July 2016

[primarynoodle]

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Ruby I could have written your post last week - how old is he? Annie did this for 4-5 days then stopped. It was bizarre! RE: over feeding, I've wondered this too. Annie suckles all evening and whether I hold/rock or dp does or we put her in her rocker she roots and roots till she's on the boob again... No advice but glad it's not just me that finds this!

Sock I'm so jealous

primary also glad it's not just me either! Huey is 5 1/2 weeks, how old is Annie now? My other thought was that this gearing up to a 6wk growth spurt feeding marathon, will see what the weekend brings!

sock so simple but probably so true, I think I just automatically feed him because that's what I'm used to doing. Will try not feeding tonight,

I've also noticed that he's perfectly happy and not so hungry first thing in the morning, is this about the right age for babies to start going longer between feeds?

Good luck today bluebell - will be thinking of you x

Oh my primary and ruby - Maurice is the same!! He was feeding hourly last night and each feed was at least half an hour - shattered today! He's 5 weeks today so gearing up early for that growth spurt....crikey, is this going to last for the next week?!

In the last two hours I have had 15 minutes where Ruben hasn't been latched on. My nipples are on fire. And overnight I slept for 2.5 hrs, then 1 hr, then 50 mins, then 30 mins. Feeding for 30 -90 mins every time between. DH was sympathetic to begin with but then he said... Well, I won't post what he said because it was too unbelievable.

Men!!! (I never used to be someone who said that either!)

Thanks cookies - had a lovely few days with DH, he's got another long weekend coming up, makes such a difference. I have to say I'm losing sympathy for him sleeping through night since I don't get a break all day with my greedy little monster. If DH has time off he's much more helpful!

Oh bluebell we're in synch! I sent DH to other room as he was annoying me so much and at least then I could have the radio on and not listen to him snoring away while I was feeding AGAIN!!! Just bought some multi mam compresses from Amazon for shredded nips - can't recommend enough! Also apparently coconut oil (cold pressed) prevents against thrush, mastitis and cracking so ordered that too!

Ahhhhh I see that everyone else is having the same constant feeding nightmare! Ruben is 5 weeks 2 days.

It is SO GOOD to know I'm not alone in this weird world of having a tiny human face permanently affixed to your boob.

Although obvs I have huge sympathy for your brutalised nipples, sisters!

anna I'm with you on the sling! I've hired one from a sling library - it's amazing! Doesn't work when he's hungry alas which over last day or so is all the time! Glad sleep is better too.

Thanks bluebell - a moments silence for our poor nips please

Oo thanks cheery; I shall order the compresses forthwith! I actually took painkillers yesterday because the nips hurt so much. Do you have to wipe the coconut oil off or make sure it is totally absorbed before the babe feeds? I am lanolining like crazy at the moment. Little man ends up with a greasy chin every time he feeds, poor boy.

And sorry your DH is also being annoying!!!!

To be fair mine has taken the day off work, partly to support me at hosp, and I can currently hear him cleaning up downstairs (again), so he's not an actual dick or anything but oh my god he needs to learn not to push my buttons when R is screaming and when I haven't slept well!!!!

Ah bluebell my DH is lovely really! It's just men don't seem to cope with the lack of sleep so well and they're not even having boobs mauled on an hourly basis! My patience is at zero. Really glad your DH is going with you today - you need that x.

Apparently as long your baby isn't allergic (I'm assuming this would come up putting it on skin which we have after nappy changing) it's fine. This is from a breast feeding councillor who seemed great. I'm going to try it as last thing I want is thrush! Also she said to air nips as much as poss.

P.s. I've been taking painkillers once a day anyway - paracetamol is fine I've read when bf as is ibuprofen - don't suffer!!

So... Maybe I found one answer to the sick question... There is literally a RIVER of milk coming from my left boob - I thought they were supposed to have sorted themselves out by now?!

In other news, desperate times = desperate measures: Have just had to brave bfing in a very public park and realised that am in full view of a lot of youth, and a man doing whatever it is people do with laughing gas, who is looking right at me. Now feel like am an accidental pop-up comedy act.
And on a day when I've already been puked AND poo'd on.

#joysofmotherhood

Ruby a river of milk is totally normal. I had rivers all the way through with Dd1 (14 months) and have now too.
I currently have a very wet shirt and arm due to Rose getting distracted mid-feed

Ruby I had to breastfeed at the bus stop the other day. Madam wouldn't wait! This giving birth/breastfeeding lark has cured me of my previous prudishness..

Annie has been asleep pretty much all day....... Is this normal? She's 6 weeks now. She wakes up to feed then promptly falls asleep again!

Hi all, hope everyone is well.

Well 3 weeks has gone by and all going well. I think baby is going through a growth spurt - literally wanting to feed every 2 hours taking 3oz - anyone experiencing this? Up until now she would be 3/4 hours before feeds.

Have mil staying and I'm fed up having to explain why I'm doing things the way I do - I honestly wish we didn't have guests staying (in laws live away from us) - everyone wants to help which is basically holding the baby!!!! At one point today I was doing washing, cleaning floors while she held and fed baby and I wanted to scream why do people think helping is doing that - why can't they do the washing up/cook meals.

Obviously can't say anything and tried speaking to hubby but he doesn't get it/ I had a baby 3 weeks ago I honestly can't be bothered entertaining his family. On that note I better go sort dinner!!!!!!

Wow rosegold you're way more patient than I would be! Can your DH say something to them, and ask them to do some of the meal prep and cleaning? It's really unfair of them to expect you to run around after them - you should be resting and holding the baby, not them. How long have you got left for them to stay? Can the HV be roped in to tell them that you need to sit down with the baby?

Good advice speaknowords - I'm going to try and speak to hubby (really difficult when mil is here) I've been feeling great and I think he thinks I'm back to normal - so sees no problem with meal cooking constant chatting to his mum while he's working!

There here until Monday. Since she got here baby has become unsettled with the 2hr feeds - I'm happy to just listen to baby and take it from there but she's obsessed with her being winded and as soon as baby makes noise she starts trying to wind her! I said a minute ago - babies do just cry it's not always wind! Ahhhh I need to break out of the house. It's a bit much.

I'm not doing the dished in hoping baby stays unsettled so I can take her upstairs ( did this earlier and mil was up 3 times)

Quick question! Are people still waking baby up for night feeds? Mo 5 weeks old and not a big sleeper - thinking he might be better left to sleep!!! Waking every 4 hrs to feed -mostly waking on his own but sometimes so fast asleep seems mean, to both of us, to wake him.

Cheery definitely stop waking him. Get the sleep whilst you can. I stopped waking Ben after about 3 days!!! As long as they are gaining weight fine no need to wake them. You'll find they will feed more in the day to compensate.

Cheery I asked the health visitor exactly that and she said as long as there are no weight issues he can go as long as six hours - she did suggest waking if he went longer than six.

Ruby what an image you have given me! Poor thing - not ideal setting for a feed!

rosegold definitely ask your husband to have a word! I actually quite like visitors holding the baby so that I can get on and do stuff, but your mil should be doing what works best for you!

Had a successful hospital visit today people. Baby was good as gold with my friend, and the lump was deemed a-OK. It seems to be accessory breast tissue that has become swollen and firm because of my milk. Very good to hear that from people who prod lumps all day long. So I guess it's a keeper till I stop feeding!

And bonus - they were (unprompted) hugely sympathetic about the state of my nipples in front of DH, and instructed me to get nipple shields asap. We got them on the way home and OH GOD they help a lot. Cheery if you haven't tried them already I seriously suggest you give them a go. Ruben had no trouble latching on with them. I don't think you are supposed to use them permanently as they can reduce your milk supply (or so I hear? Happy to be corrected) but for a few days to let your nipples heal... Bliss.

Great news bluebell, that must be such a weight off your mind, well done for being so persistent and getting seen. Yay for nipple relief too!

Thanks becks and bluebell - if Maurice gets out of his current hourly feeding pattern I shall leave him to sleep!

bluebell - alas nipple shields didnt really help us as Mo hated them and couldn't seem to latch on. They are ace if they work though. Fantastic news on the lump too - hope that's put your mind at rest x

Ah blue that's amazing news!! You must be so relieved? Good you got the advice on the Shields too!

rose that's not on at all. You should be resting not entertaining. I would get DH to have a word. Can you meet w friend for coffee/lunch and take baby with you? I had my MIL over today. She did some washing up and then played with DD1 and took my ironing. That's the kind of help we need!

ruby, primary ha ha! I also fed at the park on Tuesday whilst pushing DD1 in swing. I then had breastfeed whilst walking home, pushing a double buggy in the heat. It was killer but that were both kicking off! You def lower your standards when you've had a baby. I'm forever walking around with my bra on display at home

cheery I agree with Becks. They let us know when they're hungry so try not to worry. That's fab you're getting long stretches now. I'm counting down till that.

indians I'm obsessed with Hallie's hair! It's incredible! She's is so gorgeous too.

DH went back to work today and I survived! Cheated as had mil and sister over but when they weren't here I managed to get us all to nap together and I had an hour and a shower! Plus I did bath and bedtime on my own and then whipped up a fish pie and blitzed the kitchen. DH was super impressed when he got home, I know it was a lucky day but I took it!

Oh my word Anna; you are SuperMum! (And now I feel massively inadequate as I congratulate myself every time I manage to clean my teeth!)

Cheery my initial nipple shield excitement has abated a bit, as Ru didn't latch properly just now and although I pulled him off quite quickly, the shield tip was full of bright red blood-slash-milk. Pretty grim. I then panicked for much of the rest of the feed about whether or not he was latched on right! And the shield seems to make the feeds shorter. I think I'm going to have to get some professional help with this.

In other news, I woke up an hour ago in an actual puddle of milk. Bra and sheets (and probably mattress) soaked. Nice.