March 2016 Babies Thread #11 - We've got smiley babies, screaming babies and farty babies!

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This time last year....my nephew was days away from being born, I was planning a wedding and looking forward to that holiday.....little did I know that I would fly home with a little souvenir

Dh has a cold well as you can imagine it's man flu. Even worse today is his day off so L and I are escaping to have her weighed and walk the shops for hours can't stand listening to him sniff any longer

Haha winging you sound like me - am v intolerant of DP's heavy breathing and sneezing!!

maybe glad I'm not the only one. He currently asleep on the sofa and I'm praying he doesn't phone in sick tomorrow

I don't time feeds etc although D seems to be feeding non stop and not really napping in the day which is stressful as i feel im not spendomg enough time with ds1. D does sleep through the night though. Dm keeps telling me that it's because he's not getting enough from his milk and I should give him puree in 2 weeks when he turns 4 months. He is big (he wears 9-12month clothes) but I don't want to wean him too early.

wooden I wouldn't wean based on a perception of hunger as breastmilk contains more calories in it than puree so you'd be shooting yourself in the foot a bit. It's not really recommended to wean at 4 months anymore but you might want to talk to a HV about it as they will probably know more than me/your dm. also sleeping through at this age is amazing, it may just be he's feeding so much during the day it's keeping him going through the night... so swings and roundabouts I guess.

I have the opposite problem with dd1 and dd2 in that dd1 takes up so much of my time/energy/attention that on days when I have them both myself poor dd2 doesn't get a look in and spends the whole time on her mat, in the sling or the buggy and I don't feel she gets enough interaction at all.

Talking of slings today I went to a sling library and tried out a woven wrap (the lenny lamb). Absolutely fell in love with it and now going to have to convince ie tell DH that we need to get one . I like my manduca carrier but the wrap was so much comfier. Feels like a big step up going to a wrap and like I've properly embraced the hippy in me 😂

marmite wooden I've got my MIL making the occasional comment about "hungry babies" and "real food", but she's a dear and quite happy to be gently reminded that we're waiting till T shows actual signs of interest. She and my DM also seem to think that all the drool indicates teething, forgetting DS's epic drooling from 2 months onwards and his complete lack of teeth till almost half a year later!

T is EBF (not entirely by choice - still refusing bottles!) and feeds every 2-3 hours round the clock apart from a 4-5 hour stretch for her first sleep at night. I don't mind at night, I go to bed with her around 8pm and get enough sleep in between the wakings that I feel ok when we all get up at 6:30am. I did the same for DS until about 8 months, when we felt he was ready for sleep training. We'll probably do it for T earlier because I'm a hard-hearted second-timer and it'd be nice to get my evenings (and sex life!) back with DH. The man's got the patience of a saint, and I have to admit I'm getting a bit fed up with sneaking downstairs for quickies .

I don't time anything - tried it for a week at about 11 weeks and saw T was getting plenty of sleep but with no real nap pattern. Interestingly she's got a pattern developing now and I haven't needed an app to notice - it's either short-short-long-short or short-medium-medium-short. Today MIL had DS for a few hours in the afternoon and I had a glorious 3 hour doze/read session in bed with T while she napped. It was her 2nd menB jab this morning and she was pretty grumpy afterwards. Only one more set to go next week and we're done till she's a year!

Sex...what is that

Done it once since the birth and no desire to do it again tbh.

Feel like a bit of a freak...

mship Hv told me to wean at 5 months because D is so massive!
Ds1 has already fed him yoghurt while I wasn't looking! Dm is going off what she was told when I was a baby (I was 7 weeks early and still weaned at 3 months). I'm going to wait until he's 5 months and then double check with the hv. I am lucky that he sleeps through the night.

Maybe I'm the same I'm just not interested in sex, poor dh I getting desperate.

maybe you've had sex once more than me then! Haven't bothered at all yet, 12w4d since we last did in an attempt to get labour started. I'm not at all interested, breast feeding always makes me feel like this. I'll force myself to look keen in the next few days/weeks for DH sake. But I know once we do it once he'll expect normal service to be resumed so I'm holding off!

Evening all. E has been asleep upstairs since 8pm She has really fought naps all day even when we were out, preferring to scream in the pram instead of sleep. It's the first night we have actually put her to bed upstairs in the evening and it makes me a bit twitchy. This is ridiculous because at about 3pm today I would have handed her screaming bundle to anyone.

Got her weighed today and she is now 12.7 which is great. She is doing lots of green poo which I know can be over feeding for ff babies but she isn't a greedy baby so it's not that. I'm wondering if it's teething. She dribbles all the time but no sign of teeth. I did ask at clinic but they didn't really know either. Just said if she is well don't worry.

Sex hmm done it about four times I think. I'm too tired to be honest and often I'm in bed asleep first before dh comes up with E. Things will get back to normal it's just hard these first few months isn't it because babies are all consuming and I hardly feel attractive. I am though the most tanned on my arms than I have been for years from all this walking with the pram. So my arms feel sexy if nothing else

No sex here either Like trijo I just feel a bit touched out by the time I put baby down for the night. My boobs feel so non-sexual and nipples less sensitive, and I still feel like I look 6 months pregnant so have no desire to be seen naked! Hopefully it will all get back to normal eventually

purple we combination feed and DD's poo is distinctly split into yellow seedy bits (BM) and thicker clay like green bits (F). I asked the pediatrician who said baby was fine and not over feeding. So I think the green is just down to the iron in the formula, it could be the same for you

All the March babies in my group are little droolers, hands always in mouth, chewing blankets etc. Apparently it's their systems getting ready for solids but they haven't developed the swallowing yet so it just dribbles out. I'm constantly getting told she's teething though, it's getting annoying! If anyone is curious about teething I saw this picture on Facebook.

Ffaux that's so interesting about their mouths getting ready for solids. I've just assumed E is teething but maybe not. Ds did however get his first tooth just before he was 5 months so she could be following him. I have no idea Thanks about the feeding too, maybe it is the iron? Back to mustard poo this morning.

magpie you're definitely right about men expecting normal service to resume! I've been having pretty regular sex (once a week) with DH since 7 weeks postpartum. That's basically how frequently we had sex before trying to conceive dd2. With dd1 sex was horrific for months which I thought was due to bf and being dry (sorry if tmi) but its been much easier this time round and I'm bf so I think actually it was that I had an episiotomy last time and they stitched me up too tight . Anyway I made the mistake of telling DH how much more normal things feel so now of course he just thinks we can pick up our sex life where we left off . We had a terrible nights sleep last night and I'm knackered today and was complaining about having a headache, his suggestion was 'well let's have an early night tonight ' I agreed and he said 'a sexy early night?' [eyeroll] I gave him a big rant about being tired/ill and why the hell does he think I'd feel sexy? He had the decency to at least look embarrassed but it's frustrating. Don't get me wrong, I've actually been enjoying sex since birth and I do actually have some sex drive but it bugs me that he tries his luck so often. To be fair to him he asks and I say no and he respects that and drops it immediately so I guess you can't blame a guy for trying. it's funny as I don't really feel touched out despite having dd2 attached to the boob constantly or in the sling, I just feel too knackered for it.

Terrible nights sleep here up every 2 hours. And dd2 has only just gone down for her nap, about two hours later than usual. I need to hang some washing up but I'm just collapsed on the bed MNing. And I've got a terrible headache but we've run out of paracetamol! Sigh.

Lots of drooling here too but I don't think it's teething so maybe could be what you said ffaux about getting ready for solids. I'm way not ready for weaning yet! I'm going to do baby led weaning again so won't be until 6 months anyway so it's a way off thankfully. My mil really put pressure on me to wean dd1 from 5 months and we started her on solids when she was 5 and a bit months old, I regret doing it then as was caving into pressure so am hoping to stand my ground second time round.

I'm in no hurry to wean. DS is 4 months on Sunday and my DM has also dropped lots of comments about oh he won't last until 6 months on just milk, he's a growing boy etc but apart from anything else I like the ease of just milk! I don't eat a terribly healthy diet myself and I know I'm going to have to put a lot more effort into feeding DS healthy foods when I do wean him. I think I'm planning to do a mixture of purées and finger foods and see how it goes.

On the sex front DH and I are back to doing it about once a week which is fine by me and him. I don't think either of us has a really high sex drive and when we were ttc it became a bit of a chore having to do it all the time! It took us nearly 18 months to conceive DS as well so it's quite nice to just be having normal relaxed sex again when we both feel like it and not because a chart or a stupid ovulation stick says we have to! We are very lucky that DS is a good sleeper so I'm not too tired in the evenings.

Morning all,

Sex?! What is that? There is no way I'm even thinking about it till I've got a coil in. (Fortunately, DH knows the score and hasn't mentioned it.)

I haven't even thought about weaning either. More pressing is that I need to start some serious pumping for when I'm back at work in a couple of weeks.

Sleep? I'm doing some exam marking so I'm up late doing that, then feed 12 & 3 and up at 5:30-6. Which is fine (not unlike what I normally get when at work) except for last nights nappy leak resulting in full change and awakey-baby. And then awakey-me.

Purple, both mine scream(ed) when they're tired. Especially nap time. As a friend said yesterday, sometimes it's something they have to do to go to sleep. Not a lot will soothe DS2 once he's going for it. But it grates on me so much.

Re teething: DS1 has his two lower incisors by 4 months, so it's not out of the question! Lots of drooling and fist noshing here!

Can I have a rant about reflux? I am constantly covered in baby sick. Yesterday I rediscovered the enormous bag of bibs we had for DS1 (also had reflux). Which is very handy as DS2 is going through several bibs a day as well as two or three outfit changes. And he's on the full gaviscon dose. It's driving me insane. I can't keep up with the washing (but decided to get the cloth nappies out anyway ). And EVERYTHING SMELLS LIKE SICK.

Thanks, I feel better for that!

P.S. Is it just me or is the iOS app not working?

You're right Dom, the app isn't working and I'm rubbish at the online site. Can't find anything!

I want to wait until 6 months to wean. DS1 was 5 months but he was very ready. J has showed no signs except watching us intently. Like Me will do a mixture of purée and finger food. We have apple and pear trees in the garden so definitely want to use those.

My sex drive is non existent right now and i think that might be due to the mini pill. Anyone else experienced this?

Yes to everything constantly smelling of sick Dom! Along with the drool everything is very damp and smelly! Who said newborns smell lovely??

Rhu my sex drive is minimal at the best of times (which is not a Problem, it's normal for a lot of women. Thanks Radio 4 for enlightening me!), but I couldn't care less at the moment. Not on any hormonal anything, just exhausted and lactating.

So L has caught DH cold so I'm spending the day snuggled on the sofa covered in baby snot instead of sick for a change
Sex, what's sex? Poor DH is a saint and knows I'm normally to tired.

J has just had his third lot of jabs (16 weeks) and this time he screamed. So upsetting but I've got him home and he's now sleeping on me while DS1 and I watch Frozen. No more jabs for a while thank goodness.

Another one not interested in sex at all, when I got my pill prescription the pharmacist told me I had to wait until my period before I started it, I found out this morning that apparently that's not true but it is a useful deterrent!

I can't wait to start weaning, its so much fun! I did baby led with ds and he is such a good eater I'm definitely doing it again, so much less faff than making purees.

dom I was trying to post all day yesterday on the app with no luck, we'll see if this works .....

and I hear you on the reflux. I get embarrassed when people give her a cuddle and a big sniff to take in 'that lovely baby smell' We have so many sick stains all over our sofa that I've given up the battle of keeping it clean. I'm so fed up of constant washing and changing her (and me!) that I can't wait to wean. Not wanting to wish away time or anything though!

When do you go back to work? Will you be able to pump at work? So many of my US mum friends here went back between 8 and 12 weeks, I just don't know how they are doing it. I have 2 more months to go but unpaid now so it's pretty stressful.

mrsells can I send mine to you for weaning please? I do not enjoy it! Part of the reason I'm going back to work at 6m this time! BLW is less faff but oh the mess cleaning the high hair three times a day. Ugh. Glad of like it, loads of my friends to too, I think I'm the odd one!

Yay it worked. Oh mrse (and others) I'd love to hear any baby led weaning tips or good resources you used. I know I'm going to get fucked off with blending everything so really want to give it a go!

We've managed around once a week since C was 3 weeks old. It's always himself that initiates, my libido is very very low while I'm breastfeeding and it's really hard to get in the mood. Cancelled my Mirena fitting a couple of weeks ago because I had to travel that evening and I didn't want to be sitting in pain in the car for four hours, still relying on good ol' pull-out and lactational amenorrhoea.

Had 2nd set of jabs yesterday - C was absolutely grand afterwards! Gave pre-emptive Calpol but he didn't really need it in the end.

Right boob is being tempremental today - it's hurting during feeding unless C latches absolutely perfectly and it doesn't help that he's being his usually hungry fecker self!

Re weaning... I feel like I really should do BLW because it seems a natural follow-on for an exclusively breastfed baby, but not sure if I could put up with the mess!