Just Mumming 8 - the one with the fire crawlers, wind machines and the Health Visitor revolt

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Add your stats Viroids (or don't bother). I feel like there's something I'm supposed to write here but don't know what it is...

Yes we do need to do more skin to skin. We did an hour this morning but had family visiting today. I'm trying to have something short each day like visitors.

My stitches are sore now, SIL said she felt amazing once hers were out.

DH is being totally lovely but he defers to me all the time. I seem to be making the decisions. So far I'm ok with it but I imagine I'll get fed up before too long

That doesn't get any better unfortunately purple, until one day they decide they know more than you but they don't

Stitches - ouchy. Not easy having CS stitches with baby to lift up and down especially large baby. Look after yourself

Ffs. Been up every hour or so with B. Looked after him on my own all day yesterday because dh was at on double shift. Dh came in at 3am - I'm sitting feeding B. Dh quite obviously has been drinking bhf tries to tell me he hasn't. He reeked of it. I don't mind so much as its first time since B was born but obviously slightly annoying.

I then am up again every hour or so and B now in his fussy period with sore tummy so I have to sit and hold him. Meanwhile cats are screaming to be let out and fed downstairs. I put sleepy B in crib while I go down to sort them.

B starts crying then screaming when I'm downstairs. I can hear him from downstairs so pretty sure dh lying next to crib can hear him. But no it takes me shouting upstairs 'dh the baby's crying can you pick him up!!!' For him to actually do anything.

I get back upstairs and he has the gall to look pissed off that he's been woken up.

Fucker.

hope wedding goes ok today Popz and mastitis is better x

Have a lovely holiday Zyla!

Thanks La - feeling a lot less fluey and achey today, the antibiotics seem to be doing their stuff. Hope you get some rest today and Mr L steps up!

Hope you and MrZ have made up and you have a lovely break zyla x

Morning viroids. Sorry you've had a shit night La think you need a jiffy from Tee

I've woken up with wet circles on my pjs

I also got weighed and I'm 2kg lighter than when I got pregnant which is amazing. I gained 8 kg, mostly in the last month and was terrified I wouldn't lose any.

Off to hospital soon for stitches out and baby weighing

Have a lovely holiday Zyla and hope the wedding goes well Popz

Great news purple!

Sounds like jiffys all round for the menfolk

S has a cold poor little thing is so snuffly and just wants to be on the boob. We are going to my neice's birthday party so I think I will find a quiet spot to feed and eat cake.

Awful night too - S was on me from 2.20am until 6.30 when I asked DH to take him so I could get some sleep. His face was thunderous.

Brilliant purple!

Aw poor S fleur!!! Do you have nasal spray? Lots of cuddles for poorly boy

I'm meant to be sleeping but I can't because I'm too angry. Mr La said he'd take B so I could sleep. I said go for walk so he'll sleep. Instead he took him for 5 min drive then sat downstairs where baby then cried for hour. I went downstairs to ask what's going on and we got in fight resulting in mr La storming out with baby.

Why can't they just do what we ask? If he'd just taken him for 45 min walk like I asked I could've slept nicely for an our and got up to take baby so he could sleep. Instead neither of us have slept and neither has baby who's now going to be an overtired nightmare.

Utterly over it.

Hello Grad Grads! Just popped over to ask a question and decided to read the last two pages of the Fred before posting as I didn't want to cut across anyone... now I'm a little bit terrified of having a baby! Hope you are all okay, or will be shortly. and all round for you.

Contemplating nursery design etc and wondered what the general consensus was re curtains. Black out or not? Or blackout blinds and regular curtains? Don't want to get baby into habits where it will only sleep in the pitch black, but also would like it to sleep! Not that it will be in he nursery until 6 months ish. Anyhoo all thoughts and ideas welcome.

Ta muchly.

Pud! Don't be scared! We only post the drama - there are plenty of amazing bits that make it all worth it I promise! My little squish is currently sleeping like an angel deceptive little monkey and I'm chilling on couch while Mr La sleeps upstairs

I'd go for blackout blinds or lining definitely. Babies come out nocturnal and you have to help them learn difference between night and day so they sleep at night and awake in day. A dark room at night will help them sleep. Mine wakes at 4am annoyingly every day and I'm sure some of the reason is he's in our room and we don't have blackout.

We made our nursery curtains well, my mum did and they are blackout lined

Exciting that you're at the point of nursery! Fun fun fun!

We've got blackout curtains but are leaving a bit of light to come through. He sleeps in daylight during the day

MW went well, need to practice my latch but B is fine. He's lost a bit as expected but he's healthy.

I've got milk now. Just pumped out 20mls. MW said he needs topping up what formula til my milk gets more volume and that I've to pump every 3 hours day and night if he doesn't latch.

I'm soooo relieved. I really thought I'd buggered everything up

You'll get there purple - it all sounds like it is heading in the right direction.

pud yy to blackout blinds - S is sleeping a bit later now the mornings are darker. During the day he has naps (well, I try to get him to sleep!) in the light and noise.

Sorry DH is being an arse la - it's so frustrating that they just don't get it. We have just got back from MIL's. DH asked me to drive (which is not great as I am knackered) as he has some work to do. So I drove - and he f*cking slept!!! It's an hour and a half. He now has "at least an hour's worth" of work to do.
I was seething the whole way.

I am now snuggled up on the sofa with S

Your oh needs the biggest jiffy ever Fleur! You have the patience of a saint to put up with him, he'd drive me bloody insane!

Yes to blackout blinds! P has them in her room and sleeps 12 hours at night. R on the other hand sleeps in our room and we don't have them and so he's up very early in the morning. To be fair he is only 12 weeks but some days he will go from 7pm-6am (with the odd whinge for his dummy)

Any sign of your cat Zyla? Hope you're having a nice break despite your missing cat x

La you sound like you need a jiffy for your OH too! What's with the men?!

In all honesty ST has behaved himself for quite a while now. He seems to be bonding much better with R and is still doing his fatherly duties of every other night, plus making tea and he works all day (so those men who aren't pulling their weight or saying they're tired viroids it's utter bullshit, they can do it they're too fucking lazy!)
He's currently making tea and rocking R in his pram to get him off to sleep.

I'm not going to lie we both went out last night for the first time in 2 years. We both got pissed and both very hungover. We've had a hour and a half nap each today and it's his night tonight (thank god)
Sorry I've been so quiet but had so much on! I did a coffee/ cake morning on Friday for the refugees in Calais and been busy making homemade creams which have been selling like hot cakes!
Hope everyone's had a nice weekend x

Sounds as though black out blinds/curtains are a winner then - thanks for the info!

Fucks sake Fleur what is it with these men!

I need to get some BF help tomorrow. I'll phone the local groups. At least I have milk now. He still won't latch though. Next strategy is nipple shields but I doubt they will do it. He seems to hate lying horizontal, as soon as you lie him down he starts screaming when he was perfectly calm a second before

Morning
Or is it still night?
Not too sure.
Moody sleepless child.
Swear to god if this tooth doesn't appear in going down the diy route.
Poor kid s got really bad nappy rash with it too.
I've kept up with thread but can't remember much, sorry I think sleep deprivation is kicking in

I've been reading as well but find posting hard on the web version, especially one handed as I normally read while feeding!

Do get yourself to any support you can purple. Getting this early bit right will make it so much easier for you. Keep persevering!

How you feeling today popz? Hope the drugs are kicking in!

You must have to keep you cool so often fleur! Surprised there hasn't been a blow out there with your DH.

Hopefully your cat is back and you are on your way to a lovely holiday zyla? I do understand what you mean, I'm forced to be the grown up in this house and sometimes it's a very wearing. Just want DH to take the iniative and take control.

It's 8weeks jab day here. Not looking forward to it!

We had those on Thursday last week. Lots of calpol and cuddles and baby will be fine. We didn't have any problems here whatsoever which I was very glad about!

Morning.. Can I come in? :)

Hope the jabs go ok Dulcet I think they are probably worse for us than the babies

Hope the tooth turns up soon Min

It seems we are all being the main parent with an assistant!

B's clip fell off today - I'm delighted to be rid of it. I've kept the plastic bit though. We had a bit of a crap night when he threw up his bottle all over our bed at 4am! He did latch briefly this morning so I'm taking that as a win. I just have to keep persevering, it's hard to time it right, he needs to be a bit hungry so I'm watching him for cues.
I've sterilised the nipple shields so will try them next

Welcome mountain - how's it going??

Glad your milk has arrived purple! Sounds like he's windy/ refluxy if he doesn't like being horizontal. Did the mw have any ideas why he was struggling to latch? I wouldn't get to stressed about pumping, every 3 hours sounds like a lot. Keep snuggling that baby :)

Sorry about all the shithouse husbands... Am still fairly miffed with mine!

Drugs have kicked in nicely, thanks viroids. Feeding is still a little sore and I don't seem to have got to the blockage yet but don't feel poorly anymore so the antibiotics are doing their thing.

Wedding was epicly stressful - do not recommend being a bridesmaid with a grumpy 8 month old in tow!! He seemed to hit leap 6 with a vengeancey yesterday. Very grizzly and nap dodgy and over tired. Typical. He still managed to charm everyone though

Any news on zyla puss?

Don't be scared pud - it's great really

Not too bad today thanks popz!
Finally got home yesterday evening and oh my how nice to sleep in my own bed! ..or feed in my own bed at least anyway.. Although to be fair to little m after that awful first night just the two of us, she has been much better. Wouldn't feed much yesterday (just really hard to wake) I'm thinking she had tired herself out with the mammoth session the night before, I was getting really stressed, but she fed well in the night, I woke her at midnight and she fed for ages then fussed, then fed etc till about 3 when she kept falling asleep on the boob despite crying when out down- I tried a dummy and she went down (naughty naughty naughty mummy). She fed again this morning at 7 and again at 11 so really pleased. Have sworn to be tough on her today and make her wake up, so she doesnt just feed at night. I was reading all your advice to purple earlier which helped!! She's getting there, has started routing at least -although gets a bit confused and tends to route on dh rather than me lol he did the immediate skin to skin after bitth as I was 'otherwise engaged' (more on that later) so she is still unsure who's who lol. My nipples are pretty sore, but I think it's more unusual use and a bit of bad latching rather than just bad latching?!?! Pretty sure my milk is on its way, lumpy boobs and tickly nipples and hand expressing now shoots into her poor little eye
In other news I just had my first poo!! Very proud of myself as I was very scared. Thank God for lactulose!

Hiya mountain! Sounds like things are going well for you

I have a snot monster on me - poor S! Cuddles and boob are the order of the day

Also hate the website! Bring back the app

Dulcet I hope wee J is ok - how heartbreaking to see him sore :(

Fleur - equally your poor wee munchkin! Must be nightmare trying to feed a snotty newborn. And yes your dh is a douche!

Purple - what are you using the shields for? I'd thought they were just for if nipples are sore? I'm probably being clueless though as I've never used them. Keep on with skin on skin. Have you a health visitor due to see you or a bf clinic you could visit to ask for help? As dulcet says if you get this bit sorted the rest will come with time x

B and I went to baby group this morning and sling library was there - I'd thought I couldn't use caboo anymore as it didn't seem to sit right now he's bigger (weighed in at 14lb with HV this morning!) but the lady showed me how to tie it tighter and it's perfect! Hooray! So me and miniLa are mobile.

And I met Before! She was at my baby group :) first viroid I've met in RL

Popz glad the wedding went well. How did the new sling look? Can you post photo? Sling lady was sporting a ring sling this morning. Definitely going to get one for when B is older

Min - sending gin for you and whisky to put on minis poor teething mouth. Not easy :(

Hi mountain! Sounds like you're getting on ok so far! I'm always in awe of you guys (purple and mountain) who come on here so quickly after birth as it took me so long to get my head together and I was absent for ages!

We are thinking about putting B upstairs after bath in evening as he's just not sleeping well in busy living room. Nervous about it because of SIDS advice if I really think it is better for him. Will have monitor on and check on him regularly