April 2015 thread 2 - ruling our lives and stealing our sleep, our babies are growing up already!

[PenguinPoser]

New thread for those of us left here

Glad they've given you something to help wineandchoccy hope it clears up soon.

Thinking of you with your stepmum monkeybabiess111 but that doesn't make you selfish. Someone else's problems being worse don't decrease the validity of yours.

Glad there's not chest infection shiteforbrains!

We had some good news today, we've been offered a mortgage on principle which will incorporate all our debt and should decrease our monthly outgoing a by around £550. Will reduce my stress levels by loads of it comes off and I should be able to have less minded kids, will just have the guilt of which ever ones I let go!

My step mum got home today everything went well.

Shiteforbrains I really hope you got more sleep last night.

Cinnamon yay for the good news you deserve it.

I'm struggling today with the dc, starting to feel like they would be better off with anyone other than me. Ds just keeps hitting and throwing things, I'm running out of ideas on how to keep him entertained while I feed or change dd.
Dd won't let leave her alone to spend time with ds, I'm trying not to cry In front of them but everything's really getting to me :/.

Glad all went well with your stepmum monkeybabiess111! Your kids would not be better with anyone else, ds would still hit and through and dd would be as clingy, it's very common at this age nothing you have done. Hope today is a better day

We had a better day yesterday, Dp took the dc in the morning then me and dd lay in bed all afternoon just not being required to do much without feeling guilty (Dp would normally complain) was nice.
Dd still won't sleep but we've lay in bed while Dp is taking ds to nursery and says he will have dd for 2 hours to let me sleep before he goes to work so I'm waiting on him coming back.

I hope everyone else has a good day.

Hi ladies sorry I've been quiet for a few days. Have had a lot on with my dad being unwell and hospital visiting but he is better than he was but looks like he will be in for a while yet. Poor dd has screamed the place down for DH while I was out this evening. I will try and keep up again now with the posts

Glad t hear your dad is better than he was PenguinPoser! Hope you're managing to find a bit of time for yourself too.

Glad your day was better Monkeybabiess111.

I had a lovely visit from a friend today and then it all went wrong this afternoon. Kids weren't great, spent 1hr 15 on the phone to hmrc to order a sa302 for my mortgage application, kids woke ds3 from his nap so he wouldn't be put down all evening and I ended up feeling grumpy! But tomorrow is a day for me and my dude and I have the car.

Slightly p'd off that after worrying about ds3's weight and getting me to give him the high calorie milk and get home weighed and making a point that she was going to ring me in three weeks to get his weight and make a further plan, another week on and I still haven't heard from the dietician!

Penguin I'm glad your dad is getting better, I hope your ok to.

Cinnamon that sounds like a tough afternoon, I hate the waiting times for hmrc. I hope tomorrow is better for you.
Sorry your still waiting to hear from the dietician.

I had another ok day I'm anxiousness (if that's a word) I feel has came down a little and I feel a little calmer, I just keep hoping that my mood will lift as I'm still crying a lot.
I'm worrying about tomorrow Dp is working from 11am-12 I've been relying on him for the last couple of weeks I've lost my confidence in parenting, it feels like I'm learning how to parent 2 all over again though it felt easier the first time I learned even with the c section scar at least I wasn't a mess in my head then.
Ds is has however been talking more he's been saying more words and is slowly learning how to verbally express himself, I'm not sure if we should be excited yet he's learned and forgot before but im really hoping this is the beginning of him talking.

shiteforbrains I hope ds is happier now is 2nd tooth has appeared.

penguin I hope your Dad is ok and isn't to long in hospital

cinnamon it sounded like you had a tough day yesterday I hope you and your little man are having fun today.

monkeybabiess111 I'm glad you are feeling a little better and that your ds is able to talk more. I hope you are ok today without your dp.

There are no 'cheap' baby groups today the only thing good on a Friday is Mum & baby Pilates but it's £8 a session and dd fed for the whole session last time so dd and I are going for a drive to the next town and have a walk in the park and to get something nice for tea.
She had papaya for breakfast which she liked but I keep finding bits, weaning is a messy process

Wine £8 for a group that's expensive, I'm glad you had fun.

I really need to find away to get help, I've not met this new cpn I feel weird at the thought of just phoning them to speak to her and going help me but I really need someone to every few days I'm really reaching breaking point and I have no idea how to cope, the only think I do i try and keep the kids things going but it's really hard.
Dp is going to phone the gp surgery on Monday and try and get an appointment with the Dr that I think listens the one that sent all the referrals off and listened to me rambling I don't think I'm making it clear, I tried writing it down it didn't make sense but I did mention everything but the other Dr didn't listen or doesn't care.
It worries me as I feel I've asked for to much help this year so they don't want to help anymore but I really feel I need it or maybe it's just me I don't know, I just feel like no one cares I'm sick of crying everyday and sick of trying to block everything out in my head.
Sorry for rambling I had a bit of bad day I've not had much sleep and dd won't settle I think she's teething.

monkeybabiess111 I hope you can get an appt with the Dr on Monday but if you can ring the cpn over the weekend then I would ring them because they are there to help you. Sorry you have had a bad day is dp with you now so you can get some rest?
I made a homemade teether for dd which has helped, I got a Muslin and tied knots in it along the whole length, ran it under the cold tap and squeezed the excess she likes chomping on the knotted bits.

I bought dd a lovely brand new mamas and papas dress in a charity shop I also got her a cd of nursery rhymes, had cake and coffee in a cafe, fed the ducks and done the shopping and now I'm in bed shattered but DH is off work for a week now so I can hopefully have a rest.

Sounds like a busy day Wineandchoccy I hope you get a rest now that your DH is off. I don't often think to look in charity shops but it's a good idea for bargains!

I would be annoyed too cinnamon you would think if they were that worried then they would have followed it up!

Monkeybabies please do keep asking for help there isn't a limit for what one person can have or ask for. I really hope you can get an appointment tomorrow

Hoping to have a quiet day today. Dad is still in hospital but he has other family visiting today so I think I'll go back tomorrow, unless anything changes today.

How was your weekend Monkeybabiess111? You don't use you help from your GP they're there as much as you need and perhaps if they'd helped earlier you wouldn't have to keep asking.

Sounds like a lovely day wineandchoccy and yay for having dh at home, love mine having time off.

Glad you've had a break from trying to tear yourself in two PenguinPoser, is dd getting more used to evenings with daddy?

Ds3 is such a people baby, I ran a 10k race today and dh carried him around when I'd finished and we went back to the visitors centre everyone had something to say about how smiley/happy/friendly he was! He loves being outside like his mummy which is lovely too.

Ahh bless ds3 cinnamon I'm glad he is a happy baby, I love seeing smiley babies.

Dd has had sweet potato, broccoli and carrot for tea DH is definitely on nappy duty tomorrow she was funny eating it she kept smacking her lips and it sounded like she was saying yum yum! I can't believe we only started weaning a week ago yet as soon as we put her in her highchair she gets all excited for food.

Is anybody doing anything different for when the clocks alter? Dd normally has bath at 6.30 and asleep for 7pm - 7.15pm does that mean she will be ready for bed an hour earlier and up an hour earlier, Or am I over thinking it?

She will probably be up earlier on the Sunday but I've always found if you keep to the normal bedtime (if you can't stretch her the first day within a couple) they go back to what they were doing nothing really quickly.

When do the clocks change? Should probably be aware of this! I remember in the spring when they went forward I was pleased that the night would be an hour shorter as I was generally up all night with dd! I don't want to tempt fate but she's had 3 nights in her own room now and she's sleeping better. Maybe me and DH were disturbing her before. I miss her though!

Yesterday was nice we stayed in apart from a little trip to the shops. Today we have waterbabies this afternoon (missed it last week as was at hospital with dad) and I'll go visiting this evening. Dd is doing ok with DH she's better if I'm back in time to put her to bed though. She's having clingy moments at the minute but overall she's fine.

Hope everyone has a good day.

Thanks cinnamon we will stick to our normal routine then. penguin the clocks go back at the weekend Sunday 25th typically we are out on Sunday for my Grandparents 70th wedding anniversary so could do without looking tired because the local newspaper are coming to take a family photo
I hope your Dad is doing ok penguin

We are going to the baby group this afternoon we are doing handprints and footprints, DH is sorting our garage out because we are having a new kitchen fitted in a few weeks so need to make space for when it is delivered.

If anybody is near a TK Maxx I bought a lovely 2.5tog Gro Bag made of Muslin by Aden and Anais it feels lovely and it was only £14.99. Sizing is good around the neck and arms but they are very long so it will fit for ages.

Saturday night/Sunday morning PenguinPoser.

I personally think that being in their own room does help them sleep better but I know lots disagree. I can see what you mean about missing her too but if she's sleeping better you will have a happier dd and happier mummy during the day . Do you have an idea how long your dad is going to be in hospital.

Means you get an extra hour in bed/to get ready though wineandchoccy

Ds3 did sleep a lot yesterday, had a night wake up for first time in ages and then slept until 8.15. Now having a feed and appears to be going back to sleep, maybe catching up!

Penguin I hope you dad is ok and you have a good time at waterbabies.

Cinnamon 10k well done I don't think I could run 10 metres I'm glad ds3 is a happy baby.

Wine I hope you enjoy having your dh home this week and get to rest.

I've had a mixed weekend I hate whatever is going on in my head, I seem to go from being semi ok ie functioning to just wanting to not be here and it's like I've gotten myself into a pattern, if things are tough or I don't get enough (any) sleep then it's worse it's all I can think about at those times.
Saturday was really bad but I'm ok the morning tired but ds is unwell so we've been laying in his room while he plays on the iPad so I've been dosing, Dp has to work so I won't be able to go to the Drs but we are phoning later to see if they can bring the appointment forward it needs changed anyway as I can't make the gp and cpn at the same time on the 29th as the appointments are 30 minutes apart at different places.
I'm not been self harming so something's working I just wish I could stop my thoughts long enough to find someway to just think straight I know need to find a way then I can fix it.

Phoned Drs the Dr that listens is off this week the next appointment with him is on the 29th an hour and 10 minutes before the one I had already so I've changed that.
I've gotten really stressed out this afternoon Dp is mad at me now as I phoned him in tears, he did send my mum up who called me pathetic I just need to grow up she's left as I just took the kids and came upstairs until she did but i feel drained I just hate everything in my head I wish there was an off button.

Monkeybabies you are not pathetic and I am horrified that your mum said that. I don't even think that is a strong enough word for how annoyed I am that she said that to you. please don't listen to her, she is not right.

Thanks ladies I had forgotten about the clocks!

Not sure yet how long dad will be in hospital - possibly another few weeks but hopefully not that long. I think he is being moved out of intensive care tomorrow so a step in the right direction.

Waterbabies was good but I hate getting ready afterwards it's such a faff on! Dd is enjoying it though so that's the main thing.

Please ignore the last part of my last post I shouldn't have posted it, I need to stop posting so much sorry.