April 2015 thread 2 - ruling our lives and stealing our sleep, our babies are growing up already!

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New thread for those of us left here

I hope everyone got back to sleep last night.
We were up 10. 12,30, 2, 3.30 then 6 I'm hoping she will go back down to I can get an extra hour or two whilst ds is at nursery then I need to get them out the house I feel like I've not been out much lately and I'm going a bit stir crazy seeing the same 4 walls all the time.

Not sure where Hopton is wineandchoccy. Hope it's been as lovely where you are as it has been here.

Glad you feel better for your sleepy day shiteforbrains.

Glad you feel better shiteforbrains.
Well we've had our first wake up at 11pm.. She hasn't done that for months think she was disturbed by DH going in the shower before bed but he often does. Hopefully it's a one off.

Very exciting!

Thank you all for your greetings and for including me. I had a little girl on 22 April. Do you have a Facebook group you could add me to please? I'm finding it v hard to meet other first time mums with babies a similar age (in real life!) xxx

mzzzpiggy I'm not on Facebook but I'm sure somebody who is can add you to the group. Is there any groups in your area? I'm lucky that there is a group everyday where I live but my cousins wife had a baby a few weeks after me and she lives in Northumberland and she has only got access to 2 groups so I suppose it is what is in your area.
The local children's centre has a under 1's group, baby massage, churches usually have a baby & toddler group even if you are not religious, baby swimming, NCT group sorry if you have already tried some of these.

We have arrived in Norfolk dd was a little star on the very long journey down here she has woke twice tonight but her routine was thoroughly messed up yesterday. We are going swimming tomorrow and then we are going to visit some relations in the afternoon. cinnamon we are 10 miles from Great Yarmouth, weather was lovely when we arrived but I can hear it raining now.

shiteforbrains yeah for the tooth I hope he is happier now it has appeared.

Glad dd behaved wineandchoccy! I am quite a way from the coast but love Yarmouth. My athletic club are running the round Norfolk relay next weekend which is literally running all the way around the edge of Norfolk. I did a leg last year while 11 weeks pregnant but didn't want to commit and let anyone down this year but that may go through hopton.

I had a friend ask me earlier in the week who my new minded baby was she was so shocked when I told her it was ds3 he really must have changed a lot! I also often have him in the sling and he was in the pushchair so it obviously threw her! Ds2 had his party today and ds3 spent most of the time being walked around by my mum because he was tired but there was too much going on to sleep!! Lovely day here

That is impressive cinnamon, I certainly wasn't running anywhere at 11 weeks pregnant (or any other time), I don't think I could run the length of my street.

We've not had a good day as ds Is struggling right now but dd has a brilliant night last night and I'm hoping she repeats tonight she went back down at 10 so I've my fingers and toes crossed it is a repeat, we are off to an autism friendly cinema screening tomorrow so we are hoping we are all rested for it as I have know idea how ds is going to react (food at the ready to bribe him to stay sitting down might work)

I am awake now as I went to babysit one of my minded little boys and ds3 woke up a while after I left and cried loads. Dh didn't tell me until he'd been up a while and then I didn't hear from him again for another hour. When I got home he's finally settled him with a bottle but he was so horrible to me. He had asked me not to do it but not because he thought he'd wake up but because we have a busy weekend and he didn't want it to be busier. He literally never wakes at this time and the thought of home screaming for an hour really upsets me. I told dh that his reaction was because if drink and if he didn't stop then it was over between us so he said he guessed that was it. We argued more and talked some but he's now gone to bed and I'm so sad. Although I don't think it's the end of our relationship He's basically chosen alcohol over me and I don't know how I can cope with that. We do argue when he's not had a drink but it's always worse and he's so vicious when he's had a few that I don't want to do it anymore. He was falling asleep as we argued/talked so I said go to bed. I can't sleep but it's ds2's birthday tomorrow and I want it to be lovely for him. I know we won't get chance to talk at all. He said I'm horrible to live with and that I'm never happy with anything in my life so he needs a drink to deal with me. In the next breath he said he loves me and I'm the nicest person he knows. I just don't know what to say. Life is tough, we have a lot of debt which is stressful, I work 7.30-6 5 days a week as well as running a home with three of my own children and one of his. I walk the dogs twice a day, prepare 3 meals a day, cook, shop, clean, wash and iron as well and I get tired and fed up. People take advantage and I'm not good at saying no. I don't want to work, I want more time with my boys and more money so I don't have to worry so much and can give the boys the things I feel they deserve. But I'm thankful to have a husband I love and who I get on well with mostly, we get on well but don't have as much time together as we'd like. I love my home and my boys are everything. I don't have the friends I would like but I have gained a couple of friends recently who I feel close to but I'm not good at letting people close. We've had a tough year with ds3's kidney worries while pregnant and after, loosing one of my main customers while pregnant, dh being ill repeatedly, his dad dying, having a baby and now a car crash which meant we've had to replace the car I think I'm entitled to moan a bit. Maybe I need to be more positive to him and not let it my frustrations when I've had a bad day but if you can't be grumpy with your dh who can you be? Sorry to go on!

Cinnamon this isn't your fault and there no excuse for what he is saying alcohol or no alcohol, I'm not the best at giving relationship advice (I would be hypocritical if I did considering mine) i really hope you have managed to get some sleep and you all have a good day for ds2 birthday.

Cinnamon I totally agree that if you can't be grumpy with DH then who can you be! It doesn't mean you're hard to live with at all. Alcohol is the problem, not you. I do suspect that is what needs to change. It is not your fault and you did nothing wrong.

I'm feeling exhausted, dd has decided we are seeing every hour tonight and I feel like I'm coming down with something on top of no sleep, I know she will sleep threw at some point in the future but it's frustrating when you see improvement and then revert back to this as I want is a few hours uninterrupted sleep ??

Could it be the fact that you've introduced food? It's something for body and brain to get used to. If it helps to have a reason! Sorry you're still getting so little sleep.
I'm shattered this morning, ds3 didn't get a nap in the morning yesterday and despite having 2hrs later on was still grumpy all afternoon and evening, wanting to be held a lot. My minded 13month old was awake all the time he was sleeping and I then pick up 7 after schoolers on a Monday so didn't have a moments peace until my boys had gone to bed. What with a busy weekend and I'm worrying about hospital Thursday I'm so looking forward to friday evening!!!

That sounds hectic cinnamon, I hope you can keep your mind off the appointment and today is an easier day for you.
Ds is away Thursday night so I'm hoping dp will do any night feeds.

She's a bit stuffy the start of the night she wasn't but around 3 am she was struggling to tried steam it helped for an hour at 4, typically she's now asleep and ds is up so getting him ready for Dp to take to nursery then I can Hoover the cereal he's left everywhere as the hv is due out (that's if it's not cancelled again).
I'm feeling ill but Dp said he will work from home today so he can help if I need.

If I need it *

Today was a much better day! Hope you're feeling better monkeybabiess111

We've been home a lot today so ds3 has been able to nap when he wanted, makes for a much happier baby!