November 2014 - the one where they answer back.

[MrsAukerman]

New thread.
Hop aboard.

[MrsAukerman]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2888805-November-2014-the-one-where-they-test-boundaries?watched=1

[Annarose2014]

Definitely the one with the threenagers!

I got the best present of all: a Boots voucher! Only 20 quid as we don't have a lot of spare cash at the moment but I'm delighted. DH said "I know it's your happy place" He told me to get 20 lipsticks - bless him, this is clearly not his area!

It's been the first day this year that we can spend in the garden (Atlantic coast, it sucks) and DS has gotten way too overexcited, spending literally he entire day in the garden and no nap. Hes good at playing alone so he would intermittently come on and drag us.out but we can usually slip away after a few minutes and just keep an eye from the kitchen window.

At one stage DS was pottering about and I had DD in her little baby recliner in the shade with her wee hat on, and myself and DH were having tea and eating cake inside! Only for a few minutes, but it was glorious. A sign of things to come we hope!

[Strawberryfield12]

I think with the new thread we will go through them turning 3. What do they do at that age apart from being threenagers? Looking at the current thread name, they are definitely answering back, even if that's an awful lot of "No".

[MrsAukerman]

Gonna start a new thread.
Any name suggestions?

[MrsAukerman]

3 pieces of art / homemade cards, daffs and being waited on all day. Lovely.
DS napping then we'll all go out for nibbly bits and beer.
Feeling very loved.

[Strawberryfield12]

Been ok wake up here as well. Been given a massive box from hotel chocolat, DH managed to get DD bring it over to me and give me a hug and kiss. Considering how much chocolate I have eaten recently... not helpful, I will end up diabetic.

[ladydolly]

Dd has been getting up between 5 and 5.30 for the last week so this kind of resets us

6.40 wake up. I waited for breakfast in bed that never came then headed downstairs for my card and box of goodies (soap, candles, seeds for my allotment). I am so middle aged.

[happypotamus]

Sigh, one less hour until morning, my horrible child has only just gone to sleep, can't lie in tomorrow (even if DH would get up) because I have to get DDs ready for church and have time to appreciate the cards they have made. I have already seen DD2's card she made at nursery as they gave it to me when I picked her up on Wednesday, but DD1 has not let me look in her school bag all week.

[Annarose2014]

Oh god, hair washing is a no-go here for the last three weeks, ugh. And he has always had dry scalp which is a pain. I've just bought some spray leave in conditioner to try to loosen it up to brush it out and moisten the scalp cos obviously olive or coconut oil is out if you can't wash it out. It might just leave it just as mucky though, who knows.

[happypotamus]

The missing 'don't' also explains why everyday when I say "time to go upstairs for a bath " she says "wash my hair" very forcefully. She absolutely hates having her hair washed so it doesn't make sense that she should appear to ask for it. Now I understand!

[ladydolly]

Great news happy hope whatever it is can be sorted quickly.

We also had the missing 'don't' and never did find there was an emphasis. I had to just wait for her to get angry when I got it wrong it lasted a couple of months but believe me, she is VERY clear when says 'don't' now!!!

I'm having a very stressful work day, I can't put my finger on it but have zero patience with anyone or anything... maybe I'm hangry.

[happypotamus]

I have discovered that when DD says, for example, "want my coat," what she actually means is I don't want my coat. That is confusing and frustrating. I am trying to work out whether there is a different tone or emphasis on "want" depending on whether she does or does not want something.

[Strawberryfield12]

Phew Happy! Treat yourself some how after that bastarding day!

[Annarose2014]

Oh thank God! I was so worried about you!

Could it be diverticulitis? That can cause a lot of scary symptoms.

DS has brought home an embarrassing amount of stuff from Nursery too. He also still wears the popper vests to hold in the nappy - and he still wears sleepsuit on occasion just cos we have some 2-3 year ones it seems stupid to waste. But have to admit pyjamas are much easier so it's about 50/50 now and if anything needs replacing it'll be with Big Boy stuff from now on.

[happypotamus]

DH does not have cancer. Yesterday all seems like a bit of a nightmare now that I am waking up from. Thank you very much for all your support in the nightmare. We don't know what is wrong with him as he still has the symptons that led to him being referred for the colonoscopy, but at least they have ruled out the most worrying possibility.

For light-hearted relief, DD stole a mobile phone from nursery yesterday! When we got home we found it down the inside of her vest (she still wears the baby vests with poppers at the bottom), but, fortunately, it was a very old and unused one that they have for the children to play with.

[Strawberryfield12]

That's the whole point of Mumsnet Happy, parents supporting each other, talk about it as much as you want and need. We are here.
Didn't realise you weren't driving the girls this morning. Like Ladydolly said you are a real trooper doing all the moves today. Depends on the personality of DH, but he might even prefer to be there on his own, focus on himself and not to think about you sat outside waiting for him. And he might want to have a moment to himself after everything whatever the news. Your resolution to keep it "business as usual" for the girls is amazing, you are a proper rock for your family.

[ladydolly]

Keep stopping by then happy, there'll always be someone here. DP had this a few years ago, they were able at this point to tell him he had polyps but it was a week or so before he found out they weren't anything to worry about so hoping it's the same for you. You're a flipping trooper, for all the buses and walking and 2 kid transporting without a car. Can you pick up some wine of chocolate (or whatever your indulgence is) for later? You'll have earned it.

[happypotamus]

Well, yes, hopefully this will all turn out to be a check-up that shows nothing very interesting and we will breathe a sigh of relief this evening, much like last year when DH thought DD2 had retinoblastoma (sometimes I feel like my life lurches from one crisis to the next).
Meeting DH at the hospital won't be possible, as I have to get DD1 to an after-school activity as well (aiming to keep things normal for them so they don't think there is any reason to worry). As I don't drive, I have to leave here at 3pm to walk and get the bus to nursery to leave there at 3.45, cross my fingers and hope that we can get the 2 buses and walk between them in time to get to school for 4.30, which should be enough time to get DD1 to her activity at 5, then DD2 and I go home and wait 40mins until time to collect DD1 and get back home just before 7pm. DH's appointment is 3.20pm and the letter said it could take 1-3hrs. Today I really regret not being able to drive.

I didn't put DD to bed in her clothes although the leggings and top that I grabbed out of the drawer this morning did look very similar to the pyjamas she had just taken off. She helpfully chose last night for a return to waking up in the middle of the night for no apparent reason and staying awake for over 2hrs so she and I are very tired after our early start.

Sorry if there are multiple posts from me today on this. No one knows about this appointment except DH and I, and I don't actually have any friends to talk to in real life.

[Strawberryfield12]

Oh god, Happy! Hope it turns out a bad scare and you can both take a deep breath and forget about it. I do hope you had DD2 sleeping in her clothes last night. I would absolutely do everything to make my day easier.
Could it work if you pick DDs up and go straight to hospital to avoid DH being on his own there?

[happypotamus]

anna thanks. I don't actually know when he gets the results and I have read all the information he has been given about the procedure. I think they will tell him today what they have seen, but, if they take samples that need further testing, there will be a wait for the results. It seems a bit rubbish though that, if they see something that is obviously cancer, they tell him that while he is there on his own (I can't be there as it is at the time DDs need picking up from nursery and school), then, presumably, send him home to wait however long it takes to get an appointment with an oncologist to find out what happens next.

It was a 2hr round trip in the pouring rain, including actual running!, to get DDs to breakfast club at school and to nursery on time. I am now drinking hot chocolate in my pyjamas to recover.

[Annarose2014]

oMG good luck with the colonoscopy. When does he get the result?

[happypotamus]

AIBU to put DD to bed tonight already dressed for nursery?!!
DH is having a colonoscopy tomorrow to see if he has bowel cancer (fuck!!), which means he will be out of action from this afternoon until tomorrow night so I will be doing school and nursery runs on the bus. Getting both DDs ready and out of the house is a nightmare, and DD2 has now decided that she will put all her clothes on by herself so I either let her spend ages trying until she concedes that she actually can't and lets me help or don't let her because there isn't time and fight to put them on while she screams about it. It would be so much easier if I didn't have to get her dressed!

eastmids our nursery and after-school club are ridiculously expensive, especially after-school club as DD1 is only there for just over a hour. They nearly doubled the price last summer, but I suppose they know that a lot of parents have to work and rely on the club so can charge what they want.

Right, I'm going to find things to distract myself from thinking about the possible results of DH's appointment tomorrow.

[eastmidswarwicknightnanny]

Well just had an email nursery fees go up again on 1st May nice 4% increase so now £50/day plus we have ds1 after school childminder we on!y said the other day one more year of £1k a mths childcare bills as will get 3yr funding so reduce it a tad, its bloody hard when they whack an increase at you - I know can move them but when settled its not so easy

[MrsAukerman]

Favourite mispronounciation here is definitely "red tank angle" for rectangle. So a green rectangle is a green red tank angle.
"Slamly flablet" means family tablet (ie, definitely not his but ours.

[Annarose2014]

I find myself pointing out Butterflies just because the way he pronounces them WuffaWye makes my heart melt.

Earlier today I met my friend who was wearing a top with Butterflies on and I said "Oh DS would love that....(pause)...he calls them WuffaWyes you know!" She was like "......Ok....." and I realised not everyone is as enraptured by these things!

And I take special pride in being the only one in the world, including DH, who knows when DS is referring to Fire Engines. Cos he says it DjinnDjinnDjinn which sounds like gibberish. But it's not!

It is a lovely stage though, despite the Moments of Madness they exhibit on occasion. He went from being 18 months old and being so obsessed with Daddy that I felt invisible and miserable, to now hopping up on the armchair beside me and pressing his little hands on both my cheeks and grinning straight into my eyes. Sometimes he squeals in delight at being able to just hold my face and will turn back to the TV and continue watching the dreaded Justin's House or whatever with his hands still cupping my cheeks. My heart almost bursts!