March 2018 newborns

[blinkineckmum]

Not sure if a thread exists already. If so, point me in the right direction.
Here's a place to celebrate our bundles of joy and find support for everything from stitches to breastfeeding, partners and sleep and anything else we may come across in the early days to challenge us!

@Smurf123 I know of people who have used similar movement type sensors and very often midwives have advised (unless needed for breathing issues etc) not to use them as they cause more stress and sleepless nights when baby's move around or off them, triggering them etc.

@MrsL2016 I will try dentinox thank you. We've got the mam bottles and feel they've helped and we got comfort milk today from advice of HV as I got no sleep last night and looked like death. Bought gripe water today as he's 4 weeks old now (it says from one month) but didn't fancy administering with a teaspoon so haven't actually used it yet!

We put the dentinox in the bottle and think you can do the same with the gripe water. Much easier than trying to get it into their mouths.

Thanks @MrsL2016 I will look at the dentinox also.
I've heard good things about gripe water also but haven't used it.
@GWeatherwax how's the comfort milk working for you tonight? Are you able to get some more sleep?

Thanks @MrsL2016 I will look at the dentinox also.
I've heard good things about gripe water also but haven't used it.
@GWeatherwax how's the comfort milk working for you tonight? Are you able to get some more sleep?

@Smurf123 well he's definately sleepier on it! Will take at least a week to know for sure. My mum came round last night to give me some sleep as dad was very worried when he seen how hellish I looked yesterday, feel much better. She kindly dealt with the sore crying and projectile vomiting. He settled around half 10 so not bad! Got a tummy tub to try as well tonight.

Thank you @MrsL2016, I didn't know you could do that.

How's today going for everyone?
Dd is 6 weeks tomorrow and things are hard at the minute - nap fighting, over tiredness and reflux is about the sum of it. I'm starting to hit the tiredness wall too at this stage.

Yes i do always wake to wind her if she's fallen asleep feeding. Otherwise she'll just not settle properly so it's not really worth it.

She's still managing to do a good stretch from about 11pm at night- anything between 3 and even 5.5 hours, so I'm clinging to that! But seems to be starting the day around 6am - too early

Don't say that! I'm clinging to the idea that 6 weeks is a turning point for longer sleeps and smiles!
We are 5 weeks today and feeling good. We've been out and about at preschool and toddler groups. My ds got into our first choice of school for September. And the sun is out! My bigger two are playing in the garden way past their bedtime and it's such a joy to watch! And we are getting half smiles, usually for dad if he covers her in kisses. So cute!
However, I am unable to put the baby down at all without her crying!

Welcome and congrats to Kelly. And yes to winding in their sleep.

Hi everyone, I hope you and your babies are doing well. My little girl is now 12 days old, she’s a gorgeous little thing! Hard work though!

I think I’m finally recovering from the birth, lady parts not hurting so much, piles going (sorry if tmi) and boobs settling. Only thing is getting me down is my tummy. I think my tummy may be going down a bit but It’s still quite big and as I have separated tummy muscles (6cm separation) it looks pretty bad and is hanging down like a empty bag!! Anyone else have this issue? Im still wearing maternity leggings and can’t imagine fitting in any normal clothes for a while! How long did it all take to go back for everyone else?

Baby wise I think I’ve been lucky so far and she’s in that really newborn phase of eating and going straight off to sleep. Just today she’s starting to be awake a bit longer and is almost cluster feeding in the evening. it’s also a bit harder to get her to nap and in a cot in the evening is even harder. My DH is away abroad with work so I’m having to eat and cook one handed whilst I cuddle baby a lot! My dd1 is away with granny and I’m a bit nervous about Friday when she comes back as not sure how I look after a 3yr old and cuddly baby at the same time without my Dh here! Think my poor dd1 will have lots of beige freezer food and will be watching tv a fair bit! Dreading the pre school run and doing bedtime on my own! Any tips appreciated!

How are you all doing?

Yes. Clothes are an issue! My other 2 are winter babies so I could hide under the layers. No hiding now! I am eating so much and feel huge and wobbly. Still in maternity clothes amd will be for a while. Must try to sort that out but not the priority right now!

VickyLou, you'll be fine on your own. I find it easier sometimes. Your own rules and rhythms. Don't be afraid to use tv! This morning I had baby in a sling and Hey Duggee on repeat. I gave the bigger 2 a packet of fig rolls and got all the housework done! Spent the rest of the day in the garden (still here) so it's all good!

Hats off to you ladies with multiple children , I honestly don't know how you do it!

I've been managing to get out for walks but still really struggling with sleep, insomnia is not helping. We're on day 4 of comfort formula and day 3 of using a dummy (I wasn't keen but he was exhausted and couldn't suck his fingers properly) and at least the wee lad is getting some sleep and rest so there's been an improvement there!

I have the apron thingy too @Vickylou78. Still in maternity clothes for a while (I gained quite a bit!). Not gonna pressure myself, as long as I'm back into my work clothes in January - although I miss eating 3 meals a day plus snacks, these days I'm lucky if I get one meal.

I'm with you on the no sleep! Two nights in a row of no sleep here. Trying to motivate myself to get up for the preschool run right now!

Also with you on the no sleep.. Ds fed pretty much constantly from 7 to 10 last night and then every 2 hours after that.. Did manage to get him to settle with his dummy at 3 but honestly I just couldn't get up he had been up at 1 and fed into 220.
On the plus side he is now almost fitting his 0-3 months clothes at 6 and a half weeks.. We have been in preemie and tiny baby until about now - cue him looking just a little silly yesterday when he dirtied through nappy and all his clothes and realised the clothes on the baby bag were too small

How's everyone doing? Reflux seems to be getting worse here, she was weighed yesterday and her gain has been slow . Last 2 nights have been no sleep and lots of sicking up

Reflux sounds awful @halfstar. Have you been to the GP. I have heard they can prescribe baby gaviscon which is supposed to help. Hoping not to jinx it but th2 dentinox seems to be helping with DS's colic/trapped wind finally. But now he is struggling to stay asleep longer that 30 mins or so before he wakes himself up with his startling. I have tried swaddling again (he didnt like it a few weeks ago) and it looks promising.

Ah @blinkineckmum that’s good to hear how well you are coping with the new baby and your other children. I’m inspired to cope as well! My dd1 is now home and in bed and tomorrow will be first day alone for me with the two of them! I’m just going to try be chilled out and not sweat if the tv is on and if lunch is late and if we don’t get dressed till midday! And I may try out my sling too to see if I can do some housework.

I’m really sorry but I’m sort of glad to hear from @gweatherwax and @blinkineckmum that you’ve still also got your ‘belly aprons’ and still in maternity clothes. I was feeling I was the only one! My friends who’ve had children were all quite tall and thin and after two weeks they literally looked exactly same as before they were pregnant and so I’m thinking I’m really unlucky! It’s getting me down so I feel a bit of solidarity which is good. I’m going to have to invest in some baggy shirts and some massive control knickers to hide it I think! And the maternity jeans may have to stay for a while!

Sorry to hear about the reflux @halfstar that must be hard. Hopefully it will get better? If not can gp advise on maybe giving a antireflux medicine?

Lots of you sleep deprived! We are all in it together! My nights vary... last night was typical get her settled at midnight ish then a sleep of 1hr 20 mins, feed, sleep of 2.5hrs, feed and then stint of 1.5hrs then we ran out of night time! Also when I’m feeding it takes between an hour and 2hrs as am ff so have to keep her upright for a while and sometimes she’s wide awake and doesnt want to go back to sleep! All good fun!!

@Vickylou78 I know the feeling, I am bf but ds struggles with wind so trying to get the wind up usually wakes him up and then he doesn't always want to go back to sleep, especially when we get to about 4am.
I have managed to just about squeeze into my regular size jeggings..... (While looking longingly at my comfy maternity jeans) but it was very much a needs must. It was either them or go out in pajama bottoms which was tempting. My ds has a spectacular skill of getting every single pair of trousers I have at nappy changes! I have 2 pairs of maternity jeans currently taking forever to dry!

@Vickylou78 what sling do you have?

@smurf123 I have a Caboo Close cotton wrap sling.

Well done getting into your jeggings! I do have a pair two sizes up (from after last time I gave birth with dd1) I’m normally a size 12 and they are a 16 but my overhang is so much this time I honestly don’t know whether I could tuck it down into the jeans! or whether it would just hang over the top!!! I could cry... I’m only two weeks in I suppose but I don’t think it will just disappear as doubt physically possible! I put on a lot of weight too, definitely ate for two! But it’s the loose skin which I’m worried about. I may be brave and post a picture......

I really need some advice, ds hasn't stopped crying all afternoon. He seems to be having stomach pains and he has only had one small dirty nappy - it looked as normal but he normally has a few a day. The only thing that gives him any relief and a pause in the crying is breastfeeding but even then there are ties he is pulling off and crying looking sore. He is trying to pass wind etc and is getting some out. When he does it gives a little bit of relief but for max of half an hour. He has hardly slept all day as he keeps waking up again.
He is already on infancol and we have tried giving him some cooled boiled water but he only took about 30 mls over the course of the past 4 hours. (He is breastfeeding lots)
I'm in tears and husband is stressed out because just nothing seems to be helping today.
This sort of happened yesterday only just in the evening until about 9pm when ds finally did a real dirty nappy and then he was happy, kicked around on his mat on the floor, fed, went to bed and slept from 10-1. But it is been far longer today and I just don't know what to do to make it better.

Hi @smurf123 it does sound like perhaps he does have trapped wind and maybe constipation but I would think if he’s breast feeding lots you are probably doing all you can do liquids wise. I would say keep on breast feeding as much as you can. Something to try is to lie him flat and sort of push his legs up towards his tummy and move about a bit gently. Also you could try wipe his bum hole gently a little bit to see if that stimulates him to poo. Does he have a temperature? Check that. If he still doesn’t settle maybe call the out of hours docs. It’s probably fine and he just needs to poo. Yesterday my dd didn’t poo all day and I was worried and then she did an absolute poonami!

smurf my dd only goes once a day, but does huuuge poos once a day. It can be normal to start going less around now. As for the crying and fussing, I can only say join the club dd has been like this for about 2 weeks now and it's SHIT. The only advice I have to offer is that if it's some sort of nebulous colic - and it possibly is since it's the peak time for it - it doesn't last. Might be in for a few shit weeks but the only thing to do is ride it out.

Main thing I'm trying to say is it's very unlikely for a breastfed baby to be constipated so don't worry about that aspect too much. I'm currently pacing the kitchen with dd in a wrap sling, eating takeaway pizza. If your ds is refusing the boob (mine is fussing at it tonight) would you try putting him in a sling and going for a walk? Or play some white noise. Hang in there.