July 2016

[primarynoodle]

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So we can keep in touch and pass on words of wisdom!

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Sock sorry you're feeling low, it's worth talking to your HV but I think you could well be right that you just need a break at some point during the day to recharge your batteries. If your DH was to step up I'm sure you'd feel better for it, could he not help out in the evening so you could get some sleep and then you take over for the night feeds? As others have said the first baby is such a massive shock, it really does turn your life upside down and I think everyone at some point thinks 'what the hell have I done' but it will get better... You really need DH on board to help you through it though so I hope you can get this across to him without him being a knob.

Indians my DH has also made reference to me being fortunate that I'm at home and can rest in the day...yeah right! I was throwing up all last night so DH has had to stay home to look after the kids...I'm quietly confident there will be no napping for him though so hopefully he'll think twice before throwing that one in again DS1 had reflux and was massively sicky, he'd projectile vomit across the room and would permanently be drooling sicky milk. GP prescribed gaviscon powder to add to his milk but to be fair he never seemed unhappy with it and always gained weight well..it was just a bit of a nightmare with all the additional washing and the funny looks when I fed him out anywhere!

I plan on properly having it out with him and telling him what I expect. Hopefully if I give him a to do lost, he'll realise exactly what I do all day too!
Apparently you never nap on commuter public transport. Who knew?
I'm in Fife indians, just across the water from Edinburgh. There are some baby groups in the town I live in but in yet to suss them out properly. Book bugs tomorrow.

I've met a couple of new mums who live really close to me too so I'm hoping to get to know them better too. We moved here nearly 2 years ago from Aberdeen and I still don't really know many people. I have people from work I'm friendly with but no one I could text asking if they fancied a coffee.

What baby groups are people going to? I'm loving Baby Sensory. Keeps Adam transfixed the whole way through!

sock it's definitely worth talking to someone - anybody you feel could help you work things over in your mind too. Sounds like your dh really needs to step up though. Is there anything in particular which is making you feel low or worse? I've been lucky that dh has been a huge help but found that feeding was a complete nightmare with everybody becoming stressed and ending up in tears. After making the decision to feed formula and expressed milk everyone is happy and content.

I've got a sicky baby too indians. Midwife told us to up feeds to 120ml at a time but most of it comes straight back up indigested. How much are/were other people's 12/13 day old babies having at each feed?

HV told me 120mls around that time too but he just can't manage that amount in one go! He would take it over an hour/hour and a half or so. I was speaking with the doctor this morning and he said that X amount every X hours is really old fashioned and outdated. Instead, just give baby what he needs. I tend to stop Adam every so often for burping then if he's still wanting more I'll give him more or if he's not bothered then that's fine.
There's no way little tummies can really go for 4 hours between feeds! I'd be getting screamed at for 2 hours constantly if that was the case!

Sock sounds like your husband is being a prize douche. If you took away his douchebaggery and got some respite/sleep do you think your sadness/anger would go away? For me with my firstborn, the answer was 100% yes. Unfortunately, my DH continued to be a dick. Echoing PPs in that if you think for a second you might have PND, please do seek help. There is a difference between being sad and angry at your DH and through lack of sleep and being intrinsically sad and angry though. I'm sending a virtual kick up the arse - please give it to him and tell him I sent it

tams HV told me to base it on weight not age and offer nearest lb in weight halved - eg Huey weighs 8lb 6, so to offer 4oz (approx 120ml) - but same as sock, it takes him quite a while to get through that, and generally he only manages 90/100ml of expressed milk.

Ruby that makes sense as the milk I expressed in the early days was consumed way faster than that by my Dd but she was 9lb 10oz at birth.

I think if I was better rested I'd be in a better mood. He's wondering why I'm not speaking to him now! Working from home, he was extolling the virtues of being able to stop at 5pm. Well he's still working now because the baby's sleeping. Yep, he is. I'm bloody not though!

Thanks for the feeding advice. Dd will guzzle whatever is there in about 5 mins flat! She doesn't seem to believe in taking it slow or having a break and doesn't let you take the bottle out of her mouth until it's empty. She just brings the milk straight back up though. Based on your half the weight calculations we should be on 3-4oz anyway.

Hey guys,

How are you all? Checking in properly for the thread. Got home this afternoon and feeling ok just in pain and sleepy. DD 2 (still can't believe I got another girl!) is so good though. I really can't complain at all. Milk is in today thank goodness as she fed so much last night that my nipples were in agony!

Hope you're all doing well and will keep up with the thread as best possible.

Oh and we have name.. Grace! Here she is looking 2 rather than 2 days old lol x

Opps... With pic this time!

Anna she's gorgeous. Glad your home.

anna - congratulations, what a beautiful baby girl & a lovely name. how are you settling in to the new house?
sock - I am sorry that your OH is being a complete arse. I think that a lot of partners feel that working is a lot harder than staying in with the baby all day. I have said to my OH tonight that I just want to have a 30 mins on my own this weekend, I love spending time with the baby but just want a bit of me time.
All the pictures are fantastic, keep them coming.
We have a sickie / windy baby. Would baby recommend the mam anti colic bottles or Dr Brown?

Anna she's GORGEOUS and does indeed look a bit like she's been around a few months! Grace suits her - and you - perfectly, so happy for you. xx

Not too much sick going on this time with the boy but DD was very sicky. We got infant Gaviscon prescribed at 6w check but she wouldn't take a bottle so it was impossible to get it in her. She sicked up most of almost every feed, trying to get ready to go out was a nightmare. Feed, change nappy, dress, puke, change clothes (and mine) and I was so inept that by the time I'd gone through all that, it was time for another feed! She was miserable laying down. I remember at the post natal group, all the other babies gurgling happily on their backs but she hated it. The only time she lay there looking vaguely chipper, she turned her head sideways and threw up on the baby next to her

But! It does get better! On its own! Just seems to take ages. I found regular burping helped, like every 5 mins. And keeping her upright for ages after a feed. Which isn't practical at night, I know.

Does anyone else have a farting baby? Adam definitely uncomfortable, he's straining, going totally rigid, grunting and turning red for periods of time. He farts then it's better for a wee while but starts up again. Seems like he's in pain when it happens.

I have one of those sock.
Grunting squirming crying and going red. Even when he's pooing even though poo is soft. I hope he'll get used to the sensation too.

Those who have had a tongue tie snip - did it affect your baby after? She was so unsettled last night it was like a different child! And was on and off the boob every 5 minutes for hours. Don't know what to do - she's still doing it now!

I hate that he seems to be so sore and uncomfy and there's nothing I can do to help him

Primary - I think Dd is less windy and less hiccupy after TT snip x

Sock I felt really miserable last night because of relentless stuff to do and that's with OH helping because I was so tired, I had a marvellous sleep last night and literally feel like a new person today. Don't underestimate lack of sleep making you feel unhappy! Your OH should be helping you and giving you a break as he can see you are in desperate need of one xxx big hugs xx

Sock definitely go speak to your gp. I did on Tuesday and they think I have pnd. Going again on Tuesday for gp to decide if going on medication. Midwife told me that you usually dip lower when first on tablets so to relieve some of the pressure I'm moving Sophie over to formula so that others can help me.

Dh not improved he stayed at work til 5 all week despite previously being home at 3, and on Monday and Wednesday played football 6-9,and asked if could play yesterday too! Err no.

My mom is being amazing coming round whenever I want. I've also spoken to mil as dh was keeping her in the dark with how I was feeling so hopefully more support there.

Bottle feeding question-what do people take out with them? Ready made carton? Flask and powder? Help!

Does anyone else feel like nhs advice is to curl up at home, permanently attach baby to boob, never go out?! And if bottle feeding making each feed fresh isn't feasible is it!?

sophie it depends how long I'm out for. If I know he'll need fed within 2 hours I'll make a bottle before I leave and put it in the milk warmer bag thing. If longer I put boiling water in the bottle, put that in the thermos bag and take a pot of powder. If it's too cold I'll ask a cafe/restaurant for some instead. Beauty is that because it was just boiling water in the bottle, it's still sterile! I'm also always armed with the ready made bottles. What formula will you be using? Are you going to transition over gradually?

Dh was better last night and took a turn with the baby so I got almost a whole 4 hours sleep. Adams not quite himself today so I'm glad I'm better rested. I've got my 8 week check in a fortnight so will speak to the doc then. See how I'm feeling by that point too. I feel bad about making dh sound like an utter dick. He's a lovely guy - just fucking clueless!

Yes sock just one bottle a day for last three days, will maybe up to two on Sunday. She's taking ages to feed. Currently been on boob for an hour! Am using sma formula. Do you take out the ready made formulas that have teat included or extra sterile bottle to pop in?

Do you make bottles up in advance during the day? X

sophie - I am lazy so using the ready made formula. I take one bottle with formula in it - last for two hours in a insulated pocket. Then I take an extra bottle or two and an unopened small bottle of formula (200 ml). It seems to work, except for yesterday when I only popped to sainsburys for 20 mins, didn't bring anything and Emmie had a major meltdown!!
Added a pick of my little blueberry!