Just Mumming 9- We're suffering the curse of Mel B, ST syndrome and the rise of the sleep snatchers. We've all had enough and would just like a good JS.

[PixieChops]

Morning Viroids

Welcome to the 9th Just Mumming Fred.

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Name: Pixie
Age:29
Pests: 2- P (girl) 17 months old, R (boy) 4 months old
Things I can't do anymore- have a crap in peace, drink a hot drink, do any housework, shag ST, sleep, take naps.

Things I can do- carry a toddler, baby, dirty bottles and nappies down the stairs all at once, put a double pram up in 20 seconds, have a shower inc washing and shaving in under 5 mins. Be coco the clown on 26 mins sleep.

Forgot to say main reason why I was upset - I found a wall of black mould behind wardrobe in nursery. Caused by condensation due to washing etc in house. We had same problem in old house and it was horrific, our bed felt damp. Now terrified that B will get sick due to it. We've cleaned it off but going to have to find a solution. Think a tumble dryer is the answer.

Merry Christmas viroids! No Christmas eve celebrations here either... Minipopz took a two hour fight to go to bed and I feel like death. Ended up cosleeping as he will not go near the cot again! DH stayed up and drank all the prosecco!

Hope Mr D feels better today Dulcet. What's up with your Dad? Mine randomly got in touch this week having not spoken to me since May 2014!

That sounds scary La. Hopefully you can pick up a cheapish dryer in the January sales. Get well soon B!

Glad MIL is behaving essie!

Hope you all have a lovely day x

Bugger about the multiple wake ups. We had one and it was DHs turn

La I get those damp traps from pound stretcher, or the pound baskets in asda..they absorb loads and we don't have mould in the bedrooms anymore. You need bleach to clean it off, nothing else works as far as I know. Not surprised you're upset, I would be too

Merry Christmas viroids! What did Santa bring?!

Defo sounds like MrPopz got the better end of that deal popz! Hopefully tonight is better for you all. Dad argument was about seeing him today. Made some snide comments about MiL even though they have done me Christmas dinner for over 10 years and there's not normally so much as a card from him, let alone dinner or pressies! Anyway, saw him and wasn't mentioned again. Easier that way! How was your Dad? Did he want to see you?

Did you get your baileys la? I'm having some fizz but I don't actually like it much!

Spoke too soon mil just had a right go at me about having ds in the sling tonight while DH and everyone else was out of earshot. I'm so full of cold and hoarse that I could barely respond. She trotted out all the classics. I'm making a rod for my back, he'll never learn to sleep in his cot, I'm doing untold damage to my spine carrying him around etc etc. So glad we're going home tomorrow.

La so sorry to hear about the damp. My sister has had loads of problems with damp too from condensation. Will ask her how she's dealt with it when I see her tomorrow.

Omg. I just fed ds to sleep and put him in cot. Went down to have cheese and biscuits with everyone else and met mil on the stairs coming to see where I was. At same moment ds started to cry so I turned to go back up to resettle him. She grabbed my arm and angrily said to just leave him and to come and eat!!!! Errr no?! So I'm now sat in bed with him on boob sorely tempted to tell her to fuck off through the monitor cos I know she has the other end switched on downstairs. My poor baby. Note to self never to leave her to babysit.

Fucks sake she sounds delightful!, I'd have a mutter/tell DS what a bitch his grandma is with the monitor still on...I am that passive aggressive! Or I'd actually tell her it's none of her business and you'll thank her to stop interfering

Despite me and ds having a streaming cold I'd managed to have quite a nice day and she's just ruined it. DH is a bit emotionally shut down and it's no sodding wonder if that's how he was treated as a baby.
Why is it so difficult to accept that I do not leave my baby to cry. End of conversation. DH just said he thinks his mum feels I put ds needs above my own (umm? Yes?) and that I'm suffering as a result. I've got a cold ffs, its only temporary, I can't just not be his mother til I'm better.

Sorry for ranting.

New years res needs to be to stop giving a shit.

Isn't putting your baby's needs above your own what parenting is about? Stupid woman! DH should be backing you up
I admit I let DS whinge if I'm just finishing doing some thing like making a coffee before feeding him, but that's just cos an hour later I'll have a baby sleeping on me and no coffee!

Essie the response is 'back the fuck off!'

Actually at her cheek!!!!

Can't write more just now. B really blocked up and we are taking shifts to hold him upright so he can sleep, poor sausage. Too congested to put down as he cant breathe

Essie I'm raging on your behalf! Whether you leave your baby to cry or not is your decision and she's interfering! You know your baby and what's best. Stick to your guns and go with what feels right for you. I'm afraid she'd have been told where to go by now if it were me.

My pil are heading down on Monday to see B. I've already messaged them to say I would be grateful to know if either of them are not feeling well, as this little one's been through enough in the past week with this bad cold and diarrhoea, so I'm not letting anyone who's ill near him just now to give him a chance to recover. Poor sausage. He's got a fever again today and we are having to keep him propped up because his nose is streaming. He had a nose bleed last night due to the pressure on his sinuses. Trying to keep on top of feeds to stop him getting dehydrated, but he gets very distressed trying to feed with a blocked nose.

My DM is a legend - she sat up watching him last night while I slept, as I'd not slept the three nights beforehand and I was wrecked. She now asleep in my bed upstairs.

Perusing the sales online today! We are going to buy a tumble dryer to try to fix the issue of condensation in the house. Thanks so much for the help with the damp. We'd forgotten that we have one of those damp catchers in the loft, so dh is going to go up and get it today and we'll put it in B's room. Really appreciate the advice! Think the washing is the main culprit as its only happened since B was born, so a tumble dryer will make massive difference.

Going to also buy some weaning stuff and look for a toybox! I want one with his name on :-)

it looks like we'll have some more grads here soon - hooray!

essie! I'd tell her to back the Fuck off! I get those useful nuggets from my MIL too.... "You shouldn't go to him when he cries because then he'll learn that you go to him whenever he cries" .... ERM, surely that's a GOOD thing? He's a baby!! Hope you and DS are feeling better soon.

I'm a lot less angsty about crying than I was when minipopz was tiny tbh. It's more or less fucking constant at the minute Leap 8/ separation anxiety is a special kind of hell. I'd quite like to just put him in a cupboard for a little while.....

Have fun shopping La!

Dad just wanted my address and phone number Dulcet because allegedly he's lost it.... Not so sure why he's suddenly bothered, I've set him birthday/ father's day/ Xmas day cards etc over the past two years and he's never responded to any of them. Didn't even reply to my birth announcement for mini!

Hope everyone had a fantastic day yesterday. X

Well that's the main feasting days over with, how did everyone do? I'm pretty stuffed! Any good pressies?

That's horrible essie, hope it didn't ruin the day too much. You make the right choices for your child, you would hope that as long as the baby is happy she wouldn't mind how you chose to parent.

Anything good in the sales la? Hoping to talk DH into a new fridge/freezer. Tried saying we needed more freezer space for weaning but didn't really work. Hope B is a bit better and you got some rest!

Did he do anything with the details popz? You'd at least expect a card if he's asking for address!

For some reason I feel a bit glum. Taken myself to bed, baby is a bit restless. Not sure whether it's just tiredness and knowing I won't get good sleep or what but looking forward to a cuddle when DH comes up.

I know that feeling dulcet! Post Christmas come down. Eat some more chocolate. It's a pity we can't get pissed.

I found this year weird. It was odd trying to work Christmas dinner around baby. We ended up with him in bouncer sitting watching.

B is slowly improving. This cold has been a bitch! I'm now getting it - my throat is sore as fuck. He is over the worst I hope, his breathing seems a bit easier. Got him propped right up to try and drain his nose. It was scary night before last because we drowned his crib in olbas oil , suctioned his nose, used nasal spray etc and he still couldn't breathe.

I got an iPad mini for Christmas! I've wanted one for ages! I'm well chuffed

Popz your dad sounds like a bit of a poo :(. Mine is like that too

Sales - I got a tumble dryer! Yay! No more washing draped all over the place! Going to get B a toy box and book shelf for the lounge and a storage unit for nursery. I'm getting a cost from DM which is my Christmas present

Feeling a bit sorry for myself now... STILL got this manky sore throat cold thing. Doesn't seem to be getting any better, wonder if I need abx

Feeling any chirpier this morning Dulcet?

Sounds like a good haul La! I have dryer envy!!

Haven't replied to Dad yet. He obviously wants something to suddenly get in touch after all this time.

If it's anything like B's one Popz its a really horrible cold. He's had it two weeks. Hoping I can shake it off quickly. Get well soon!

Dh is pissed off at me. DM took B at 6:30 so I could sleep and she told him to sleep too. He of course sees that as an opportunity for sex, even though I'm exhausted after being up so much with baby and also not well. He's now sulking because I said I wanted to sleep for 2 hours not play with his dick.

Ffs

He a bit off the mark if he thinks your mum has taken B just so he can get his end away la! Hope you got a good nap instead. Glad B seems a bit better though. Hopefully you can all
Enjoy some down time together.

Don't blame you for not replying to your dad popz. Although the curiosity would probably get the better of me! Get thee to the docs if you aren't improving!

It probably was Christmas come down for me, although I still didn't feel very festive so maybe that was related. Feels bit happier today - home in my own space. Trying J in his own room tonight. He went down fine. First wake up now as normal. Not much hope for better sleep now I'm doing it, even though I had everything crossed! See if he wakes up 12-1 like would be normal for second wake up.

So glad to get home. DH was mortified about his mum's behaviour. We both agreed we're not going to stay at his folks again til we've got some sort of bedtime routine going on. God know how long that will take!

La sorry DH saw precious sleep opportunity as chance for jsing! Well done on the drier though! My sis said that was what they were planning on doing.

Sorry to hear babies still struggling with colds. DS is still not right either and I had to give calpol again today. I've still got razor throat and a nose like a tap. Supposed to be staying with my elderly gran Fri and Sat night but I can't share this bug with her.

Anyone doing anything nye or will you all be sleeping (or attempting to) like me?

Still sick! Hadn't realised it was bank holiday today... Will have to wait until tomorrow to go beg the GP for some antibiotics!

Oh MrLa! Hope he's pulled his head out of his arse by now.

Don't think we'll be doing much for NYE either essie. Glad that DH was on your side! Hope you feel better soon...

Feeling a bit emotional at the moment - especially with all the newborn pics popping up on fb! This time last year I was heavily pregnant and waiting for my little one to arrive. Me and Mr P were all happy and excited and loved up. Was feeling all positive about labour.... Minipopz will be one year old in a week and not a baby anymore He doesn't eat or sleep, all he does is fucking whine and cry all day long and I'm feeling at the end of my tether somewhat. Feel ridiculous for ever complaining about the newborn days! Can't remember the last time me and Mr P even got to sit down and watch the telly together, never mind anything else. And in a few weeks time I've got the joy of going back to work!

As silly as it sounds, I miss the new specialness of it all too - the first pregnancy and those early newborn days. I'm never going to have that again. And there's nothing special about having a one year old brat! Is there such a thing as delayed PND?!

Eugh. Hope this is the bug talking!

At least you've agreed not to go back for the foreseeable essie, and DH is supportive. No plans for New Years here, I usually find it a bit of a disappointment anyway! Will be here eating shit probably!

It's an emotional time popz, it is totally understandable that you would be feeling all the feels. All the things you have done this year, I'm sure it feels like the end of an era! And going back to work is just a ball ache. I think they say PND can be up to the first year and can be delayed so it could be, so you think you need help? Hope you feel better today.

Hi all, were home! Will catch up later

Oh Popz, sorry to hear you are feeling shite. I know what you mean about looking back and knowing you'll never be there again. I think thats pretty standard with having a baby, everything happens so quickly, too quickly, especially in that first year and suddenly so much is behind you. I think you can get delayed PND. If DS is hard going at the moment though then thats enough to make you feel crap. It's full on at that age and not getting to sit down and have 5 mins to yourself soon gets the better of you. It does me anyway. I went to the stables today on my OWN for a whole hour, it was amazing. I felt great after. Can anyone have DS so you can bugger off for an hour and please yourself? And there is something special about having a one year old brat. You bloody well did that! That's one year (and that's not including being preggers and jsing) of blood, sweat, shit, vomit, tears etc.

Think we are finally getting past the worst of this bug. Hopefully we will be disease free for at least a little while.