April 2015 thread 2 - ruling our lives and stealing our sleep, our babies are growing up already!

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New thread for those of us left here

He thinks I should go on my own PenguinPoser, which I think implies that all our problems are down to me which I don't think is true. He's not happy with me at the moment but he's not the easiest person to deal with either. Things have been good but this week will be the test with work and I've got two meetings this week and parents evening and Ofsted called Friday so I may have them out this week too! Hope you feel better soon

Cinnamon I have to say the idea of going to relationship counselling by yourself when he is the one texting and flirting with another woman is utterly outrageous. From what you've said in the past I think some of his issues seem to stem from his previous relationship, not to mention what's happening now. I could go on, but I won't because it's unlikely to be helpful to you, but I do not think you are the one with the problem here!

Anyway... I'm feeling better thanks. Still a sore throat but temperature has settled so should get away without antibiotics thankfully. And I'll be ok for work tomorrow. I don't really do being off sick unless I'm on my deathbed.

I've been feeling frustrated with DD today and feel so guilty for it. She was being so clingy and wouldn't be put down so I didn't get anything useful done and my back hurts from carrying her all day. We did art and swimming but the day still seemed to drag. I feel like such a rubbish mum for saying it. I feel I should enjoy every moment - which I know is unrealistic and if it was someone else saying it I would say don't be so silly. But I still feel guilty! I love her so much but I want to be me as well.

Now that she's in bed I must tidy up all the toys... Can't do the vacuuming though. Maybe tomorrow.

I hope you are ok cinnamon I can't believe he thinks you should go to counselling on your own when it is him that has caused this issue!

I am glad you feel a bit better penguin it is hard when they are clingy and you feel like you have not got 2 minutes to yourself I cooked tea with dd in the back sling before because she wouldn't be put down and I couldn't wait for bedtime for a break.

We are going to a sensory play centre tomorrow with a group of Mums & babies it is a fab centre with 3 sensory rooms and a soft play room so hopefully dd is in a good mood and enjoys it.

Cinnamon the others have covered it, I don't believe for once second your doing anything wrong, I don't think you should feel like you have to change you do so much for Everyone.

Penguin glad your feeling better, please try not to feel guilty those days are really hard and when your still getting better from being ill it will feel like everything lasting longer.
I hope you feel well tomorrow so working isn't so hard.

Wine that sounds like a good place, we don't seem to have many places like that nearby, I hope you have fun.

I know there are things I've done wrong and I do need to improve but I'm trying and I am worried about doing soenthing wrong and sending him packing which isn't how it should be. I can only do what feels right for now.

Glad you avoided antibiotics PenguinPoser, I'm the same with missing work!

How was the rest of yesterday cinnamon, have you heard from ofsted again regarding the inspection taking place

You shouldn't be worried about doing something to upset him or treading on eggshells around him but I know sometimes it is easier to keep the peace but that works both ways for him as well. I hope it is going ok with DH being back at work after your break.

Very cold & frosty today we have nothing planned so might get wrapped up and go for a walk into town after dd has her morning nap.

a quick hello here.
back at work now, in my second week and while fb is blocked mn isn't so I might pop here and there more often...

cinnamon, good to hear from you, you have been missed, but sad to hear things are still bad.

from what you write, you ARE a good wife and he seems to want to turn things on himself. it's not normal to keep on messaging and hiding things from you... and then making it all to be your fault. you are a strong woman, i trust you will make the best decision for you and the kids...

just wait until the stress of ofsted is past and you might need to reacess things, he either wants to be with you or message this bint...

x

in my news Alice is ok, settling in at nursery, they say she loves carpet time and all the rhymes and songs and bops along to them clapping
she sleeps well there, 1h in the morning and 2h in the afternoon and eats everything... still cries a bit overwhelmed when i pick her up, but getting better...

How are you feeling PenguinPoser?

Hope work is treating you kindly TinyTear! Thank you for all your words. I haven't seen any messaging since we've been home so perhaps it was all work related. I don't know what to think about it. I feel confident in him one minute and then in a blind panic that he's in love with her the next. Last night he was quit distant but I think just tired, he promised to make more effort tonight.

Ofsted are coming next week Thomassodorisland, she won't tell me when.

We have a third tooth!! Yay! After a lovely break where he could nap when he wanted not distated by school runs he's not sure what he wants to do! Mon and ties he waited until 12.30, yesterday only made it until 11 and today he has been asleep on me for 10 mins.

My boys did amazingly well in parents evening, ds1 is in a tricky situation as the changes in curriculum apparently affect his year group the most but is as expected in writing and reading and above in maths and ds2 is above expected across the board and reaching early learning goals already when they're not expected to be met until the end of reception so we're really pleased.

Been to the park today and littlest two got freezing, home relaxing now but I can smell as pooey bum so better turf ds3 off me and get going.

I'm glad he is going to make more effort cinnamon yeah for the 3rd tooth!

Dd's naps are strange at the minute 1 day she is dropping by 9.30 then today she battles on and has only gone down at 11.30 but she did have a feed at 4.30 so she didn't want much when she woke at 7.15am.

I have just made some weaning flapjack for dd it smells good but we will see what she thinks when she wakes up.

Oh cinnamon! Im furious for you. Hes blaming you for his actions to make himself feel better.
Theres only so long you can pretend to be perfect before you run out of energy. No one is perfect.

Cone back to diamonds. Hes still messaging her for support let us be yours.
We all miss you

I agree with Heyitsholly come back we miss you!

Another vote for you to come back cinnamon! Thanks for asking I'm fine now

I know what you mean about the unpredictable naps Wineandchoccy it can be the same here I don't think it helps that on nursery days she doesn't nap well.

I'm at a bit of a loss as to what to do today. Although DD is now napping so will see when she wakes up and try go out for a bit this afternoon.

Dd has conjunctivitis and is feeling very sorry for herself we have just been to the Drs and she has been prescribed drops that we have to start tomorrow if no improvement by using cooled boiled water. Her temp is a bit high and her ear was red inside so we have to give her ibuprofen and try her with paracetomol, the last time she had paracetomol she projectile vomited everywhere so we will see how she gets on.
She has had 2 good naps today but won't take much milk X

Oh no poor little thing wineandchoccy, hope she's feeling better tomorrow. Poorly babies are horrible for everyone

You're all very lovely, it's nice to feel wanted xxxx

Ds3 had his first haircut today, now he looks all grown up

Thats a big boy haircut. They are growing too fast!!

I love his haircut and I'm also another hoping you come back xxxd

Ahh he looks lovely cinnamon

Dd seems in a happier mood this morning and is playing on the floor on her own where the past couple of days she has clung to me sobbing. I have bathed her eye again and it looks better than yesterday so hopefully we might avoid using the drops.

How is everyone? Hope all he poorly mums and babies are well.

Had an up and down weekend really. Went to my mums for lunch Saturday for my brothers birthday. Ran Cambridge half marathon Sunday, had to leave the house at 7. The boys were apparently very good, loitering around and eating junk from the tea rooms in dh's work. Saw two men recovering cpr which was hideous! No Ofsted today.

Well done on going the marathon, so sorry you had to witness those people receiving cpr.

How are you feeling about the the ofsted visit.

I've had a mixed weekend on day 3/4 alone with the kids and not feeling great about it, amazed at how much we've actually done but with dd's birthday this week it's brought a lot of things up from the last year and the pregnancy which is making me teary.

Dd is much better Thanks cinnamon did you run a good time in the marathon? How awful to see people receiving cpr. How much notice do ofsted give you?

I gave arranged dds settling in sessions at nursery she is doing 3 2 hour sessions in a couple of weeks to see how she is, she will be fine but I will be probably be a wreck!

I can't believe that the birthdays are almost here thomassodorisland I think I am in denial because we havnt arranged anything yet and I have only bought a few bits because she got so much at Christmas that she really doesn't need anything else.

It was only a half marathon not a full one, I did it in 2:02:29 which I was pleased with. I've done 4 and it was my second fastest but the slower two had off road bits.

Ofsted were supposed to come in December she phoned me on 11th and was coming on 17th but she had to cancel due to family illness. She called me while I was away and I returned her call last Monday, she just said she'd be with me week beginning 29th Feb but I have no time or day for her arrival so we're under house arrest. Not bad today as its pouring and we were soaked from the school run!

Hopefully she'll be good wineandchoccy and as long as you keep busy you will be too! Glad to hear she's all better.

It's hard when anniversaries bring up sad memories thomassodorisland. Why have you had 4 days alone with the kids? How are wedding plans coming along?

We are better thanks, A has gone to nursery now, antibiotics are magic, blooming ear infections!

Good time cinnamon that's rubbish that you have to stay in and wait for them good job the weather is a bit rubbish.

I am not looking forward to the 1st time she is at nursery but I know she will be fine. My parents are having her Mon & Tues, MIL Wed and nursery Thurs & Fri. God knows how MIL will manage she hardly sees her but she offered and I have said to DH we will see how it goes and if it is not working she can go to nursery an extra day.

I got a good, and a very strong good. She said she expects me to be outstanding next time around pressure!!!!

In other news, I got home from my meeting last night to find dh's phone received lots of messages, guess from who? Well I was ok with that strangely as it was a group chat but the worst thing was when I read their content. Jason Donovan was at the corn exchange last night, I asked him to go ages ago and he was REALLY odd about it so I didn't push it and we didn't go. Turns out that's where she was last night and he knew she was going and didn't want me to bump into her there so out me off going. So I missed out because he couldn't man up and be honest with me and just say she might be there would you mind that.