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November 2014 - the one where they answer back.

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Annarose2014 · 22/09/2016 10:54

Half star childcare has been a worry. But we have a few people lined up who thankfully are taking it super seriously. One friend has an overnight bag packed by the door! But am thinking maybe induction next Wednesday might be most convenient after all as I have to go in at 8am to Admissions and then DH can drop DS to crèche at 8.30/9 and follow me in, and we can leave him in a bit longer that day. If I'm lucky the baby will be born by the evening and DH can put him to bed!

The sweep was a nasty reminder of what's ahead. I swear I was seeing stars. Stars that were BURSTING WITH PAIN! Confused

Success at crèche handover this morning. I basically brain washed him all the way there with inane chatter "Oh you'll have so much fun! With cars and tractors and fire engines and helicopters and Ryan and Rachel and jigsaws and....." etc etc. So by the time we arrived I was still babbling all this without having paused for breath and he was all amped up and excited "CAR! TAC-TA!" and he positively ran into the room, ignored all the other children and pulled out every car on the shelf. And I left.

So there you go! Brainwashing works! Grin

moggle · 22/09/2016 14:54

Brilliant Anna!!! Now there definitely isn't time for another phase before the baby comes, so you're all set!! Hmm

Arkkorox · 22/09/2016 15:04

So im now a single parent.

Isn't that wonderful.

What the fuck am I going to do.

moggle · 22/09/2016 15:32

Ark? What has happened? I was thinking about you the other day as you hadn't been on here in ages.
Everything is going to be OK. It may be shit but it will eventually be OK. Please unload on us if you want to, we're here to listen. Big hugs. xxx

Arkkorox · 22/09/2016 15:35

He ended it. I have apparently not changed enough for his liking, God knows what I was supposed to be as I had done my best to fix whatever I thought I was doing wrong.

We're being civil but it hurts and im so sad

moggle · 22/09/2016 15:54

Oh Ark I'm so sorry. What did he want from you?! You guys had such a rocky start to parenthood and then with his Dad dying (if I remember correctly)... you've been through a lot, and it sounded like you put up with a lot from him, I am so sorry it hasn't worked out. Is he still seeing DD plenty? Has he moved back in with his mum?

Strawberryfield12 · 22/09/2016 16:12

Ark sorry to hear the crap what has fallen on top of you.... When the other half wants you to change it's guarantied not to be enough whatever you do because the problem generally isnt in you but him/her. As bad as it sounds in long term it might be for your good. You will meet a person who will accept you as you are, won't expect you to pretend to be someone else and you will be surprised how easy it can be to be in relationship with another person. Once you get over the shock you might even find it easier in some ways - there will not be pressure of pleasing him anymore, behaving well. Depending on how much he was helping you, it might be more difficult dealing with everyday things, but humans tend to get used to all sorts of hardship.
Look after yourself Brew

eastmidswarwicknightnanny · 22/09/2016 19:06

Oh ark sorry to hear that

Happy I still bf I bf ds1 til 23mths and ds2 will still be offered til 2yrs its literally a bedtime feed and ii actually like the time to sit feed n mumsnet after a day of work but agree when Ill its not fun.

haventgotaclue1 · 22/09/2016 19:32

Oh Ark I'm really sorry to hear that. This probably doesn't help you much at the moment, but I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and it will work out for the best in the end. Flowers

Half, thanks for asking Smile - feeling a lot better over the last week or so - felt quite nauseous up until then.

Didn't really get it when people said holidays aren't very relaxing when you have a toddler / child....definitely get it now! But we're having a good time - think DD's going to go home more exhausted than when we arrived due to the short naps in the car when we're going from place to place, rather than a 2hr nap in her cot bed / mat at nursery.

porsmork · 22/09/2016 20:56

Oh Ark, I'm sorry to hear that, been wondering about you. Logistically, there will be challenges, but once the rawness has passed, you'll be so much better emotionally. How is your dd, and do you have help in rl?

Ds has been so off today. Lots of tears, clingy mess, shouty. So totally unlike his usual calm, happy self. Bedtimes are a nightmare. He's either getting a bug, or just feeling very insecure. He screamed if either of us went out his sight. We're all a bit she'll shocked, and nursery again tomorrow...

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MrsAukerman · 23/09/2016 16:59

Sorry to hear your news ark

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Annarose2014 · 24/09/2016 08:36

Lol at how much all newborns look the same!

Can't wait to see how DS reacts when I get home later!

November 2014 - the one where they answer back.
Annarose2014 · 24/09/2016 08:36

Oh...it's a girl btw!

Strawberryfield12 · 24/09/2016 08:59

Ah, congratulations Anna! She's so lovely! Hope everything went all right and you feel good, as much as possible anyway Smile. Is it a time for a large glass of vino and all the blacklist food?

HalfStar · 24/09/2016 10:06

She is gorgeous! Oh wow congrats to you all! Yay SmileFlowers

Tell us all the gory details when you get half a second.

porsmork · 24/09/2016 11:04

Oh, Anna, she's gorgeous! Congratulations!

Hope everything went well, and you're enjoying lots and lots of milky cuddles, do spill the details when you have a chance!

Xxx

porsmork · 24/09/2016 11:05

Oh, Anna, she's gorgeous! Congratulations!

Hope everything went well. Well done! X

annatha · 24/09/2016 11:13

Congratulations Anna!

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MrsAukerman · 24/09/2016 13:22

Congratulationsanna!

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eastmidswarwicknightnanny · 24/09/2016 18:55

Congratulations anna :)

haventgotaclue1 · 24/09/2016 19:44

Oh how exciting! Grin. Very many congratulations Anna, she's beautiful! Hope you're all doing well Smile

Annarose2014 · 25/09/2016 12:22

I am shattered and blood pressure v low and iron in my boots but am at home with lots of support from community midwives under a scheme here so am well supported.

This is SURREAL. Deja vu every minute from DS. I didn't realise how long ago it would seem, I've forgotten so much! (My poor nipples had definitely forgotten it all, lol)

DS is great, so far the small age gap seems to be working as he doesn't mind a bit a baby being in the room as long as he is getting lots of cuddles and attention and being a bit babied himself.

Which is easy as unfortunately he has had vomiting since Friday, so is a bit pale and wan himself. He is still vomiting this morning. A bit of diarrhoea too. I guess as long as he's keeping down a little bit he's ok? He kept down some yogurt this morning and seems ok really so I guess its just a tummy bug. When do you have to consider the doctor with these things? Believe it or not, he's never had a D+V bug before, even with all his crèche sickness, so this is a bit new for us.

HalfStar · 25/09/2016 14:32

Ahhh no Anna that's all you need...Really he should be OK as long as keeping down a little fluid at regular intervals, the worst should be over after 24 hours. How is DD?

Annarose2014 · 25/09/2016 14:54

Oh she's fine! Milk hasn't come in or anything yet so feeding 24/7 but I don't mind that too much.

DS is very pale and quiet and still has had nothing today since that yogurt. We tried to get him to eat something at lunchtime and he took one bite and has held it in his mouth ever since! Well I think it's disintegrated now... hopefully. So strange!

haventgotaclue1 · 25/09/2016 20:37

Oh no Anna Sad, hope DS perks up soon - glad DD is doing well Smile

Ark how are you doing?

Ladydolly? Are you still out there? Haven't heard from you for what seems like aaaaaaaages - hope you're ok