September 2014 - Toddlers & Tantrums!

[lilone1234]

Babies are now toddlers at 18 months +, growing and learning new things all the time!

It has rained here on and off all day and I am in work. Wine tonight!!!!!

Great idea!!
On Sunday morning as I went to check on DD @ 7ish I found her completely starkers in her cot. She had undone the poppers on her sleepsuit and also removed her ( thankfully only wet!) nappy. I was greeted with her standing up and giving me her cheekiest grin when I asked what she'd been up to!!
Had to try very hard not to laugh.

P.S.
MyGreenSofa, congrats on the wedding day. Hope it was wonderful !

I'm still here too!

Great idea on the game. A will climb up onto me for a cuddle, and pull my arms around him, if I loosen them for any reason he pulls them back tight until he is ready to end the hug. It always makes me smile!

He is in bed now, and DH is making us some Fajitas which I will be having with a cider or two. I like Fridays

I am here :)

As I work in the nursery E goes to I often peek through the door to watch him play. I went to do this last week and he was walking past the door himself and clocked me. Biggest grin ever and he ran to the door and flung himself in my arms

Thank you all for your kind wishes. The wedding day was amazing. I had been nervous and quite ready for it to be over but everything went to plan and it was a lovely day, but over in a flash! DD was in good form and really loved playing in the gardens with my cousins who were absolute stars at watching her (can't say any other family member aside from DB's fiancée bothered!). She didn't sleep at all though but stayed in her high chair basically for the whole meal and speeches doing stickers and colouring. Fell asleep on the way home though then was rather upset to be woken being carried in and cried for quite awhile before settling but still was a pretty good result. Walked down the aisle holding my hand perfectly which id been most worried about but did get a bit overwhelmed once she got there and had to do vows holding her!

On honeymoon now and having a lovely time. So glad not to be at home for the referendum fall out, even just the stuff on social media is irritating enough!

Funny thing DD does - says 'dear' after hello or bye followed by our name or the thing she's taking to e.g hello dear mummy or bye dear car haha.

Oh love her! I was so busy feeling sorry for myself that I forgot to wish you a beautiful day, am glad it was all you wished for.

Nazly - I think its to be expected that your DSs language will be delayed given he is being bought in duel language. He'll definitely gain from it in the long term though. I wouldn't worry as long as his understanding is good. may I ask what the second language is? Is your first language not English? (sorry if I am intruding, feel free to ignore my question)

I feel like I have been glued to the News Channels since Friday. I'm quite engaged in politics and current affairs so the fall-out of the referendum being so massive is something I am struggling to get my head around. It is times like these I am glad to be a SAHM though, being able to just stop everything and binge-watch the news like this.

Looking forward to the Olympics, which I will also binge watch for the fortnight

Have a wonderful honeymoon greensofa. Such and exciting time in your life! It all goes so fast doesn't it? I wish we could go back to our wedding day and just live through it again, to enjoy it all over again. We keep saying we'll renew our vows. Probably when the children are older though. Married for 13 years this year, a couple for 20 years.

Growing up bilingual has massive cognitive benefits later in life. I'm quite jealous and wish we had started DD with two languages, but DH didn't think it was necessary

I've spent most of my time either watching news or scouring Facebook and Twitter since Thursday. It's unbelievable

Glad you had a great wedding day green!

Feels like I've been away on work stuff loads recently and I've missed so many bedtimes. I feel bad, and I think it is starting to affect DD.

Generally feeling a bit sad and shitty at the moment. Anyone fancy telling me about the crazy things your little ones have done to cheer me up?!

Oh Team, Im sorry you feel sad and shitty, I do too and its horrible.

I took DS out for a tesco breakfast this morning as DH had come in off a night shift. An old man with a stick and cap walked past us with his pot of tea and DS pointed at him saying 'Grandad'. I laughed so much, my Dad is going to be miffed!

Oh No team, dont feel bad; we have to do what we have to do... In our case it is a constant juggle too

Fate my first language is not english and I am an immigrant (non EU) ; wasn't sure if it is right to mention Brexit in this forum but now that it got mentioned, I have to say I am devastated.
I didn't sleep for a second on Thursday night and Since Friday I have a painful stiff neck and as I didn't really pull a muscle, it is probably stress related.I have been off sick for a few days and took more pain killer than I Took in my whole life -I think ... - I have tried my best to understand what happened but even though i was well glued to newspapers and media during the campaigns I am still baffled.

We are affected in two ways - both DS and myself work in areas that are going to be hugely affected by brexit in a very negative way; so extremely worried about financial side of things with our new mortgage. Also I am really worried about the rise of anti immigration feelings among people, and although I live in greater London, I still worry my son may experience those things that those poor primary school kids experienced some time ago, and for this reason, we are seriously thinking of planning another immigration to another country... At the moment just on the table ...This upsets me because i wasn't really thinking about immigration any time soon( just after getting retired) Sorry ladies for going on and on, Apart from my closest friend who is not even living in the UK I haven't said my feelings to anybody else ...
DH and I have 5 Master degrees and a PhD between us; we both have 10-15 yrs experience in our fields; our workplaces rely on us very much for the mixed skill, knowledge and experience and we would never be in a position to claim any benefit even after 10 yrs of paying tax. One of the main reason we chose UK was because we knew people are tolerant, mature and understanding. But recently I just don't feel as welcome as I felt in the past years , but mainly, I really want my son to feel at home in the country we settle in and I will do anything in my power for that to happen and for my son not to feel bad when he starts to understand more...

Rant over. Apologies. I'll try to be more understanding of the society we live in...

Fate DS understands very well but I think even he thinks it is time to talk now as he gets frustrated for the fact he can't communicate well enough. But on the other side his nursery carer just told me yesterday the things he has learned and know already, they expect from a 3-4 yrs old ( he knows alphabet, he is learning phonetics and he is exited about 11-20 as 1-10 is old). I am not a pushy parent btw; he just has a very keen interest in learning and keep showing things and signs, etc and asks whats this, whats that (in our language thats quite simple to say cause it is a word) but I just want him to say a few basic words now. I bet some of his tantrum will go away if he can say things, wont it ?

Mrs Sofa it is so impressive that your dd was so good at the wedding, and glad you had a lovely time where are you for honeymoon? By the way I cant remember your previous id; I have some sort of picture in mind from all old members here but yours had just vanished due to change in id

Nazly - I was lilone1234 before. Honeymoon was in Italy - lovely to have some good weather!

I'm sorry the result of the referendum is having a negative effect on you. I don't like the way the media has painted all leave voters as racists, and that this is a message for all immigrants to leave, there is far more to it than that for people I think. Painting the situation as an Us vs Them thing is very unhelpful and is stirring bad feelings all around. I hope once the dust settles things will improve for everyone living in the UK.

And alphabet and counting - very impressive!

Morning all!

The referendum result has led to so much division, anger and hate, and that makes me as sad as the result itself. DH is from another EU country and has experienced xenophobic abuse almost every day at work since the result. His job is safe, and mine will be massively affected, but is most likely safe. We are giving it 2-3 years to see how things work out. I'm not prepared to bring up DD in a country where it is acceptable to hear the things I have over the past week. Whether we are in or out of the EU, I want to bring her up in a tolerant, open and respectful society. We are the same people now that we were a few months ago, so I still have hope that the racist, xenophobic and violent tiny minority will be held to account by the good majority

Green - italy sounds wonderful! I've never been but would love to.

Nazly - sounds like ours are at a very similar level. DD is now singing the alphabet, starting on 11-20 and a total chatterbox. It's so lovely. Temper tantrums are less enjoyable!

Oh so lilone green sofa :) now I remember better...
Just to say on the side I never wanted to upset anybody with my post or say leave voters are racist, etc. Ofcourse they are not - it is 52% of people in the country that I like so much; they can't possibly be intolerant ... But nevertheless it is as if the result has given the tiny minority a sign of approval to make the immigrants unwelcome...

And team definitely our little ones are not at the same level if yours is a chatter box , mine hardly say anything... Yes he knows alphabet but he can't sing them as yet, he shows the letters... Ur dd is well ahead then we will wait longer, we'll be there one day I guess everybody has their own development speed; I am not too worried yet

Afternoon All.

Sorry to hear that some of you have been experiencing abuse since the referendum results. I do agree with team that we are all the same people and hopefully the good majority will quieten down the idiots! I also hope work situations aren't to badly affected. Luckily DH and I should be ok, but I guess you never know, we could be affected indirectly.

Sounds like you had a great wedding and honeymoon Green. Italy is somewhere I would love to go.

With regards to development, I feel we are quite behind some of you. We are still on 1-5, and he recognizes the alphabet but can't recite it yet. he also doesn't say a lot that makes sense yet, although he 'talks' a lot and me and DH are starting to understand things! I am not worried yet though, he will get there!

Is anyone considering potty training? I wasn't planning on, but at nursery last week they sat him on the potty a few times, and did say to me that he was old enough! I am a bit nervous to try but I don't want to delay anything if they are doing it at nursery! I don't think they are actually training at the moment though, just more getting him used to sitting on a potty! Maybe I should get ours out? Any thoughts?

We have no numbers, no colours and no alphabet. If it wasnt for mumsnet I probably wouldnt be worrying about it either!

Really don't worry! They all do things at different times and all get there in the end. DD is very verbal, but behind on some other things. I read once that each part of. The brain develops one at a time, but the order of each part developing takes turns.

Any hints and tips on how to deal with "NO"! Usually with a very defiant staring contest and foot stamp!

Oh, I've been wondering a lot recently about how much and what I feed DD. Just found this, and it is really interesting and helpful... www.infantandtoddlerforum.org/portion-sizes-table-2015

Thought others might find it interesting and helpful too!

Thanks Team, think we might be over feeding looking at those portions, although to be fair he rarely finishes a meal! I am happy if he eats til he is full.

Hello all!

So pleased you had a lovely wedding MyGreenSofa. x

Nazly I'm sorry the referendum stuff has upset you so much. I was also disappointed in the result. I work as a nurse in the NHS and we have a lot of staff from overseas (frankly they are the only reasons the NHS hasn't collapsed completely these past few years!) and I'm depressed to say there has been a real notable increase on the ward in the past year or so in the number of patients / visitors that have made racist comments to a lot of the staff working to help them / their relatives. It's really quite depressing.

I like the idea of a favourite thing about our toddlers discussion. One of mine is watching DD when she see's either me or DH for the first time when we've come back from work. She just runs at us with the biggest grin and her arms outstretched to be cuddled as she's so pleased to see us.

DD came home from nursery yesterday with a letter to say that they are moving her from the baby section to pre-school section in September. Where did my baby go?!? It worries me slightly as I think DD is quite behind in her language skills. She babbles a lot and says some odd words 'duck' 'fish' 'hello' etc , but we are certainly no-where near stringing words together, or being able to identify colours or numbers like your toddlers. Should I be worried? Is she likely to be really behind the other children?

Anyone have any tips for getting DD to brush her teeth properly? She won't let me / DH do it as she wants to do it herself (too independent) but she only really just sits there and sucks the toothpaste off, she doesn't really 'brush' properly.

Cumbrian I bought a pair of potties last week as they were on special offer in Boots. I have done nothing with them yet as I literally don't know where to start with potty training. I might give her another month and then give it a try. I would really like her to be using the potty before DC2 comes in late November as I can't afford 2 sets of nappies, but I known that might not be an option.

Lastly has anyone started thinking about what they are doing for their toddlers second birthday. DD really likes animals so I was thinking maybe London zoo or something but it would be quite a long day trip. I have also considered going away for a night or somewhere but finding accommodation is proving difficult / expensive (standard hotel rooms don't really work for us as DD refuses to fall asleep if we are in the room as she is too busy trying to get our attention - she has literally been up nearly all night before doing this - so it needs to be somewhere with a separate room for her to sleep in really).

Really don't worry about the language development. It sounds like she is doing totally fine!

DD will be moving up to the toddler room soon too. I was really worrying about it, but now most of her friends have moved up, and I think she is ready for it, so I'm ok with it now. When things are quiet on the baby room they often all go into the toddler room, and DD seems so happy being back with her friends. She also seems so much bigger than the babies now! I can't quite believe that she was the tiniest for quite a while when she first started!

I love it when DD wakes up happy and I wake to her singing songs. It makes the 5am stats far more bearable!

No idea what to do fo DDs birthday yet. Maybe the aquarium? She loves Tiddler at the moment! Can't quite believe all our babies are about to turn two.

I'm avoiding all referendum talk as I was really upset at the result and I hate the racism that it has now exposed.

After being knocked over last week and having a great big egg lump on the back of his head he tripped yesterday and has a matching one on his forehead. To make it even better he tripped again today and has a big graze/gravel rash on his forehead. You just couldn't make it up!

I love it when I pull onto my mums street at the end of the day and I can see his face in the window, best.thing.ever!

I am avoiding the referendum stuff it angers me to much!

E's language is behind but I am not worried he'll get there when he gets there and if he doesn't will sort it and if needs to be!

He is doing great with his physical skills, walking up and down stairs one foot on each step and holding on with one hand, blowing bubbles it the water when in the bath or pool, trying to jump and sometimes succeeding. He also loves finding things out or fixing things, he was watching my husband put the speakers together and with a smidge of help from dh he was able to put the wires in the correct holes :)

He also moving into the 2-3 room in September, my big boy!

We have had a potty floating around the flat for the last 6 months, the last week he has shown an interest in sitting on it

DD is very interested in sitting on the potty. But mainly when fully clothed! She also wants to wipe her bottom, put the tissue in the toilet and flush it. Repeatedly. Again, fully clothed.

Hi all, it's been a while since I have been on here so just had a catch up !

J has literally turned into a tantrum throwing horror over the past few weeks ! He is so unpredictable and it's been a bit of a shock as he was such a laid back baby ! His favourite words are "No", "No way !" and "Mine" !! I think he's suddenly realised that he has his own mind and it's come out in full force.

He won't be going up to the toddler room at his nursery until January (they work it out for the term after their second birthday) but he will have a 3 month transitional period from when he turns two. He loves his nursery so I am hoping it will be a smooth transition for him.

I can't believe he is almost two and not really a baby anymore. He even looks grown up and more like a "little boy" than a baby ! My twins will be going into year 9 in September which also seems unreal.

Speech wise - he says a lot of words but doesn't join many. His understanding is brilliant. Physically, he is becoming a little daredevil - climbing, jumping and generally tearing around.

He's not using his potty, but he will sit on it for a couple of seconds - which is a minor breakthrough as previously he just wanted to stand in it.

I've attached a photo. Despite his tantrums, he is generally always smiling and laughing ! He's mischief personified .