July 2016 #2

[Bluebell20]

A new thread as we (hopefully) move towards longer sleeps and lovely little smiles!

dats fab name!

sophie I've got a bit of a farter. Luckily most of them are pretty quiet. When she decides to burp though it can be window trembling!

Glad to hear the kitchens are all making progress. I've still got a bit of spice rack envy. I might add it to my list of 'things I covet for my next house'. A downstairs toilet, garage, beautifully constructed and practical spice rack,...

Those of you who have had your first post-baby period - what was it like? Was it like before, heavier, lighter, random days of no bleeding part way through? I'm still trying to work out what on earth is going on.

Oh yes Annie does like a fart too! The noise isn't quite as impressive as her poo eruption noise though.... No shame!

tams I -think- I have just had a period at 8 weeks pp. it was basically spotting. I'm breastfeeding though not sure if that makes a difference. Only had one period since I got pregnant with my first daughter last April so can't remember what my old ones were like! Pretty average I think (as in not really painful and not overly heavy)

Thanks eliz and indians think I'll start an evening bottle and see how it goes. Ideally I'd express but who has time for that everyday?!

sophie I don't think you can overdeed a baby?! I'd go see a different dr if you can.

floss and indians I think we should look into baby hair modelling for your two?!*

*For those with DH problems... I hope I don't offend anyone with this generalisation: men are naturally selfish. They don't mean to be but they are. I think they're all a bit like it and a newborn amplifies it. DH was shocking with DD1 and I felt like a single parent. But now she's older he's wonderful with her. She doesn't sleep through so he's been having her with him in the spare room and he's not moaned once about the night waking a and early starts. He's still crap with the newborn though lol! My mum was always amazed though at how much he did do... Change nappies occasionally, cook dinner, pop to waitrose etc. She said fourth/ thirty years ago men did very little to help out! Once she told me that I lowered my expectations! Anyway bit of a ramble but point is most of them are a bit crap at this stage especially as they seem to cope badly on no sleep (who doesn't) it will pass and get easier once the kids get older.

Re periods... I'm still bleeding from c section and remember I did for ages with dd1. My periods returned when she stopped feeding at night around 6/7 months I think. Apparently that's quite common as your body thinks it could cope with being pregnant again as in theory the baby would be sleeping well at night! *

dats yah to kitchen!! Hope it's all coming along nicely?

Grace doing really well but constantly feeds (she's getting so big already!) and won't be put down so I've been trying to do sling wearing but it gets so hot!!! I've just managed to get her to settle in her sleepyhead as she's slept right next to me but has been waking up on her tummy! I've put her on her side on the sleepyhead as hoping that helps! She's one month tomorrow! Time flying!!! Might ring insurance company soon and see if I can drive before 6 weeks. Getting the need to go shopping lol!

Oh lord. Sorry that's all in shouty bold !!!

P.s anyone find their googling really escalates during night feeds?

Me last night:

'Wonder how much it would be do to Disneyland Paris for a few days... Hmm that's not bad.

I'll see what Orlando is as weather will be better and we love Florida. Hmm not actually too bad, but may prefer not to stay in a hotel

I'll look st villas with pools.., oh that's cheaper and they all seem to be really popular, good investment

Start looking at property in Orlando to buy...

Back to daily mail for a calm down

Anna - thanks for the reassurance re the menfolk. Re internet usage, I haven't been a-googlin' much but I have a shocking addiction to late-night all-day browsing of MN Classics and AIBU.

Sausage - I'm also not convinced that you can overfeed a baby.

7 weeks today - crikey!

Many men are socialised to be selfish by their upbringing and society's expectations of stereotypically masculine behaviour. Men are not naturally selfish. I think that, sadly, I'm relatively unusual in that my DP is not like that and neither are my close male relatives (brother, father). I really wanted to just get that out there to show that it isn't something that all men do, and it isn't something that they can't help.

I see your bonkers Googling and I raise you endless back to back episodes of God-awful Say Yes to the Dress during the first part of evening cluster feeds! I hate myself! I never read the Daily Mail though lies, lies, lies

And My Giant Life.

And I am Jazz.

Speak you maybe right. Although my brothers weren't raised that way and they still display selfish behaviour! You're very lucky to have one that isn't!

Ha ha dats I love say yes to the dress! Those Pinana dresses are awful and so expensive!!! I like the Atlanta version too, especially the bridesmaids one. The U.K. One is a bit crap. The episodes are all the same though 'when a bride comes in and tries something on that's over budget and falls in love it's only going to end one way.' No shit Randy/monte
Shit. Must get a life.

Speak you're definitely on to something there. My DH is an only child and his mother still runs around after him when we visit. In his family home he never cooked, cleaned, made drinks, did laundry or anything like that. His mother STILL makes him his breakfast when he goes to see her and he's 36.

Needless to say he's expected to pull his weight here.

DH and FIL are also served food first, and served the best quality bits of meat, the crispest roast potatoes etc. MIL truly believes that her role is to serve the menfolk. I can see why DH is sometimes selfish and self absorbed but tbf he's normally he's great.

Happy Thursday Ladies, how's things?

Before I get into anything else - bluebell, I haven't forgotten you! Double checked the details for the group & glad I did as apparently the organiser has had a baby and it's suspended. Fear not, though, there's a list of groups in Briz here:

www.bristol.gov.uk/documents/20182/32995/Bristol%20Breastfeeding%20Support%20groups%20Aug%202015%205.pdf/1f9ffe4d-2f7b-4355-880c-fba44cafda2c

If you're on FB, also get onto the Bristol Breastfeeding Mummies group, there's a lot of people happy to chat through things on there/make yourself feel better by seeing that lots of other people struggle too x

Flossie I'm always so shocked when I hear about women who always give the menfolk the best cuts of meat etc. It's not as if they're working down the mines and need more strength! Time has moved on. Women work too! Grrr...

Mini man weighed in at 10lb 4oz today, so have taken myself out for a celebratory cake, we shall be chunks together

Beaut my friend had a 9lb 15oz baby, eek!!

Flossie I used to go out with someone whose mother did that, it was infuriating and I constantly wanted to remind her that he was a grown up. Makes me so determined to make sure my son is brought up to be respectful and independent.

dats so pleased to hear about the kitchen and that is a excellent name, well worth waiting for!

I've done it this week. Two evenings with the baby upstairs and the monitor on in order to get him to actually stay asleep. Only shed a small quantity of tears on the first night (me), the boy doesn't seem to have noticed. Next challenge - he's growing out of his Moses basket, this is also making me slightly emotional

Thank you becks for the calpol info, jabs next Tuesday...

Blimey flossie I've never heard of that before! I bet you love going for dinner there ?!

ruby I tried leaving E to sleep upstairs with baby monitor on but I was up and down the stairs to check on him every 2 mins! I didn't intend to try this so soon but I put him in his cot while I had a wee and he fell fast asleep and I didn't have the heart to move him.

We are off to visit in laws soon and I'm gonna have to use a travel cot, do you think it's worth trying him out in it before we go? Or is that a bit pointless seeing as he's gonna have to sleep in it regardless?

Anna I'm having trouble putting E down again the last few days. He's currently asleep in my arms but I'm gonna attempt to put him down so I can eat. Wish me luck

OMFG.
DM has just ring me to say:

• She read an article in the paper about the role of grannies, and now she's not sure that she wants to be one.
• She thought I'd be sewing handmade clothes for H while he was asleep.
• Maybe I could sell some things on eBay for her while he has a nap (this would involve me doing a 3hr round trip to take photos of said items)

Oh, and, am I managing to get out and do anything? Because, you know, I'm not used to being a mother, I'm used to being at work.

Jeez.

Wow Ruby! That's a shocker! What on earth did you say in response?

So, if it weren't bad enough that it's the last day of our little holiday in the Isle of Wight, I've currently got sick on my top and sh!t on my skirt. Epic fail.

(PS neither of them are mine.)

What the hell ruby! What on earth has she read that makes her think she doesn't want to be a granny? Does she have previous for this bizarreness?

Managed to get lunch, wash up, sterilise bottles and clean the fridge before E woke up :) Just the hoovering and bathroom to tackle now before the in-laws visit tomorrow, phew.

Hope you had a good break away julfin and you come back feeling refreshed.

Thanks primary and anna. Not entirely sure what's going on there. Will wait it out a bit longer and see.

Yikes ruby. Any idea where that came from? The shop does refunds on babies right? Does she see much of you and ds?

Oh no! I hate the ends of holidays. Good work on the sick/poo combo julfin. I'm sure it'll catch on as a fashion statement soon. You're just ahead of the curve. Hope you've enjoyed the holiday.

Gosh sunday. I'm impressed by your productiveness!

To be fair tams yes, she does have previous! There's usually at least one strange comment in a conversation, she was just particularly on it today and I wasn't in the mood to see the funny side. And no, she doesn't see much of us... There's a lot of history there and not a great relationship can't imagine why
It's been a bit of a funny week with relatives (none of them live nearby) - DH told MIL (who is usually great) that it would be nice if they came to visit soon, and got told that it was difficult because of the dogs. Seriously, anyone got any parents that I can rent for a week or two?

sunday you deserve a medal for that. We bought a new Dyson at the weekend and it's still looking very shiny and dirt-free.

julfin I'm asking for that to happen, still haven't packed spare clothes for me in the change bag, so likely to be following that trend myself soon. Was the IOW lovely?

Ruby what a delightful conversation to have had I'm hoping that you're able to take those comments with a pinch of salt.