November 2014: The one that needs baby-proofing!

[ladydolly]

And maybe ends with 1st birthdays!!

Oh for goodness sake Ive tried to write a reply 5 times and everytime it freezes and crashes.

Oh and Sod's law that's the post that works!

Yes I was 35 weeks gone when I found out about dd. From then on its all been a bit of a whirlwind and I guess now it's all calming down im Just trying to find my new place as it were.

Thank you to all of you for your support, you guys have no idea how much of a life line you really are. Especially when dp is away.

DD has worked out that she has teeth and what to do with them. Apart from biting into different edible and non-edible objects, she is now grinding and clenching the teeth. Cannot stand that sound, brrr.
She is also very decisive about eating with the spoon herself. The double spoon system ends into fencing as she keeps hitting my spoon with hers. On a good day she lets me to scoop food from the plate and then pass the spoon over to her. She puts it in the mouth and then turns it around while in there. Who could've known she has sooo big mouth!

Yes strawberry!! Teeth grinding!! Ughhh!!

I avoid spoons all I can now, the war and chucking so frustrating!! The suction bowls are helping, she's entertained by getting the food out of there.

This week she's properly mastered the sign for 'milk' and suddenly started pointing mostly at the tv. I'm amazed by the development markers every time. I'm such a baby bore!

lady wow makes me wish I had kept doing signing. Just got lazy. DS is doing pointing now, it gets in the way of him grabbing things. He points at things and then gets frustrated that poking the thing means he can't pick it up.
ark Just reading on the mumsnet site there have been more cyber attacks on the site and they don't think the talk app is secure at the mo. Means it will be up and down. They are working on a new app. So I am currently trying to get my head round using the mobile site.

DP is out wetting a baby's head with his friends so I am sitting eating whole nut watching Celebrity Big Brother. Classy bird me.

catg im in bed eating Pringles

Well the "celebs" in celebrity big brother are just awful. There were rumours of hulk hogan that would have been amusing but no such luck. Gail Porter seems nice. The rest seem to be a mix of American porn stars and British reality TV contestants. Le sigh.

Off to bed. Night all.

ark don't get too many crumbs in your bed!

We just marathoned the last 4 eps of Season 2 of House of Cards. Plus copious amounts of wine. It was fab! And DS was silent the entire time! His sleeping has been a bit shit lately cos of teething but tonight fingers crossed we're ok.

He has started sleeping on his front which is a new post-crawling thing but i'm trying to be chilled about it as he's so mobile now. Its still a bit unnerving though.

So he's started a very a noying habit of going "Nnnngggggg!!!" whenever you're a bit slow with the next bit of food. Its really getting on my last nerve, i feel like saying I'M NOT YOUR SERVANT, CHILD!

He's also started to flail around wildly when he doesn't want to do something and I can see the precursor to toddler tantrums there. He actually hits us and swats at us and pulls my hair and its all pretty unconscious at the moment but it is a bit worrying! We're trying to teach him "gentle" but its having no effect thus far. Perhaps he's too young.

We have to get cracking TTC this month and I wonder if I'm entirely mad! We're exhausted with just one!

Morning. I fell off the thread somewhat.
We're still having shit nights and I send dh in if he wakes before 12 but after that I go and inevitably feed then fall asleep with him so ds and I end up sharing a single bed while dh has the double. This is surely all back to front! I end up feeding him back to sleep a couple more times before morning but wonder whether he'd sleep better if I made it back to our bed. Aarrrrrgh. Thought we'd be sleeping through by now.

Morning all
DD has just discovered that she has something new in her mouth, i.e. a tooth! She's absolutely fixated with it - keeps feeling it with her tongue and is now gnawing on things...the spout of her beaker has scratch marks on the underside!

Anna, House of Cards is brill isn't it?! We loved it too - have you tried Prison Break? We went from 24 to House of Cards and now Prison Break

Morning.

mrsa tea and sympathy of the rough nights. I would aim to get you and baby into the double if I were you. And least it is worth a try.

havent DS spends a lot of his very busy schedule rubbing his tongue on the tiny tiny bit of tooth he has sticking up. He looks very pleased with himself about it.

We keep trying to get back into watching Sons of Anarchy but can't seem to find the time. I am watching Pretty Little Liars while feeding at night. Don't bother. I would give up if I wasn't 5 seasons in! Feel like I have dedicated too much of my life to it now.

So after dds initial crawling attempt the other day she didn't do it again till Tuesday this week however seems to have gained remarkable speed and is also cruising along the sofas

Anna DD is just as bad with pulling hair out, painfully grabbing at faces, nose etc. She actually pulls my hair out very consciously, she aims to get just a single one, when it's out, she plays with it - twines around her fingers and so on. She also bangs her hands against the tray if I faff too long (not THAT long, honest!) to get her food after she has been put in a high chair. During last month I feel like having a teenager early here. My nephew is 11,5 and you can see him turning all weird at times, but DD is no better TBH. I just hope it's a phase which will pass. And when is it that you start to tell them off about doing things?
We are flying out to my parents in a week, can imagine their shock at the moody DD after they have been completely besotted about the "lovely baby" two months ago...

Moody here too. He pushes me away really roughly in the night if he's crying and doesn't want his dummy, and the same when he's had enough to eat. It's really hard to know how to deal with it.

And he just loved pulling my hair whenever he got the chance if I didn't have it tied up. It has been falling out in handfuls for the past 6 weeks and had got ridiculously thin so I bit the bullet yesterday and got it all chopped off and layered. It feels weird but is strangely liberating. And DP really likes it which was a huge relief as he's definitely a long hair person.

God, last night was exhausting. I also sat up and watched CBB, which was disappointingly crap not entirely sure why I expected it to be anything else and got to bed at 11 which is late for me. DS woke up at 3.30am and then every 20 minutes after that, just as I'd started drifting back off to sleep each time. We brought him into our bed at 5 as I had completely lost my sense of humour about it by then. I still have no idea what was wrong with him. So a grand total of 4 hours sleep. Matchsticks, anyone?

ugh it is GRIM isn't it Thisis also for you MrsA and anyone else who had a rough night.

I completely get the losing your sense of humour thing after it's been going on for ages.

We had a truly awful one here. I can only assume that we are in the full swing of the 9/10 month regression which appears to be another Thing. DD's latest trick is to stay awake in the night for two bloody hours. She cannot be put back to sleep, not by boob, not by dummy, not by rocking or coming into our bed. We tried her in our bed and she just kept saying 'Dad!' (her new word) and attacking DH.

It all feels so hard at the minute. DH and I had a chat about her sleep and I think he's going to come on board a little bit more, we've agreed that if she's still awful in a month or by the very latest her first birthday we will commit to a proper sleep training plan (that will probably involve him having to don an industrial suit and deal with every.single. one. of her wake-ups until she decides it ain't worth it). I am also pondering if it would be worth making her before-bed feed a formula feed and putting some Gaviscon in the bottle just on the offchance that the reflux is still bothering her.

Any fellow ex-refluxers - is mini east the only other one? How is he doing now? DDs have been settling into new nursery the last few days and I could hear DD2 wailing as I left earlier :( :( there's so much going on for her, poor thing.

catg to be honest 'milk' and 'drink' are the only ones we do every day but I'm doing another term and will make an effort to pick it up again.

I feel like I earned my mummy stripes last night. dd had little puke on the rug after dinner, dp totally panicked about clearing her and rug and what to do but we got her sorted, she was a bit floppy and sad for 5 minutes then back to normal. Went to bed fine, up at 11.30 for a feed and I couldn't get her to settle, she'd be asleep but restless wriggling around until she properly woke up then at 12.30 MASSIVE chunder, head to toe, all over bedtime bunny and all over cot. I managed to fish her out and strip her down smug in the knowledge I took a mumsnet tip of having a spare mattress and sheet underneath. Apart from it was on top of the wardrobe. without a sheet. (fuck it) Anyway, got her and it all sorted and she was bouncing around like she was at the best party ever. Got her back down at about 1.30 after singing 'soft kitty' for about and hour with her sprawled over me on her back.

No more puke and she slept until normal time of 5.45. Seems fine today but kept her home with me since I'm working from home anyway (at least I should be, she's not making it easy). She's a bit lethargic and clingy but seems happy enough.

She's figured out how to close the patio door and I'm so worried about tiny fingers it has to stay closed now. So bloody boiling now.

We should be heading oop north for the weekend so hoping she keeps on improving. Off to see friends baby who at 10 weeks is just over 9lbs and therefore at least 1lb less that dd was at birth!

Mid post dd has just had her 1st poonami in months so I'm hoping that's the bug out of both ends now.

Coffee and wine for the tired ones and envy for those watching shit tv (says she who watched 2 episodes of real housewives this morning).

Hope you all have a lovely long weekend!

Quick moan... DS was whingeing away this morning in that continual whine he seems to have developed recently whenever he's not entirely happy with his lot. I'd cruelly put him in baby jail whilst I prepared his bottle. I told him (DS) that this had better not be a precedent for the whole day and DP said words to the effect of 'don't worry Little Man, Mummy's just a bit grumpy'. red rag to a bull

I suggested to DP that he didn't get it all the time to which he replied indignantly 'I know what it's like, I look after him often enough'

NO. YOU. DON'T. You don't have him non-stop for 10 hours a day whilst you're at work. He's in bed by the time you get home so you have a nice relaxing evening. You don't have to think about him EVERY SECOND of the day. You can eat what you want, when you want and not have to think about whether or not what you're eating is balanced and whether or not it is good food for a baby. If it's not you don't have to then think of something else to feed him. You can go to the loo when you want. You can surf the net if you feel like it. You don't have to time your day around naps. You don't have to creep around whilst he's asleep and you have NO idea how precious that time is to me. You have the luxury of telling me that you hate having to be quiet and that he should be able to sleep through any noise and then happily rattle around the house making as much noise as you can in order to prove this and then wake him up. You NEVER have to deal with the consequences of an overtired child. You have absolutely NO idea what it's like so don't even THINK about telling me you do.

Sorry. Rant over.

Rant away Thisis. It's the eternal conundrum really. He doesn't get it because he hasn't done it, not for any prolonged length of time.

All I can say is that whenever at all possible - at weekends - leave them to it. It is very important to develop the skill of Announcing Plans (as opposed to Asking for Stuff).

'Tomorrow morning I'm getting my hair done so I'll be out for a while.'
'I'm going for a bath so you're on duty if he wakes up okay?'

Etc. And when you're going out really try not to do any prep for him such as stocking a nappy bag.

I probably sound really cold-hearted but it's not meant in that way: I wouldn't have a clue of the relentless reality of it either if I didn't have to do it. It will mean he actually has to do some of the baby-scrambling that we constantly have to do and he'll develop his own ways of doing it and he'll probably be too morto to complain or ask for help.

Finally, things do naturally become more equal as the baby turns into a toddler that can walk and talk, IME.

Haha greenstone that's GREAT advice! Thank you :)

"You don't have to time your day around naps. You don't have to creep around whilst he's asleep and you have NO idea how precious that time is to me"....I'm SO with you on this one Thisis

Ladydolly, really hope baby dolly is on the mend - we had our first projectile vomiting a couple of weekends ago - luckily it was during the day and doubly luckily for me, DH was holding her at the time so he got covered from head to toe (I'm really not joking ); as did her storage units; the carpet etc etc....and DH had to deal with her 3rd (!) poo in the bath last night - don't know why I'm taking so much pleasure in that

The vomiting has stopped but the other end is still suffering. Poor love, still seems happy enough but I can smell her across the room when it's time to change her again. I've tried to work this morning but she just wants to cuddle and/or type on my laptop. Dp said he'd take over at lunch but he came home and fed dd while I made his lunch then set up his laptop and finally took her out at 2.30 (after I had got her ready) and was back at 4 and straight back to his work. So I got an hour and a half. Good job my boss is off today!! Mucus in the poo, nothing to worry about until it's been like that a couple of days right?

The lack of sleep is catching up with me :(

Bravo Greenstone! While DH very often volunteers himself to look after DD for me to have downtime I am guilty making it easier for him before I leave. He had said number of times that I must be fed up during the day constantly be around and for DD, so for the time being I am nice

Very much feeling like its not fair too here, dp is away with the boys till Sunday, dd is constantly on the go now she's crawling and I've got the heaviest, most painful period I have ever had. I think I might just order a Chinese and set up camp under the blankets on the sofa tonight

They try don't they...well most of the time. When I go back to work OH will have DS 2 evenings and 1 day just to himself. We will see how he does! He was very honest the other day and said he was having a panic about what he was going to do for a whole day with him. It isn't until November but glad he is starting to think about it. This weekend we are off to the inlaws. Where DS will be doted over but no one will offer to take him. OH will be busy clearing out a storage unit and doing a boot fair. So I don't even get a weekend where I am only doing half the work. Moan moan moan. X