December 2012: the one where they're all potty trained. Sort of....

[Barbeasty]

The old thread was getting dangerously close to 1000 messages, so thought I'd better start this one.

Oh cripes the no mental filter. R currently has a little crush on the girl next door - every time we see a little girl with long dark hair and brown skin he shouts "look mummy it's " and I have to point out that, no, that's a total stranger and not every indian-looking girl is our neighbour. And of course, the parents don't know it's because he hero worships this girl...

nutella mummy tummies are special! My dds all love to wobble mine and stroke it as its so soft! Who needs a 6 pack?
goat that's sweet!

In the continually boring saga of my work, I almost resigned today but then had a little turn for the better late afternoon. Who bloody knows. I'm being a big div.

I can't sleep. That's always a bad sign. I was asleep but T came in for her nightly cuddle and I've been awake ever since.

WL i'm awake too, rubbish isn't it?

Nutella and Goat defo no filter. Its amusing what they say and do. H makes me laugh almost every day (also makes me upset most days as well ha).

Sorry hales I missed your post - sometimes my phone doesn't update properly. We could have kept each other company. What was keeping you up?

Ds always pokes my tummy and says 'mummy I think you've got dinner in there'

Haha - that's great spotty.

Spotty,

WL, just one of those nights i think. How are you today?

H started school today, i've uploaded a pic to fb. She loved it and can't wait to go back tomorrow. I am so proud of her right now.

I'm alright thanks hales, had a better couple of days at work and worked from home yesterday so was able to do an extra school run. Will try to make it work for a bit longer.
That pic of H is very cute - I love the pose. Have you watched Annie with her?!

I'm turning 40 this year - what shall I do to celebrate? I'm going away for a weekend with my oldest gal pals as a joint celebration for us all, and I know dh has booked a night in a hotel. But what about a wider celebration? Really not sure if I want a party but a meal seems a bit formal and would be a bit worried about who to invite. People keep asking me. Any ideas?

What time of year is it? A friend did a sort of open house, turn up when you want barbecue for hers. Something like that is less formal than a meal, the children can run around and have fun, but people feel they've been invited.

Funnily enough beasty I just had that thought! It's March so unlikely to be nice weather but house is big enough to accommodate quite a few, even if spread over 2 floors!

reading but struggling to post ATM.

Hope you're all well

Not yet WL, H has the attention span of a gnat so films are still a no go with her unless i'm willing to watch them in installments ha.

I like the open BBQ idea but as its March maybe a Stew and Curry night? Make a big pan of each and tell people to bring their own drink. Buy plastic bowls and cutlery so you can just bin everything.

Hope your ok Frazzled.

WL just to add to the ideas from Hales - chilli is another easy to make giant pan full dinner for many guests. Lots of rice and pita breads on offer and some grated cheese for those that want. It's often done at parties here. Then people have more time to focus on the important things like beer

Hales DS only watches a film when he is really poorly. Otherwise he will watch it in about three parts. Helps in some ways though - he isn't obsessed with any particular characters, he likes lots of them but it changes regularly.

We've been enjoying the snow here. Except that we haven't invested in proper snow suits.... We might have to next year I think I hate spending all that money on something they might only wear for a week! Plus snow boots and gloves.... Arghhhh

And frazzled hope you're ok. You can come and moan on here anytime. I'm sure there are a few lurkers that can jump in if you just need to rant or offload

I'm okay. Im just so sad. And I don't even know what's wrong.

I just cry constantly. So off to the docs it is tomorrow.

Good idea frazzled they will be able to help. Nothing wrong with getting some armbands to help you float until you learn to swim again. (Whether that be medication or talking therapies).

Fraz

Oh bless you frazzled. I hope the dr is helpful and that you start to feel better soon. You have been through so much. Sending you a big hug.

Awwww frazzled it's really ok to be sad - even I'm sure you'd rather not be. I hope the dr has some time for you and can help you. We're here, if you want to come back and moan or whatever.

Frazzled i hope your ok. Please come here or on fb if you want, we're all here to listen or help. Crying may feel awful but its a goof thing, your finally letting go of all that pain you kept inside bottled up amd hidden. Its a release you need to go with. You have been under so much pressure this last year and just dealt with as its hit you. Your body and mind need time to catch up now, be kind to yourself and go with whatever emotion you are feeling as thats what your body needs to do to start healing. I know things are unbelievably bleak right now but it will soon be a just bad memory. I love Spottys saying, get the help you need and hopefully you will get lloads of support from your RL friends.

Hales I love your post! And spotty's armbands - I am definitely stealing that

Frazzled one more thing I wanted to say, feeling sad isn't forever. It is just for now because you need to feel it, go through it, but it is a short term thing. Keep talking/ranting or crying whatever you need. And tell the dr everything. They might not be fascinated but they need all the details so they have a clear picture of what's happening.

Hi all. Thanks dudes. You'll make me cry again and I've been tear-free for about 3 hours

I had the loveliest doctor and I was worried cos we have one very brusque one at our surgery (he used to be a paediatrician and he's awesome with kids but has no patience with adults) but this new lady was really nice.

She gave me a leaflet to self refer for CBT and started me on citalopram, which is making me feel awful but apparently you have to push through it for 2 weeks.

I hate feeling like this as I'm always so in control and its so not like me.

It's shit cos I'm doing everything right - new hobbies, exercise, getting out and meeting people, but I just do all of those things while crying, they don't cheer me up! so that's what made me realise I need some help getting through it now.