Just Mumming 8 - the one with the fire crawlers, wind machines and the Health Visitor revolt

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Add your stats Viroids (or don't bother). I feel like there's something I'm supposed to write here but don't know what it is...

Thanks Pis! Didn't know there was an also event on!
Omg I've had enough of trying to sleep. 4 nights now on the trot I've either been up or awake from around 3:30am
Never go out on the piss viroids with young babies because take it from me I've still not recovered from Saturday and it's fucking Tuesday!!! I am so so tired its untrue! I'm currently underneath a very heavy wriggly baby who is trying to doze off after milk but I've had to come downstairs into the freezing conservatory otherwise he'd wake P up ??
I think my kids hate me at the moment, they have some weird vendetta on who can piss me off the most and keep me awake for the longest. Last night P won with a rendition of screaming that lasted nearly 3 hours. I posted something on Facebook about it and suddenly everyone became a bloody Dr or child expert- 'maybe she had a bad dream, maybe she's ill, maybe she wanted a cuddle'
No! Maybe she's not stupid and knows that when she screams the fucking place down she gets in bed with daddy. Mummy on the other hand is a complete bitch and makes her stay in her cot.

Thanks Pis that's very helpful

la at night your breathing helps remind your baby to sleep which reduces SIDS. B is quite young for a routine, at his age I was feeding E to sleep, so I would do bath first then boobs then bed! Will probably work best for you!

purple I used nipple shields as E took a liking to the bottles the nicu nursery gave him, I tried the bog standard ones you get in boots and couldn't get on with them, after a bit of research I discovered they do different sizes and the small size was a good fit for us!

E has his injections at 11:30, so not looking forward to it!

I feel like I should comment on stuff but I'm so knackered I'm just keeping up with the Fred for now if that's ok?
Was up at 12,2,4 and finally 7:30.
Bloody teeth.
At least I hope it's teeth and not a cold. Her nose has started streaming.

Purple I used nipple shields on the advice of a lactation consultant - MiniSnap needed the extra sensory stimulation on order to latch after his tongue tie operation. He then got very cross when we tried without them. I found them a bit of a faff to be honest, but I think plenty of people get in fine with them. We also used Boots' own which were quite soft. If you can manage without, all the better.

Midwife just been out and she says we need nipple shields. He's latched straight on now, using rugby ball hold and a shield. I managed to get him back on myself too. She's told me to pump 2-3 hourly for the next 48 and she'll come back thurs.
I feel loads better now, happy mummy and happy baby

Aw that's great purple happy mummy and baby indeed

We have had a rather crying free day today. We were at hospital for checkup with neurosurgeon dropped baby when 8wo. Broke her a wee bit. Ultimate bad mum she was given all clear. No return appointments needed. And her consultant revealed she'd been dropped as a baby

Tried the nap routine. Epic fail, so put her on our bed, crawled in beside her and we both had a nap.

Has anyone started looking at nurseries yet? Man its expensive. Totally hindered by OH working pattern. Either nursery doesn't open early enough for him to get in to work. Or he can't get back in time for closing. So need one in city centre. Going to play my nhs employee card. See what it gets me

Hello fudge welcome to the group :)

fudge my baby is the oldest on this thread and is in nursery. (The nursery i work in) and it is blimming expensive he only goes 1 and a half days a week!

min you poor soul!

Hi ladies would it be ok if I join ok? I was on the same thread as fudge but thought everyone had disappeared! Hi fudge .

Stats are Chook
33
Dd1 6
Dd2 15 weeks (nearly)

I've been reading your thread for a while (not in a scary stalker way though) lots of good advice being given and nice to see so much support for each other... So well hello everyone

If I join too that should read!

Welcome Chook

We've had another couple of short feeds with the shields. MW thinks once we get in the swing of things we can ditch them. I've had him in a more relaxed position as suggested by Pis and that's also helping. We've just managed a 13 minute feed by latching him before he woke up.
I'm also leaving boob where it lies droops and bringing him to it

We've chosen a nursery in the village where we live. We're lucky there are 3 to choose from, ranging from £46-£52 a day. The most expensive one includes milk and nappies though
I won't be going back to work til next summer but we need to get his name down

Hi viroids!

Hi chook nice to have you here!

Purple - hooray!!! Hoping that's the start of a your bf success and things keep going well. Do try biological nurturing positions if you can, I do it because of my fast let down and it's really comfy and we have great cuddles afterwards.

B went down at 8:30 last night and didn't wake until 12:30. Massive achievement! But it did mean I count give him the big 10pm feed :(. I tried to dream feed but he wasn't having any if it. Today I bathed him at 6:30 and he was overtired after bath so wouldn't feed. I put him down to chill fur an hour and tried again and he did big feed. He's now asleep. I'm hoping he'll sleep now until bout 9:30-10 and I can do big feed and see how long he'll sleep. But he's stirring quite a lot so I'm not sure we'll make it that far.

Last night his bum wind started waking him at 3am and went on until 7. He wouldn't lie on back in crib and so I had to stay awake and hold him on my belly where he slept for 3 hours. So frustrating

Can't remember what everyone else said and B is waking up :(

Fudge I was dropped on my head as baby explains a lot and I'm fine! :)

Pixie - gin gin gin!!!

Pis and min - hug and gin for you both! Pis is your dh being any better?

We went to see a nursery today - £60 a day but includes all food and nappies. Was good but no outside space - they take them for a walk twice a day instead. Going to look at another for comparison before signing up

la will he lie on his side? I put B down on his back and he turns to the side every time. He's not rolling over yet obviously but he definitely prefers his side.

I've been looking at the nurturing positions. Thanks for the tip

Hi chook and fudge! Welcome welcome.

Haven't had time to catch up properly - man, going on holiday with a baby takes a lot of energy! We got back yesterday but I've been manically catching up with laundry and work. Will read back in a bit. Just wanted to check in and say hi to everyone!

Hope you had a lovely time Mini!

BabyPis slept a little better last night and we had a lovely lie in so I feel much better. La not really but I did say next weekend he will have to try and settle her once I've fed her as currently it's only me actually doing anything during the night and he's agreed. I know he's waking up too as he keeps telling me how tired he is so I think it's only fair to share the burden! I went for a smear last week and got a prescription for the pill while I was at it. He was a bit surprised as he thought we might go for another. Ha fucking ha! We're moving in together summer '17 and I'm definitely not having another baby before then! Can you imagine doing this weird nomadic kinda single mum life with two babies?!!

Pis that sounds sensible. Another baby would be hard going on your own during the week

This post is brought t you by a 1am BF! I'm fkng delighted! We've done 15 mins so far

Dream feeding it does not work!!!!

So last night I managed to get S to sleep at 8pm - this is rare. Very rare. I am usually feeding him up until 9/10pm ish and then I give him a bottle as he is still crying for more.

He then usually sleeps until 4am.

I decided to dream feed him at 11pm in the hope that he would sleep until 5am. Pah! He woke at 2am anyway - worse than usual!

He is now up and feeding again.

This was not the plan.

Any tips? Just feed him when he wakes?

No idea Fleur mine wakes all through night still :(

Been awake since 3:30 with him groaning

That sounds rough Fleur

Last night I BF every 3 hours when he woke and topped up with formula. This is just the plan til my supply catches up but maybe more formula or expressed milk top ups?
I am probably not the best to give advice but didn't want to read and run

Hi All thanks for the welcome!

fleur I tried dream feeding M a few times before we got her to go through and it always made her worse, my advice would be to feed when he wakes it seemed to work for us.,of course each baby is different but I know quite a few mums who found the dream feed didn't work for them

Purple - I don't want to poke nose in so tell me to bugger off if you want! But the best way for your supply to come in is to bf. Even if he's feeding constantly and it feels like he's still hungry that's what's needed to bring your supply up to what he needs. If you top up with formula at this stage your body is going to think it's producing enough milk and won't produce that extra bit. Unless you were told to top up for some reason? I still don't understand why they'd suggest using formula though rather than expressed milk.

I wouldn't want to sound like I'm trying to be one of the bf purists, but it's just that you sound like you really really want to be able to ebf him and i want to help if possible.

Fleur - I attempted dream feed once and got some thing happen as you, he woke at same time as if it hadn't happened! Last night B had his bath and feed routine at 6:30/7 and had top up bf at 8 then slept until 12:30. He woke up once a bit but I just stroked him and he settled back down, woohoo! That's longest stretc h so far.

He then slept 1:15-3:15 but then from then he was groaning with wind until 7am so I just fed and cuddled him. So frustrating, poor little sausage

This morning we are dancing round the lounge to Alt-J and waiting for the house inspection lady to come.

After that I might try and get out for a walk. Been out loads this week though and I'm a bit tired. Yesterday we went for coffee with my fit mummy lot and b did a poonami that went out the back of nappy and all the way up to his shoulders!!! Eugh. Had to change him and change whole outfit in Costa toilet with a very rude lady banging in the door shouting at me to hurry up. Pretty stressful!!

Just expressing now because I'm going to try giving him bottle of expressed this afternoon with mam bottle. No joy with avent natural, he just won't take it! Trying to get him used to taking one a day so that I can get away for a break sometimes.

Pis oh my god - he's talking about another already!? We've discussed it in terms of how much break we want to leave. Definitely though it sounds like yours needs to get real about helping you a bit more of he's wanting another! You are superwoman but you shouldn't have to be!!!