting wet that is). I think Fox mentioned ages ago something about an insert you can get to put in the main bath?

Rosy, that's a great way to get rid of JWs. I might try it next time!

good news about nursery sazzy, what made it different from the others, was it the staff or the general atmosphere or something else?
lo at 'donations' for prayers!! and a bit too
thanks all for sharing your stories and not minding me unloading on you all. am feeling calmer today altho still pretty devastated about this little boy, poor family. how sad for that family you met callie. ds1 is doing much better today but I might take him back to gp tomorrow cos cough still sounds rough. ds1 does things to the max so it is hard to tell how sick he really is. having children is not a recipe for a relaxed state of mind! they are always a worry, apparently even when they are 34 according to my mum . it's funny how people you meet on the net (eg you guys) can understand some things
more easily than family and rl friends sometimes. there seem to be a lot of us whose dc have health issues of one kind or another, hope all your dc are doing wonderfully well

sorry to hear ds will need an op, diva, is it under general or local?

dd is delightful as always, can get her head off the ground but that's about all when trying to get to sitting up. and she doesn't half make a racket! even when she's happy she really screeches in delight

Sazzy, one of my best friends had OC and had to have the baby delivered a bit early. She's got quite a high chance of getting it again if she has another one, which she wants to, so it's quite worrying for her. The baby was fine though.

callie - i used/use one of these with the dds - no baby bath here

here - works just fine

SIL and nieces are coming to visit today - they are down. THey live about 3 hours drive from us. Nieces are the same age as dd1 and dd2 and SIL is due again in Sept. Nanny has planned some craft to do with them.

Really cold and crisp this morning.

toilet charting slowly going but no real pattern emerging for dd1!! dd2 is slowly getting the idea.

sazzy when we looked for nurseries for dd1 - i walked into two and knew instantly one was not for her and the other was okay BUT. THe third one - I just knew it was the place for her and they were fabulous - I don't know who cried more when we left to come to Australia - the woman at the nursery or me!! We had them all come out to say goodbye and cuddle dd1 - all of them knew who she was and adored her.

I thought about giving her a day or two in daycare when we got to Aus and I tried one that made a big thing about catering to children's individual needs - and it was horrible - my stomach just dropped when I walked in there and i knew that there was no way dd1 was going there.

oops meant to finish with - trust your gut instinct - you will know.

Just popping by to say a quick hello

Baby has yelled most of the day

Callie - I have the bath support that Eids has linked, it is good. I've been using it instead of the baby bath this time around

Diva - sorry to hear about the glue ear

Really should go to bed but not feeling v tired for once. Eids and TheBlonde, thanks for that link.

Eids, have fun with your SIL and nieces. You go in for girls in your family, don't you???

saying that, I've just realised what time it actually is - oh dear lord, will turn into a pumpkin in a few minutes! Goodnight.

yes callie we do girls - have an older nephew about 17 but as db is divorced see very little of him although my mum sees him at least for his birthday and christmas.

waiting to see if sil's babe due in sept is also a girl.

they have all had a fab day - my two are worn out and snuggled in their beds although I will pull them out for early dinner and a bath soon. Cold is coming in - very cool already at 4.30pm.

best news today - my dryer arrives tomorrow - woo hoo!!!!