The 11th Gemini bus - Trudging through the terrible twos

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If C wakes up properly we do have to go in and sit with him. When I say he settles himself I only mean if he doesn't really wake up and he's tossing and turning a bit.

I see Lor, that's how I imagined it was for you. We don't get the tossing and turning bit. He literally opens his eyes, shouts and then tosses and turns and hey presto he's awake

I would bet money on it too kitty. As soon as the sickness extreme tiredness phase passes and I don't need an afternoon rest I'll be in a better place to deal with it I'm sure. I wasn't going to find out but now I'm dying to know lol I'm just so impatient! It doesn't help that I've found this blind for the nursery so I'll want to know if I can go ahead and order

I've been an emotional wreck today and had a ridiculous argument about holidays with DH today. Bracing myself for a big apology when he comes downstairs I know he was a lot of hard work to monitor train when we were Ttc but boy is he getting payback now with my mood swings. I'm a hell of a lot more emotional this time round.

Bring, is it holiday time for you yet?

OK so last night was interesting...

After putting bpear to sleep at 8 with calpol he woke up screaming at 10 saying his teeth hurt. Finally let him into our bed. He started stroking my tummy and talking about the baby and then his mouth went down and he started sobbing saying "baby baby". I couldn't make out what he was trying to say but it was odd. Do you think there is a chance that he's already feeling left out because of the baby and this is why we're having added sleeping problems along with teething? I just kept telling him that mummy loves him and he's my baby Was a bit sad. He finally calmed down and actually fell asleep in our bed. He woke at 5 but apparently DH got kicked out at 1 and had to sleep on the sofa Tried very hard to leave him screaming in his cot at 5 but gave in an hour later. All a bit odd.

No more sleeps

When C was not sleeping it was also around the time we told him about the baby. It was also around the time he started in the preschool room at nursery, so he had a lot going on.

He has a habit to mull over things - they probably all do. It takes him a while to take info you've given him but if he's not sleeping or he's upset suddenly he comes out with something that shows he's been slowly digesting that info and what it means. They're complex little things and as advanced as C's language is, he's still only learning how to express himself.

I'm no expert, that's for sure, but I'd imagine it's similar with bpear. He's being kept awake by his teeth but it might be coinciding with big info in his head and maybe a development leap too. That's how it felt with C.

Oh and good luck today if you haven't already had it! Dying to hear the news

Me too, how did it go pear? X

I'm back!! Sorry had late appt so that DH could come without bpear and TG we did that because I was in the scan room for 1hr! I forgot about my stupid tilted uterus so taking measurements took forever but we got to see loads of baby pear 2 fist punching and kicking it's long legs! So cute watching the heartbeat. EDD is 29th Aug Kitty I'm confused though because that means I conceived on Monday (first day of hols) but I didn't get a smiley face until Thursday so I'm wondering how true the dates are! Do they move the dates at the 20 week scan? Anyway, here she/he is!! So happy DH thinks he saw the ding dong and is now convinced it's a boy because the scanning lady kept calling it a boy Had to explain that I don't think you can see a ding dong at this stage!!

Oh hello baby pear! 2 So thrilled for you. Great that everything is looking good. You got a great photo. X

Thanks Lor I've got loads of photos. It's because I had to have 2 internal and 2 external scans before they could be certain they had all the measurements they needed. The first scanning lady was rubbish so she went and got help and then the second scanning lady did it in seconds so it was a bit of bad luck and I'm now suffering from a very sore tummy from all the hard prodding but hey...no pain no gain As long as baby is OK!

Yeah we'll put up with the discomfort and prodding. I'm so happy for you. And you'll only be 4 months behind me so we'll practically be doing it all again together.

Oh pear it is a fab pic congratulations I am so very pleased for you And the edd is so fab lol what did I say!!!
They won't change it again they always take it from your 12wk scan and both mine have always been a week out from my workings

Thank you so much Lor & Kitty It's really lovely to be able to share it with the bus after all the moaning and sad faces you've had to endure I could hardly sleep a wink and I literally can't stop smiling!

Frusso - Thank you That's interesting regarding your date changes. You're so right...must just keep open to all dates as anything can happen! I'm saying 1st September to everyone as that will give me some breathing space if I need it.

How did the visit go? Feeling relieved?

awwww! Congrats pear! Lovely to see little bub is doing fab in there :) I wouldn't think about the dates too hard. While the 12week scans and measurements are fairly accurate, timing of when you actually ovulated compared to how long the sperm survived compared to the actual time of implantation, it's all just a rough guesstimate and even the most accurately-calculated babies come in their own time. But yay! An August baby!

Such great news on the successful visit Frus! Those cheeky 2 year olds always know when to lay it on thick, don't they?

1 week till leave day! My mum is currently in NY for a major dog show (my mother's embarrassing line of work- running around a little ring with fake turf with a tiny dog and pulling a brush out of her pocket every 5 minutes to fluff its hair ) But she'll be back to her house soon so we can come visit her sans her creepy BF. Funny story about him; went into this awesome beauty store called Sephora (do you have them over there yet?) and the greeter was quite obviously a man based the beard but this person was wearing magenta lipstick, eyeliner and fake eyelashes with full-on contoured cheeks and blusher and the works with a man-braid.... and he sounded exactly like my mom's BF I do hope I was okay at holding a straight face when I asked him (her?) where they kept the face cleanser that I use.

Frus - brilliant news!! One thing off your plate hey! Love it when they come out with funny sayings on cue!

Bring - hah hah that's funny! Made me Both the dog story and the makeup story. You do realise that your life is starting to sound a bit Bridget Jones part 3 with children? Awww I sympathise though!! My mum had the massive humph when I told her No she couldn't bring her annoying yappy destroying dog to my house for lunch today

And Thank you Bring xx

Yeah, well done pear! Keep those little ankle-biters away from the kids. She'll just have to get over it!

Trust me, things can be very mundane around here- you just get to read about all semi-interesting things that come up. For example, today we let the boys play the Wii all day long and we have been laying on the couch in the other room watching footy, then a documentary on Misty Copeland the ballerina (with M emulating her and twirling around the room) and that's about it really. It's been snowing on and off all day and it's currently about 0 degrees C, M accidentally peed on DS1's snowpants (oh the woes of toilet-training) so that's in the washer at the moment, I don't think I've washed my face today, and our cats have been playing in the fort the boys built for M under the kitchen table. Cabin fever at its finest.

Bring - didn't Bridget spend most of her time on a couch eating ice cream?

Well, the dog doesn't bite as such but it's not house trained and likes to pee in my kitchen and it pops everywhere in the garden, scratches doors and outside window sills. Oh and it really really smells

I just ate bpears paws fruit shapes He would be so cross I am so into strong flavours like blackberry squash, fruit, Chinese, bbq ribs and cherry catipillars. All I wanted with bpear was cheeseburgers and chocolate.

Oh dear. She did didn't she? Well, confirmed then. I do tend to find myself in some interestingly embarrassing situations (emails anyone?) as well. My husband is like Mark too. Dashing. Smart. Articulate. Never finds himself in super embarrassing situations like I do. Well, might as well change my name from Bring to Bridget, ey?

I love hearing about the different cravings! Mmmm... .now Chinese sounds amazeballs for dinner.

So, because I can't stop thinking about the bridesmaid dress I decided to email the bride and share that I now have a EDD and that baby on screen is looking a bit bigger then DS so I'm worried about fitting the dress slight exagerration but could be true?! She's replied today and says don't worry she's got two sizes so plenty of material to make adjustments. So, basically I have to give myself a slap and except that maybe quite likely I will look like a frozen character puffball but I've really got to suck it up and except that's the look she obviously wants so that's what the bride gets. It's bad luck but that's it. I've given her plenty of chances to realise I will look ridiculous and this scenario she's put herself in could potentially be really stressful 2 weeks before her wedding but she wants it this way and now I have to except it. This is so hard for me. I'm a control freak and thinking so much too much about this is driving me nuts I now shall sing "let it go, let it go" for the rest of the day! Maybe that will give me closure

On another note. Can I ask for your advice ladies...

So, one of my sisters is 3 years older then me (37) She's single, still lives her life like a student and is desperate to find a husband and have kids. She's had a lot of first online dates but never gets a 2nd chance. I'm very fond of her but she does have terrible mood swings possibly bipolar and sometimes I have to keep my distance to safeguard my family. She's amazing with my son and she's great with kids. However, when I told her I was pregnant with bpear she totally backed away and I barely saw her for 7 months. It was very hard for me but I was patient and once bpear was born she wanted to see me again.

My question to you all is... How should I handle telling her my news this time? I'm so nervous because naturally she will find it harder as she's still in the same place in her life but now I'm moving on to my second child. Should I A) text her my news B) arrange to go for a walk next weekend and casually break it to her on the walk or C) announce it as we leave the cinema next Friday after watching the "how not to be single" movie

Gawd It sucks. 8 years a go she got mad that my oldest sister text her to say she was pregnant and she was annoyed that she text her but this is 8 years a go.

The walk is the kindest option isn't it? I wish I could just text her.

at the Frozen puffball character. I totally agree with you in that they are just so focused on their "vision" that actually imagining you in the vision is just beyond their capabilities. Sorry to hear you're still stuck with the dress. I've never had alterations done while pregnant so I'm afraid I don't really have much experience to share from that end... it'll just be one day and you can just pretend that you don't know the pictures exist after the wedding

Thanks Bring! I think annoyingly the walk is how it will have to go. At least that way I will know her real reaction although she is a great actor!

Forgot to say earlier... I have away to charity some junky toys that my other sister passed on at the weekend. Without realising bpear had fallen in love with the very annoying baby guitar that makes noises when you press the buttons. He won't stop asking for it where's my guitar? Where's my guitar? Bad mummy!!!