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The APRIL 2007 invasion has started

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1becomes3 · 05/04/2007 16:05

Right ladies this is going to be used as a tip's, questions and answers etc thread for those of us who have had our babies and can't keep up with the chat on the other thread. (my word those ladies can talk)

And of course everyone is welcome to post on here the more advice etc the better.

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Sexonknackeredlegs · 26/04/2007 19:22

Oh Ooogs, lol at Jack thinking it was Christmas! Did he stick his fingers up at Erin!!??

Hope everyone is ok.

I feel shattered today. I think it is the accumulation of broken nights.

Hey ho. I have to keep reminding myself that she is only 1 week old (at 2.45 a.m tomorrow!!)

Love and hug to all.

oooggs · 26/04/2007 19:40

broken nights do take their toll. I have been doing it 4 weeks now, doesn't time fly.....

lol Erin, would have clouted him is she could have reached!!!

Pinions · 26/04/2007 21:29

1B3 Thinking of you it must be awful right now and I can't think of anything worse than dd1 being in hopsital. Hope things soon improve for you all xxx

oooggs · 26/04/2007 22:21

1b3 text or email me if I can do anything - remotely. Thinking of you x

liath · 27/04/2007 06:51

1b3 - hope dd is getting better.

Holding our own here, feeding not too bad. Nips still a bit sore but getting there. Can't believe what hard work it is getting BF going, though - even with a more compliant baby than last time. Does anyone find it easy from the word go do you think?

DH is off fo another couple of weeks and we've got a post natal doula coming twice a week which has been a fantastic help. Yesterday she cooked our dinner, baked a cake with dd, hoovered & cleaned the bathroom. It also gave DH a chnace to get some more sleep which then meant he was able to take ds till 2am this morning. Wish we'd been this sensible about getting help first time.

With bottles, I used to keep then in the fridge with boiled water in them then heat in the microwave before adding formula.

runnyhabbit · 27/04/2007 07:37

Had an absolutely crap night last night

Dh was back in work yesterday, and stayed away last night. Made sense because he's working in the same place today, but ds decided that he wanted non stop feeding from 9.30 til 2am. In the end my boobs were so sore that I gave a few oz of formula. Combine that with his bunged up nose, and neither of us got much sleep Really, really missed dh last night.

Thank god for my mum. She came up last night to bath ds1 (although not sure who had the most fun) and offered to come up this morning to see to ds1, so I can at least have a shower.

liath · 27/04/2007 08:01

Urgh, RH - will your mum be able to take over so you get a nap?

Sexonknackeredlegs · 27/04/2007 08:17

Morning, Runny, hope you get some rest soon.

I have to say I am dreading dh going back to work.

Becky is so demanding at the best of times, but with Katie around, she has gone in to overdrive. It is such a balancing act of keeping her happy, but not pandering to her all the time! !

We had a good night again. K seems to be getting in to a routine. Has a bottle about 10.30 p.m. and another at 3.00 a.m. and then up at 7.00 ish. Not sure if this will last!

1b3, thinking of you a lot, and wondering how you are doing.

Lots of love to everyone else. Need to go and wash some more bottles!!!

Eddas · 27/04/2007 08:25

DS is two weeks old today, crikey that was quick!!!

Runny sounds like a bad one. Have to admit that with dd i tried bf for the first day(i know not long) but could not be doing with the constant sucking she wanted to do when i'd had no sleep for 4 days.Was not for me but hope things get better for you

Liath so wish i had some more help. MIL would help but she's not allowed near ds til 10th May. It's killing her,bless

OOogs, seriously think you and 1b3 are coping so well. Not surprised you have a chart, LOL at christmas for Jack Must be a nightmare to keep up with who's due a bottle and nappy change etc. Do they feed one after the other? Sorry if that's a daft q but just thinking it'd be a nightmare to have them in different sleep/feed routines as you'd be awake all the time.

Well I went out for my night and somehow still had to get up with ds twice to feed him How does that work? I got home at 1, ds woke at 2.45, dh strangely sound asleep. Bloody good job i didn't drink too much!

It was a funny old night. Met in a pub, went on to a restaurant. Waited for over 2 hours for food, some people got starters(3 of 9 people) we got so fed up we left and went to burger king. My freind was not impressed by her bday do Then we went to go to a bar for karoke and they were just closing, cue very unimpressed very drunk friend fin and blindin alot*. Personally found it really amusing but it wasn't my bday!! Think the lack of food and alchohol since 1pm didn't help her mood.

Right off to get things ready for preschool and my 2 1/2 hours of dd free time. After about 4 hours sleep maybe bed would be a good place to head to but a bit worried i won't wake up

oooggs · 27/04/2007 09:59

trying to do all feeding in tandum so ds1 not too neglected

but sometimes it all goes pear shaped

it is a juggle and I find myself picking them up by their sleepsuits and chucking them over my shoulder to wind

Eddas · 27/04/2007 10:35

I have to say I am a lot less gentle with poor ds than I was with dd. Not that I throw him around but he doesn't seem as delicate as she did. Suppose she was the first baby I'd ever really been around as the last baby prior to her in my family was my brother who was 18 when she was born

muminasaggytummy · 27/04/2007 10:43

Hi Ladies

Things not great here....on verge of giving up BF....I am so exhausted was up from 1.30 to 5.30 with the little monkey last night just feeding continuously...ended up in a near hallucinatory state thru lack of sleep...gave her 2 oz formula and she drained it and took another 2....

Had a long chat with midwife yesterday and had been so determined to carry on with it but after a night like that and then having to get up ad deal with James in the day as well I really feel at breaking pooint. All I have done is cry since I got up.

I just keep thinking...is it really worth it?
Don't want to post on BF thread as I never venture off here and worried I will get attacked by militant pro BF'ers

Not really after advice just want to let off steam.

1b3 - hope you and family are ok, I've not read far back but I gather someone is in hospital - wishing them better
xxxx

EllieKthePA · 27/04/2007 10:48

MIAST, let off as much steam as you like

1b3's dd is in hospital, v dehydrated from the bug she had

Eddas · 27/04/2007 10:48

MIST, just wanted to give you a virtual hug. It's very hard dealing with a newborn and older dc. Just do what's right for you. Totally agree with not asking on bf thread, some mners are very very scary

Right, ds crying think he's got a nappy full so off to investigate

Sexonknackeredlegs · 27/04/2007 10:55

Oh MIAST, really sorry to hear you are having a rough time. Lots of love to you.

I made the mistake of posting on the Breast Feeding thread about how to deal with engorged breasts as was bottle feeding, and got a right old earful. So, a good move not to go on there.

You have to do what is right for you, Robyn, and to be honest, James and Phil.

It is incredibly difficult when you just have a baby to concentrate on, but having another child to "deal" with as well, makes it so hard.

Just go with what you feel is going to cause less stress and upset.

x

runnyhabbit · 27/04/2007 11:05

MIAST - thats exactly how I've been feeling, even though the bf itself is going relatively well. Last night he was on my boobs for an hour and a quarter solid If I'd had the energy, I would've rung someone, don't know who, just so I could cry to someone

Part of me is so proud that I'm bf because of everything I went through with ds1, but the other part feels guilty because I'm spending so much time feeding ds2, that I don't have enough time to be with ds1. I have been seriously considering to give him formula at night, just so dh can help more.

If you want, email me, and you can have my number, even if its just to cry to each other

runnyhabbit · 27/04/2007 11:07

I know an hour and quarter might not sound like much, but he didn't come off at all. When he did, it was for about 10mins, then he wanted another go

Eddas · 27/04/2007 11:10

RH, sounds like an eternity to me. Like i said earlier, dd only got the chance to do it to me once before i gave in and ff.

It must be very hard work and very draining.

Not sure what else to say really, but just wanted to say something IYSWIM?

EllieKthePA · 27/04/2007 11:14

i was chatting to Pinions about bf last night. i'm bf absolutely fine but remembering the easyness of passing baby and a bottle to someone else does make it tempting

runnyhabbit · 27/04/2007 11:20

kwym Eddas I only bf ds1 for 2 days before switching to formula.

This morning ds2 has been a little sweetheart. Feeding for about 20/30 mins, getting his wind up, then settling down in his basket or his bouncy chair And my mum came down to give ds2 his breakfast, got him washed and dressed, made me a cuppa, then cleaned the kitchen. How lucky am I?

I'm another one who's def not going near the bf threads. They really scare me.

runnyhabbit · 27/04/2007 11:22

maybe ds2 knew his daddy wasn't home, and thought he'd push his mum to the limit (as children do)

am really trying to keep a sense of humour.....

muminasaggytummy · 27/04/2007 11:51

Thanks ladies for all your supportive comments.

Runny - it is just so draining isn't it...an hour and a half is a long time...would be different if fed for 30 mins and was satisfied for at least an hour...lol.

I've just given her a FF as an experiment to see how she settles before I decide whether to just give up or BF in day and give FF at night.

She just seems so contented after giving her 3 oz FF.......

why is it so hard??

liath · 27/04/2007 11:58

MIAST. For something that is supposedly "natural" BF is ridiculously hard work to get going. Despite it going OK I still think wistfully about how much easier it was when I gave up & started dd on bottles last time - mainly cos I could fob her off on someone else to feed and go and sleep! No matter what happens any amount of breast milk will have benefitted Robyn and you've given it a really good shot.

EllieKthePA · 27/04/2007 12:18

glad it's not just me feels like that liath

claricebean · 27/04/2007 12:30

Hello all... just a quick post before I make lunch. Will come back later to catch up on thread - only had time to read the antenatal one and cheer on the mummies to be this morning.

Ruby had her first check up today at 2 weeks old. She's put on 230g since birth so am delighted as she will have lost a bit in the first 10 days too. . I had all four DC with me because DD1 and DD2 had vaccinations with the nurse just before the appt. The doctor's face was a picture when they all filed in behind me!! She told me to get LOTS of rest or my milk quality will go down - must remember to tell DH when he gets back on Sunday