Just Mumming 9- We're suffering the curse of Mel B, ST syndrome and the rise of the sleep snatchers. We've all had enough and would just like a good JS.

[PixieChops]

Morning Viroids

Welcome to the 9th Just Mumming Fred.

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Name: Pixie
Age:29
Pests: 2- P (girl) 17 months old, R (boy) 4 months old
Things I can't do anymore- have a crap in peace, drink a hot drink, do any housework, shag ST, sleep, take naps.

Things I can do- carry a toddler, baby, dirty bottles and nappies down the stairs all at once, put a double pram up in 20 seconds, have a shower inc washing and shaving in under 5 mins. Be coco the clown on 26 mins sleep.

Yup 3 lots 4 weeks apart! Glad he's ok. I found B was bad the day after but hopefully you'll be ok

Haircut is amazing!! I feel EPIC!

Hope B is ok today Purple

Well jel of the haircut La

I don't want to jinx things but the current leap she's in doesn't seem to be making things too horrible - but she's doing lots of new things. It's probably just a noise but if I walk out of the room and she cries in complaint, she says mama. She won't do it in front of anyone else to verify it though!! She waved to DS when I took her to bed last night. She is also an absolute snot machine which is putting me right off my breakfast

I have a snot machine too Pis .... Its like a frigging tap first thing on a morning but seems to clear up by the afternoon...

Am hoping leap 7 is coming to an end for us. He seems a little better tempered today!

Did you have the inevitable mum chop La??

Hope B is ok today purple

So, minipopz can open doors now..... FMactual L!

In other news.... I have rediscovered my sex drive!

Photos of the hair la??

Have you used the new sex drive in practice popz, or just theoretical sex drive?

Sounds so cute, waving at DS pis!

How's B today purple?

la/ fleur - I just snuck on the July postnatal thread and one of them is pregnant again already! Can you imagine?!

Noooo dulcet planned?

Thanks lovelies, he has been doped up on calpol again, he was inconsolable this morning. Then slept all afternoon, woke for a feed and more calpol, sobbed a lot and went back to sleep.

Hurray for sex drives Popz I'd be inclined to use it as a carrot on a stick to get more help from DH

WTAF how the...? What the...? Oh my god!

Just read it and she was using condoms!

Wow.

Hair is basically back to 'me' hair so I got the highlights done which hadn't been done since April and got my layers and fringe cut back in. Woo!

Poor minipurple! Jabs are a bitch. We have 3rd lot tomorrow :(

My poor sausage has big hot red marks on his cheeks. Teething. Eeek!

Pis she sounds adorable!!!

B has started laughing at himself in the mirror. He is so cute. Kato was really kind and messaged me saying she had a beanbag she would send me that would make him more comfortable. It arrived today and it's fab!! She's so kind :)

Go popz! You done it yet? Time for micropopz yes??

Shut the front door Dulcet!? Christ... Mind you, Horace was pregnant again by 4 months pp wasn't she. Madness.

Not just a theoretical sex drive - it's been put into practice twice this week! . Minipopz has dropped a lot of feeds all of a sudden so I guess bf must have been seriously suppressing it! No micropopz til Christmas at least though. Knowing my luck I'd get pg first time and have to go back to work upduffed...

Nice one popz!!!

My dh will be lucky if he gets any this side of 90. He went to a mates birthday last night and came in pissed at 1am . Wasn't too bad but bumped into bed as he went to bed, then snored like a troll all night. Woke B up 3 times in total. I'm knackered :(

Ok - AIBU?

My mil is nice enough but she doesn't really get me and dh. We love things like going out for dinner, nice food and drink, we try to dress quite smartly, we listen to music and like to have gadgets round the house. When Christmas comes we ask for things like a book on photography or some music. Mil likes bird watching, walking and gardening. Nothing wrong with that but she always buys us presents that are more like her - for example one Christmas she got me a grey zip up top from m&s. It was alright but just a grey hoodie without the hood. Functional. Not even a nice colour?

She emailed asking what we wanted for Christmas. I suggested some stuff for B like bath toys or clothes and forwarded her dhs suggestion list. You guys know what my dh does for a living and that he competes in it at national and international level, so it's more than a hobby. He'd asked for some books relating to this, plus nice cologne, some socks etc and then a couple of gadget type things. All under £20 and I provided links to them all on Amazon. Easy right? I said can u tell me what you get him off the list so I don't duplicate.

I get an email back 'I've done my Christmas shopping today and didn't get any of this just to let you know'

Why? Why would you ask what folk want but then not get them something they want?

She'll have got him something rubbish again that he will be polite about but never use.

AIBU to feel a bit exasperated? Is it that hard to try to get people something they'd actually like?

la last year my mum got us a ketchup celebration set...it had a bottle of ketchup, a pot to hold some chips in and a recipe book. Beat that!

Morning!!

S had a decent night but what did I do? Spend it tossing and turning worrying about work I don't think I can do anymore KIT days - it just pisses me off that people aren't doing my work/ extra stuff that I was doing. I sent an inflammatory email to my boss at 5.30am. Eeek!

No la I don't think you are BU. My mum used to do this - buy me all manner of crap such as ornaments (I don't do Nick nacks) until I politely pointed out that I try to keep my house minimalist and I hate that she is wasting her money. She now rigidly sticks to my list (which I have to give her in September as she likes to get her shopping done early - half the time I have forgotten what I asked for by Christmas and so I still get a surprise ).

Why does she bother asking for a list?

That would annoy me too. Like you say, why bother asking for a list!! Just wasting everyone's time. I'd rather people just didn't buy me a present than get pointless tat that will clutter up my house and then I will feel guilty about sending to the charity shop a year later!! 😬 Bah Humbug haha!

Eek. Fleur - that sounds shit. I'd be the same! I've not done any KIT days for that reason. Out of sight out of mind until next year! Will you get any come back from the email.....?

Possibly popz but I don't care. I was asked to come in to help on a particular project as I have experience. I said I could help and guide but the actual work would need to be done by someone else (it would take more than 10 KIT days). The deadline is fast approaching and all my boss keeps doing is forwarding emails to me and not doing the work.

The fall out would be pretty serious but she either doesn't comprehend or is burying her head in the sand. I just spelt it out to her

Also, I am not getting paid but getting time in lieu but I am dealing with these emails in my own time (they are being forwarded to my personal email).

I'd love that zyla!!! I love ketchup

Fleur that's bloody annoying! Not surprised you're fed up. Is it worth letting shit hit the fan so that she learns and hopefully improves?

How long was the fallout from the first jabs. He's still a bit grotty, they were done on Tuesday morning
Fleur I'd let them stew, it's not easy but your boss has form for this and won't learn if you keep bailing her out.

Mine have asked me to do more work. I'm currently doing 2 hours on Fridays. I've said not til after Christmas. The money is useful and means I don't need as much of my savings. I'm also missing it, the novelty of not working has worn off and I feel I'm having an identity crisis somewhat. I'm definitely not cut out to be a SAHM. Right now the next 7 months seems endless! I make myself go out every day but that gets expensive, there's only so much free stuff around. Walks round the village are ok but not every day, shopping means money, lunch means money. Baby cinema next week is £10 plus transport. I can't sit in the house every day though, I'll go nuts

Only 24 hours or so here. Did he have the men B one though? We missed out on that one but I've heard a lot of people say that it made their little ones poorly for a few days after.

Agree with purple - its not your responsibility if you're on mat leave fleur.. . Let her get the flak for it.

Are there any children's centres near you purple? They usually run free playgroups and other activities. Or a library? There's a baby storytime session once a week at our library where all the little ones run riot look at the books and the staff do singing and stories for them. Any fb groups for local mum's that might organise stuff you can go to? Park/ swings etc? That's basically what I fill most of my time with. X

That's a good idea about children's centres thanks Popz I'll have a look into it. Maybe I just need to be more creative. I tried a baby group but the only thing I had in common with the other mummies is that we all have a baby. I just found it a bit mind numbing. Plus it was after massage and he sleeps through it

It's worth trying a couple of different baby groups Purple. I've given up on one because I just didn't gel with the other mums whereas I've made friends in other groups. It's funny really - people tell you it's going to be hard work and how tired you'll be and its true but no one says how boring and lonely having a baby can be too. It was my overriding memory from having DS. It was amazing in that he was awesome and I loved him so much but I was bored a lot too and missed being around adults. I've forced myself to be a more social creature this time which isn't really my nature!

Thanks Pis I have looked on the children centre website and found a couple of baby groups we could go to. I do need to try different ones I think. I only have to go once

I'd totally agree with pis - i get out every day, but I try different groups regularly to keep it fresh. Most of the groups are free. I see a lot of the same people but some have different groups at them and it's so nice to chat to different people sometimes.

I don't naturally find being at home fun - I get so bored and frustrated, but I just think that it's up to me to try and make sure I get out and make the most of B's babyhood. Equally I love the afternoons we spend on our own when he sleeps on me.

You're right pis that no one prepares you for how boring it can be! Especially when they are really little - it's just about meeting needs. But they get more interesting as they get older and b is now so much more fun and responsive to me.

See if you can make some mum friends and perhaps open up to them to let them know how you're feeling - I find people will empathise and it makes you more approachable.

B was off for a week after jabs

I do know what you mean, purple - I feel that I have to get out of the house most days or the hours just disappear in a cycle of feeding, winding, changing etc and nothing really gets achieved. It also means that I feel aggrieved when all dh wants to do when he gets home is read a book / watch sport etc, as I'm often desperate for someone to talk to - and after a day at work, he just wants peace! So going out and doing something different and talking to people definitely helps!