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July 2016 #2

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Bluebell20 · 19/08/2016 04:28

A new thread as we (hopefully) move towards longer sleeps and lovely little smiles!

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tams13 · 30/08/2016 10:10

I'm sorry you're feeling that way about your husband flossie. From what you've said it sounds like he just isn't thinking rather than being malicious about things. Could he have thought that he was helping you by not burdening you with more things when he didn't mention the nightmares (especially if he saw him calming your dd as the solution)? It might be worth talking to him if you can. I know I've found things harder after a bad night and am less forgiving of things. That's not to say that's what's going on with you though.

Rose is beautiful (as is Hallie). I can't get over the hair every time I see pictures!

dats · 30/08/2016 10:19

Morning lovelies, long time no post...been trying to keep up.

julfin great to see you back, are you feeling better now you've got support for the anxiety? How long do you think it'll be before you go home?

bluebs massive cuddle to you, wish I was nearer and could cheer you on in person. I could show you my shit, slippy latch and my favourite positions to maximise the searing pain of tennis elbow and how to angle your neck, just so, so you feel like you've been rear-ended (ooer) by an HGV while bent practically double trying to shove as much boobage past punchy little fists into tiny chops that close and turn away, just as you're in the perfect position. Honestly, despite bf DD until she was nearly 2, I feel like a total novice at times. Glad things seem a bit better today, see how you go -you'll work it out, whatever the solution. And that pain threshold stuff?? BAD DH! That's so patronising. Ignore!

Elliz I thought of you in IKEA (Idaho branch) when purchasing my spice drawer inserts. And again while alphabetising it. There are so many spices beginning with c. Seriously! About a quarter of my drawer! Who knew? #taxifordats

Cheery how are your nips? Any progress?

My kitchen is done, woo! Although not totes finished. And new oak floor. Walls half painted. Finding it all a bit frustrating getting things finally sorted but we'll get there. Health V coming at 12 for 6w review. And we registered the boy last week. So he now has a name... Joscelin Alexander, Joss for short.

Will try harder to keep up! Happy Tues, gorgeously sunny here today.

dats xx

sundaysunday · 30/08/2016 11:41

dats LOVE Joscelin for a boy. I'm a fan of historical fiction (guilty pleasure!) and the name reminds me of a dashing mediaeval knight in one of the books :)

Flossie I suspect tiredness is playing a massive part in how you feel about DH, but that doesn't excuse his behaviour. My DH has plenty of bad points but plenty of good points too. Does it help to think of the good things he does for you and the DC's?

We've had a chilled out weekend as we are busy for the next few. Various family members are back from holidays and wanting second visits to see E. Gaviscon seems to be helping the reflux so he's happier and less uncomfortable after feeds but it's made him a bit constipated so I'm trying to balance that out by giving 3 doses a day rather than 6. No proper smiles yet though :(

julfin · 30/08/2016 16:00

Dats do you live in Idaho?! Are you American?
Joscelin is a lovely name! And Jasper has middle name Alexander too 😊
Sorry you're still having difficulty with the BF too. I really think we should sue the MWs for false advertising.
Glad you've got your kitchen done - and oak floor sounds lovely, lucky you!
Yes I'm feeling much much better now thanks - have been fine for over two weeks. I've got lots of support, plus magic little pills 😐 which apparently I won't need to keep taking for too long. I've been seeing DH at weekends (either at home or at my folks') and will probably start building up time at home gradually. Not sure how well DH will cope...

Indians - I LOVE the BoJo picture!

6w 5d

dats · 30/08/2016 17:04

Actually it should be Iowa, it was a n inaccurate tribute to Ellizardo's IKEA/Iowa typo that made me laugh a few weeks ago Smile I'm in far less exotic Sussex! So glad you're feeling better. Do you know what it is that your DH is struggling with? I realise that's a simplistic question... I'm glad you have support from your parents but it's sad that you're not having these early weeks as the little family you envisioned Sad

Off to pick up DD from nursery. Better put some clothes on Joss and change out of my painty trousers with a massive hole in the massive arse!

BeauticianNotMagician81 · 30/08/2016 18:48

Sunday Monty-Beau has his jabs on 6th. Health visitor advised taking calpol with me to give him straight afterwards rather than waiting for symptoms to start.

Ruby ouch to your poor friend. Hoe much did her baby weigh?
We didn't dtd much during pregnancy. I've finally got my sex drive back Wink
M is just sleeping in a vest. I'm not doing very well with his fingernails though. He keeps waking up with a scratched face.

Sophie Sock and all the others formula feeding with a reflux baby. M has reflux. Gaviscon did nothing. We switched him to comfort milk. Tried aptamil comfort first but his poop was green. He's now on cow & gate comfort. His bottom stinks and he has a lot of wind and loose stools but that's normal on the milk. His reflux is so greatly improved that's it's worth it. He's like a new baby.
We tried the anti reflux milk but it's too thick and a right faff.

Cheery sorry to hear Mo hates the pram. M wasn't too keen either. However, he loves the Phil and Teds. He's in a cocoon at the moment which I will change to a sleeping bag. I think it's the swaying motion. He loves it so much I think I'm going to sell my pram and upgrade the Phil & Teds to one that can parent face.

Anna I love that bunting it's gorgeous. Grace looks really long she's so cute.

Indians gorgeous children. How do you look so fab already. I still look a blobby mess.

We don't get too much baby passing here. It's why I love that we moved a bit further out from in laws as they used to be around all the time. MIL likes to state the bloody obvious to me. Apparently my choice of toy hanging on the pram wasn't colourful enough so she took mine off and added one from the Playmat. I mean seriously it's like she has to pick fault at something. She was telling me about how to do something the other day it's so trivial I can't remember. I had had enough. So I said "oh don't worry you don't need to tell me. I've had four children you only had three."Oops Grin sorrynotsorry

Eliz I absolutely love Christmas and have started my shopping. In my defence ds1 has his birthday Christmas Eve so it takes mega organisation.

Flossie sorry your DH is being an arse. We had an argument here at the weekend. DH wanted to go out. I hadn't been up long and was getting myself ready. I had already suggested the previous evening that we visit the food fair where we live as there were rides and bouncy castles for the children. He said to me "do you fancy going for a walk now as we need bin liners and washing up liquid". I was said no I couldn't be bothered and would get them later. He got into a massive strop and took Teddy out to the shops with him. When he got back he refused to come to the fair with us. It was great we had a brilliant time. So much to do and the weather was beautiful. When I got back he wasn't talking to me. I'm not known to hold my tongue so I didn't. I told him he was acting like a spoilt little brat and so childish being in a mood because I didn't want to go out in his terms at a seconds notice for fucking bin liners. He said that me and the boys never want to do anything. Well that's when I seriously lost my shit. I reminded him that the past three family outings and many more before that are my idea. I also told him sorry if I want to plan family days out and your only suggestions are the pub or popping to the shop. That shut him up. Only start an argument you are going to win ladies.

Dats I'm super thrilled that you have a kitchen at last. Although I don't get to go in mine often other than to prepare the children's dinner and Ms bottles Hmm
I love his name it's awesome.

Need some advice on clothing. We have a Mothercare voucher to use. I sold certain sizes of Teddys so some things need to be bought for M. He currently weighs 13lb. That was his weight on Friday. Mothercare 0-3 is up to 14.5lbs. Would I be better to put him in 3-6 Shock. What size are all your babies in. He is a bit chunky but it's mostly his body length. His vests only just do up.

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beckslovestimmy · 30/08/2016 19:00

Hi Beaut I don't know how much Ben weighs. He was 11lb 5 oz at 6 weeks now he's 10 weeks I've just started putting him in some of his 3-6 months clothes. He's quite chunky but there is plenty of room in them. I don't think you'd get much wear out of 0-3 months.

With regard to poo, Ben's range from really dark grey/sludgy green through to bright yellow/mustard. I assumed this was all normal?

julfin · 30/08/2016 19:31

Becks - mustard yellow (with mustard seeds in) and green are certainly normal colours for poo. Not sure about dark grey.

Beaut - I agree with Becks you should skip straight to size 3-6. Even if they're a bit big now, it doesn't matter. Jasper had loads of floppy empty foot-space in his romper suits when he was newborn and it wasn't a problem. I guess it's only once they're walking that floppy arms and legs are problematic.
I love your retort about having 4 children - brilliant!
Sorry your DH is being an arse too. So many of us having issues in that respect 😕
I bought this cute little manicure set for jasper. Haven't used it yet - keep forgetting every time he's asleep!

Dats - he's basically struggling with the whole concept.

Flossiesmummy · 30/08/2016 20:00

Dats love the name!

We're also in the process of installing a new kitchen. Flooring (also oak) gone in today. This was how it looked yesterday.

Beaut Rose is in 3-6 for the most part as she's really long. They fit perfectly. 0-3 are getting a bit snug.

Thanks for all the support re DH. I'm feeling a lot better today. We also had a laugh together as he rolled over in his sleep and said to me in an X-factor booming voiceover style "my penis, my rules!" It was hilarious as he was talking in his sleep and had no recollection once I'd replied to him with a bemused "WHAT?"

It was bonkers. GrinGrin

julfin · 30/08/2016 21:29

Ha ha ha! My penis, my rules! I think you need to start a mn thread called "funny things you've heard someone say in their sleep"!

beckslovestimmy · 30/08/2016 21:43

Flossie my DH talks in his sleep. Mostly it's incomprehensible but once he rolled over started to try and feel up my fanjo and was saying 'I love your itchy fanny, I love your itchy fanny'!!! I think we were trying to conceive our first at the time so he had sex on the brain but why he thought my 'fanny' was itchy I have no idea!!!

Ellizardo · 30/08/2016 21:51

Dats - joscelyn is an awesome name and in need of a revival.

Glad Iowa is the joke gift that keeps on giving...and that you and I both belong to the dubious Anal Spice fan club! Having just written that I realise how awfully it reads but can't be bothered to delete it as I think you know what I was aiming for. With apologies to Geri, Mel B etc.

Health visitor here tmw to weigh Claudia. Excited!

Beaut - I use Mary berry's Xmas cake recipe and I love it. It's basically a bunch of raisins held together with brandy. Do you recommend one? I fear I wouldn't last 2 seconds in cake off let alone an argument with you! Glad you told your DH where to go...I'm not far off doing that myself sometimes!

Rose and Haillie are the hirsute ebony & ivory of the thread! Absolutely gorgeous!

julfin · 30/08/2016 21:54

Oh, here's the manicure set!

Sophiesausage · 31/08/2016 07:44

Beautician thank for that on the comfort milk- have docs appt today. Sophie struggles with number 2s as it is I think so was going to ask for something other than gaviscon but maybe we should try comfort first.

Floss you are definitely not the only one. Dh and I seem to have the same argument every night at around 3am when I wake up to find him lying down with sophie asleep on his chest. I say she should be in moses basket, he says what does it matter as long as she's asleep. He reckons he stayed awake with her there from 2-430 then put her in moses and she woke up- which was my fault. So then he has to feed her. Unsurprisingly she takes all 4oz but then won't settle so an hour later he does another bottle! She took none and settled eventually but just woke up now and she's soaked. Obviously been sick loads and that's why she wouldn't settle at first.

Don't know how many times I can have the same conversation in the daytime about her being in moses only for him to throw it out the window and do what he wants.he doesn't seem to realise that what he does in the night affects me and sophie the whole next day. She's only seven weeks but he seems to think she should be sleeping through!

I'm managing my anxiety really well I think given this, am taking kalms tablets as was hoping to avoid the anti depressants the doctor seemed quick to give. Health visitor coming this morning who seems to try to push me to say I'm sad or down when I'm not!

Totally agree when some people say partner is hindrance rather than help!

beckslovestimmy · 31/08/2016 09:13

Well we've been really lucky here. Ben's slept through for the last 3 nights. 9.30pm -7/7.30am!! Such a good boy!

Sorry to hear about all the partners being a pain/ thoughtless ect. DH was like this first time around. This time I haven't asked him to do much at all. I think he's done 2 nappies and a handful of bottles. He doesn't wash/sterilise/make up feeds either. He does do a lot of the chores and a lot with DD. This seems to work for us.

It's the last week of the school holidays here and DD is finally back to her lovely self. She's been a complete nightmare since Ben was born but hopefully we're coming out the other side now. I'm looking forward to having some time with just Ben. She's at preschool for 2.5 days a week.

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primarynoodle · 31/08/2016 09:51

Totally sympathise with the useless partners! And with partners who think organising a family day out is popping to the shop or for me to pay for Costa. I love him dearly but Jesus he drives me nuts sometimes!

We've had bottle regression again, really thought I'd cracked it with the size 2 teat but nope, apart from that one bottle we've had nothing. She will happily sit with it in her mouth but chuck the teat out so it collapses or just lie there spluttering on milk Hmm eventually this turns into crying for booby juice! Have tried defrosted, fridged and freshly squeezed (lol) but to no avail... Ho hum

Elliz and dats - I have bought some ikea spice racks for a Pinterest inspired book corner in the nursery, will post a photo when it's done! Hope the refurbs are coming along nicely!

primarynoodle · 31/08/2016 09:52

Oooooo I forgot. Wowcher have got a deal on newborn photo shoots plus prints for £9 if anyone is interested Smile

socktastic · 31/08/2016 15:03

For those of y using the comfort milk - did y switch straight to comfort milk or did you change gradually? We've been doing 3 scoops normal and 3 scoops comfort for about 5 days now and it was making suck a difference. More regular nappies, happier boy and looser poos (not that this part was a problem). Now we're back to crying and griping - it's been over 24 hours since the last poo. Had a very sore boy last night and this morning - he's been in his bucket a few times to see if it would help but it doesn't seem to have done much.
We're going to adjust the balance now and go to 4 scoops comfort and 2 normal but should I just go to all comfort?

BeauticianNotMagician81 · 31/08/2016 16:39

Sock I just put him straight on comfort. I wouldn't mix two milks together. Absolutely no problems with getting a burp up after a feed on the milk and his poops are loose but that's how they are on comfort milk.

AnnaT45 · 31/08/2016 19:28

Hey all,

I'm going to try catch up properly in the night Feed but .. eliz when did you introduce the bottle of formula? What time and how much do you give? Grace is so hungry I'm finding it exhausting, she also won't be a it down but that's another post lol! So I'm thinking of doing a bottle to fill her up at 10. Did it affect your milk for the rest of the day?

Ellizardo · 31/08/2016 21:52

Hey Anna! I introduced a bottle from around 7pm-10pm depending on her hunger and my ability to feed, really early on..certainly by week 2. Haven't had any problems with supply the following day. I'd try it once and see what you think..but it's been a lifesaver for me.

Primary - go Craft Spice! Sounds like a project. I bought a cheap n cheerful ladder shelving unit from Futon Co last week and erected it myself which I was quite chuffed by.

Ellizardo · 31/08/2016 21:54

Ps Anna - I use those 200ml pre made bottles and she'll take up to one a day. She likes Hipp Organic but also fine with cow & hate which our midwives use too

Sophiesausage · 31/08/2016 22:39

Been to doctors for amount Sophie is sick during and after feeds suspecting reflux. They suggested I'm over feeding and she is only bringing up what she doesn't want. I don't think this is right as she's sick at any point during feed not just after and will bring up part digested milk at any point between feeds. She's only 8lb 8 at 7 weeks 9th centile, doc suggested I drop from 4oz feeds to 3 1/2 a time. Feel like they totally didn't listen to me!!

Sock, beaut going to get comfort milk tomorrow to try.

Anyone have a very farty baby? Have to make sure I say loudly that it's her so no one thinks it's me!!

julfin · 31/08/2016 23:39

Sausage - Jasper is an outrageous farter. Loud and Proud, in the extreme. He had a nap this evening and must have done about 30 farts. Often his trapped wind causes him a lot of pain and he writhes around noisily, poor little thing. But this evening he didn't so much as flicker an eyelid. No shame whatsoever, that boy Wink