December 2012: we thought the terrible twos were bad, here come the threenagers!

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Spangly new thread.

Beasty i hope you have a fab time in spain as well.

Pidj, i would love to take H the flicks but she has the attention span of a gnat. Fingers crossed it increases soon.

Loving that dd1&2 are old enough to enjoy the olympics! They all stayed up a bit late tonight to watch the men's synchro diving and were great company - so excited!

beasty I really want to do that trail. Will take dd1 and dm to posh cinema to watch the bfg - can't take dd2 as she'd be scared witless and would just add to her nighttime woes. Poor thing.
hales we've had a teeny tiny en suite put in (with the most fabulous shower but no door yet) and had some work done in dd1s room which is weird to describe. It's all fab but still a long way to go to get sorted - we haven't got any wardrobes and dd1 hasn't got much furniture yet so piles of stuff will prevail for eternity a good while yet.

hales hope H is feeling better soon. Her Morris dancing is just the cutest thing.

It's a small local theatre with a projector rather than a bug commercial venue. I'm going with a friend and her pair, and her teen will be in the park round the corner with ds2 so if anyone gets scared we'll just take them out

Major attack of the overwhelms as I realised tonight that we'd forgotten to send dd1 to her computing course today. Also working everyday and then flying to Spain first thing sat - packing when exactly?! First world problems but I am very annoyed with us.

WL breathe, and write yourself a plan your like me and like to follow plans. It will all be fine.

Pidj we use to have a cinema like that and i loved it, but it got closed down and now we have to go the big ones on the outskirts of towns next to ours. I would feel much easier about taking H to a small one than these big commercialised ones.

Me and H were talking about her reward chart tonight and i repeated that when she gets to 20 stars we will buy her a magazine. She asked what Dsd would get so i said nothing she doesn't have a reward chart. So H piped up we could make her a moaning chart and give her stars when she doesn't moan. i had to stop myself laughing.

I took dd to see Matilda today (west end) it was amazing! Ds and Dh had a whole day together at a local farm/play area so everyone is very tired tonight.

Ds is obsessed with motorbikes. He is a motorbike man. He has motorbike man shoes. Motorbike men brush their teeth (handy). He watched motorbike races and crashes on YouTube. I've told him he can only have one when he's older if it's a police or paramedic one

Hales H cracks me up!
Thanks for your empathy. I'm generally feeling a bit out of control atm.

I would only consider taking DS to the cinema if it was a kids showing- so that hopefully his running around would be tolerated. I can't wait to take him though. I envy all those that are going!

DS is home sick today. I think he is just a bit worn out and has a cold. I was told yesterday that he was laying on the sofa and the floor saying he was tired. That is not normal for him!!

WL hope you're having a better day today

hales H is hilarious! DS comes out with some corners but I keep forgetting them. I need a notebook or something.

God I wish DS still had a midday sleep. He is making me crazy! I suspect I am slightly worse off with his cold than he is today

Bfg was amazing. R wriggled occasionally and needed reminding to keep quiet (he likes to commentate!) but he adored it and it was very true to the book as I remember it from childhood need to steal R's copy when he and dh finish it

We've taken A to the cinema a few times. The second the credits come up he asks loudly if we can go now.

Tangled I love Matilda. We're taking a big risk in the October half term and have booked a box so we can take A too. I figured that way he can move around a bit, and if necessary take him out without disturbing people.

Good luck packing WL and enjoy Spain.

Hope you're all feeling better nutella
Yay Spain in the morning!
We've taken T to the theatre a couple of times - she loved the tiger who came to tea best. Twas fab.
We're going to chitty chitty bang bang in Nov. Also organising a grown up trip to Les Mis for dm

WL I hope he packing all went smoothly and the flights etc. Enjoy your holiday!!

It seems to be a bug that lasts just 2/3 days and makes you feel rotten without actually being a proper cold. Very odd. But we seem to have all been through it almost now.

DD got out of bed with a dry nappy this morning I can't believe that at 2 she might also be dry at night as well as semi dry in the day she actually called me upstairs last night at almost 9pm to take her for a wee.

Anyway, speaking of DD turning 2... DH's family are carrying on like a low rent soap opera. We were invited by DH's lovely cousin to celebrate DD's birthday with them. Saves us the hassle of having everyone here and saves them the trouble of squeezing in a visit to us when they need to prep for tomorrow.

Anyway, this upset the PIL who thought we would celebrate today. We basically couldn't be arsed to make the effort to see the same people two days in a row.
But we tried to organise something on DD's birthday with BIL &SIL because they are away tomorrow. No way they could manage to leave work half and hour / hour early and they thought we were doing something on Saturday.

In the end DH decided to try and keep PIL happy and took the kids there this morning. I stayed home - have baked a cake for tomorrow.

We got a message from DSIL, she hasn't said it but she is pissed off. AIBU to want to send BIL a message and tell him to take a look at his life, he has married his controlling father

I did a 21 minute run today!!! Yay!!! I'm working my way back to 30 minutes and then hopefully a full 5K. Maybe I'll even enter a race next year soon. Well, more fun run than race

Yay Nut

Yay nutella that's great! Well done. I'm trying to do some lengths this week as well as generally scoff everything in sight!!

Nutella was SIL pissed off because you weren't there? And yay for the run.

WL, i hope your having a lovely time.

After i shared that picture on fb (also shared it on my own fb) a teacher friend got in contact with me and recommended an app called read with fonics. It has a picture of a one eyed green alien (the eye is purple) she said it was really useful for kids who were interested in learning. I have downloaded it and it seems brilliant.

hales it was a very passive aggressive message from SIL.
The atory as I understand it:
BIL was taking something back to PIL and rang to check when he should go over. PIL told him they were just putting up balloons etc and getting ready their most precious grandchildren.
BIL and SIL basically did a good 2+2=5 and instead of contacting us assumed that we were celebrating with PIL.

BIL turns up to drop off thing at PIL. DH has a word with him, BIL is almost in tears and says they feel really hurt. DH explains it was supposed to be a quiet morning not a "party".

Basically PIL and us should have planned it better. I think we should have stuck to plan A and said "see you Sunday".

In the end Sunday didn't happen due to illness. On Monday I ate a lot of cake

And sorry for moaning on here about the In laws but I find them so often so unreasonable it really winds me up. I try and stay out of it and tell DH to step back occasionally too. It's all so childish!

I try and tell DH : FIL is not being an arsehole because he is tired/stressed/under the weather/ hungry/trousers too tight/trousers too loose etc he is being an arsehole because he is a giant controlling arsehole!

Nutella, moan away, thats what we're here for to say things we feel we can't say in RL. I feel your pain on crap ILs though, my MIL treats H so differently to DSD and it really gets my goat. She even asked me to change how i act towards H as it may upset DSD. I treat both girls the same and if there is a difference i believe its age related i.e i cannot treat a 3yr old the same as a 12yr old. Although it could be more i suppose but i gavr birth to H and raised her so of course my relationship will be a little different. Can you tell that request upset me ha?

I started off so much on my little rant that i forgot to say, that i think your DP will always make excuses for his parents, no-one wants to believe bad of their parents. Its just really frustrating for you because its obvious that his dad is controlling.

Hales you were right to be upset by that request and it is an unreasonable request to make. I'm sure that you have a fab relationship with DSD and you and DP have worked bloody hard to sort out so much for you all.

Yes, I do understand DH and FIL because my dad is so similar. That's why I have little to no contact with him. DH doesn't quite understand. The simplest way I can explain it to him is: my dad brings nothing good to my life. I've tried everything I have the energy to try right now and find him only negative. I have decided that I don't need that and I'm better off and happier not having contact with him.

We are camping tomorrow. It's going to rain the dc are being shits.