March 2018 newborns

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Not sure if a thread exists already. If so, point me in the right direction.
Here's a place to celebrate our bundles of joy and find support for everything from stitches to breastfeeding, partners and sleep and anything else we may come across in the early days to challenge us!

@Smurf123 so I haven’t actually read up much about it myself but I can let you know the ‘pieces of the puzzle’ the support lady mentioned today.

• poor latch. She could visibly see this when she observed me breast feeding. I already knew this as I was struggling to get baby to open her mouth wide enough and when the cries got louder I would just give in trying 🙁. We continued to struggle together to get her to open wide enough.

• friction blisters on lips. Very tiny bubbles of skin on her mouth. The lady said that this probably isn’t causing her any pain but is a good indicator that something is wrong.

• hiccups. My little girl had these throughout pregnancy and continues to have them ALL the time now. Seems to suggest that the structure of the mouth isn’t all coming together properly - in our case she seems to have tongue tie and a high palate. She stuck her (washed!!!) finger in babies mouth and when she was sucking I could see that her tongue seemed ‘flappy?!’ as she sucked on it.

• tightness of a piece of skin under the tongue. Again, the lady was routing around her mouth with her finger and described a tight tough bit underneath the tongue.

• Sore boobs. Omg my boobs are on fire. She asked me to rate this pain out of ten at various stages. I was so close yesterday to sacking it altogether as I could not see how this could improve. I have very cracked nipples which no amount of Lansinoh and fresh air are healing. Mostly coz 1.5 hours later the whole terrible cycle starts again!

Had some good advice on getting her to latch properly. Managed it while she was here. Typically, I’m struggling again now. She has some YouTube videos which I haven’t watched yet so might need to refresh my memory!

@RayM thanks...
My ds is feeding lots and once he gets on he feeds well but he can struggle to get on initially sometimes.
He does get the kinda blisters on his lips - I was told that it was just from him sucking . He also gets the hiccups almost constantly especially after a feed. He gets them so much I have asked health visitor about it but she just said all babies get hiccups.
Must have a look and read up about it

Well i made the mistake of attempting to get dd to nap at home this morning so i could try to get some sleep too...12.45 and she has yet to actually sleep for longer than 10 mins.

Off out for a pram walk so and coffee for me and matchsticks for my eyes.

Just popping in after walking for literally miles to get DS to nap... Here at 4 weeks, he became much more aware and suddenly struggles to nap. Colic is playing a role as well. So I am knackered.... This too will pass!

Oh gosh @drizz and @halfstar this is what I am not looking forward to. With my 1st dd as a newborn she napped anywhere and then bam 3 weeks in and she’d only nap on me or in pram. I’m suspecting this baby will be same! Sounds like yours are too! Makes really hard to get any rest or anything done doesn’t it!

My dd is almost 3 weeks old now and doesn't like to sleep during the day unless its on me or in the pram. She is very alert and loves to nose around. But she doesn't like to be put down. Its not to bad if my older kids are here as my 14 year old would hold her all day if he could but when they are at the dads its hard. Doesn't help that I have caught a bug and have been having to put her down half way through feeds to run the toilet. I am drained feel like I could fall asleep stood up. Thankfully she sleeps ok during the night but I am struggling to sleep of a night as every little sound I hear I think is my ex dreading tomorrow when the non molestation order runs out. I feel for all the new mums who are also struggling with the little sleep and little ones who want to be held all the time. Hopefully it can only get better from here on and we will hopefully all get a good nights sleep soon. Until then I to need match sticks for my eyes lol. But her little smile she gives me makes it all worth while in the end.

Hi all, congratulations on our babies.

Looking for help on mornings and getting up and into routine! As I am really struggling and it’s making me feel down now.

Baby 4 weeks now and been lucky so far in that last 2 weeks my 13 year old been off school and previous to that partner off work so was taking her School in mornings.
My problem is tiredness and due to feeds in the night and morning I am not getting self and baby up and sorted till about 9.
As of Monday daughter will be back at school and need lift to school, although other half can do, I want to be back to normal and up and dressed for day along with daughter for about 7, everyday this week I have failed.
anyone else in similar aituation and how are doing it??? I know I need to just set alarm ans get up but it feels so hard when you had so little sleep!
It’s making me hate mornings and I feel so
Lazy and disappointed in myself.
Thanks in advance for any ideas x

Kelly you are better than me for even considering being up at 7am!
My ds is 5 and a half weeks... It's only in thw past week that we have begun to have some longer sleep periods. Up to now it hasn't been unusual for us to be up at 6 for a feed and then back to bed until 9ish. Last night he fed at 1130, 330 and 630 - we were then up for the day from 630 but that was prob the best night we have had so far.

We had follow up appointment at baby clinic today.. So ds now weighs 8lbs which seems to be pretty good from his 5lb2 birth weight. He had to have more blood tests for his calcium levels and now they sent off to test for genetic disorder as he said there is a very rare link between high calcium and heart mumur, they seemed to be saying they only did it today as they were doing bloods anyway and at least they have it as endocrinologist would prob ask for it to be done later anyway.
Since then the doctor from hospital has rang though to say good calcium blood test from today has come back still slightly high but that it had come down a bit from where it was the last time so now it is only 0.08 above the normal range.. Fingers crossed that is all positive signs

Hope everyone is keeping well

smurf that is great weight gain and great news about the levels.

kelly if your partner can do the school run for the 13 year old let him! I am just finished a week of school run and breathing a sigh of relief that it's friday. My partner drops off my middle child at nursery early on his way to work and then i bring the oldest to school. We've managed to walk to school this week which is great because i need the car for nursery pick up and the baby has decided she hates it and screams her head off..so stressful.

I agree waking up at 7 after a night of feeds is really hard. It's definitely not about being lazy, don't think like that!

But to answer your question kelly i get up with the alarm, hopefully while the baby is still asleep...throw on some clothes, race around making packed lunch and try to bundle oldest into clothes/hurry her breakfast up etc...get the baby up and feed and change her...get her ready for the pram...usually then if oldest is ready get her to push the pram around with grizzling baby while i race around doing last bits...baby falls asleep on the walk then which is great. It's manic though. I don't do a shower or anything, i have a nice long hot shower every evening when my partner is here and i can have a bit of headspace.

The other day i successfully did 2 drop offs with 3 kids in 2 different locations and felt so proud of myself that i pulled it off. It's the little things! Your 13 yr old will surely be able to help with the baby if you need a spare pair of hands.

I also agree if u can do 7 u are amazing I just about get my 14 and 5 year old up my 14 year old is a big help he helps to sort my 5 year old whilst I rush round making sure all school bags are packed right and getting the baby fed and into the pram. Don't know what I would do without the 14 year old making sure the 5 year old eats his breakfast and stuff. Do not feel guilty its hard going doing night feeds and then getting the other kids ready for school and out the door on time. Thank god the baby is in a cosy toes so I don't have to dress her before running out the door and can do all that when I get back in. She is 3 weeks old tomorrow and I feel like everytime I drop off to sleep she wakes up for a feed. Its hard work a never feel guilty or bad it will all start to fall into place soon and get easier.

Thanks so much everyone for replying and making me feel more human.
I think I need to give my 13 year old some more responsibility and trust with looking after baby for short periods whilst I get self ready and things.
I am Going to start getting up at the morning feed and doing it in the living room so I am then fully awake and out of bed.
All else fails the other half can drop her off whilst I get into a routine the next week or
So.
Thanks again everyone. Really appreciate x
Kelly

Oh gosh getting up and ready will definitely be the hardest bit for me too. I’m only 9 days in and haven’t had to do pre-school run yet but next Monday as my Dh is away abroad with work so I will have to do it! Wondering exactly how I’ll manage as like you Kelly I am managing to get up and going by about 9ish depending on morning/early hours feed time. Will be horrid setting an alarm!

How's the pain TheMrs04? How is everyone in their sleeplessness and sore boobs??
We're doing fine. 4.5 weeks and feeding is getting better. Still damaged on one nipple but better than it was.
I am in the newborn bubble. Now I am free of viruses and infections, piles gone, stitches healed... I feel so much better. My two other kids are tiring but I love being home with them all.
My parents are here this wkd, and they seem a bit shocked at the amount of work 3 aged 4 and under create. My mum keeps offering 'helpful' advice... I can't take much more!

Morning! I'm getting there I think! Although the piles are killing me 😩
Little man is 3 weeks old today! Although it feels like a life time ago! Definitely worth the pain during and after!
My mum had her surgery last week just waiting on biopsy results.. ds1 has hit the terrible twos this week! Doesn't help that DH is back to work and working a 10 day straight. Roll on next Thursday!
How is everyone doing?

My little one was 3 weeks old yesterday and it does feel like it was forever ago. She is sleeping less in the day and wants to play of sor sorts so been playing boo with her lol which she seems to like as you can see from her smile in the pic. Lol. I have got myself into a routine now so things are getting easier. Can't believe how quick the last 3 weeks have gone and how much she has grown wish they could stay little for I have also been getting all the advice on what to do it cam drive u crazy I am sure ppl mean well but I do feel like shouting at them to shut up lol. Sorry to hear you piles are killing you I have been lucky enough not to suffer any problems after the birth except for a bug I picked up last week. Hope everyone is doing well and enjoying every moment with the gorgeous new additions.

DH is either having a relapse or has the flu - if it's the latter we're really worried about the baby catching it, can anyone help? Health visitor is coming tomorrow.

I hope I don't catch it I'm already at breaking point, baby seems to be in constant discomfort/ pain and will barely settle no idea if reflux or wind.

A bit of a latecomer to this thread but am just following in my son's footsteps...

I was due on March 18th but delivered at 42+ 1 on Easter Monday following a failed induction and emergency C-Section. It was a pretty horrific weekend but I ended up with a beautiful son who is just perfect

It looks like tonight is going to be a cluster feeding type of night so I thought I'd come and find this thread as I was part of the old March one.

Nice to see some familiar names on here from the old thread

Now... any tips on settling a cluster feeding two week old?!

Hi @Clevs I remember the cluster feeding nights in that first week or two. Is your DP/H able to take him to settle in between feeds so you can get some rest? I found it was hard to settle my DS on me sometimes because he just associated me with feeding and rooted all the time. The Good news is he is making sure your supply is good and healthy for him and it doesnt last forever.

Does anyone have the Tommy tippee movement and sensor alarm monitor? We have been using it since birth (6weeks) with no issues but it has gone off twice tonight. Both times over been in bed right beside it and when i have reached over ds has seemed OK. He did seem to be in a fairly deep sleep but could feel good chat moving up and down and he gave a big sigh when I touched him. First time was at 9pm and then again at 4am - I think I woke him up checking he was ok so now he is feeding. It has me panicked now though and I'm not sure I'm going to get much sleep as I'm constantly checking to see if ds is alright..

@MrsL2016 I'm letting hubby sleep as he's back at work now so I'd rather he had the rest. I even went downstairs so I wouldn't disturb him. Cluster feeding is difficult but I powered through and my son slept for nearly 6 hours when he did eventually wear himself out and go to sleep.

Clevs 6 hours sleep is impressive! Although the cluster feeding is difficult, my ds has been cluster feeding from around 7 this morning

I love a good cluster feed. Forces you to sit down and stop housework or anything else. And you generally get a good long nap after it!

Does anyone have any tips for helping little one get rid of wind?
And if they fall asleep breastfeeding do you still wake then to burp them?
We are using infancol already. There are times can actually feel the wind rumbling in his sides/tummy

We have had a big problem with trapped wind. We started with infacol but now use dentinox, which seems to be working better. We also use anticolic bottles when we combifeed. The MAM ones are good and self sterilizing. You can also use gripe water from 4 weeks which a lot of people swear by, but we aren't there yet.