Just Mumming 8 - the one with the fire crawlers, wind machines and the Health Visitor revolt

[WilHarlot]

Add your stats Viroids (or don't bother). I feel like there's something I'm supposed to write here but don't know what it is...

Oh dear. Sorry about the night wakings! The sleep deprivation is awful. E woke up at 2.30 and 5.30 last night and wanted to feed then have a chat and a kick about! Feel like I've been up most of the night.

We've recently been having huge meltdowns every time I put her down for naps or bedtime. After thinking through every possible reason, I think I've worked out that she no longer wants to be fed, rocked or cuddled to sleep. I put her in her cot with a dummy and white noise, then I just hold her hand and she falls asleep. Oh my god, it's so much easier! No rocking and walking (I had an app on my phone that told me I was walking about 5km a day walking her about to get her to sleep!l) And no stealth transferring to cot. I feel like we're one step closer to self-soothing.

Epic catch up la! Glad you're coming through the other side of the choking incident.

I have read everything but can't remember who said what, and can't scroll back on my phone But hope the sleeping improves for everyone soon.

Got to get going, got a baby massage class at 10am and E is fast asleep and I'm still in bed!

Took him to bed with me at 11 and he finally crashed out on the boob.... Woke up again 45 mins later He's having a lie in with DH now at least.

Enjoy your classes min and mini

Where you off on holiday Min? Bit jealous. I think. Holiday with a baby is probably just day care in a different place!

Some fucker just gazumped us on the house. Winner. After having a baby and a dog under my feet CONSTANTLY in our tiny house this week, really not the best news.

Fuckers indeed popz, I can't believe in this day and age that's still legal. Should adopt th scottish way.
We're going to menorca, to a villa. I'm mega nervous tbh.

Fuckers popz

Epic catch up La

Bugger about the nocturnal babies, hope you all have a better night tonight.

We turned up the sensitivity on the Angelcare and the fucking thing still kept going off. He's in a crib with a wooden base that seems pretty flat. Wonder if we need a piece of wood or something.

I haven't BF all week thanks to the antibiotics. MW said they would get into my milk and I don't want B to get them. They give me headaches and the shits, I don't want him to be poorly. I've been pumping but now only get 5ml at a time. It's all gone to shit and I don't feel good about it but as I'm on the antibiotics til Tuesday I really can't do anything.
So I've decided to give it up. I'm trying not to beat myself up. I've fucked it up and it's making me miserable. I need to get on with getting well and looking after my baby. He doesn't care how he's fed and he's thriving.
I'm worried people will judge me but I'm judging myself too. I need to get over this

Oh Popz that's so awful, sorry chick. Cannot believe what arseholes people turn into when selling houses. Hopefully you find something else suitable soon.

Purple it was always going to be hard when you weren't feeding yourself all the time. On one hand the antibiotics wouldn't be a big deal for B, but if you're happier not bfing then that is a fine decision and you don't have to feel bad about it. Believe me there will be a million different things to worry about and by the time B is about 3, you'll barely remember or care how he was fed.

The older one is at nursery, the younger one is asleep. I really need to tidy the older one's bedroom but am so tempted to have a nap instead...

Thanks wil I'd go for a nap

I'm on metronidazole which shouldn't be used when BF. I'm allergic to penicillin. I'm also on Cefalexin which is safe for BF.

Nap good woman, nap!

R just found the fire, picked off the bottom of it and I said no, sternly and took her away.
Should have seen the tantrum!

Thanks guys. The gazumpers are ready to move now and offered more than us so... I probably would have done the same in the vendors position. More annoyed at our estate agent telling us we'd have an offer on ours within a fortnight, and noones even been to look round yet! Shouldn't have fallen for the line I guess... Trying not to think about the fact that we looked at a million houses and that was the only one even remotely suitable....

Hope you picked the nap Wil!! Cleaning can wait.

Didn't mean to shit all over your holiday btw Min! It'll be fab even if it is just babysitting in a different climate. Hopefully R will love the pool and the beach Do you get discount hols in your job?

That sounds tough purple Could they not offer you any bf friendly abx? Pumping is not a very good indicator of supply - babies are much more efficient at extracting milk. Maybe once your infection has cleared you can try him on the boob and get your supply going again. All might not be lost. Its a big decision so don't best yourself up. B will love you no matter what x

*beat

Thanks popz you never know. They didn't discuss any of it with me. I'd been on it for 36 hours when they told me it gets through to my milk. I never thought to ask when they hooked it up. At no point did anyone tell me what was going on, what the plan was or what would happen. I feel a bit upset about it all, I suffer with anxiety and being kept in the dark made it so much worse

Tbh all I want right now is the infection gone as a leaky wound isn't fun. It's improving though and I'm now standing in the bath twice a day prodding my stomach to encourage it to come out, which is working, it was pouring out, now dripping! Sorry for tmi, the sporners would love it!

Oh god don't worry popz, I've been bricking it a while.

She's super fussy at the moment too, with her demon tooth.
Joy
Yeah I get a good ish discount once a year.
Haven't used it in 8 years tho

Purple please don't worry about how you feed your baby. Your baby is yours and nobody else's. I've not breastfed either of my children: I don't feel guilty about it, why should I When I know they are both healthy.
Concentrate on getting better, you'll just wee yourself out with anxiety and worrying otherwise xx

Popz that's shit but it must mean that something better will come along more suitable for you :) think of it that way!

I can't really remember what anyone else has put so I do apologise. Hope everyone's managing to get some sleep!

I was in hospital on Tuesday with the weirdest symptoms ever. Went to the docs on Monday and he thinks it's a neurological problem (probably end up going for scans etc. hurray, my faves
I had epilepsy as a kid and now I think my brains fucked. Anyway here are my symptoms, they don't all happen at once but this is what I've experienced over the last couple of weeks:

Flu type symptoms but no cold (also go after a few hours)
Chills or sweats but I don't have a temp
Confusion
Slurring words sometimes
Feels like I can't get words out or I'm not making much sense
Itchy skin
Lost weight
Feeling a bit down because of the other symptoms
Aching from hips down where I feel like I can't lift my legs because they feel like lead weights Headaches
Blurry Vision
Fatigue- even going for a shower takes it out of me.
Please don't think I'm boasting because I'm really not but in no way should I be this tired. Let's just say we all got 10 hours sleep last night and most nights both kids sleep through. Yet I'm still abso fucking lutely exhausted. I can't get words out, it's like I'm not even here. Doc asked me what I think it is- I said MS (I've known someone with it and seen/ heard symptoms) apparently it's unlikely that it's that but very likely it's neuro so thinking more like ME/CFS or Fibromyalgia instead.
Had bloods done and I'm a little bit low on iron but not drastically to make me feel that shit. Everything else is normal. I'm shitting myself. I'm trying to not let on that I'm shitting myself: my MIL text my ST yesterday and said she was worrying about me that much that it's making her physically and psychologically ill so I'm telling her fuckall in future. I'm not having someone else's health on my conscious!
Sorry for being all about me I'm just a bit worried- I have an appointment tomorrow at 10:50 at the Drs, wish me luck!!

pixie that's alot of symptoms I hope the Dr's are able to narrow down what is causing them soon :)

purple I really struggled when i decided to stop breastfeeding I felt I had failed E I think it stemmed from my pregnancy when I was so sure I would breastfed and when it side work for us it really hurt me :( I still get sad when they mark in his box not breastfeeding! Although getting 5oz is a brilliant amount :) I barely got an oz from both breast in one pump and I pumped for 6 weeks!

Sorry to hear your news popz we had a similar thing happen to us. But silver linings we found a much nicer place!

Shit, pixie that sounds rough MS was my first thought too. Really hope it isn't.

Thanks cookie - am trying to stay positive.

Thanks lovelies, I know he'll be fine and that it's not worked for us. I know that it could have worked if things had been different but they weren't.
Maybe if we have another, I'll do better

Pixie that sounds a lot like a severe migraine to me. In the past I've had many of your list, not all at the same time but blurred vision, numbness, slurred speech are common, along with the eye and head pain. Hope you get some answers soon, it must be very worrying for you. And yes stop telling mil if she's guilting you.

Hey, how are we all this fine morning? (There is blue sky and sun here just now)

Purple if you've completely decided to FF then I thoroughly recommend the perfect prep. Also this site if you need it. Just remember you haven't fucked anything up. It is what it is. My DD is thriving on her formula. Only issue I have is remembering how many scoops I've added

RPopz those pesky gazumpers. Grrrr!

Aw pixie hope it goes okay at Dr's and tell your MIL to pipe down. It's not happening to her!! Jeez!!

We had a mini drama here. New neighbour moved in upstairs. Flat been empty for months. They put a wash on. Cue sounds of dripping water. On my beautiful bathroom ceiling. That was only done 1 year ago. . Waiting on it drying out then will assess the damage.

No baby dramas though. Apart from the daily nap fight. Ah well. Can't win em all

Morning viroids! Pixie I've got no idea what could be causing your symptoms but I'm really sorry you're feeling rubbish. I really hope they can figure out what it is. I have friends with fibromyalgia and it's not fun, although they manage it very well now.

Purple - as the others have said, your baby only gives a shit that he has a full tummy and that he gets cuddles from his mummy, which is you! How you feed him is personal and you shouldn't feel guilty at all. I will echo though what others said - it is possible to build sully back up so don't give up unless you want to.

Cookie - nursing chair is a high backed tub swivel chair. It's awesome!

Been up all night with B - he went to sleep at 7:30 and slept til 11:30 which is nice, but then woke for feed at 1:30, 2:30, 4:30 and then snorted, grunted and groaned from 5 until I finally picked him out to sleep on me at 7. I put ear plugs in is that awful?! He's so frigging loud! I think I have to start not picking him up unless he's actually crying. At the moment I go 'oh he's awake shit he must need feeding!' and scoop him up.

He had jabs yesterday so w had a day on the sofa watching house of cards. He was feeling v sorry for himself but was very good and brave.

When did your babies start sleeping longer? B is 8 weeks and all my mum mates say theirs of 10 weeks started sleeping 6 hours or more. I'm green with envy!

Wil - before had messaged me to say she was going to the group - I knew she lived near me from Facebook group. I recognised her straight away! Very funny having a RL chat! Everyone wondered how we knew each other abd I just said from a mum group!

Fudge - noooooo! How annoying!!!!! Oooh I'd be raging but of course accidents happen :(.

Popz I'm so sorry! That's happened to my parents loads and it's heartbreaking. Agree with wil - just love to Scotland it's easier!

Min have an amazing holiday!

pixie - hope that you got some good news from the doctor and they can help you.
la - have decided that sleep is a thing done by other people. Madam doesn't favour it. Last night, she was awake from about 8 at night until 3 am with a few brief cat naps on me of about 20 min or so.
She then condescended to sleep till 5.30am and then again from 7 am til 9 am, and has pretty much been awake since apart from a couple of micro naps. Mr D and I are beyond tired, and he's back in work from Wednesday and I am scared about how we'll cope.
purple - do whatever works for you as a family about feeding. as wil says, you probably won't even remember or care how you fed him in a few years anyway !

First post on the new iOS app. Not quite sure what to think of it yet

Thanks Viroids!

La R didn't start sleeping through till he was about 12 weeks but now goes from 7:30pm - 7am most days without any night feed at all. He's an absolute dobber though and sinks 9oz just before bed so he's in full milk coma.

Shit Fudge that's not good, fingers crossed the damage isn't bad

Well been to the docs and all my bloods are fine, so it's off for brain scans I go! My step dads worried and insisted that if I don't get an appointment soon (he seems to think that nobody else on the planet has brain issues and expects me to be bumped to the front of the queue) then he's paying for me to go private. It's very nice of him but now I'm more worried that he's worried because his late wife had MS so he knows all the signs. Ah well I will not mope around until I know what it is and if it is MS then so be it. I will not let it get the better of me, it can fuckoff! Be a bit ironic though considering I do quite a bit of work for the MS Society and did a 26 mile walk for them a couple of years ago!

I'm not very good at feeling sorry for myself.

Hope you lot are having a nice Friday! I've just forced myself to rearrange a few things in the lounge and Hoover. It was like slug trail city and knocking me sick and as I'm the only one that cleans this bloody house there was no way I was sitting in that all day.

Did not know there was an app again purple!!! I'll have to download it.
I've had a severe migraine and suffered from them as a teen, this is nothing like that to be honest. Though I do have one funny story about how I had a migraine once that made my vision that weird that everyone only had too halves and no legs! I was very confused that day, luckily I was only about 16 and with my mum shopping so she sent me off to bed with 2 syndol lol! Weirdest migraine I've ever had in my life!

Sorry that should've said TOP halves. So it looked like people were floating from the waist down ??

Hi!!
We're home from the cruise. Sorry I haven't caught up but I hope everyone is well!

Our little cat came home on Sunday! He'd been away nearly 2 weeks, has a big bald patch on his face from a cut or scab and a scab on his tail. It looks like he lost a fight and hid somewhere to lick his wounds. So glad we had someone house sitting to call him every day. A friend with cats checked him over, he's fine now.. But cuddly and clingy! I'm keeping him in for at least 2 weeks more to make sure he knows damn well this is home! I sort of want to keep him in permanently but he likes hunting so much I think he'd be upset...

H was a star on holiday and over the last 2 weeks something seems to have clicked with the eating solids, she's propely swallowing lumps now and ate most of a bread cob and some veggies every night (French beans are her fave, she sucks out the middle, and also broccoli).

It's her first night in her own room tonight in the cotbed. She's 7 and a half months, I need to man up and do it lol!