August 2016. Anyone got the hang of their babies yet?!!

[plimsolls]

Thought I'd start a new thread. Unimaginative title but E has spent the whole day grizzling/feeding/sleeping on me so I'm running on limited capacity!

[Fizzyboo]

Sophia I have become so insanely germ/cold phobic, I'm actually starting to wonder if I'm getting a little out of hand...
Yesterday a family friend came by, she sniffed a few times and so I Dettol wiped everything when she left and picked her cup up to put in the dishwasher with a wipe. I didn't let her hold her, I moved myself in the way when she went to touch her face (I've got quite good at that) i make everyone hand sanitise, I'm loathe to let people hold her too. I'd frankly prefer if no one came round at all currently!
I don't know if this is because I'm still waiting for her airways to be measured and it has left me terrified of her getting anything that could exacerbate respiratory issues if she does have them... Or if I've just gone slightly ott...

[Belager]

fizzy
sophia I'm quite lax with things like colds. Working in a school has left me so aware that it's inevitable.

Luckily for me my family are more on it than me. DM hasn't seen A in a month as she's been ill (there's been almost twice daily skyping). And DP's bro actually bought a face mask!

[Belager]

Ridiculously excited here. A is now almost 10lbs! Still v underweight for her age (13 weeks) but gaining along the curve. I did a little dance when I found out!

[Biscuitswithtea]

Whoop whoop Belager That's great news!

It seems quieter here at the moment. Hope everyone is doing okay.

We're ticking along okay in the main though today was a day of endless puke from DD. I was literally covered from head to toe at some point. Still enough nappy action for it not to be too worrisome though I do think she was feeling a bit done in by the end of the day. Fingers crossed for a better day tomorrow.

[peardrop2]

Woohoo Belegar! Well done on the weight front It's exciting to see it go up!

Biscuits are you still suspecting reflux?

I've had a few shocking sleepless nights thanks to DD's cold. Wow it's hard work having two children with colds. DD will not let me put her down...worse then normal. Tonight has been the first night that she's slept on our own in her normal tummy, bum in the air co sleeping in my bed position. Hopefully that's a sign that the end is near!

Yesterday we had DS pre school vaccinations. It didn't go as bad as I thought or expected TG! I told him he could buy anything he wanted in the shop afterwards and that was a good enough carrot for him. Of coarse he went for the big Father Christmas kinder egg It was painful to watch when he plonked himself next to me to eat it whilst I was BF Dd. Being dairy free now meant I couldn't have any I have discovered that I can eat M&S cherry caterpillars though...woohoo!

I've also organised DD's christening this week. Getting it done early this time rather then waiting a year like we did with DS. It's quite short notice for everyone so I'm just hoping some guests can still make it! I have no idea what I will wear

Today is all about hand and foot prints Doing the traditional (in my house) visit to the pottery shop to make prints Not sure what I will buy but I'm thinking maybe a bauble, jewellery box for me and a mug or two as presents. I'm excited though!! Must try and not go foot print mad!

[peardrop2]

Oh and someone was talking about Christmas earlier... I don't think I'll do a stocking for DD. I didn't do one for DS I don't think. I first did one when he was 1.5 and actually taking part. I don't think ds will even blink if she doesn't get anything...he will just be thinking of himself I'm sure I'm sure nearer the time I will soften and get her something though

[Biscuitswithtea]

I am inclined to think it isn't reflux Pear because nights are okay. A 'bad' night for DD is asleep by 8, then waking for a feed c1am and 4am. That's not bad at all in the grand scheme and isn't how I would consider the sleep of a refluxy baby to be, based on DS anyway. If she carries on like this for more than a few days though then I will take her to the doctor.

Glad the jabs went well. DS has his today. Eeeek.

Did you know that After Eights are dairy free by the way?

[Biscuitswithtea]

Oh and christmas... have no idea what to do for DD. People have started asking us for ideas. We still have DS's toys from when he was tiny so she doesn't really need anything. Clothes in due course but really that's about it. And I don't think I could say now what clothes she needs in the new year; it depends on how she grows and whatnot.

[peardrop2]

Biscuits - you're in trouble with me!! Just sent DH out to buy After eights after dreaming about them all day. They have milk Came so close to enjoying something other then bourbons!!

[peardrop2]

Of coarse because he is a man he didn't check before purchasing

[BellaGoth]

Oh Pear how disappointing. I have a lovely dairy free sultana loaf recipe if you want it?

DD has been really smiley all day, which is lovely. Unfortunately my three year old has been really challenging, which is much less lovely. And according to a wonderful poster on the thread I started asking for help, it's because he's picking up on my "horrible attitude".

[Biscuitswithtea]

Oh no Pear I'm so sorry!! They were dairy free three years ago... I remembered them because they were also soya free and I had to give up both :(
That must have been extra galling to be so close yet so far from chocolate.

Eh Bella?? Your attitude?!? Tiresome toddlers are hard but also very normal surely? if not then my attitude must be guff too

DS managed his jabs very well today. DD has only cat napped all day and was exhausted by this evening. Her bedtime took 2.5hrs!!!! I hope she sleeps well tonight...

[peardrop2]

Biscuits - I'm not sure I'm ready to talk to you yet On the positive side I've now learnt that Sainsbury's own brand are dairy free...next trip At least you saved me a lot of calories tonight! Although I did stuff my face with other biscuits Can't help myself! Every night!!

[peardrop2]

Oh and great news about your DS jabs. So much better when it's over isn't it. I realise now that it's one of those events that you build up in your head! Well, it was for me anyway

Bella - what crazy lady said that? Ignore ignore ignore! It is so insanely tough with a 3 year old. Absolutely bonkers to suggest that! At age 3 they're going through so much in their little worlds and require a massive amount of patience.

Funny enough today I've been having some time out from my 3 year old son which gave me time to think where we're going wrong. His behaviour is so absolutely embarrassingly appalling it's like I have a new bratty child on board. It's puzzled me because he really loves his baby sister and doesn't show hate towards her. Also, I do make time for him in the day and I do show him lots of love but every day we have very bad behaviour. It's been particularly bad when we've had play dates at our house or at other people's houses. He pushes, says he's bored, says he wants to go home, screams, shouts, snatches... you get the picture. All these things never happened pre baby so I've just been putting the blame on Dd. However, after some thought I've realised it's not Dd. It's what we do that's changed. He misses our energetic life. He's got too much energy that isn't being used and it's turned into anger. It's not my fault but we've spent sooooo many mornings indoors since DD's arrival. I thought having play dates would be enough but it isn't. He misses the walks, the park trips, playing in the garden, soft play, trips to the farm...oh the list is endless!

Anyway, it just clicked today and I'm rather relieved as I can work on fixing it. No more play dates and I'll just have to suggest that friends meet us for walks instead. It's going to mean we miss out on seeing friends I know because they won't want to all meet us so late in the day when they can fit us in but there we go. It will be so worth it as I can't carry on with his bad behaviour. Way too stressful! I need to start suggesting that friends meet us in playgrounds too. It's not the same as going to each others houses as you can hardly talk at parks but it's better then nothing!

[peardrop2]

Feeling so exhausted I'm getting no more then 2/3hrs sleep in the night and then on top of that I took Ds out to the farm yesterday and just spent the whole day dealing with a demanding child who didn't shout none stop So tiring to deal with in front of friends. As soon as we got there he said he doesn't want his friends to come...wth is that all about?!

[peardrop2]

How long do colds last in general? Dd has had this for a week. Honestly feel like I can't keep it together for much longer Everytime I put her down she wakes up because of her blocked nose Surely I'm coming to the end?!!!

[Sophia1984]

Hate to be bearer of bad news but DS has had blocked nose on and off for 4 weeks. Have spoken to 2 HVs and both said he's fine as long as I temperature and feeding ok. I've been using saline spray and snot sucker (nasal aspirator). It's a pain I know

[Sophia1984]

'As long as no temperature'

[BellaGoth]

I thought DD had cleared her cold but last night she was snuffly again. We're just coming up to the two week mark.

Pear I so wish I could shed some light on your DS's behaviour for you, I'm getting nowhere with mine. Maybe we should get them together and they can be grumpy without us worrying what the other person thinks!

DH has taken DS to see his dad for a couple of nights, so I only have the baby and the easy dog to think about today. DS is normally up and raring to go by 6am, but DD will happily sleep until nearer 8, so I have a couple of chilled mornings!

And so sorry about the after eights! They were definitely dairy free when I had them too. Email them and complain!

[Biscuitswithtea]

DS has been tricky here too. I honestly don't know how I would manage at the moment if he didn't have nursery 3x week. Having seen other toddlers of the same age recently who don't have younger siblings, I think it's v normal but possibly harder to deal with when sleep deprived, etc etc.

At the moment I feel like I'm pulled between two different modes - mothering DD - cause let's face it, 3m old babies don't need parenting as such, rather shed loads of care and love. Which arguably is also what DS needs too but he also needs parenting. They are awash with emotions that they don't know what to do with.

Apparently it gets easier. So people keep telling me anyway.

[Belager]

I think all of you with other DC are superwomen! I'm struggling with one, so you are all amazing!

[plimsolls]

Totally agree with belager

Sorry to post just for advice but I'm worrying a little and hoping you might be able to reassure me. As you know, E had an operation to correct pyloric stenosis a month ago- symptoms of it were mostly huge amounts of vomiting.

She had her jabs & rotavirus drops yesterday. Had the expected fever (etc) and then did one huge vomit at about 1am. Was mostly fine since and I assumed the vomit was related to the immunisations and/or fever.

She's been fine all day but has just vomited again. Quite a large amount of thick, creamy stuff (same as last night).

I can't help but be very anxious aboi her vomiting. I was wondering if your babies have had anything similar? I guess I'm particularly worried that today's sick seemed to come when she has no other apparent effects of the jabs.

Any thoughts?

She also hasn't pooed for about three days, which for the last fortnight has kind of been her pattern but maybe I should be worried.

[Biscuitswithtea]

Prior to her op, did vomiting distress her (or pre-vomiting maybe?) And has she been distressed with this recent bout?
Personally, I would probably peg it as immunisation hangover unless it continues into the weekend. Then, given the history, prob phone OOO for advice. If it wasn't for her history I would prob stick it out a bit longer but it is understandable to be a bit more cautious.

As for pooing - I believe that is v normal. As is I hope the many a day that DD gives us!

[plimsolls]

Thanks biscuits

She hasn't really been distressed with this bout. Pre-op, she didn't used to get too distressed either, until it really ramped up on the day I took her to A&E.

I'm reluctant to call 111 or out of hours because when I've used them before, they've said to always go to A&E with a young baby. And I'm not sure about going to A&E with this....

[Biscuitswithtea]

It's always so hard to know. All you can do is trust your gut. If you need to go to A&E over the weekend (hopefully not, obviously!) then so be it. It's not your responsibility that that's the only way for you to get some medical support.

But hopefully things improve for you and her.

I am done in. We need to pack for going away this weekend. But actually I am craving a couple of hrs of peace and quiet, of not being needed and not needing to do anything. This feels like a fantasy to be filled in the distant future :/