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LunarSea · 23/04/2007 07:25

Morning all - new thread as the old one's about to hit the 1000 posts limit.

Not so great this morning - feel like an egg-bound chicken IYSWIM. Grrr - especially as I managed to avoid it all the way through pregnancy. And not sure if there's anything I can take for it while I'm feeding?

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Mossie · 05/05/2007 07:16

It's all going a bit wrong here. I don't know what else to post and I'm sorry to moan, I feel like I've done nothing but moan the past few weeks - dh taken Bertie out for a drive to get him to stop crying, nothing else seems to work and I am having big probs with bfing him which no one believes (finally convinced mil yesterday there was something wrong, she reluctantly agreed I might be right, after about two weeks of disagreeing with me) especially dh - he thinks I have pnd and am obsessing about things...

Am going to see LLL person on Tuesday, until then it's a case of getting through it...

If I get chance am going to post in Feeding topic for answers so any of you experts do have a look... might not get chance though... see how I go!!

foxcub · 05/05/2007 09:11

Mossy - I've sent you Sarah's number so you can have a chat with her. Sorry about the delay - I wanted to check with her first before I gave the number out. But please give her a call.

I'm around all over the weekend if you just fancy a chat - can't pretend to be a font of all knowledge but I've BF three LOs and its sometimes helpful just to have a talk. I'll text you my landline number.

Have you got that book "Breastfeeding" by Sheila Kitzinger? I've used it with all three of mine, its like my BF bible. Might be worth a look if you can find it in a bookshop over the weekend. Its got loads of practical tips on positioning and is also inspiring.

[big hugs] to you and bertie - its a nightmare when BF isn't going right.

Hi to everyone else - just popping my nose in and will catch up a bit later.

kittyhas6 · 05/05/2007 09:12

Mossie, I've emailed you

kittyhas6 · 05/05/2007 09:17

Super pics Callie, wow hasn't he grown ??

foxcub · 05/05/2007 09:28

Callie love the pics - glad you both kept your asense of humour despite all the traumas of the fist few weeks for you.

The last caption ("Reach out") had me PMSL!! LOL

Rosy - men in uniform eh? You saucy mare

foxcub · 05/05/2007 11:04

Hi - have added some more pics to my profile (at least I think I have )

Chocolatepenny · 05/05/2007 11:06

HI all how are the nights going? must admit we are having problems Ted has suddenly decided to go back to feeding every 2 hours and seems to be in constant pain during feeds, could it be reflux? not sure am making a doctors appointment on tuesday, since it is coupled with choking and stopping breathing.
Does anybody have experience of this condition? I am going mad through sleep deprivation.

foxcub · 05/05/2007 11:11

Choccy - we haven't had reflux here but MrsRecycle on my west London meet up thread has - you could ask her.

Maybe do a search as well or start a thread?

Piffle · 05/05/2007 11:12

mossie have emailed you my numbers too petal

divastrop · 05/05/2007 12:10

sponge-dream dictionary

there used to be a good forum on the site as well but its not working atm.

mossy-sorry things are crap.i cant offer any advice on bf,but i do think that the problems i had bf ds1,and the fact that my xp expected me to be able to do it no problem and magically be able to stop ds1 crying all the time and keep the flat tidy as well put enormous pressure on me and may have contributed to me getting PND.
so do please keep an eye on how youre feeling.and remember that you are the expert on your baby,a mother's instinct is stronger than anything.

chocpenny-i was told dd2 had reflux when she kept choking and bringing up her feeds,but she actually had a chest infection.

rosy/sponge-i found being alot less stressful than being in a relationship.dont get me wrong,dp is great and does loads,but its easier when you have to just get on with it and dont have any chance of getting a break iyswim.

rosy-what was the argument about?

hello everybody else

divastrop · 05/05/2007 12:18

that was meant to say
rosy/sponge-i found being a single parent alot less etc.

dunno what planet im on today

eidsvold · 05/05/2007 12:21

can't offer much advice mossie except to say it took a good six weeks to crack breastfeeding with dd2 ( first breastfed) and I used to supplement her with formula as she was a big hungry baby. It all seemed to come together around the six week mark or so. I can remember being frustrated and teary - hormones not helping either BUT my sister in law was a brilliant support ( albeit at the end of the phone!)as was dh.

spongecake · 05/05/2007 18:08

mossie, feel for you re bf- my lo is a bit like that, but my mum and sister said its wind and to get gripe water. they said some babies just can't wind with patting etc. must admit my baby cries after/ during bf sometimes and its wind, and its v hard to get it up or down think you are doing really well though, as it sounds exhausting for you.

diva, thanks..

mum and sister just been, horrified when i said ooh he's hungry and lifted my top. they pulled faces of disgust and said they would go out for coffee. I made them stay then felt uncomfortable all afternoon, and didn;t want to bf. they went for an hour next time he fed. neither of them looked at me and directed all conversation to the wall and the floor.
they both bf btw! my family are mental note how i usually rant after a visit from them. dp says i should pretend to be out when they come. my mum held baby and when he screamed and i said let me have him back, said that if she couldn't get him to stop, i wouldn;t be able to

morocco · 05/05/2007 18:25

hi everyone
i always read the thread but then never have time to post lol so thought I'd try harder this time
how are things going mossie? i bet lll will be really good. I had to phone nct this time round after horrendous cracked nips/mastitis - all bad positioning which they helped me sort out. it's great that they are there to help/advise/support. sometimes it's good just to hear someone say you're doing a good job
hope the move goes well spongecake and good luck with the search laidback

how are the cloth nappies going everyone? what are your faves? I can't decide what to get for size 2, am trying lots in size 1 and like them all - maybe I'll have to do a mix and match lot again

my other news is I've started donating breastmilk using this weird electric pump. I'm quite pleased cos I did it for the first time today and got 100ml - does that seem a reasonable amount to anyone who uses a pump? I wouldn't have a clue tbh but I used a hand one once and only got a few drops so i was quite pleased

ah well, em is awake, better go

spongecake · 05/05/2007 18:46

mossie, just remembered sobbing to dp that lo didn't like my milk about 3 weeks ago- the book )penelope leach, 0-5) said it was a sign of colic if they behaved as if they didnt like yr milk. not sue re right sge 4 gripe water btw.
must go as lo screaming

divastrop · 05/05/2007 20:25

sponge-that your mum and sis didnt want you to bf in front of them!i mean,your mum,surely she changed your nappies and bathed you when you were a baby...why would she be embarrassed about seeing you feed her grandchild?!

families

morocco-hi.i dont know anything about breast pumps or cloth nappies...im afraid i'm a formula+disposables type of mother

divastrop · 05/05/2007 20:27

gripe water can be used from 1 month,BTW.its really good but its not 5% alcohol like it was when i was a baby.if it was then i think i'd be drinking it

morocco · 05/05/2007 20:28

hiya diva
yes, I also weave lentils in my free time! sounded a right hippy in that last post, I know! dh thinks I'm barking mad. but i do so love my cloth nappies.

eidsvold · 05/05/2007 21:09

morocco - using cloth here - just muslin squares and small fitted nappies. Have sewn a lot of larger fitted nappies for when dd3 is bigger and also have terry squares to use then.

morocco · 05/05/2007 21:15

aha! eidsvold you are more earth mothery than me then, I can't be let near a sewing machine for fear of sewing my own fingers together. I guess muslin really is absorbant enough then for small babies? I never believed it so never tried. we're using ella's house hemp which give a nice trim bum as well, useful as emily is a real thunder thighs so a totsbots size nappy would make her bum look eeeenormous

eidsvold · 05/05/2007 21:22

muslin is fine for wee babies - i also use reusable fleece liners and woollen wraps - only ones you can get in little little size here in Aus. Have plastic pants for the other sizes and despite the heat etc here - never had a problem using the plastic pants.

spongecake · 05/05/2007 22:07

eisdwold am impressed! keep meaning to be greener with nappies, really will look at it this week, easp as its really warm here.

diva, my family are strange, not sure what the prob was with my mum, although she never talked/ talked about anything (periods, boys, life, herself) and doesn't do affection- never did! I thought i was bought at a supermarket for years afraid i won;t let myself be like that, so made myself how I want to be. now i don't fit in. hey ho....

am really worried about getting married this year as they are all coming to the wedding. sort of amish meets rosanne. well my sister isn't, it clashes with her regular holiday that isn;t booked yet- actually i think its not posh enough as she said she had looked up the hotel on the internet and didn;t want to book just yet love my dp who says fuck'em (sorry)

foxcub · 05/05/2007 22:42

Sponge - PMSL at Amish meets Rosanne !!!

Morocco - well done for dobating B milk - that's such a great thing to do, BTW 100 mls is loads

foxcub · 05/05/2007 22:44

sponge - my mum used to squirm when I BF too (she ff all of us) but I lectured her for ages on how important it is for baby's health etc and she's now really supportive and loves to see me BF the LO. People can be really odd sometimes

CallieNewMum · 05/05/2007 22:59

Thanks for nice comments about pics - DP put another one up today of Jordi smiling - first recorded-on-camera smile. Diva, it reminded me of the pic of Elsie you had up, which I loved. He had the screaming abdabs this eve, tried putting teething gel on his teeth and after a few minutes he fell asleep. Was it that he was knackered, or was it the anaesthetic in the gel??

Ooh, you cloth nappy people are making me feel guilty. Twice in the past few days I've had poo all up Jordi's back cos the nappy has slipped down a bit and cleaning poo off bodysuit has had me thinking i wouldn't like to be doing cloth nappies, despite my wish to be greener . however, I think if I had more room in the house - ie, somewhere I could soak them - I might try it, but we're short of available space as it is. Those who are using disposables, which ones do you use, and how often do you change them? I do it way less than is recommended by Mothercare anyway .

Mossy - bfing is bloody hard. You are knackered anyway from having a baby, no sleep, emotions and hormones all over the place, incredible responsibility, and then you're trying to feed a baby by a method you can't see, so to speak, which possibly hurts every time you try to do it (it certainly did me!). You can tell your DH obsessing about feeding your child is what happens to new mums, whichever way you are doing it - look at all the posts I did about breast and bottle earlier! The thing is, for men feeding and nearly everything to do with looking after a baby doesn't seem to have the same emotional impact as it does on women IME. Sometimes that's a good thing, most times it's a bad thing when you are the one on the receiving end of comments like "what's wrong with him/her", as if you have psychic insight into a small creature who cannot communicate in any other way apart from crying usually. I really hope LLL helps you. Big hugs.

Morocco - 100ml is brilliant for expressing. Well done you! I would have killed to have got that amount when I was expressing for LO. I never usually got more than 40. I think the most ever was 60 when I had gone for about six hours without doing it. Just out of curiousity, which hospital are you donating the milk to? When Jordi was in SCBU, I asked about a milk bank and they said they had stopped it there because of issues around HIV. I was quite sorry about it, because at the time I would much rather him have had somebody else's breast milk to top mine up than formula, which he needed.

Sponge - since I had the baby, I've had loads of dreams involving transport. I'm always getting trains or buses, or occasionally on the way to the airport. I had a horrible dream the other night, that I was in a hotel with my mum and sister, and we'd gone to a nightclub in the hotel, when suddenly I remember LO was alone in my room. I wanted to go back to the room, but then I fell asleep and woke when it was morning, and didn't know why I'd fallen asleep - I suspected drugs in my drink! Then when I went to find my room, it had physically moved, which apparently rooms in that hotel could do, so the baby had disappeared.... A psychologist wonders - could it be an anxiety dream ?

I really should go to bed, as J is asleep and I had a badish night with him last night - he has forgotten he knows how to sleep for six hours apparently. But I'm on my second glass of wine for the first time in nearly a year!!!