Sept 06 Babies - trying to sit and roll....

[clairemow]

new thread here!

oh blimey norms - how scarey! I have never heard about anyhing like tha before. B ut I am a bit naive when it comes to the internet.

It was just someone I know (hello to them !) who worked out that I was posting on here and discussed my posts with other people we both knew. I had nothing to hide but I didn't like being gossiped about so I decided to remove their ability to read all of my postings just by searching on my MN name.

I'm sure you'll spot me again under a different name in the not too distant future, I kept reading this thread thinking "I haven't abandoned you" but if I post regularly with same new name the person will catch on to the new name as well as obviously they lurk on MN and know that I had a Sept'06 baby.

I will post occasionally, remind you who I was and then name change again or just name change all the time so I'm one step ahead of them.

Poor you Normsknockers. I often wonder who I know is reading my posts
Well dd now has chicken pox so more staying in and lots of trips to the park for us

So sorry to hear that Norms. I often wonder too, but then if I want to post something I wouldn't tell my friends I change my name anyway (guess the little profile thing doesn't light up then???). Am by nature a bit sceptical and afraid...!! I don't mean that to sound in any way critical to you btw. I think it's really sad.

So sorry Norms... I was only thinking a couple of days ago that we hadn't heard from you, Homemama or Angeliz for a while. Do hope you continue in some guise or another

clairemow, in the morning J can wait at least 30 mins until he starts fretting for his bottle. The 11pm bottle is usually 7-8oz which he drinks the majority of. Maybe I should wait until we start food?

compo, bad luck with the chickenpox! Hope he's over it soon enough. Mabel, excellent start!!! On & up eh?!!

hi Cori, sounds like you would probably be fine to drop a few ounces. Why don't you offer him 5 tonight and see how you go? If he gets through til morning on that, then try 4 in a couple of days. Having said that, F didn't drop his until after he started food, but he was only having about 4 since December time I think. Although on the other hand, if J's happy and you're happy, why worry about it?!

Another successful day at nursery. Went to pick F up at 4.50, and he had just dropped off in a bouncy chair (although he did hear DH's voice, opened his eyes, smiled and then turned his head and shut his eyes again!), so went to get DS1 and came back. He was still asleep! So I am really pleased with how it's gone, and actually enjoyed my day's work!

Can anyone help with any advice on controlled crying?
Had our 6 mounth visit with the pediatrican this morning and he said I needed to be tougher with DS and not pick him up or cuddle him when he crys at night
But the little bugger just dos'nt stop crying, drives me crazy, I find it so hard to just lie there and listen to him, makes me want to cry myself.
Anyone with any experiance / advice on best way forward?

Ivor - sorry, no advice on CC for you as I haven't had to do it. I can imagine how difficult it is to sit and listen to your LO cry. It kind of goes against instinct, doesn't it? If noone on here is of any help, it might be worth posting a thread on the sleep section. Just a thought and I hope things get better for you soon.

Claire - so pleased that the nursery is going well. What a relief for you.

Cori - do you wake your LO for his 11pm feed? If not, you could certainly try cutting it down, or completely out, and see how you get on. We just cut it out completely and DS didn't notice!

Plodding along nicely here. Got DS weighed yesterday. 19lb 13oz! There was a little baby at the clinic who was 8lb (DS birth weight) and I can't remember him ever being that small. Am feeling sooooooo broody at the moment. Met with some friends today one of whom is 33 weeks pg with her second. Her first is only 15 months old. Her advice? Don't do it! Not yet, anyway. So I'll hold off for a while...

DS and I are off to France on Sunday. Looking forward to it but nervous of doing the journey on my own. Still, I did it before so I'm sure it'll be fine.

BTW, the underwear DH bought for me is doing the job nicely! Its so lovely to have my boobs back where they should be. DH says they look like the boobs of a 20 year old

arghhhh...just got back from the gym where the trainer made me cry!!! How pathetic! He plonked me on the rower for 10 mins which was OK at first but then it started to hurt & by 8 mins I just wanted to get off & walk out...he kept saying come on, work through it & I thought I don't need this go away!!! Suffice to say I did do it & finished the session with some abdominal work which killed also - a note to anyone who is too posh to push, don't have a section! I want my muscles back....I wish my VBAC had worked...sigh......

bristols, we get him out of the cot but he's still asleep so he feeds not being fully awake iyswim? However, (& thanks for the suggestion claire) we are going to drop his oz tonight & build up to next week when we try some mashed banana

Ivor, tough one! I used cc when both of mine where 7 weeks ish but only for a few mins at a time. They both cottened on really quickly so we never actually had manic screaming sessions etc. I'd imagine at 6 months it's going to be much tougher. Perhaps you can try by just letting him cry for a minute at a time & going in to reassure him without picking him up? Then if that works just gradually increase the time you let him cry to a max of 5 mins say? I really don't believe that you are doing any long term harm etc (cue other Mnetters crashing into our thread telling me off ).....it's just a habit he's got into that needs breaking. How long do you leave him to cry before giving in now?

compo, how's the cp?

Work have finally notified me that my first meeting re flexible working is next Tuesday. Can't believe it's taken them that long to get it sorted.....feeling rather anxious..

well we tried dropping 2 ounces last night, to see if it made any difference, i did, he woke up at 3.30am!!!! and just after we'd cracked the early morning waking arrrggghh!

cori - sorry o hear about your gym experience....i have to say I have an inense dislike of gyms and don't understand hese people who get 'addicted' to excersise!!! it's yoga for me, much more relaxing...i seems to be working too.

it's day one of 'operation potty'. We have had an accident already, he said 'do a poo' and wee'd in his pants. He has gone up for his nap and had a wee on his potty before getting in to bed, but refused to put a pull up on, or even pants, so he's gone commando., I put a towel down on the sheet, so we'll wha state he's in when he gets up.

Norms - sorry to hear wha happened o you, that is just awful.

Mabel, maybe it was a one off?!! Is he on solids yet? I dislike gyms too but if I don't at least get into some sort of shape it's never going to happen! I used to do pilates for a number of years before DD & I really miss it as I found that was the best thing for keeping toned & strengthening my back.....the people I se on the treadmills make me gasp sometimes.....many look anorexic, it's awful.

I hope i was a one off, will try again tonight to see what happens, i think he is suffering with his teeth at the moment, as he is taking ages to settle for his naps and he's normally really good.
I used to do pilates before i had ds2, and I'm sure it helped me get back in to shape quicker as my muscles had some 'memory', whereas wih DS1 i did nothing and i took a good 9 months to get back to my pre-baby weight and shape.

Mabel, fingers crossed for you...!

Well done on the gym Cori. I've been going too, but no personal training... I can manage 20 mins on the treadmill at 9.5 km an hour, used to do 5 k in half an hour so hoping to get back up soon. DH and I went jogging yesterday round a field near us, nearly killed me... Where's Marls? She's the running guru!

Ivor, on CC, what are you doing at the moment? We don't rush in to either of our DSs when they first make a noise in the night, and they've both learnt to settle themselves, and often wake up, sing for a bit and go back off. But you need to do what you are comfortable with - if CC would really stress you out, don't do it. Your paed sounds quite tough I think, and let's face it, he isn't there at night. Does LO feed at night, or just wake for comforting? If it's a need for comfort and settling, I'd try gradual withdrawal maybe - don't pick him up, but pat and shush and make comforting noises, and gradually work your way back towards the door. Or you could try cuddling, but as soon as he stops crying, put him back down making shushing or cooing noises, whatever he finds comforting. Then he will know you're still there, and he's not abandoned. I haven't had to do it, but it might work and sounds a bit gentler?

Thanks for the advice on the CC guy's I did a thread yesterday and got some good advice, basically go along with what we had been doing and ignore the doctor!
I'm trying to move his routine back an hour or so that will help him fit into our sleeping patterns a little better, the clocks going forward this weekend should help out a lot with this
Sorry to hear about your gym experiance Corrie, do you think the trainers do that on purpose to make you channel your hatred into exercise?
I'm doing pilates at home, so not to make anyone retch at the sight of all me woobilie bits as my Dh so lovingly calls my post pg bodg Like to know his excuse!

Hello,
Well I was back at work this week for 3 days and DS went to nursery. He has been fine which is a relief. He was even charming all the girl babies at nursery! We also found out that the nursery staff had been feeding him a main course and pud every lunch whereas he'd just been having a couple of ice cubes worth at home. So he has been eating impressive amounts and has a reputation for liking his food now This morning when I dropped him off, he was all smiles and didn't seem bothered about me at all. I have missed him though especially as when I get home I only see him for about 10 mins and then he goes to bed. I hope he doesn't forget who I am

DS has also got a little tooth. We discovered it on Thursday

wow, teeth, going back to work, we're all growing up aren't we
Incidentally did anyone actually make it to 6 months exclusively breast feeding? I think Tassis was on course to but can't remember anyone else.
Just goes to show how hard it actually is doesn't it?
What is everyone's lo's eating? My dd hasn't been impressed by much so far

Myrtle, stop it!!! You have brought me to tears...of course he'll love you more than anyone but it doesn't take away the guilt does it?!!!!! I start back 2nd April & I am dreading it. J finished his 3rd week at nursery today but I'm dreading putting him in for 3 full days - which is what we had to do with DD from 5 months. At least he will have had just half days for now. He too is loving it..full of smiles, never cries & seems very content which makes it easier.

compo, not me! I did 5 months worth but mixed a bit with formula. I think it's bloody hard - big respect to anyone that did do it though Re solids, I have a friend whose DD is same age as my DD & her DS is 3 weeks older than Jack. She says that he is not interested in food at all - only wants a bit of apple & maybe pear but doesn't see to like much else. She says it's such a shock compared to her first.

I was wondering who is going to fall pg again..!!! Surely there are some of you that are thinking of it now?!!

No teeth here yet but I think they may be on the way. LO had been really grouchy today; crying at the slightest things which would not usually bother him. He also has had a red cheek all day but its not hot. He also seems to be dribbling and chewing more than normal. We'll see...

Compo - We're really lucky with the weaning. So far, DS likes everything we've given him: sweet potato, broccoli, parsnip, carrot, potato, courgette, cauliflower, apple, pear, banana and mango. And a cuddly toy!!

Ivor - I'm so glad you mentioned about the clocks. I had no idea. We're flying to France on Sunday morning. Would have been devastated if we'd missed the flight. Especially as we have to be at the airport at 6am!

Crossed with Cori. I only managed to bf for four and a half months. It is very difficult.

On the subject of next babies... DH and I reckon we'd like a 2 year age gap which would mean getting pg in December this year. It seems so soon! Having said that, I am incredibly broody at the moment and really trying to resist the urge I don't think we'll start trying until December though. I fell pg in the first month with DS. I wonder if it'll be as easy this time? How was it for the rest of you who have more than one? Did it take the same amount of time to conceive? I suppose it doesn't always follow.

I was sooo sure I was gonna last but then fell at 24 weeks cos DD wanted to eat the fruit I was cutting for my smoothie. Honest I couldn't help it!!

Clairemow, where you cos I didn't last or cos I thought she would sleep?
I know I should have known better than to expect her to sleep!!
It had just seemed such an awful lot extra in her little belly along with all the normal milk.

By the way, how do you demand feed a baby who never demands! (well, rarely anyway) I have to offer it, almost, everytime.
Now, with adding a solid feed into my day, I have no idea where she is with how much she is eating!! But she still seems to be doing ok. Though still waking in the early hours, which she only started a month ago??

Excercising! Questions over which excercise is best! Wow! I am waaay to lazy! I did hire a yummy mummy work out DVD but am yet to do the excercise, though I did watch a bit does that count!!?

And talk of going back to work or trying out nurseries, I can't join in. DH and I decided to tighten our belts so I am not planning to return. If I did, my parents as so close they would be my nursery. Much cheaper
But I do think they are a good idea cos it means the LOs can socialise. I am trying to go to groups to achieve the same result. But it is still a little scary to join them.

are the clocks really going back this weekend? Ivor is in the U.S.... I thought it was in a couple of weeks here in the UK...????

Oh yes, I too was wondering when someone would get pregnant
Definitely not me - have been giving away all the little sleepsuits etc and dh said 'oh but wat about Edward' - Edward is the name dd would have had if she'd have been a ds. I was like 'no way'. Think hope he was joking as I dewfinitely can't do the whole newborn thing again!!

bristols - it took the same amount of time to get pregnant with dd as it did with ds. About 3 months. Although I know of people who had problems. i think a ot depends on how old you are.

Clairemow - not sure about the clocks but I thought it was nearer to Easter?

fairysnuff, just a jokey in light of that thread. Didn't mean it seriously! (don't tell anyone, but F started solids at 22 weeks...).

On bf, I managed 13 weeks exclusively and up to 17 mixed. I think as a group we've managed way above national statistics, so well done us!

On 2nd babies, we got pg with DS1 on first month trying and with DS2 on second month - but the first month I was convinced that if we didn't try for 6 days either side of ovulation we might get a girl - didn't get pg at all so abandoned all attempts to influence gender, and ended up with 2 boys, who I wouldn't swap for the world. We aren't 100% sure that's it, but no more thoughts of more until F is at least 4!!!

ok, clocks in US change this weekend, but in the UK we don't change ours to British summer time until Sunday 25 March. See here .