September 2014 - Toddlers & Tantrums!

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Babies are now toddlers at 18 months +, growing and learning new things all the time!

Wow Team that looks amazing! Just rain here

Great pic Fate. A loved meeting Santa this year but is a little apprehensive over the visit of Santa, doesn't want him going in his room and he took Rudolph's carrot to bed with him

Well, it's been more than an age since I was on here :(
Hope everyone is well. Does anyone come on here regularly?
Z is 3 and three is tough!!
Is anyone else finding the same?
L is almost 10 months old (in a group for that but it migrated to Facebook pretty early on and I don't think there was ever much on the Mumsnet thread), I've even met several of them and it's been lovely!

Hi all!

I still keep an eye on this thread, but it is generally pretty quiet. I guess as they grow they don't change so quickly.

Three certainly has its tough moments - DD is quite a "strong" personality, but at least now we know what the tantrums are about. She's generally pretty good until she gets overtired, and she's become more fussy with food recently. On the plus side, she will now let us wash her hair!

How's everyone else doing?

DS started nursery last week, he had lots of settling sessions before Christmas and so far, so good.

His sleep started to improve at the tail end of last year and although he is in our bed most nights we now have to set an alarm so we get up in time for work! Hair washing is going better but haircuts.........

He is TV obsessed and I'm looking forward to spring /summer as I will be able to get out of the house more with him.

Oh and he has an answer for bloody everything!

I check in occasionally as well. But I have to say my seven month old is more trouble than my three year old! Also life with two is tougher than I imagined and posting on mumsnet is becoming more of a luxury these days! I just don't know where the time goes??

Hello all!

Sorry to hear about your concerns kitkat, but it's nice that your nursery are being pro-active. Do you think you would talk to the GP about it or just wait & see?

Zana - I must have missed you having DC2?! My DS is 10 months old - born 20th March. But I don't think we are on the same Facebook group?!

All in all I'm finding 3 year old much better than 2 year old. She has excellent communication and understanding and has started to become much more manageable, although still very energetic and headstrong. She does 4 afternoons at pre-school and loves it. She is an amazing big sister and dotes on DS but he is a much more challenging baby than she was so to be honest I'm still reeling!

Hi all!

Hope things are going well. Just a quick message to keep this on my "I'm on" list

Hope everyone is doing well with their little ones.

I think I jinxed myself. DS is broken, after happily telling people that he had started to sleep later in the morning he has regressed back to the crack of dawn!

Oh no polka! When did this start? What time does he wake? Have you tried a Gro Clock? It has changed our lives, no exaggeration.

Hi All!

Chicken Pox has arrived, youngest came out in spots on Friday, just ready gorgeous going back to nursery. So, 10-14 'extra' days off after easter.

DD started nursery in January. 3 hours to myself every morning - talk about liberating!

I have been using the extra time to get fit and healthy. Complete overall of the whole family's diet with a long term view. I have lost 3 1/2 stone since January 1st!! Gone from Size 24 to Size 14. Still 4 stone to go, but very motivated. DH has lost 3 stone and has only 1 stone to go.

I did the 100 Miles in March challenge, walking the dog for 3-4 miles every day. This month I started C25K and am actually running! On week 3 at the moment. Loving it!

Quite proud of myself

Oh wow FATE you should be very proud of yourself. I have lost 18lbs since November so it has been very slow but I still have 2 1/2 stone to go. I go to weightwatchers one evening a week and joined a gym last week to go twice a week. Currently feeling very guilty that I'm working full time and then won't be around as much for 3 evenings but I really need to make some time for my health and wellbeing. DH has lost 3 stone and I'm jealous! I'm putting in a request to change my working hours this week which will make a massive difference to work/life balance if approved.

Chicken pox has yet to hit our household......

Tomorrow is D day for finding out about school placements, we have applied for a school out of catchment so am getting nervous now!

Sleep here is more consistent again, 6.30am - I can live with that!

How is everyone getting on!?

Wow, FATE, that's amazing - well done. And to you too Polka.

I still have a stone to lose from my "baby weight". I have a big birthday this year, so I want to lose it for then.

DD had the chicken pox vaccine, so we shouldn't be having it, hopefully!

Things are ok here, just plodding along. Generally DD is lovely, although if she listened a little more and ignored me a little less there would be less conflict in our house! I'm hoping that with better weather we will all feel a little better.

So nice to see this thread pick up again

Well done Fate and Polka. I also still had baby weight to lose from A but it won't be happening anytime soon since I am pregnant again! Determined to get it off following the birth of this one in August though

Not had chicken pox here. It's been around nursery a few times but he always seems to miss it!

Haha team, I'm with you on the listening more ignoring less. A has such an attitude sometimes, but then he comes and gives me a big hug and says 'You're the best mammy in the world'. I mean how can you be angry at that 😍

Well done Fate! I still have just over a stone to lose from DD2. We've had a hectic few months though, and only moved into our new house a couple of weeks ago. I keep meaning to join Weight Watchers as I've done well with them before, but head feels so scatty right now with so much that's been going on that I'm not sure my heads in the right place right now. But 3 and a half stone since January is amazing! Congratulations!

Congratulations too to Cumbrian! Do you know if you are having a girl or boy?

So nice to see this thread is still here! I only checked just now and was surprised to see it still has some pretty recent posters!

DD1 is still very behind her peers. She saw a speech lady this week who put her language skills at about those of a 2 year old. She's delayed in all other areas too. I'm fairly certain she will eventually get diagnosed with some form of autism due to all of her developmental and social difficulties but it's a slow road. The only real positive from it all is that it was fed back to me today that she's pretty likely to qualify easily for additional support fairly easily as her additional needs are pretty apparent, whereas I know some parents really have to fight for support. She's a lovely, happy girl though, and that's all that really matters. My current proud mummy moment is that today she managed to say (for the first time) "I love Mummy". I was in a toddler group at the time and I nearly cried!

Thanks KitKat. Its another boy for us. Quite exciting

Aw its lovely when they tell you they love you isn't it? Sorry to hear that DD1 is behind. Great that you are getting good support though, and like you say, if she is happy then that is all that matters.

Ahh another boy. Fab news Cumbrian!

I'm really struggling this morning.

DD is being very challenging at the moment. She keeps waking early, and although she does stay in her room, she is singing at the top of her voice and waking me and DH up. She is also frequently having nightmares, which I know isn't her fault, but most nights I'm having to get up to settle her, and then it can take me up to 3 hours to get back to sleep.

Her behaviour is also horrific at the moment. She's not listening at all, being cheeky, constantly flinging her arms and legs around and "accidentally" hurting us. Then she goes into meltdown with crying and screaming, insisting on "cuddles", which actually means she clings around my neck so tight I either gag or can't breathe.

I'm so thoroughly fucked off with constantly shouting at her and telling her off. Then this morning she told me she doesn't want to live at home with mummy and daddy anymore. So now I just feel like the worst parent on the planet. But on the other hand I can't just let her behave horrifically and not do anything about it. I feel like I need a break. That's awful isn't it? I wish I was a better parent.

Oh team

I know I've not been around for a while but I still dip in every now and then.

This age is SO HARD. I would agree that behaviour is becoming a massive challenge now. I feel like every day can be a battle. I posted recently in parenting about this and someone recommended the book 'how to talk so little kids will listen'. Im only a chapter in but it is making a lot of sense and I feel like I need to change my whole mindset which will be hard but I'm hoping it will help improve the atmosphere at home and my relationship with DS. It was getting to a point where I just didn't even enjoy spending time with him.

You are not a shit parent. I'm sorry you're finding it so hard, just know we all have our struggles and everyone feels like they are a shit parent at some point. Hopefully there will be some practical advice along soon, I know I could certainly do with some!!

And now I've realised you didn't use the phrase shit parent

But it's a phrase I frequently use about my own parenting on the bloody awful days!!

Thanks Lilly - and shit parent is totally how I feel today! I've ordered the book. The reviews on it look great, so fingers crossed it helps a little,

Oh dear, why is this so tough

Oh Team honestly I think we all have days like that. My two DDs are 3.5 and 18 months now and they're exhausting and hard work and I definitely have days where I just want them to go away so I can do some things in peace, or shut up for 5 minutes so I can have some head-space. Please don't be too hard on yourself.

If it makes you feel any better we are in the same boat here, massively pushing bounderies. I can't decide if it is a hormone surge or just a developmental thing as they are learning so much so quickly.

Greensofa - my DS is 21st March!
I’ve not been on for long because I forgot all passwords and the like. I’m in a Facebook group(that started as an antenatal group on MN) and some of us have actually met up over the past 12 months or so (not scary at all, okay it is a little!).
Since the new year:
We’ve moved house (just over a month ago) after only starting to look in January and putting ours on for sale, so that was all pretty quick!
DDs 30 hours kicked in at the end of Jan, and DS started at nursery on he same days as her just after he turned 1.
I quit my old job (because I hated it) and have started a new one (just one day a week)

The challenging behaviour with DD is also starting here. Not listening, so stubborn, being mean to her brother and then getting really upset over the tiniest little things. It’s really testing our patience here. We seem to take it in turns to be the “good guy” if that makes sense.

Wow, 3 months since anyone posted! We must all have been having busy summers! What's up all?

Oh WooooW! This thread is still here ... although with infrequent posts ; I was so happy to see the latest post just a few days ago ...
I had a quick catch up on the latest posts ; DS has his 4th birthday two weeks ago (who remembers that he was premature?) he now has to go to school in two weeks time ! I can't believe it ! Uniforms purchased, other things ready, but I am generally nervous about this change ; mainly because I honestly don't think he is ready yet... we'll see what happens

Is anybody else going to school this year ?

Apart from that DS is generally quite delightful. Challenging at times but I just learnt to be more easygoing

It is now more than a year that I have been thinking about having a number two but unable to make a decision. It is literally making me sick that I can't make this decision and close this subject out one way or another - time is also not on my side with age and all...

I missed all of you great mummies x hope you all has a great summer