Just Mumming Thread 7 - the grads grads cope with walking, own rooms and have little time for shagging

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New thread! Roll call...

Nope Min, this is it for life I fear. C took ages to settle last night. Then had a mega feed just after two and that was it. But could I get back to sleep? Could I hell. Mini up at 6.15. Aaargh.

Centre Parcs is great but very overpriced in holidays. I'd probably wait until baby is walking age unless you're going for the spa, in which case bash on!

Boo we're thinking of getting a private assessment done as NHS aren't really assessing. All very wishy washy.

Jewellery or clothes are what I want at the moment Dulcet.

Just flipped at dh. He expects to go to work and then come home and sleep. Well when do I fucking sleep? Never! Just because I'm not currently working it doesn't mean I don't need sleep ffs!

He's just slept in again til now 'because I've got to work' meanwhile mini has been up since 6 so I've been up with him feeding and feeding and entertaining him and trying to put him down.

His parents are coming today but he's not told me when, how long for or what we are meant to do with them and he's going to work at 3. So what - Am I meant to entertain them then?

House isn't tidy or clean and I can barely dress myself as nothing fits.

I'm fucking shattered and B just pissed down me and the only dress I have in this bloody god forsaken fucking endless heatwave that any other year I'd have loved but this year just seems set to torture me with being massively pregnant in it followed by bf a sweaty angry colicky baby.

Just shouted at dh that he needs to pull his finger out and that I can count on 3 fingers the amount of times he's helped with B in the last few days.

Raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!

Good for you La, say it like it is. And don't worry about the house, they can tidy it for you.

Popz can you bring your Connecta knowledge to my fb post please? Really if you think they look ok and also if insert or anything is needed for flea sized babies!

Morning all!

Well S was a delight yesterday evening, we sat in the garden with a glass of wine with him in his bouncy seat grinning away

I fed him at 8, put him down to bed at 9.30 and he woke at 1.30am and 4.30am - unfortunately that was for the day but I kicked DH out with him at 6.30 am only to wake up 15 mins later with DH next to me - he had handed S over to his mum!!!

I think having my MiL here does nothing to help my DH's attitude. He thinks everything is so easy - it is, for him. The trouble is, we won't be on our own for another two weeks. I am seriously considering going out for a friend's birthday on 5th September. I have started my expressed milk stash - if I can get it up to a decent amount I think I will do it, let him have a whole night dealing with S on his own. Not sure what I will do re engorgement and expressing on the night though

The house is a mess, a shit covered baby gro is festering in the living room - I refuse to touch it - DH changed the nappy 3 hours ago (the first since last Sunday) and just left it there.

I am feeding S and DH is sitting reading the paper, inches away from it.

Seriously, nothing in his life is any different whereas mine has been completely turned upside down. I sometimes feel like running away and leaving him to it.

Interested to learn about the connecta too!

Oh and la I hate my appearance at the moment. I have maternity jeans and three tips that are good for BFIng but are viscose and incredibly hot.

I am going out today to a BBQ - I have nothing to wear. My hair is a mess, my hands are dry, my feet disgusting (S sleeps when I walk, and so I have been walking loads but in flip flops so have really bad cracked heels), I have huge bags under my eyes.... But guess who has just popped out to get their hair cut

I will stop moaning soon, I promise!

Fleur sadly his behaviour is very typical. Definitely go for night out. No reason not to if S takes bottle. Will he just call his mum in to help though?

Shall we do a Thelma and Louise Fleur?

I have divulged all

Fleur , La - sympathies. Good on you for flipping out! Definitely get it out in the open instead of festering it... They're idiots. They won't get it unless you spell it out! Sadly MrP still acts like his life is completely unchanged at 7m.... I'll be reading him the riot act later! I've been reading a lot online about it actually because I feel a bit like our marriage has gone to shit over it... it's pretty normal sadly.

Sorry about the bad nights ladies! Mini P didn't go down until 10.30 after his mega-nap....

So we will shortly have a new grad grad - indigirl has arrived!

I actually said something about having a baby ruining our marriage and DH was - although I keep mentioning it, he honestly doesn't think there is anything wrong.

If that baby gro doesn't move before we go out I am putting it under his pillow

Yes la! Count me in

MrWil doesn't even bother to try and get it. What makes it worse is our next door neighbour is really considerate dad type and I always feel jealous. I feel sick I'm so tired but can't sleep.
Micro has pretty bad separation anxiety at the moment. I need to go and buy a present. Is it mean to leave her with him? (Mean on her - I don't care if he gets screamed at).

Go out fleur! Start warning him now, get a stock up and go out. I'm going out tonight for first time, just a couple of hours, but been gearing up for it all week. Think DH is looking forward to it. I'm sure J will behave perfectly because that's what babies do, make us look bad!

Do you do any regular date nights or anything popz? Not sure if you get time to just have couple time but could help, even if it's just to talk it out.

With you all on shit appearance, I average one shower a week at moment. No clothes fit, or they put pressure on scar or can't feed in them. I desperately need to bleach my tache too!

Think centerparcs might be for a but later for us, enjoy though mini! It's nice to have a break to look forward to. We are looking at maybe getting a cottage somewhere in a couple months.

How are you meant to feed in the caboo?! Is there any sling that is easier to feed in?

Oh god. You reminded me, the tache. The bonus, for me, of being pregnant was the lack of facial hair (and leg hair).

It has come back, with a vengeance.

Have a great night dulcet have one or two for me

Have fun Dulcet!

I also look like shite constantly. Thank god for bfing or I'd be the size of a house.

I have no clue how people feed in slings.

Do babies feed more (and quicker) when it's hot? It's average every 40mins here, for 10mins and then he's crying again. I think he's hot.

Probably because it helps them keep cool and they would be thirsty

Yes, I think so dulcet but then S has also napped more.

I guess they just get thirsty.

I am at a BBQ but hiding indoors as 1. I have Irish skin and 2. I have my boobs out almost permanently.

My pil took Ben for a walk an hour ago and for that very reasoning I'm panicking they're not back yet

I'm glad I'm not the only one worrying about our marriage :(. I feel like all I do is snap and snipe and I'm horrible to him all the time. Equally he enrages me for not taking baby off me for any length of time.

So jealous of the nights out. How do you manage it with bf? I'm going to start expressing the late feed just before I go to bed so dh can feed b but that's as much as I dare to do just now.

My mum told me today she only bf me for 2 weeks because she found if so tough. That makes me feel a bit less guilty for finding it hard.

Fleur I really want to come and kick Mr Fleurs ass.

Fleur - most of what I read said having a baby can massively reduce your marital satisfaction in the short term. That implies it gets better at some point...

No date nights Dulce - no babysitters The fact that miniP will drink out of a cup now provides me with some slight hope...

I feel like a fat disgusting mess too. Solidarity post partum sisters!

Oh La - missed your post too. It is tough.

Today just won't end. Sometimes I hate being responsible for other people. If I could just sleep I know I'd be fine, so infuriating.

Yes they feed lots when it's hot as they're thirsty.

Oh la, hugs xxx

We had an almighty row at 4 am this morning, tiredness is wholly to blame. And the heat. I can never sleep when it's got so put them both together and it's any wonder I didn't do a pistorious on him.

I really need this fussy period to end. Like yesterday.
I cannot keep getting up for 2 hours a night with her. I didn't even do that when she was a newborn. Called my mom the other day as she's offered to babysit when we go home. She was totally ok with the possibility of a wailing child at crap o clock (so there is a silver lining to insomnia) , I can't wait. Shame we can't afford a hotel for the night, it's back on the air bed at MILs.