July 2006 Babies-crawling, climbing, walking and talking-well, nearly!

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We have run out of space so thought I would start a new thread.

Pavlov-hope you are OK today hun.

kayzed-well done to Roshi

Gave Sophie some SMA (5oz but she only glugged 3oz ish down) she zonked out immediatedly on her gym mat. Poor girl must have been starving the way she uh, uh, uh when she saw the beaker.

Mum and dad coming in a mo. Dad is tiling and mum and I are going to paint the ceiling. DH doesn't know so watch out for me on the relationships thread later.

Bloss-get you on the homepage! How do you do tips?

Better go-love to all and will catch up later.

xxx

Hello ladies

You have been busy, busy busy again.

Sleep-BLOODY SPINELESS BITCHES. Doesn't it make you feel sick afterwards. Like many on here it happened to us in Spain-flower sellers and she managed to carefully steal about £80 of Euros out of my purse while it was in my hand . If we had realised we couldn't have done anything as the Spanish Mafia is always waiting on the nearest street corner.

prettymum-your poor DP. Hope he gets some good advice.

Beadmum-feel so relieved now I have handed my notice in. Not long until your meeting.

Pavlov-you will find that after about 3 days without any treatment tonsilitis starts to improve as your body fights it. Last time I got it on a Friday evening so couldn't get to a Dr until Monday morning. It was starting to improve but was still given antibiotics. You must keep your appointment.

kayzed-9 teeth eh? All the more to bite you with. Sophie will have 4 any day now.

Sophie is 10 months on Friday-into double figures. The bonding thing really concerns me. With DD1, I am ashamed to say that the bond between us is not what it should be and as hard as I try I cannot seem to have much empathy with her. I am sure I should feel more than I do-hard to explain really. When she was born the feeling was there and strong but seemed to disappear so I am determined to right the wrongs that happened with DD1. DD1 only ever wants daddy and I can see the same thing happening again. I must try harder to play with them both more.

Am waffling now, so will go.

Hi to anyone I have missed.

xxx

just vvv quickly as dh on way home from work on an early finish tonight

HC you are a wonderful and briliant mum and as everyone else on here has said it's just that stage that sophie is getting to with BF - and it is a lot harder work than on a bottle. You really must not beat yourself up so much about bonding with her, and don't worry about playing so much with them - quality not quantity Lecture over!

impy and ceebee happy birthdays (have i got this right?)

9 teeth KZ that's brilliant......and on the subject of teeth, we have our first one just cut through today! can't even see it properly but boy is it a sharp little thing

and swimming lesson was great fun this morning, Jacob absolutely loved it.

sleep what horrid people, it has happened to people i know in spain as well ,but how awful to just be surrounded like that!

i had a whole list of things to reply to people and i've lost it.

I too have a nasal ex smokers voice and hate hearing it on messages, video etc but glad to hear that someone would like it - swap shop? I also hate seeing myself on film and even in photos - dh is constantly berating me that jacob will never have any pictures of his mummy if i am always taking them!

xxx

HC {{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}

You are always so very hard on yourself, I wish I could come to yours for a cuppa

Have you spoken to anyone about how you feel? I'm pretty sure things feel ten times worse than they are because it is whirring round and round in your head.
Speak to the HV and your GP and take their advice.

L is sooooo right it is the quality of the time you spend not the quantity so set aside time each day with each girl, could you have time with DD1 on her own? You could take your DD1 somewhere (safety in numbers!) that's just for 'big girls'.

Your girls LOVE you they really do, DD1 is calling out for your attention, she will probably challenge you at first but keep going when she realises you're going to be consistent she will calm down.

Have you heard of pantomime discipline?! Well, you have to praise really OTT -" WOW did YOU do that?! You MUST be the bestest girl in the world" (for putting shoes on!).
You may feel a bit silly but it makes the child realise you are watching, taking an interest, acknowldeging their achievements and makes them want to do more.

My heart goes out to you, your daughters love you and you love them and have a bond with them, you wouldn't be so worried about it otherwise would you?
I think you probably have PND and if that means AD's then so be it, you need to have the strength to make yourself happy again xxx

Morning ladies

Sleep You poor thing,what a bunch of cows!! Bet it really shook you up especially with having the lo with you too.How awful(((hugs)))

HC don't worry too much,as she gets older her behaviour will improve and you will feel closer again i am sure.I had a couple of years with my eldest ds where i really felt i didn't like him very much but looking back he was def a daddys boy and his behaviour with me was always bad I always did the childcare and daddy did all the fun stuff so i think thats why we didn't get on.Now we are really close and have a great relationship so it will happen for you too i'm sure.

Eilidh STILL has not a single tooth.Still bf thru the night(yawn) so not too unhappy about that lol.She is starting to rock on her knee but not moving around too much.It's funny to see Niamh and her playing together.Eilidh is sooo vocal and screamy if she doesn't get what she wants to play with.Really creates and shakes her body and points to get Niamh to hand over said toy.Don't always get Niamh to hand it over tho as don't want her to think she doesn't count iykwim?

Had 1st part of my root canal done yesterday.She put in loads of local and could still feel it.Puts in strongest local yu can get,can still feel it a bit but bearable for about 30/40 seconds then have to get her to stop.Packs it with ab stuff and more ab's to take and back on TuesdayCan't take the really good ab's Metra something as still bfing but will keep it at bay till next week hopefully.

Got diet class tonight,not got 19lbs to lose at allit's only 17lbs to go,can't count.Haqd a delish Chinese last night so may not lose.TBH i am not fussed about losing the rest of the weight to get to target but if i do i don't need to pay my 5 quid a week so that would be nice.

Better go chase my ds's up for school.Ds1 has a 7 hour Art exam today,and ds2 has an audition to be a presenter at the "Young Writer of the Year Awards".He has to learn and recite his favourite scottish poem.Hope he gets it,would be a huge boost to his confidence.Ds1 is a big acheiver sports wisw and academically atm and ds2 lags behind jut a wee bit so a virtual fingers crossed from all you lovely ladies might help?

anyway have a good day xxx

Good mornings to you all,

Thank you all for agreeing with me about the gf from hell. She has been really nasty since Christmas. eg Ross and Sian are NOT allowed to stay at their house anymore, (not that they particularly want to, but that's not the point) she wouldn't let Ross go upstairs for a poo last time they were there ( I told him he should have squatted behind the sofa ), ex-p is NOT allowed to have any form of conversations with me, (bit difficult when you have 2 children together) and now this with the money.

Dunno what is gonna happen about it cos by the look of it, he has none left to give me anyway.

I will stop going on about it now as I just wind myself up more, although I have been trying to think of something very horrible to do to her. Bitch, bitch.

F@F- Abbey makes that horrid screech too. I have to say it drives me mental. I am keeping my fingers crossed that it is just a phase.

Kbaby- your tip is bloody amazing. I can't believe how well it works. I have been telling everyone about it. thanks

Right, am going now. I've been doing this post since yesterday so there will be loads more by the time I post it.

Love

Jeanie

Prettymum- Is he in a union? People like that get a bit power mad- they're very strange.

Sleep- what a cheeky gang of bitches. I can't believe that people can be so hard faced.

HC agree with us - you should talk to GP about it - and we should all have a July group meet up at your place for tea and hugs (KZ can bring the muffins and I'll bring something savoury as I still can't bake for toffee!) sorry KZ just volunteering you there

and you are an amazing mum!

xxx

Thanks girls-when I was on the phone to the HV talking about bonding I could feel myself about to cry so that is why I know I have a problem with it.

Will speak later as in the middle of painting my bridge.

xxx

HC-painting your what??

My bridge that my dad made to go over my pond. Has gone a tad mouldy and the pigeons poo all over it!

Lovely post for HC, Usandnosleep - it couldn't be put better. I think ADs could be a really good idea - these things are often a chemical/hormonal imbalance and you shouldn't suffer without help. It's not a sign of weakness or anything to ask for help.... I'll bring the Sangria and tortilla to the group hug at your place

Thanks for all the b-day messages. Had a weird set of presents - stacks of shower gel, a book on getting a new career and anchovy-flavoured chocolates..... is someone trying to tell me something? (and if so, wtf?)

OMG, DD is theeeeee bestest bestest baby!!!
She got a shaker from her toy box, looked at me, held it out and shook it at me and said loudly 'MA' {very proud mummy emoticon)
YEY!, not 'DA', but 'MA'!!!
and I bought her the most gorgeous flowery dress today from mothercare and she is wearing it and looks wonderful and girly, and thats when she said it and I feel all gooey and needed to come tell some people.

Should I tell DP? Will be be jealous that it was not DA, will he feel left out? oh dear! but yey!

I wish I could sho you dress, but LO has somehow had the charger (small thiddly USA thingy) for camera and battery is dead so cant take a picture, but I will soon....oh you will all love her too..!

Impy - anchovy flavoured chocolate? EWEEEEEEEEEE

Pavlov-is it on the Mothercare website then you can do a link.

xxx

Just a quickie, been reading all your messages but not got round to posting. DS is charming as ever, today I was pushing him on the swings and he was chuckling his head off, lovely

HC - make sure you get the help that you need, you are a great mum to your girls {{hugs}}

pavlov that's great! tell dp as it's a new thing she's done - and all the times later on that she just says dadadadadada he will feel just as special as you do right now!

must admit to watching jacob falling asleep and having gooey, damp eyed feelings and am also getting verrry broody... consultants said we had to wait around a year so we are going to be TTC come the start of june - have been counting dates for a couple of months now! do you all think I'm mad???

have a great evening everyone!
xxx

hey everyone

dd decided to poo in the bath today, it was so gross!!! this is the second time now, i asked her if she wanted to but she said no!! and she really played up today when we went out, im going to have to buy reins for her, she just wants to walk by herslf, including the road and screamed at me when i told her off! really felt like hitting her!!!

hc- know how hard toddlers can be, they are just trying to gain that independance but it feels like they are intentionally trying to make our lives harder!! but its so hard when you're trying to balance spending time with dc, doing chores, being a partner, and being yourself, it just overloads and feels like too much to handle, you feel like lashing out!

hope things settle down soon{{{{{{hugs}}}}}

lol thanks

Too busy arguing to catch up here tonight, but I'll sit and have a good read over the weekend.

Morning all

Too many posts to catch up on but hi to all - I have read all the posts but can't remember who said what

HC - I echo what Us said - I am certain you are doing a better job than you think you are And a big well done on the weight loss - isn't it lovely when people comment on it as it really gives you motivation to carry on - I shall be rejoining you next week!

Well, Happy Birthday to me today We are off to Chester Zoo for the day and the sun is shining so it is going to be a fab day! Went for a Mexican meal last night and we gave Josh a tortilla chip with melted cheese to munch on as he doesn't bite anything off usually - just sucks on things - but of course, he decides to bite a bit off, gag on it and then puke all over the table

Hope you all have a good day too x

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CEEBEE XX hope you have a lovely day!

junior did that exact thing on my birthday meal after we let him chew on poppadum!

Happy Birthday Ceebee xxx

Zack just hit his mouth on the coffee table and hit his new tooth It was bleeding quite a bit, the tooth was only half through but he has broken the remaining skin so its fully out now.

He has doubled the number of grey hairs I had before he came along

STOP this broody baby talk NOW! T is our last, definitely, but he is just soooo gorgeous at the moment that too much talk of new babies will get even me all gooey

Happy Birthday Ceebee, hope you have a great time at the zoo!

KZ - 25 mins sleep all day, blimey Roshi must be horrendous by bedtime! Though my eldest used to do that and she wasn't too bad, just didn't need much sleep. Big contrast with T, who often has 2 x 2-hour naps, sometimes more! And get her, having 2 dinners!

Pavlov - hooray! Very of you, T grins and says dada every time I look him in the eye and say MAMA. Or anything else for that matter.

Impy - hope you had a good birthday. Wierd presents. Have you eaten the chocolate? Sounds vile!

HC - big hugs. You're doing a really hard job, handling a toddler and a baby. I hope your HV has something helpful to suggest. Happy 10 months to Sophie.

Must write list and go shopping when T wakes up. Bank holiday weekend here so need to stock up. Have a good deay everyone.

Hi Girls

French ? yes it?s a gorgeous stage at the mo isn?t it (apart from the screeching in Emma?s case of course ). We?ll look back with fondness when they are stroppy teenagers.

Us ? poor Zack, must have been a shock for him but probably more so for you! I guess wee incidents like that are going to be part of daily life now they are more mobile, yikes. Emma has three accident reports in her book now from bashing her own head / having it bashed by other babies!

Happy birthday Ceebee ? the zoo trip sounds lush, have a fab day x

Pretty and Ceebee ? Emma had a mad coughing fit after I gave her a cream cracker to suck on and she bit it. MIL and DP were a bit shocked that I had given it to her but I had had a glass or two of wine and was going ?no, it?sh fine, baby led weaning, it?s all the rage you know? at the reproachful looks I got after the cracker nearly choked her?

Kayzed ? lol at Roshi the wee porker, she knows what she likes doesn?t she! Sounds like a very healthy digestive system she?s got going on there I bet she and DS will have some very interesting discussions once she can talk, they sound quite different in personality

Prettymum ? I think reins are good, used to have them when I was a small child as where we shopped it was very crowded and busy. Hope your DP can get things sorted at work, sounds like a very stressful situation

Lysettes ? how exciting, good luck with ttc! Gorge pic the other day btw

Mae ? Emma went on the swings for the first time the other day and absolutely loved it, am thinking about getting one for the garden if they aren?t too expensive.

Pavlov ? aaaw how lovely And buying them clothes is lush isn?t it, much more fun that buying clothes to fit round my fat arse at the moment

HC ? hope you?re feeling better today and can find someone useful to talk to. If that is very difficult how about some books or websites which might help? It probably doesn?t help having the problems you do with the in-laws, I can imagine that if they are quite possessive then that will impact on the confidence and intimacy which you have with the girls, do you think that might be the case? If so there's probably not much you can do re their attitude but if you are aware yourself of what the probem may be it may help a bit? Hugs anyway.

Jeanie ? what a horrible situation with the gf, hope your ex finds the balls to address her behaviour at some point

Sleep ? so sorry to hear about your phone and pics Karma will get them, well they must have pretty sad lives anyway to be going around doing that sort of thing.
Impy ? lol re bleeding ears, I know how that feels!

Hi Twinkle, Bloss, Beadmum, Agalch and anyone I?ve missed

Annie ? lol re the mossies! I did joint hons zoology / psychology at Nottingham many a moon ago, and have always kind of regretted not really using it career wise, I miss my lab coat and dissection kit Ended up doing a hotch potch of jobs and freelancing ranging from secretarial through to graphics and currently marketing stuff. Did you know pigs have corkscrew shaped willies?

Well sorry for the essay - better get on, having a haircut today, accompanied by Emma? wish me luck! xxx