September 2014 - Rocking and Rolling

[FATEdestiny]

Our babies are rocking and rolling, crawling and climbing into the second half of their first year.

Let the fun continue...

Oh Acorncat, that's awful. Do you have antibiotics? Hopefully it will feel better soon. He might have had 24 hours more pain, but at least it was only 24 hours and not longer, because you trusted your instincts and went to get seen.

Unwittingly prolonging pain is the parental guilt thing for me. I have lots of stories. Knowing I could and should have done more is the worse kind of guilt.

DS5 recently had an infection in his gums where molars are cutting through at the back. For several days he was telling me his teeth hurt and I just pacified with some teething gel an a "you'll live" attitude. After a few days he reached the point where he had a temperature and was whimpering in pain, so booked an emergency dentist appointment. He had an infected assess. I've had one of those myself before, I know how bad they feel. Felt awful that I didn't take him to the dentist sooner.

DD10 fell off her bike when she was about 6, face first into a wall. Cuts and bruises to her lip, but that was about it. She was making a massive, massive fuss but in a Boy Who Cried Wolf way, she is a massive drama queen about the slightest thing so I assumed she was over-dramatising. It took about 2 hours of crying until (in a kind of cross way) I went "well if it is this bad we'd better go to the hospital, now please calm down". Turns out she had scrapped the gums back from her teeth and had to have a operation to sew her gums back in place

Yeah, he has antibiotics. What with them every 6 hours and his calpol or ibuprofen every 3 hours I won't be getting much sleep for the next few nights which will make no difference from normal but I just hope he feels better soon. He's being a trooper but his breathing is quicker and his temperature is all over the place which is just scary.

It is the guilt, but it sounds like I better get used to it if your stories are anything to go by!

Oh acorn at least you know what's wrong now and it's being dealt with. It's very difficult when they can't talk!! ? I hope the antibiotics kick in very soon xx

Fate, awwwwww waving that's mega cute!

Hello everyone :)

Well fx this sleep training is working because last night was the first night ds has ever slept through long may this last.

fate it was great seeing my sister, she lives in Canada so we usually only Skype! A real live hug! Bliss! And she met E for the first time

That sounds absolutely amazing Cookie. Enjoy having her close x

Aw cookie, that sounds great. Hope you have a really wonderful time together!

Acorn, try not to feel bad. As FATE said, you trusted your instincts and pushed to get him seen. I hope he's doing much better soon and that you both get some sleep tonight.

DD has been waving for a little while now. She also claps on demand, when she thinks she's done something clever, or when she thinks someone else has done something clever! It is like being patronised by an eight month old. "Clever mummy can bounce a ball" clap, clap, clap High fives are also very popular at the moment. The cutest thing she is doing at the moment is when I say "can you sing a song for mummy" she replies with a sing song "ahhhh ahhhh".

Gro blinds are crap. Well, might be ok on a big window with a wide frame. But shite on our windows. Bin liners and tape it is then

Acorn hope your DS gets well soon. xx It's not your fault - you did everything right. The professionals should have picked up on it when you first contacted them. xx

Cookie well done on a successful sleep through! And how lovely that you are getting to spend some time with your sister. Hope you have a lovely time together. xx

Hey everyone

So much to catch up on this evening! I've been on a KIT day at work today. It was very relaxed, great to catch up with people and felt like a nice break!

Nazly your sleep problems remind me of DD when -I've had a cheeky afternoon snooze with her, meaning-- she gets too much daytime sleep. How long is your DS napping for during the day now?

Acorn wishing wellness your way, sounds like you did the right thing to go against the grain and get everything properly checked out.

Awww Team, that sounds really lovely. We've not got the hand clap yet, working on it though. We do a both hands in the air cheer (accompanied by a "yeah!" shout) whenever DD does something great. Just like your DD, my DD cheers for herself when she does something she knows is great. Which is very sweet.

In many ways I think that advances in communication are more valuable than physical advances. It is a special revelation when you and your baby can start having two-way communication.

Oops forgot to say DD has been getting lot more vocal these past few days. Today's new sound was "ohhhhhhhh" with a look of surprise
And the waving......awwwwwww it's so cute!! She will wave at anyone and everyone though.

well we are back.....

b is v vocal at present. he does this weird gargling rolling rs thing at the moment and a lot of dadadad and tatatata but no mamamamama.

sitting up now sorted. hoping he will crawl now we are back on carpet and not skiddy tiles. he has loved the baby walker at my mum's so he may try to get the jumperoo to move tomorrow!!!!

acorn sorry I hope all is improving with you. I think you did everything right....I had a similar thing and 111 and 3 docs said just to calpol and nurofen. the antibiotics worked v quickly...hope same goes there x

I bet all parents of older children have a story similar Ella, I know I have.

welcome home Holls . Hope the goodbyes weren't too difficult. Lots of adadada's here too and very few mamama's.

Zana - DD waves at everyone who looks at her as well. She has never rationed her smile either though, will always give a massive cheesy grin at anyone who smiles at her (literally anyone, including random old blokes in the post office queue etc). Likewise with waving so far.

Thanks for the well wishes . His temperature has stayed down all night, though sleep has been hard to come by so gave up at 5 and took him for a drive - out like a light after 10 mins. I've napped in the car but knackered!

I didn't realise they could be clapping, waving etc, I haven't tried that with him at all . I think he's more focusing on the physical development. Though he does mimic the sound one of his toys makes which is very cute. He smiles at everyone, people always comment on what a happy boy he is.

Glad his temp is down Acorn. Hopefully he will nap plenty today and you can catch up too.

Hey everyone,

Acorn glad your little one is on the mend and sorry you had a bad night xx

Aldi have their baby event on today folks, I've been and stocked up on all sorts.

We had a busy day out and about yesterday so baby only got 30 winks here and there and by 6pm he was beyond tired...Normally I wouldn't let him sleep at that time but I really had no choice...let him have 40 mins woke changed and gave a bottle. It then took 3 attempts to get him off to sleep but....drum roll he not only slept all night he slept until 7.20 am!!!!!! I'm bloody amazed. So needless to say we will have a bad night tonight ?

He's currently asleep but tempted to wake him shortly.

No clapping crawling or shouting yeah here....sounds ace though. He does get mega excited to see dh and he adores ds1 his face lights up. He tries to grab the dog, the dog is a bit scared of him and moves away. His favourite hobby is eating!!

Someone mentioned veggies fritters, thanks for the idea. I tried those and ds loved to squish them, not so much eating them but I tried. ?

Have a good day everyone xx

Afternoon all

Spent the day painting today. DD finally has a room to move into when she is ready. The room has transformed from blue, red and skull and cross bones to pink and girly - at zero cost so far . Reusing curtains/lampshade etc from big sisters room (that was decorated a couple of months ago) and using left-over tins of paint mixed together to make a light pink and dark pink shade for the walls.

Well done on your thrifty DIY Fate!

White - I mentioned the veggie fritters. I'd try giving them again in a few days, DD just squished/pulled them apart but gobbles them up now. I'll have to take a picture when she next has one, she looks like a little squirrel holding it in both hands and nibbling away!

Acorn - Sorry your DS is poorly, I hope he's better soon! I'm sorry the medical professionals missed it as well. Really bugs me!

Have you all seen the feature on daytime TV today about the 'revelation' that bottlefeeding mothers feel pressured and guilty when they can't/don't want to breastfeed? I didn't really think it was news, it's certainly not a new thing. I'm glad it's being talked about in the mainstream though. I still feel guilt and sadness about not being able to breastfeed and really feel the midwives, HV's etc. need to dial down their 'breast is best' regime a bit. Particularly when all they do is spout off rehearsed 'facts' and don't offer any support.

Hi lilone, I'll give them another go ?

I know someone that gave up her job as a health visor due to the pressure they had to put on new mums to bf. I know that hv get government incentives for each mother they get to bf.

It's all personal choice. It's what's right for you and your family.

Fate well done on getting any decorating done with a 9 mo. ?

I can't quite believe it, but we've had our first word!!! Luckily DH was there too, or I'd have thought I was imagining it!!! Handed her a duck toy that she plays with lots and, clear as anything, she said "duck". DH and I both paused, looked at each other open mouthed and said at the same time "did she just say duck?!" If DH hadn't of been there and if the word hadn't of made sense in the context of what was happening, I would not have believed it. I got a bit tearful

Yay to the thrifty decorating FATE!

Lil, I was given loads of guilt trips when I stopped. Even though DD was not gaining weight and had dropped from the 35th to the 2nd percentile they still were pressuring me to continue EBF.

Acorn, how's your DS tonight?

First word, that's so lovely Team. I'd be tearful too if it was me.

I didn't get any pressure to BF, I was expecting loads, but all of the healthcare people I saw were very apologetic when they said DS would have to bottle fed because of his weight loss & kept asking if I was ok with it like it was a bad thing. If my baby is losing weight I just want him to eat, it doesn't matter how.

Has anyone else had an 8 month development check with their HV? I got a letter through today for an appointment on Tuesday morning & I've had to fill in questionnaires on what DS can do. Any idea what the appointment entails & how long it will take?

I went to Aldi today & the baby event is great. 12 pack of wipes £5.70, munchkin booster seat £11 instead of the £19 I paid off Amazon. Tommee tippee beakers, long sleeve bibs. My shopping bill was twice what it normally is as a result

DS is quite a bit better today . His temperature has stayed down all day and he's eaten well. He's still a big whingey but I imagine it's still really painful. I just hope he can sleep ok, he keeps waking himself up when he coughs or swallows . Back to doctors this morning and she said his tonsils looked less pussy already (lovely). Unfortunately the antibiotics have given him explosive nappies on a scale not seen before. I actually binned the (old) clothes he was wearing today as they were so totally embedded with poo . And because he flips over and crawls as soon as you get the nappy off...well let's just say I had to steam the floors and change my clothes.

I also went to Aldi, just got more sleeved bibs (I have 6 now but use 3 a day and can't be bothered to wash daily ), another toy and restocked on calpol and nurofen.

I don't think we get 8 month checks here, noones ever mentioned it. I'd kind of like one though, bit worried that he's behind after reading about the clapping, waving etc and now the talking Team!

Weirdly I've found health pros surprised that I still bf. It's usually met with a "oh, you feed him yourself?". When he was in hospital for bronchiolitis the nurses just assumed he was bottle fed and were about to make him one before I shouted after them that he's bf. His dietician gave me the obligatory "breast is best, carry on" while giving him a prescription for full time formula

Glad to hear your DS is a little better. Hopefully you will both get some sleep tonight.

I've not heard anything about an eight month check either!

Acorn, I don't think you've got anything to worry about. They all do stuff at different times and in different orders. DD is still nowhere near crawling, but is probably a little ahead with communication. They just have their own areas of expertise they they practice loads.

The way their brains develop they tend to get bursts of development in single areas and the order of those bursts differs between children. So some will be further ahead with language, others with crawling, others with socialising, etc. They all get to the same place in the end, just in different orders. (Hope that makes some sense?!)

Maybe try lots of clapping stuff over the next few days. He may pick it up?

A couple of weeks ago my mum said something about my sister rolling a ball to people at only six months. It had never occurred to me to even give DD a ball to play with! So I got one, and in a week she was rolling the ball, throwing it (quite randomly) and she's now trying to make it bounce.

A question for everyone... What toys are your little ones currently enjoying? DD seems to be outgrowing some of her toys and I feel like I need to get her some new ones. I recently got her the Tomy eggs and she loves those!