March 2017 (4)

[purpleviolet1]

Follow on from March 2017(3)

Welcome all!

[100yearsdotcom]

Quick post as I've two sets of visitors today. Sorry for those having problems. There's a lot of bugs going round now I think. purple be careful re rusks as I have cmpa severely and can't eat them as they pick up traces of milk left on the machinery that produces them as they're made on the same line as dairy products. Just wouldn't want you to have made all this progress then be put back again.

DD is a star, she has had 2 nights in her own room and has slept through from 8pm-5am ish both nights then gone back to sleep after a feed till 8am!

[Carolann8584]

Think I caught your cold purple lol

DD has gone back to waking at 5. Managed to get her back to sleep til 6. I left her to chat to herself til she got bored at 6:30 and she shouted Ma! Haha

No surprise she was goosed after her porridge, back to sleep at 9

[troodiedoo]

Have a great holiday @coupester

Hope you feel better soon @purple. Really tough being ill when you have parenting to do

Great sleeping there @100.

We've had the most disturbed nights since the newborn days recently. Can only assume teething.

[Blondeshavemorefun]

lots of bugs about, dd has a cold/teething and grumpy and clingy, cries if im out of her sight, plus lots of snot tho hasnt effected appetite/food/milk/sleep yet ............

she started to attempt to crawl, as in moving one leg behind her while sitting, leaning forward, then getting stuck or going splat
ahhhhhhhhhhhhh

[Blondeshavemorefun]

does anyone have teeth yet?

[Carolann8584]

DD keeps rubbing her tongue against the inside of her bottom lip. Strange? Could she feel a tooth and is rubbing her tongue against it?

[Carolann8584]

DD will bounce on all fours then push her legs and face plants the rug. Or she does the backwards commando crawl when she pushes with her arms

[NameChange30]

Hi all, sorry to those of you with poorly babies or feeling unwell yourselves - hope everyone starts feeling better soon!

Blondes
DS has had two bottom teeth for a while now.
I don't mind feeding at 10.30pm, it was having to feed him again at 1.15am that frustrated me, as he'd only gone 2.5 hours. Basically if he wakes up around 10pm wanting milk it's often a sign that we're f*ed for the rest of the night and he will wake every 1/2/3 hours.

So we had a busy weekend with the in-laws and several bad nights. I'm losing it now. I've contacted the Sleep Lady and waiting to hear back. I called the HV team and spoke to someone who said they don't run sleep clinics or have a sleep specialist I can talk to. Tbh I think we know what we should be doing - we have a plan but it isn't working and we're too tired and demoralised to keep going. I have been wanting to try putting him in his own room for a while now, but still haven't been able to sort out his room (never have the time or energy to get jobs done, it's so frustrating). I am going to try and go out to get a blackout blind this afternoon, then it's the small matter of persuading DH to install it (he has no time or energy either). Then I have to work out what to do with all the changing stuff in the cot. We need more storage but of course DH and I disagree on what to buy (everything we've bought for the nursery has been a battle).

Definitely in a FML kind of mood today! I need a ton of chocolate! Maybe I'll buy some when I go out for the blind...

[Blondeshavemorefun]

I want the teeth to hurry up. Been months teething

Very envious your dc have them

It's scary they are starting to move and course all the splats and squarking that goes with it

[Blondeshavemorefun]

@name empty stuff in cot and out on floor or where ds is slepeingn at moment

Tin foil on windows is a good quick fix to darken room

I don't know what your budget is but can you afford a maternity night nanny to come in for a few nights

[purpleviolet1]

Aw @HughLauriesStubble hope the tummy bug doesn’t spread 

I wasn’t going to get a walker as we are in a new build and there’s not really that much room to scoot about without bashing something or the other but your comment makes me want to get one!

@100yearsdotcom Thanks so much about the advice on rusks.. I’ll maybe try a tiny bit and see if there is a reaction

@Carolann8584 The cold is a bigger, it’s been two weeks and it seems to be going around in circles between dh ds and me  I feel exhausted with it now


@troodiedoo Sorry to hear the nights have been tough. This teething lark isn’t easy is it

Not crawling yet but rolls around a lot and is getting up on forearms now so don’t think it’ll be long before he clocks it

Aww @NameChange30 really hope things improve for you. Do you have notes , might be worth jotting down what’s going on so you can give the sleep lady a good picture. Exhaustion is really horrible I really hope she can help, or things fall into place quickly for you.

Blondes what’s a maternity night nanny? Is that what you do? The sleep lady offers coming out at night too I think but obviously only local. What sort of price ranges are maternity night nannies?

I’m already thinking about routines with the next one if I’m lucky enough to have another

The blood sugar diet didn’t really work for dh and I. Really tough. Need full focus and mental energy. Instead we are trying to change to a low carb high fat diet. Problem is when I’m tired I just want coke coke coke and I can easily drink a few cans a day. But it’s just crash and burn

[purpleviolet1]

If it helps, shades blinds fitted ds black out blind for us, was around £70 I think for a double panelled window. They came out and measured up and fitted a few days later. I did look into just buying black out blinds but needed a hacksaw to cut it to size and it wasn’t going to work out much cheaper taking all that into account

[Blondeshavemorefun]

Yes that's what I do. Mainly work with newborns and get them into a routine and sleeping through from the start

But have also gone in and helped to sleep train older babies when in Bad habitsand helped parents to learn the read the signs of tiredness etc

Prob looking at £15/20ph so £150/200 a night tho may depend on area

[purpleviolet1]

Ah see what you mean hugh get it over with at once...

Been meaning to ask how is your fungal infection around the scar?

Blondes - thanks for that.

On the note of having anymore, is anyone planning another baby anytime soon?

[Carolann8584]

DD struggled with afternoon nap again. She's asleep now but at one point she was sobbing her little heart out. Broke my heart.

She woke after 1 cycle but looks like she's settle herself into another 1.

Yesterday I had to feed her to settle her to sleep, she obviously isn't having enough formula in the morning but she had plenty of porridge this morning and baby rice with banana for lunch.

[100yearsdotcom]

DD got 2 bottom front teeth through at 5 months and at 7/8 weeks a top incisor poked through but hasn't grown any further ever since!
Have a great holiday coupester!
Name

[NameChange30]

Thank you all for the suggestions. I'll see if we can improvise tonight and try putting him in his cot... might be a disaster but we don't know until we try, right?!

PILs are still around so I might beg ask them to help put the blind up for us (purple I had a quick look for local people who would supply and fit but it was going to cost £90 and take a few weeks, so I think you got a good deal!)

Blondes
Thanks for the suggestion and info about a maternity night nurse (purple asked the questions I was going to ask!) I don't think we can justify the expense at the moment, at least not until we've tried putting him in his own room. I am also considering giving him more regular pain relief because I think teething has been preventing him from having enough milk in the day. Does resorting to drugs in the hope of more sleep make me a bad mother?!

purple
Excellent question I always wanted two, and bizarrely I still do, even though so far this has been the hardest thing I've ever done! DH did want 2 or 3 but now he's saying he's not keen to have any more I'm hoping he'll change his mind if and when things get a bit easier and we forget how hard it was at the beginning... I originally wanted a 2 year age gap but that means trying next summer which might be soon! I do think spring is a lovely time of year to have a baby, so I'd like to aim for that if possible, but it might be spring 2020 by the time I feel ready myself and manage to persuade DH. We shall see...

100
Thank you!

[Blondeshavemorefun]

No to drugs. Calpol nurofen teething gel etc. All fine. Maybe give 5ml before going to bed

No to another baby. Took 10yrs ttc and 5 private ivf to get dd

I'm overjoyed with her and blessed she is healthy and as if I got preg now (by some fluke tho all in hospital told me how highly fertile I was after giving birth and ivf) I would be 45 when born and the risks of downs and sn increase

I'm forever grateful to have dd

[purpleviolet1]

Hahaha namechange!

Do you guys think leaving a comforter in the cot is ok with LO overnight?

Just had a mini rant to dh - he finished work at 4 today for the first time. Going forward he will be alternating 9.30-5.30 and 8-4 shifts on a weekly basis. He was permanently on 9.30-5.30 before. He came home and just sat on his ass! I asked if he wanted to do bath but he gave me a look which said will you do it. Initially I thought let him enjoy his first long evening but by the time I put ds to bed I wasn’t feeling so generous. Probably not helped by the fact that he is off at 7.30 to play badminton (arranged with mates for the first time since ds arrived). Dh generally does help but only when asked. He sometimes gets up with ds in the mornings but apart from that he only really ‘plays’ with ds opposed to taking him off my hands. Same with housework , usually only helps if I ask/ delegate. Never ever uses initiative. He does sort the bottles out or if we get in particularly late he will muck in but that’s hardly anything. I don’t usually mind but it does bother me a bit that I feel I am at maximum capacity and by the time everything is done I am shattered/ don’t have the energy to do anything lovely. Whereas he plays sport once a week, meets his mates every couple of weeks etc. I think it only bothers me when I compare that, rather than me having an issue with doing the majority of everything at home and with ds. Does that make sense? Anyone got any advice? I must admit I am a bit of a martyr and I almost want to hold that over him but that’s the wrong attitude completely. I need to sort myself out for that!