December 2012: we thought the terrible twos were bad, here come the threenagers!

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Spangly new thread.

I also found it bizarre that the kids wanted to drink mint tea! They have fruit tea (cold) at nursery and Kindergarten. It's the German version of very healthy squash I suppose.

beasty im glad it isn't just my kids who find weird stuff on you tube. I'm always amazed by how many views that stuff has.

WL I'm so glad we don't need to discuss real stuff just yet. DS knows when something is going on, they both do, but they usually aren't interested in an explanation. They just want us to be ok and play with Duplo

I currently have the Dangermouse theme tune going round in my head!

H loves the weird things on YouTube. And now wants to cut open her toys to see what's inside, as that's what she loves watching. She also loves Paw Patrol which I have to admit I don't mind it's well better than peppa pig.

hales I really really wonder about you tube! I haven't seen toys being cut open. Mostly toys hidden in play doh that kind of thing. Or a weird Spider-Man game thing where Spider-Man runs around climbing in and out of trucks . I think I would be in real trouble if DS though about cutting open toys
And almost anything is better than Peppa pig! Although I find the nonsense of paw patrol frustrates me. and who keeps a pet pigeon in their handbag?!

I have DD's cold. It's horrible. I've had enough of being ill! I'm off to order a better, stronger immune system from the interweaving.

DH and I are exhausted! I'm recovering from another horrible cold and have given myself
A light case of food poisoning

How do you get the rest you need to make it through each day? If we win the lottery a Nanny is top of my list!

Hi everyone. Sorry I dropped off the thread.

Ds is obsessed with YouTube he watches:

Motorbike crashes
Dumper truck crashed
Grown men dressed as spiderman/batman/other super heroes doing random things

What have I missed? Anyone pregnant again?

Yay I'm not alone!

I've kept DS away from screens as much as possible the last two days. Not entirely successful because I have mostly been on my own.
But he has been tired recently and screen time turns him into a whiny beast!
I have a game on my phone which we can swap between English and German both kids love it-sorry I can't remember if someone here also recommended it - it's called "Monkey Preschool Lunchbox".

R has been watching kids play with barbies lately

Hello all - nothing to report - most certainly not pg again! Just wanted to say hi.

Ds has been struggling with growing pains again. Mentioned it to the dr today and he said they don't usually get them this young however, after measuring him, said he wouldn't be that surprised but to keep an eye on it and come back if he develops more symptoms. I don't think he will as its been like this for about six months. Anyway ds is on the 98th percentile for height I'm only 5'3" and Dh is 5'8". Shorties. Ds was a nightmare for the dr and wouldn't let him look in his way or throat. He always used to be so compliant. He's got really stubborn recently, I suppose it's good that he is standing up to strangers?!

I've started a course to help me figure out what I want to do as a job and how to apply for it.

My CV is boring (as I'm sure most are). Translating it when I am T.I.R.E.D is seriously affecting my will to carry on.....

Jeeeeeeeez. I know. It's really not a big problem in the grand scheme of things although it's spartan nature is naturally depressing.

Well done nutella, it's a great start. Do you have any inklings about areas you might like to work in?

No, no idea, or lots of ideas.... I'm not sure.

I was going to ask how people figure out what they want to do. It seems like some kind of mystery to me at the moment...

Sadly I think most people don't really know and just do what they know or what works for them. If I had my time again there are other things I would do but I don't feel strongly enough to deal with the financial pain of retraining.

That's what I like about this group I'm in. We are all in the same sort of place. Some after 3 years some after 15.
One lady, who is pretty much my age, pointed out today that she has another 30 years to work and sees it as a decent amount of time to build a career. It makes the idea of studying and or gaining a new qualification seem quite reasonable.

Wrecked, H is works well with strangers up until the point were she gets fed up or doesn't like it anymore. Then she point blank refuses to do anymore.

Nutella, I hate doing CV's I can't imagine having to swop my CV to another language good luck.

YouTube seems to massive with kids at Heidi's nursery.

nutella that group sounds fab! I like my job well enough but don't feel 'a calling'. There's lots of other things I think I'd like to do, but that's the idea in my head not necessarily the reality of those jobs.

Hales I think I need to spend more time on you tube .... or maybe not. Although I recommend looking up either "lonely island" or "bad lip reading"

WL reality almost never lives up to fantasy

I really like my job, I like the flexibility of it. I don't however like sitting round in between fares.

Me and DP have had an argument over DSD'S lies. They are only small ones but she does it so much, which I know is part of growing up. But if she flat out denies something he just accepts it because he can't 'prove' it. Tonight's argument is that he bought 18 slices of Mr Kippings cakes in work on Monday. They have all gone. H had 1. I have had 2 and DP has had 2. So I said DSD has eaten 13 slices (which is far to much imo) but she has denied it. There is no one who could of eaten them. But he is refusing to deal with it because he can't prove it. I genuinely believe that she should lose a privilege for lying whereas if she hadn't of lied it would of been enough at a simple don't do that again and explained about her chances of getting fat.

hales that's such a tough one. Would she ever admit to lying if you/he had a talk about it away from the actual situation? A few lies here and there is of course totally normal but all the time would drive me mad, and I don't think getting away with it is actually good for her - false sense of reality etc. All that said, it is a really hard one to handle and with all she's been through that could be contributing to it. Does she lie at school? Have you got a home link worker at the school or a support specialist who might be able to give some advice?

She's great at school and doing really well so i'm really proud of her. It's just the small lies and she denies them until she is faced with the fact we know the truth. I think it's more just part of growing up I remember doing it. I just get annoyed with DP for being so laid back. But then I wonder is it me am I too strict. I know I was brought up in a really strict environment am I doing the same thing? Me and DP just need to get on the same page.

Hales I always tell dd she will get in more trouble for lying than for telling the truth even if she has done something wrong. Sometimes I tell her I will close my eyes so she can tell me the truth without having to look at me

So guess who has a new job?! Me! I will be a school health assistant and will be doing all the reception and year six screenings. Term time only!

Wreck congratulations on your new job!
Totally agree about more trouble for lying than not. We tell DS the same. He is generally very honest though at least that's what KIGa have told us. I like the idea about closing your eyes!

Hales it is tough. I agree wth you. You know she is lying and I don't think it should go unchallenged. Yes she has been through a lot and I know that makes things delicate but she can't and won't be treated that way for her whole life....

Would he accept H telling him porkies? If you can agree on how you deal with H potentially telling porkies can you then use that to agree on how you deal with DSD? Just an idea

I have brain ache. Spending the week in German, writing, reading speaking and then it's at a "work" level is really good brain exercise it hurts and I'm enjoying it but I am exhausted.

Plus DS has spent the week fighting a nasty virus which means fevers, coughing and mucho wriggling all night.

But DH has been a star in supporting me and looking after DS to make sure I can go "to school" every day

Eek, you'd dropped off my threads you're on.

Fab news Wrek. Sounds like the perfect job for you.

Good luck with deciding what you want to do Nutella. I'm very frustrated with my job at the moment, but I love the industry and what our team does is generally interesting and good.

My Dad's in hospital again. He was in intensive care last weekend, then back on the haematology ward recovering from a virus. No they've discovered a fungal infection in his lungs, taking 20% of his lung capacity. Not good when you have no immune system.