It's the Christmas party at Mugabe nights, pull up a bar stool and order your shots! August 2015

[FattyNinjaOwl]

New thread for all the regulars at the bar, and the not so regulars too.

X posts dozy - THATS AMAZING! Go pipes!!

What amazes me about molls? Her ability to not need sleep?? Haha! No, I'd say her sheer determination. You can already see it in her face when she grabs toys and puts them in her mouth. When they're too big she still tries cramming them in which can lead to a frustrated noise. I think we are going to have one strong little cookie on our hands!

That's amazing dozy! Go piper you clever girl 🙌🏻
I'm finding Ds' frustration quite something at the moment. He can grab stuff and get it in his mouth, but he obviously doesn't manage to get it to do exactly what he wants as he gets frustrated so easily. His favourite toy at the moment is a chain of plastic linky things. He gets super excited when he sees them, but then ends up shouting at them because they won't do what he wants. I've just been in stitches watching him get really pissed off with his foot because he can grab it and get it in his mouth, but it won't stay there.
He's also definitely starting to be able to recognise people other than me and dh, which is lovely.

Thanks fanby, it's really reassuring to know the jabs weren't that bad for you. I really hope Ds is ok, he's had a rough month with colds and a sore throat and deserves a bit of a break. As do I!

Right, Ds is asleep and I've got an hour to get on with some stuff before heading out for coffee and cake. Best get cracking.

Just read this - very interesting and shows how important it is that we are looked after and look after ourselves.
www.themotherish.com/torturing-new-mothers/

Great article! Now if someone could just come and look after me... Not going to happen though is it.
Our lives are, care set ups or culture is not set up for thus, more to the pity. I'm telling you ladies, a commune is the way forward 😁

There's no doubt that lack of sleep makes my anxiety about her not sleeping etc rise and I question myself. It's a self licking bloody lollipop!!! Argh

Wine, I need wine!

That is a great article. I def get more anxious on lack of sleep. I also find at the minute that I can't sleep well when he is asleep as am constantly convinced he's on the verge of waking. Which does nobody any favours.

Yes to a commune. Village to raise a baby and all that.

Mzzzf I was googling last night about routine versus baby led. No idea what to do either. Will he sleep better? I fear it will end up in a fight and as I learnt the hard way over cot naps fighting a baby is no fun. On the other hand I took him to bed last night at 9pm and he didn't settle till midnight. That's not great either. Oh who knows.

DH watched Luther last night but I have told him he has to watch again with me as too scared to watch by myself

Frolic I read that a couple of days ago when a friend put it on Facebook. It reminded me of when I had to stay in hospital a few days after DS was born. He was feeding constantly and you can't co sleep in a hospital bed, and any time he slept at least three of the other mothers and babies in the ward were crying. I was hallucinating, crying, and begging the nurses to go home after three nights, and had a blistering row with DP as soon as I left. Horrendous.

I'm definitely up for the commune! As long as it's near an lidl, we'll be fine 🙂

the lack of sleep triggering anxiety is so true. I'm not really an anxious person, but this womb infection combined with sleep regression has had me thinking all sorts! I was crying to dh last night that I don't want to spend Christmas in hospital- there is no suggestion at all that I need to, just my anxiety going through the roof. Powerful stuff.

I think we should all show the article to our partners and then take to bed over the festive season and they can alternate between bringing us mince pies and taking the babies 🙂

The bug is back! Throwing up all over again. This is not good. I have to make raspberry curd today (although fortunately made pastry this morning). Parents arrive tomorrow. Dd1 still spiking temps of 40. Dd2 will only sleep on me and was up eleventy million times last night. Nonononononononono. This is not happening.

Frolic I got into my head that we were all going to die in a car crash on the way up north. Anxiety is really strong emotion. I also post Paris got really anxious about going into London when I never used to be like that.

Jokstar that is really shit. Hoping you get thrown some luck soon.

Oh joskar poor you - you are having such a terrible time of it. I hope your parents arriving will be a great help to you and that the DDs better too. Hope you are well very very soon - your raspberry curd sounds just amazing - never heard of that before!!! Please can we all live in mzzzfs commune and you can make ooddles of it

My night was better - DD slept from 9-12.44(every minute counts!) then woke again at 3 and 6 - better than every hour at least......

I have breastfed all my DCs until 12 months then gone straight onto a cup. Would probably had fed for longer but stopped each time to ttc - never have periods while bf.

I have kept all my pregnancy tests in the DCs memory boxes

The excitement of my DC is reaching fever pitch[santa] [santa] [santa]. DD1 has been practising a made up Xmas show with them - they are going to show DH and me tomorrow - it will be rubbish but funny rubbish to be recorded and kept forever as another lovely Xmas memory [santa] [santa] [santa]

Jabs all done! Talk about screaming! I've never heard him make so much noise. He's fast asleep cuddling the boob now.
He's dropped centiles again for weight. But he's shot up for height. They had him having grown 5cm Since last time! No one seems worried about the weight but i will weigh him again in 2 weeks to see how he's gaining.

Oh god jockstar. Crossing everything that it doesn't last long.

Such a strong emotion kbro. You can see how things get very tough for some people. I'm so pleased I know what it is, why I'm experiencing it and how to combat it.

A Christmas show sounds so much fun loves. Definitely the stuff good memories are made of.

Ahh frolic that's so sweet and funny!! Molly is yet to find her feet! Sorry to hear the jabs were a scream a thon :(
Really interesting article, I've sent it to DH! I'm a pretty anxious person anyway but it's majorly heightened atm and I didn't really click it could be due to the sleep deprivation.

Commune near a lidl - I'm in!!

Joskar - you poorly thing. God I hope you feel better soon! What a rough stick you've been dealt again!!

Loveandsmiles - cannot wait to hear all about the Christmas show, sounds like it'll be a cracker!

Had a really lovely day at borough market and the southbank, finished my Christmas shopping! Hurrah!! Also managed to sneak in a cheeky lunch at the oxo tower mwahaha. Molly was exceptionally well behaved and did her classic manoeuvre of waking as soon as the food was put in front of us, ah well. Still managed to chow down my food before she expected her lunch hurrah to not eating one handed!! DH has taken her home and I'm waiting to get my nails done - pretty impressive day!!

Spent 4 hours doing a 90 minute drive back from my parents. Shattered and v grumpy - fortunately J slept for most of the journey, but I feel bad he spent so long in his car seat today.

Interesting article - I think I didn't realise the effect sleep deprivation has had on me, I think it has definitely made me more anxious and weepy. The reappearance of night feeds has made me feel worse recently.

joskar hope you feel better soon.

frolic glad jabs are all done. We had a lot of screaming at the most recent set, but he settled quite quickly.

loveandsmiles Christmas show sounds very cute!

I confess I wanted to keep at least one of the pregnancy tests I took, but DH went "eww" at keeping something I'd peed on. I do have pictures of them though.

Can't remember who asked what amazes you about your babies. I can't get over the fact J never stops moving, his legs go constantly or he's waving his arms or flexing his fingers. I'm also taken by the speed he goes from giggling and happy to hysterical and upset and vice versa.

Right DH is doing bath time and wanting to do loads to make up for not seeing J for a few days. Hoping he will be more settled and fall asleep a bit quicker tonight

Ahh London really does do Christmas pretty well. Sounds like an ace day Fanby - love the oxo tower! I have to admit to being a bit disappointed that Glasgow isn't that hot on it but NYE should be a scream I think.

Joskar - really hoping you feel better soon!

Frolic - jabs done and dusted woohoo little guy!

Loves - Christmas show sounds lovely. My cousins and I used to do that for the olds at Christmas too!

I've been very direct with dh today about what she needs when. Normally with him around I let him cut his own detail with her and try to let them work stuff out but after yesterday I literally pointed stuff out. I've ended up doing the lion's share of child caring today despite him being off BUT she's fed pretty well and slept ok so far - hour long naps 😁 Still on me but massive improvement than 20mins!!

I should send that article to DH but my problem is that when I do have a chance to nap I can't. Either because I'm 'wired and awake' or I can hear her screaming as DH can't settle her... But please ladies when I (undoubtedly) come on here again and say "what am I doing wrong?" And "should I do a strict routine?" Please remind me that my anxiety and self doubt is due to the sleep deprivation monkeys not my crapness xx

I really need to dye my roots tomorrow, meaning I've got to nip to the shops on Christmas Eve! Argh! Also just realised I've not chopped my hair since she was 2 days old - mein gott!

NORAD says Santa is due to take off in just over 14hrs!!! 🎅🏻🎅🏻

Really quick post as I am off out in 5 but just wanted to ask frolic how is DS after his jabs?

Also, we survived the Christmas food shop (although it was touch and go there for a while). This is what two children and Christmas shopping look like in a Beetle .

Thsnks loves, he is really upset. Pretty much screaming, feeding or sleeping. And lots of really pathetic whimpering when feeding and in his sleep. I fear tonight may be a long one at mugabes ☹
Love the dwarfes in the beetle! Well done on a successful shopping trip!

Very envious of your lovely London Christmassy day fanby. Sounds perfect. Well done Molly on letting mum eat with two hands.

Ds is exactly the same tindel - always moving and going from laughing to crying in a flash.

I find it really difficult to nap as well mzzf!- and I was a champion napper before Ds came along.
I will totally remind you about the anxiety monkeys next time you worry about routine. Can you do the same the next time I mention death by puss filled womb?

It's a deal!! The anxiety monkeys can fuck right off! 😁

Gaaahh just lost my post here goes again...

Tindel - epic traffic, don't think you'll be the only one whose baby spends longer than 2 hours in the car seat this Xmas

Mzzzf - ive always wanted to spend new year in Scotland, it'll be awesome!!!

I too have lost my ability to nap and I was queen of it pre baby, it must have gone with my pelvic floor.

Slowwife -love the pic, love the car, love the window sticker, love grumpy 1 holding the big box of chocs

Frolic - oh lordy sorry for giving you false hope with the jabs! Calpol??

Xxx

A big feed, calpol and a massive poonami should make for some good sleep, right?!

Aww frolic DS was bad with his too. Fx fir some sleep fir you all!

Aww, crap frolic I was hoping these jabs would give you an easy ride, what with the amount of general unwellness you've had going on. Hope the poo and Calpol have sorted DS out and you get some sleep.

I'm just in from the pub and can hear three lots of gentle snoring. Hmm, how long will this last do you all think??

Happy Christmas Eve peeps!!!! [santa]

Happy Christmas Eve indeed!!

3 lots of gentle snoring sounds sweet Sow, hope you enjoyed the pub.

I'll trade gentle snoring for what my DH is currently doing next to me - the sleeping bastard!! He woke her coming up yo bed late but has merrily fallen asleep whilst I've been trying to settle her for the past hour. Grrrrr! Plus the wine is howling outside banging the trees against the end of the house.

Yes to Scotland doing a good nye. DH and I often come up. This next bit is probably more relevant to the Scottish contingent but we've been on BBC Alba's Hogmanay show a few times as DH's cousin is a presenter. Cue one very embarrassing night when the whole room starts singing in Gaelic and I'm standing next to Julie Fowlis watching for the song to end so I can scoot past the cameras back to my seat. When the live camera starts panning my way, clearly to film Julie and the other performers singing along, I can't duck out of shot or keep silent as everyone else is singing, so in a panicky moment I start badly lip synching a la Millie Vanillie hoping no one will notice. When DH and I watched it back later he innocently said "I didn't know you knew the words to that" 😁 Oops!

Happy Christmas Eve everyone! Having got J to sleep at the stunningly early time of 815, we are up already for a feed. Was hoping for a bit longer, but never mind.

mzzf I last had my hair cut 6 months ago - was going to get it done during maternity leave. One of the many things I missed getting to do through not getting any maternity leave!

Im not part of the Scottish contingent but that is bloody funny! I literally would have died on the spot!! Hope you've managed to settle little one and you're having some good old fashioned sleep!!

Seems like we're up every two hours tonight so not quite as good as last night but still better than every hour so I'll still take it!

Not looking forward to packing or loading the car tomorrow. Fun times ahead!!