March 2016 Babies Thread #11 - We've got smiley babies, screaming babies and farty babies!

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This time last year....my nephew was days away from being born, I was planning a wedding and looking forward to that holiday.....little did I know that I would fly home with a little souvenir

Another one not having sex here. Can't face it after episiotomy and tear, not to mention the fact my cervix is trying to make an escape (apparently 2 hours of pushing can have that effect) Way TMI sorry!

I'm planning to do blw, I'm sure I'll go mad with the mess but at least everything in the kitchen is wipe clean!

We did BLW with DS1. He still went through an incredibly fussy stage and still won't eat 'normal' family meals.

We've got the BLW book somewhere. I think this time we're going to do a bit more of a mixture. Finger food ended up being a bit of a faff sometimes when you just want them to EAT SOMETHING or when we were out. So, might sneak a few mushy things in too!

And DS1 continued with reflux till he was at least a year (except it was various shades of food too!). They still have so much milk it doesn't really stop in a hurry. And this morning he told me he sometimes gets a bit of sick in his mouth and it feels spicy in his throat. So he still has it, it seems. (He's 5).

Ffaux I'm back at work on 11th for a fortnight-ish. (Then summer holidays). I should have plenty of time to pump (light timetable!) but in September we'll switch to formula while I'm at work.

I need to build up a bit of a stash first though. There's probably a day's worth in the freezer at the moment, but I think I want a bit more to be secure!

I'm so conflicted about going back to work! I've enjoyed this baby waaay more than the last one but my brain is ready to Science again!

Feeling the pain with the reflux, but since we were prescribed ranitidine ds has been a different baby, it's beryl weight sensitive though and if we don't adjust his dose when he puts some on the sick starts all over again. Will probably get the sofa professionally cleaned when he's stopped.

Dp and I have been at it maybe once a week since ds was about 7 weeks, it is a bit uncomfortable but I'm blaming episiotomy and stitches, had a smear last week and the speculum was agony

Ref returning to work, I have an interview next week for a management role, hours are Monday to Thurs 9-3 and friday off so would be perfect, but would mean returning to work in September instead of January, not sure how I feel about that. I couldn't really turn it down if offered though, the pay increase is significant enough to mean it'd be very very worth it.

q we were on ranitidine and now omeprazole, and although it stops the screaming in agony during feeding it hasn't stopped the rivers of sick. I was told nothing can stop spit up so interesting that yours does help. We just seem to have good days and bad days with no obvious causes or patterns :/

dom nooooooo I was clinging onto the whole 'they start to outgrow their reflux from 4 months' hope, yikes!!!

trijo sex 3 weeks pp??!! That's seriously impressive!! I think I was still waddling from the swelling then

Ah I've started my period today, properly gutted about it as they are super painful and just reminds me how shit my body is at BF

faux i had a very light brown period this week so I think mine are coming back too. But I am EBF and he feeds loads so clearly my body has no idea what it's doing!

Sex?
What is sex? Eek we haven't done it since 16 weeks pregnant. shock
Anyone else have a baby who is so hard to entertain?
She's been sleeping better. Five hours worth of naps in the day roughly. Put to bed at 8 and sleeps until 6 with feeds in between and the odd dummy run but she is still so whiny! She just wants me to walk around holding her. I can't sit down! She weighs 13 pounds now and has gone from 0.4 centile to nearly the 25th! My little chunky monkey. It's also already hurting my arms a bit holding her. She doesn't like the bouncy, she doesn't want cuddles, she doesn't want to go on her play mat. Argh. She looks so frustrated that she's not yet mobile. However she can roll onto her side now but she just flops back onto her back. She also hates the carry cot now but is to little and her head control is not good enough for her stroller I don't think and I don't want to use the car seat if I don't have to.
I don't plan on returning to my current job at the and of mat leave but will be looking for work.

We have also weaned dd out of her swaddle now before she rolls but she still likes a sleeping bag otherwise she will not sleep.

Also re weaning I will be doing purees.
I can't get my head around bwl. They say gagging is normal but I can't get it out my head that the gagging means their not ready for finger foods surely?

Time I did purée only with DS1 and it was absolutely fine. Do what works for you. We did it because we were in a carpeted flat and we just didn't have the space for mess all over the floor.
I think some babies just hate being immobile and are impatient to be on the move. You'll probably have an early crawler/walker and she'll be so much happier. J is similar. He has started getting very fidgety whenever we hold him. He will stay on the mat for 10 mins or so and then I flip him over for tummy time and a different view. He really doesn't like being restrained in the bouncy chair but he has to while I have a shower.
Have you tried a space/ marathon runner blanket? Most babies love them and they are only a £1 in the pound shop.

Also in a carpeted flat but want to do blw if possible - I figure we'll just put a plastic mat down or similar. Or feed him in the (tiny) kitchen.

Ahh, the swaddling, Time! DS2's in a convertible swaddle pod with arm holes that popper-up. I've tried him with one arm out and he's just manic. Even in the arms-up swaddle we got he doesn't sleep well. It's like his hands have a life of their own and wake him up going for his mouth or flailing around! Maybe we'll try again in the summer holidays....!

With DS1 we were in our brand new house with cream carpets! We got some offcuts of Lino from the local carpet shop. Covered a large area ", really sturdy, and just rolled it up and put it in the cupboard when we didn't want it out.

We're in the same house, but it's a bit tired now! And have laminate flooring! So should be a bit easier to deal with!

And we're still swaddling too. I know he might roll soon but he's in the sleepyhead for all naps and all night and he can't roll in that so I figure it's ok.

We'll be blw here I think too. Ds refused purée so I fell into it that way. I do need to order the Gill Rapley book again as its so reassuring about gagging and milk being the most important food still.

Time E also gets whingy and I think like Rhu says wants to be on the move or sitting up, basically things she can't do yet.

Ffaux commiserations to the period arrival. I've had two and they have both been heavy When I had ds I got them back while still bf and it felt like a huge slap in the face to me so I get what you mean.

I'm not going back until Feb. Having E was such a miracle I'm not rushing back to normal life on whingy days I question this

My advice for blw is not to bother with any of the 'splash mats' for under high chairs, they are tiny, just buy a cheap plastic shower curtain and cut it in half. It doesn't all have to be messy either, ds1's first food was Philadelphia on toast, he loved it and there was limited mess. I second the Gill Rapley book was very reassuring, I also had one with recipes in from other mums which was good, will dig it out and post the title. Dh is looking forward to me making cheese and courgette flapjacks again already!

We used one of those plastic table cloths under the high chair when weaning ds, we're in a cream carpeted flat too. We did a mixture last time - I wanted him to have purees so he'd fill up as he was refluxy and a constant feeder, but I liked the idea of blw. It worked really well, I just gave him some of each at every meal, so breakfast would be spoon fed weetabix with fingers of toast or a banana for him to feed himself, lunch he'd get some mush along with cucumber sticks or little sandwiches, etc etc. It definitely helped space out the feeds, though I'm sorry to say his reflux didn't get better until well after six months, and he was still pretty pukey until he was walking.

Anyone that uses a dummy for their baby.
How often do you have to replace it in the night?
Last night between 9-2 I replaced it four times. Whilst she will go straight back off most times so it's not a big deal it's still annoying.
However it just seems easier and quicker to settle her like this rather than anything else.
I just tried an hour of pick up put down at 8 and gave in at 9 and gave her the dummy.
Getting really down about the multiple wakes up now. I said to oh I hate cc but when she gets older I think it'll be the onLy way forward. Literally nothing else works otherwise.
Anyone else's babies waking up a lot at night still? I don't expect her to sleep through but I'd like to get it down to 2-3 wakes up.

time I'm going through a similar problem with DD she wants to suck her thumb so takes the dummy out but then gets frustrated that she can't always get her thumb in her mouth. Lots of people have suggested giving up the dummy but until she can suck her thumb properly I fear we would have no sleep. Sorry I don't have any solutions

time when DS wakes in the night rooting I just feed him (bfeeding) and put dummy in after.

I put him to bed initially with the dummy and he usually spits it out as he goes into deep sleep and doesn't ask for it after. If he's not in a deep sleep he will whinge for it though.

DS wakes three times pretty much like clockwork. Bed at 7, feed at 10.30, 1.30 and 4.30 and up for day at 7. Not too bad I suppose but I wish he would do a longer stretch. I've tried few times to settle him back down instead of giving boob at the 1.30 feed but he won't have it and it's just so much easier to feed and have him go right back down rather than having him get upset.

I don't think I can do cc or cio though so I'm just riding it out (for now!)

time DS was waking anything from 2-5 times a night for his dummy. Since we moved him into his own room last week, he has slept through twice and the other nights he has woken once for it. A lot of the time he just sucks in it to calm down and then it falls out when he falls asleep, if he wakes then sometimes he can self settle without it or has a suck on his fist but other times he does need it. It's annoying and I'm thinking of trying to wean him off it but it calms him so quickly when he gets worked up during the day so I don't really want to cut it completely!

Health visitor has just visitors me.
C has had five minutes sleep since 6:45 grr.
She tried to settle her for 1.5 hours but couldn't either and is e mailing out GPS to try out lactose free milk..finally. I'm so down today.

time that sucks. You know we're all here to hand hold. Maybe the new milk will make a difference.

We did cc with DS around 8 months and it saved my sanity. Only took about a week. We'll probably be starting with T at 6 months but it'll have to be in our room otherwise she'll wake DS. She can transition to her own room later.

Yes I will be doing cc at six-eight months to if its proven that nothing is wrong with her other than she is just a shit sleeper however hv reckons she's uncomfortable as she was ok on her tummy and if you hold her up right and walk around With her.
She is also going in her room at 6 months on the dot lol. I can not frigging wait! Hearing her cry will be hard but when nothing else works sometimes you just have to do it :(

At least I found out today it's not me as the hv really couldn't make her happy either and at least they are helping me now and seeing first hand how hard work she is.

Hmm well I got another 20 minutes...
This is meant to be getting easier right?
It's getting worse and worse