My DD has also discovered raspberries carol! She's still only pooing every few days so we've only had one blowout in the last month but that was bad enough!
I see what you're saying blondes, I think I'm coming from a very different perspective than you, which as you've said before is fine as every baby and family is different. We're taking everything slow and easy and it's working for us so far. Other than problems with reflux we're doing pretty well. In terms of routines we have certain consistent patterns already established and we will leave baba to settle herself for a while when she wakes up from naps rather than immediately going in, but during the night I respond straight away as I'm still ebf on demand. Having said that, I feel lucky that in many ways she's a very easy baby and now gives me 5 - 7 hours of straight sleep a night before needing a feed and I think that will lengthen naturally very soon. Also I'm happy to respond immediately as I'm keen to support my milk supply continuing as I intend to bf until she self-weans off the boob, hopefully at least until she is one. I do respect experience and have a fair amount of it myself, but also respect up to date evidence based research that helps us to know better and therefore do better. I think I agree with your friends in that I feel that it is very different caring for my DD (for whom I had to wait well over a decade to finally meet) rather than other people's children for whom I've cared. I can't really explain it other than the obvious new mummy comparisons and guilt that seem to be obligatory once you have a child of your own! Anyway, I'm glad your ways are working out so well for you and your daughter and hope all of us can find our own ways that work for us too.