April 2015 thread 2 - ruling our lives and stealing our sleep, our babies are growing up already!

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New thread for those of us left here

He needs to make more effort to try to!!!

We had a fab birthday, they're so emotional though! He's got less clingy and is eating more so was definitely down to that bug. I'm still coughing which sucks.

Too many emotions and mixed thoughts to mention dh and I!

How's everyone else?

Oh I hope you feel better soon cinnamon sorry your ill.
I do hope your ok

Dd is hard work today I think she has another tooth on the way sore bum, dribbling and screaming she is in nursery this afternoon for another settling in session so I hope she is ok but we only live around the corner if I need to pick her up.

We are going for a walk to feed the ducks now and a play on the swings to see if I can raise a smile.

Dd had a lovely birthday but it was like having a newborn again with all the visitors and our house looks like toys r us has been burgled!

I hope everyone is ok?

Thats a lovely description of a birthday wineandchoccy! Hope she perks up with your trip out, it's gorgeous here today, 16C and really sunny always raises my spirits.

I just don't know thomassodorisland! Some days I think I'd be better off just leaving him but mostly I still want to work on things. He's still getting at me with little comments which we talked about last night and he said he's still very angry with me and he's taken a long time to get p'd off so will take a while to get in p'd off. He appreciates my efforts and says I've been much easier to live with but he feels I'm much further down the road than him. I get days when I'm so angry at him and still so hurt about what he did and the fact he's still messaging but between us things are mostly ok. The last few days he seems very distant and really not that interested in me. Feeling broken, lonely and sad a lot but the kids keep me busy and smiling and I know this is a phase and one way or another ill come out the other side. How are things with you? We all wish you'd come back and post all day if it helps xxx

Wine I hope the park helped, dd's eighth tooth popped threw last night which explains her bad couple of days.

Cinnamon I'm so sorry, he shouldn't be getting angry at you you don't deserve that. It's as if he's trying to put everything on you and it's not you.
He shouldn't have been texting her in the first place and anybody would be angry and feel the way you do.
I am glad the kids are helping though.

I can't be on the group it's not good for anyone to read my problems, I get you'll say it's ok but i know others feel different.

I'm also struggling to keep up with everyone and felt bad that I can't support some who need support so it's not fair for me to be moaning like a broken record.

The swings got a small smile and she managed a quack at the ducks no sign of any more teeth though.
She was ok at nursery this afternoon but fell asleep before we had even got home and we only live 2 minutes away I left her in her pram in the back garden and she was a little happier when she woke up.

cinnamon I'm sorry things still are not great he really doesn't deserve you and certainly shouldn't be angry with you.

thomas you are welcome to come back to the group but understand if you need some time and space away X

Yay for the swings and ducks!!

Thomassodorisland I don't know where you get that idea, if people don't want to read it they can scroll on by. I felt similar about missing posts and upsetting people by not responding but I really don't think everyone expects you to respond to everything all the time. Anyway my exciting news for the day is ds3 can crawl!!!

Yeah for the crawling, dd started yesterday afternoon as well just as DH got home from work which was lovely for him to see. She is really quick once she gets going it's weird to think that she has not moved now she is behind me at every opportunity this morning

I agree with cinnamon that nobody thinks that and you are certainly missed on the group X

Soft play again this afternoon meeting a friend and her little boy who is 2 1/2 and trouble with a capital T! She is lovely but he gets away with anything and is usually filled up with sugar and E numbers, I will need wine later!

Cinnamon and wine it's a long story as to why I feel like that.

well done to ds3 for crawling :)

Glad dd sounds a bit happier and hope you got your wine.

I do hope everyone's ok on the group though.

Finally managed to sort out my password and get back on here, now just got to remember who everyone's user name is compared to real names.

Hi smilingnthroughgrittedteeth there are only a few of us here these days mostly only three with one or two popping in and out!

We had an interesting time at the wedding, ds3 didn't sleep well so didn't want to leave me but now he can move he wants to move but once I put him down he realises he's not with me so it's a vicious cycle! I had to sit him on the window ledge with my phone so I missed most of the ceremony and got a few very crap photos. He didn't get any food so we had to give him bits of ours. He kicked off during the speeches so I was walking around at the back trying to get him to nap feeling very self conscious but everyone said how good he was. Ds1 was complaining of feeling ill and had a couple of spells in the loo including at 1am and went to bed at 7.30! Dh and dss were up vomiting in the night too but ds3 slept 9-8 in his travel cot. It's very odd sleeping a room with 5 other people!! We had a lovely brekkie this morning and stopped at Jodrell Bank before driving home and I'm now in the car waiting for my mum to get fish and chips for everyone. Oh yes and dh shut the cat in our room so she had wee'd and poo'd all over the bed by the time we got back

How was everyone else's weekend?

Hello smiling yes it's like playing guess who on here! I'm JA dd E! I hope that helps I hope you are ok?

We have had a lovely weekend it's dh's birthday today I have been to a baby sale this morning and got a IKEA highchair for my parents house and a smart trike, we have been to the fair this afternoon dd loved it she helped Daddy hook a duck and won a toy snake then we had something to eat in a country pub.
DH is off this week so we have 2 days together then I am back to work Wednesday 1st day back I am away for the night team building, great! Then back full time the week after and the fun starts of juggling childcare and work.

Hello, I've figured out with help from thomas who everyone is. I haven't been on MN since ds was born.

I'm back at work tomorrow after 3 weeks off and working a 12 hour day as J doesn't go back to school until Tuesday but had to be collected from grandma's today. I haven't worked a full 12 hour day since last February so I'm going to be knackered!

How was your long day smilethroughgrittedteeth?

It was ok thanks cinnamongreyhound we had a nice morning walking around a castle then spent the afternoon playing with water and in the garden. I was absolutely exhausted by the time I got home though and so was ds, it took me 1.5 hours to get him to sleep because he was overtired. I haven't worked a 12 hour shift in over a year

Hope you've had a bit of an easier time smilethroughgrittedteeth.

Ds3 has been up earlier and earlier this week and has been waking at 11 so I'm feeling shattered! I'm feeling positive about mine and dh's relationship. The counsellor agreed to see us together and we saw he last night. He opened up about things and said he realises that he withdraws from things, he also said that he takes what I say in a negative way often. She has asked him to speak to me if he thinks I'm annoyed/angry and say what he thinks I mean so I can correct him. He also said I put pressie on him when I said I'm just sad about things and I want to share them with him she said I had a valid point and not that dh shouldn't feel how he does but I should be able to share things without him seeing it getting at him. I was very sad to hear he feels we've had problems for the last 6 years and never said anything. We spoke briefly about his colleague, he said they just hit it off, she asked me to tell him how I felt and then asked him some questions, he then didn't answer and said he didn't understand the question otherwise it was all good. He did make me sad but I felt it was a move forwards.

Today has sucked with ds3 being up at 5.30, managed to get out for my run but he was crying when I got back. Went from school to gp for jabs, then to clinic and singing in library to try to placate a very grumpy mindee who I don't think is really very well, then to the park. Both babies fell asleep one on way home other on my lap when home. Had to wake them for school run, one then ate a tiny amount and went back to sleep other left food, had milk and went back to sleep. Have so much to do for preschool committee but I'm so tired! Got next doors puppy here so need to keep an eye on her too until I drop her home.

Sounds like you have had a busy day cinnamon I'm glad the counsellor saw you together and it sounds like you had a positive meeting.

I hope work is going ok smilingthroughgrittedteeth

I have done my 1st 2 days back at work I should have been home for bathtime but the traffic on the M6 was awful so she was asleep and I cried which is ridiculous but I haven't seen her since Tuesday night so I can't wait for tomorrow morning to see her little face I don't need to set off until 9.30 so will have a couple of hours with her.

Not at all ridiculous wineandchoccy!!!!

Thursday ended in a massive argument over something stupid which didn't help my tiredness as we were up until midnight, ds3 up four times between then and 2.15 but then slept until 8! He seems fine now so maybe it was just the jabs, he still has a hot patch on one leg. He woke at 11.30 last night but then slept until 8. He has been his usual happy self today, thankfully!

Wine that's not ridiculous at all (hugs)

Cinnamon so sorry things are so tough, I hope ds3 sleeps better tonight and is feeling ok.

Dd has had two allergic reactions mild ones, she had one you's might have saw on the group to oranges and she had another tonight to eggs. It's confusing the hell out of me as she's had both quite a few times and it's so random both have suddenly started.
111 said piriton and to see the gp so that's the plan and I'll avoid egg things until I can as I'm not sure what they will advise.

I really thought we weren't going to have the problem we've had with ds and allergies and it's getting to me as its already hard enough making sure his diet is kept milk free (allergy) and low in wheat as he's is slight intolerant to that.

I've cancelled her waterbabies photo shoot for the 4th time for tomorrow and I'm not sure is she'll be able to get the men b vaccine she's booked in for this week, these things always seem to start when there's busy weeks.

We have however had a few good days in the garden it's helped both the kids although I still after almost 5 years haven't found a sun cream that doesn't make ds scratch like crazy at bedtime :(.
I've been feeling really low so just being able to let them crawl/run around had been good and ds has taking a positive interest dd where he wants her to come outside and play and be beside her, apart from when he's jumping in to her cot shouting "come on dd" when she's napping it's been good to watch.

That's lovely thomassodorisland! I personally wouldn't worry about sun cream at this time of year, we've had 16C and I haven't had any pink ones. Have you tried baby ones? Sorry to hear about the allergies, they do sometimes just show up, see if you can get your GP to refer her.

Things have been good here for 3 days! Sleeping babies and happy husbands. Lovely day at the zoo for ds1's birthday and chilled day yesterday. Another counselling session tomorrow

Ahhhhhh we got a full nights sleep. Ds3 and I had a haircut and he's had a massive sleep (still sleeping) while I have cleaned. Had my audit from the council to check I'm using the funding I claim for my mindee correctly and it's all gone fine. Now watching some daytime tv cuddled up with littlest dog

First full week at work done, shattered house looks like a bomb has hit it but 3 day weekend yippee!
Its my birthday tomorrow I'm taking dd to a baby dance class then we are going to a nature reserve for a scarecrow trail and cake in the cafe in the afternoon when DH gets home from work. Dd has already opened 1 of my presents she got all excited and ripped the paper off so I know I have new knickers off my Mum

Glad the audit went ok cinnamon daytime tv and doggy snuggles sounds perfect!

Well done for getting through the first week wineandchoccy, Im sure you'll adjust to the new equilibrium. Have a lovely birthday, sounds like a fab way to spend it.

I'm worrying now ds3 may have a uti, he has a high temp and has slept loads. No one around has any colds etc and he's not got any other symptoms other than a high temp so I may be taking a sample into hopsital over the weekend

I hope he is ok cinnamon

We have had a lovely day even though the weather wasn't great. Tomorrow we are going to a sensory soft play centre and for an Italian dd will love that she loves garlic bread and pasta!