Just Mumming 8 - the one with the fire crawlers, wind machines and the Health Visitor revolt

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Add your stats Viroids (or don't bother). I feel like there's something I'm supposed to write here but don't know what it is...

We used to marinade BabyPis in olive oil as she was peely when she was first born :-) the bottle is dark plastic and my friend thought I had a bottle of red wine on the changing table

I'm not really sure what's stopping me from going to baby things. Although I have no idea what's near me. I think having a tough run of it post partum (me physically) and a dd who cried a lot because of trapped wind etc, I just preferred to go for walks. I just found the book my hv gave me with baby groups but it's all about 3 years old and the insert with for updates show most cancelled!! Going to try and get to bounce and rhyme type things at library nearest me. See what that's like. Although as it's tomorrow when I'm at dentist it'll need to wait til next week

popz I've got a little frog wrap. Second hand hopefully I/DD get the hang of it!

Anyway, my DD has just woken up after a 45min nap!! In her cot!! Unheard of here. 20mins if I'm lucky

Let us know how you get on fudge

Popz - what's he done?

Went to look at a nursery for miniLa today - going to stick his name down :)

Ok I need advice! I have a bit of an awkward situation and not sure what to do. Did a class when pregnant. A lady there asked for my no because she doesn't know many folk with babies. She seemed nice so I said no problem. Been for coffee with her and she said she was struggling bf so I suggested she come to a baby group where there's support. She came and I introduced her to some of my mum friends.

Since then she turns up to every group I go to. She has this morning asked me which osteopath I take B to as she is considering taking her baby to one and has asked me which nursery I'm putting B down for. She's nice but I'm feeling a bit claustrophobic. I don't want to exclude people but I'm feeling a bit frustrated.
I like to talk to lots of different people and it's difficult when the same person sits next to me at every class.

Wwyd?

Ooh tricky one la can you make a joke of it?

I'm booked on baby massage starting in a couple of weeks with my friend and her baby.

We've been out shopping for the day and I keep buying baby things! Spent vouchers on some toys for him. Thank you cards have also arrived so I need to start writing them soon. I got them online with his photos on, they look fab.

Popz have you told him he's being a twat? Sometimes they just don't realise it! Mine generally needs telling as he's completely unaware!

Hola.
Sorry haven't been on, we had an awful storm here last night, knocked out the power and wifi etc, carnage with the patio furniture etc etc.
R was petrified, screaming etc, but went back down and didn't surface till 7:15, she's sleeping so well here. Pitch black and silent.
Home tomorrow to noise and light. Ah well. Can't have it all I guess.

Whoever said about giving infacol just a night, you need to add it to every feed as it builds up so to say, so for it to take effect then start now with every bottle.

Evening all

We've finally got a referral to the paediatrician. The GP was alarmed at how little milk MiniSnap is taking (DP went armed with numbers) and doesn't know what might be causing it. Just hoping we won't have to wait too long.

Min is there anyway you can replicate dark and quiet st home? Do you have black out curtain/ blind?

La that sounds a bit awkward. Could you introduce her to others in the groups so she feels able to mix with other people too? You're probably too warm and friendly for your own good and if she's a bit in confident she'll gravitate towards you!

Hi all! Last day of our holiday and I am feeling v sad

DH and I have managed to really sort things out between us this week - he finally seems to understand what looking after S day in day out entails. He has given me sleep and a real rest

S on the other hand just will not go to sleep. It's so frustrating. He is clearly overtired, we swaddle, rock, white noise etc and yet he carries on crying. It is taking us 3 hours to get him to sleep at night.

In the end he gets a bottle of formula and we feed him to sleep. Wrong but it does seem to work.

That's quite annoying la I must admit am a bit of a lone wolf - I like doing things on my own or have separate friendship groups. I am not one to have a best friend. I guess all you can do is introduce her to a few other people and hope they stick. Maybe miss a class/ group meet one week and not tell her so she has to talk to others or am I just a bitch??

I tried that fleur! She texted me asking why i wasn't there!

That's great that you've sorted everything out! But not good about sleeping. Can you boob him to sleep? My new thing is to boob then cuddle B with his dummy in so he doesn't get sucky. He gets sleepy and I can stealth move him to crib.

Snap that's brilliant that you've got your referral - when is it?

I think you're right in that I hate seeing people not being spoken to and feeling left out so I always make effort to talk to folk who don't know anyone, at detriment to my own fun as then I don't get a chance to speak to my friends. I maybe should be more aloof with her but she's very nice, I just don't want to talk to her every single day.

Min - do you have blackout curtains at home? I'm looking forward to putting DS in his own room eventually and have it dark. Our room is probably not dark enough to prevent him waking up. Enjoy the rest of your holiday!

Purple I did same thing with photo thank you cards! They looked awesome

Our room is too dark for B. I've put the gro egg next to his crib which has helped. Otherwise every time I turned the light out he woke up. He sleeps in broad daylight downstairs though so maybe pitch dark is scary for him

Did you say you have an angelcare monitor purple? I leave the nightlight on it on - it's not bright and is enough to check on him

I tell him occasionally purple ... He just sulks and denies it!

He was bitching this morning because I wanted to meet a friend for coffee this eve and he thought he was going out.... Even though as I pointed out to him, he was out day Sunday and why should he get 2 nights out in one week!? Didn't go down well.

Oooh that's a toughie La I suppose you should take it as a compliment, you're obviously a lovely gregarious lady! I like fleur's idea of standing her up a couple of times. How long has she been doing it for? Maybe she'll start to gain a little more confidence after a couple of weeks? It is a bit of a scary time.

Glad you've had a lovely hol fleur - good news with MrFleur!

Storm sounds scary Min. Poor R.

Totally over this sleep regression bollocks! Minipopz hasn't napped since 1pm. Piddly 15 min snooze about 6. Now he's STILL AWAKE. I have shit to do! How does he always know!?

Gro do an ace light thing that plugs into your main light fitting, then you add your normal bulb under it. If you turn your lights on normally, the night light comes on, and is adjustable as to how bright or dim you want it, if you turn the light off and on again, the normal bulb comes on! We think it's ace to save on socket use etc :). We don't use it as a night light usually, (but are at the moment as she's not well and freaks out a bit when waking up now) but as a dim light if we need to nappy change in the night so she doesn't wake up too much :)

I think I'm going to complain about our HVs. I've just found out that apparently the dept for health recommends that babies over 6 months are given vitamin drops for vits A, C and D (if they event having at least 500ml of formula a day). Why haven't I been told this? I'm not stupid, but I'm also not psychic. I attended one of their worse than fucking useless weaning sessions, where they just puréed some stuff for us to try which I went nowhere near after watching the woman use her finger to scrape it out of the pot, and who also cut discs of carrots instead of sticks when I asked how soft to cook them if wanting to introduce food as solids and vitamin drops were never mentioned. I looked through the shitty handouts they have, not mentioned. Ffs. What else should I know that I don't because I haven't done this before and I don't have time to research every fucking possibility in the world?

*event=aren't

We've got a dimmer in the nursery which is where we change him at night, I've also started feeding him in there as it's less disturbance for DH and more supportive of my back.

Fleur autocorrected to flour I'm glad you've got your DH sorted. Popz I don't know what to suggest...bloody men! Hope you enjoyed your coffee with your friend though

I admit to being a bit dismissive of people who said parenting is the hardest thing they ever did, but I totally get it now! We're in the throes of the bedtime routine and it's hard to know what to do for the best. I realise we can't get a routine yet but screaming and feeding and napping all evening ain't great. What should we be doing at 3 weeks old? We have a Moses basket downstairs, crib upstairs but I don't want to put him in it til we come to bed if poss. Suggestions very welcome

I've never been told that either zyla? I've never given mini any supplements! I thought milk was enough for them until 1 year? Its only their iron stores that may need supplementing.

I think that's pretty much how our evenings went down for weeks purple ... Cry feed cry feed cry feed..... Just ride it out x

purple - was wondering something similar myself, although Imogen is about a week older! Feeding isn't necessarily the issue, but rather the amount of time to settle her again post feed- not unusual for it to be a couple of hours per cycle of feeding, winding, changing and then probably feeding and winding again before she will settle to sleep or to sit in her bouncer or lie on her mat. Which means that as Mr D is now back at work, we are taking it in turns to sleep on the sofa in shifts, as otherwise, he'd get virtually no sleep, given that she'll sleep for 2-3 hours per cycle at best and often less than two ??
Please tell me that they start to sleep longer or to have shorter settling period between sleeps? ???
Snap - So glad that the gp finally listened and that you got the referral! Hope it is soon and helpful.
We've been struggling a bit with feeding And a possible tongue tie so we got referred to a lactation clinic, and the wait was about 2 weeks. (North West ) we go on Tuesday and are keeping our fingers crossed, so hope yours is quick too.
La - could you ask one of your other friends to "adopt " her at a group and then be deliberately late arriving so she is already settled / seated when you get there?

popz have a look at this and tell me how you understand it? It hardly mentions breast feeding, unhelpfully! I think bf is SO uncommon around here, I was at my gp's on wed (having H's rash looked at) and saw the signs for booking flu vaccinations. As I'm type 1 diabetic I'm supposed to have it, so I went to the desk and asked if it was ok to have when bf. She didn't know, went to ask the docs, who didn't know!! You'd have thought someone else would have asked by now....

Zyla strangely i only read about needing vitamin drops today - apparently when weaning a baby's levels can drop and need supplementing. But consensus from those commenting was that bf babies that are healthy don't need them. Check though

Deeply it does get better!

(But then dips again slightly!)

B has been awake every hour I'm knackered

Here we are told to give vitamin drops from 4 weeks to 4 years regardless of whether the baby is bf and ff, and regardless of how much formula they take. The drops are provided by the NHS and mothers are given them for the first year for free too. It's mainly for vitamin D as there has been a resurgence of rickets, and new mothers' vitamin stores are depleted. I got told off for confessing I sometimes forget to give the baby his drops. I've been giving them to his brother since he was 4 weeks old.

Good luck at the tongue tie clinic Deeply. Both mine had it and had the operation to release it. It can make a huge difference for some babies.

Looks like I'm going to the chemist today then for vitamins.... Though I was told the other day that there had been a newspaper article saying that vit D from vitamins not sunlight wouldn't stop them getting rickets!

Zyla the HV brought me the drops and said she will provide them til 6 months then I have to buy them at £1.80 a go. I asked if his formula doesn't have vitamins in and she said not! Which seemed a bit odd