November 2014 - The one where they won't stay still.

[MrsAukerman]

New thread, new moves, new poo!

twiglet sorry I missed your post, can't believe your mil said that! Doesn't deserve to look after her own grand daughter with that attitude.

lady I know!!! And yeah I was thinking the other day that this time last year I was at a festival drinking all day . How dd arrived a normal healthy baby I have NO idea.

Good night again here. 7:30-7, one squeak at one but she settled herself back down. A bottle of hungry milk before bed seems to be helping her through.

Good night here too, she was exhausted and fell asleep while feeding in the living room at 6.30. Feed at midnight and then again at 4.45 which was dangerously close to her normal wake up time of 5.15 but I managed to feed her and rock back to sleep and get a little bit more shut eye until my alarm at 6.20. Eventually had to go and wake her at 7.10! After managing to clean the bathroom and kitchen before bed last night I feel like I'm coping with being a working mum (I'm all about the small wins!)

She was teething last week but we didn't really notice, so now she had 3 in a row on the bottom and one coming through to even it out. On top she's got one of the side ones coming though but no sign of the front 2, she's going to be rocking a toothless hillbilly look for a while I think...

Good night here too. This gives me hope that as a cohort they're all improving rather than it being flukey. Quick cuddle from daddy needed at 2020 then straight through to 0230 for a full feed then back til 0500 took one boob then back in cot til 0600. Such an improvement on a week ago even. Off out tonight to a gig and MIL is babysitting so hoping he can do a 3rd consecutive good night.

Yes to the small wins, counting them is the only way to stay sane. Mixed night here, just one feed but quite a few wake ups.
I feel like I've hit a wall of tiredness at 9 months! Off work this week with the dds and surrounded by boxes to be unpacked but it's almost impossible to do it with them. Having a cup of tea and catching my breath here while dd2 has her nap. Kitchen is clean and dishwasher emptied. Have to start thinking about what to prep for lunch/dinner next...

Meant to say hang in there lady, you're doing great. You too twig, no idea how you're wrangling a baby and a horse but I doff my cap. Idiotic comment from your mil, I hate when people expect babies to be all sunshine and good performance. It's very unfair.
Have a great night out mrsA!

Good night here too, messed up only by DP going to the loo at 4.30 and waking me up and I didn't really get back to sleep properly after that. The monitor went off at 5.15 waking DS but I managed to get him back to sleep and he went to 6.10. He is slowly dropping his 3am feed. We are having more nights now where he sleeps through.

I am trying to make a concerted effort to get him to nap in his cot during the day rather than his pushchair. MIL decided to tell me at the weekend (after moaning that we never leave him with her so we did) that he was far too big to sleep in his pushchair (she doesn't have a cot round there so it was the only option) so now I feel like a sh*t mother. It took me 90 minutes to get him to go to sleep this morning, with tears, shouting, me sitting with him, then trying to leave him in the hope that he'd settle better if I wasn't there, then feeling awful for leaving him crying and going back in to comfort him. I honestly don't know what to do for the best. I gave in yesterday lunch time after 90 minutes and put him in his pushchair because if I hadn't he would have gone from 10.40 to 6pm without a second nap.

Rant over.

Twiglet you're doing an amazing job. I know how hard it is fitting a horse in with working when you don't have a child in tow. You are incredible to get it all done. Be kind to yourself and ignore the very unhelpful comment from your MIL. (I should take some of my own advice there).

Ladydolly you're doing an amazing job too. Loving the small wins - they make life bearable don't they.

Greenstone I also feel more tired now than I did in the early days.

Last rant of the morning (I promise)...next door are so bl00dy noisy. If it's not their 3yo screaming at the top of her voice in the garden all day, and her mother talking at the top of her voice to her friends, it's their sodding dog who barks constantly, which means that I can't put DS to nap in the garden because they just wake him up. So he's upstairs in the bedroom with the window closed (another thing I hate in this weather, but necessary due to the noise) and now, after it's taken me all morning to get him to sleep, they've just got out the noisiest chainsaw in the world and are starting to do the hedges

I wonder where all my old tolerance has gone. I seem to have none left these days. Am I different, and pettier, or just very tired?

Oohh cruising babies so glad we are only rolling and pushing along on back.

No boob is going surprisingly well yesterday up at 5am n gave a feed then n 7am offered again at 4pm had few sucks not bothered same at 5pm had a big bedtime feed and slept til 4.30am up for 20mins feed n back down til 7am best night in a while.

Today barely fed at 7am so had moaned all morning for boob Inc proper crying luckily we were out otherwise may have caved. I eventually got him to eat a fruit pot and some pasta twists he loves them cold so always have a pot of them in my bag. He is rubbish at eating breakfast so think that's why he used to feed all morning on n off. Afternoons he used to have a big feed at 1/2 before school run.

He used to feed to sleep and nap on me or in pushchair/car so naps are much shorter at mo.

Can't believe ds1 goes back to school in 3weeks which means I am back to work in 4weeks arrghh poor ds1 isn't 5 for another 2weeks he is baby of the year.

Oh and after ds1 until he was 2.5yrs we always said sticking yo one then discussed it pros n cons decided sticking to one then when he was 3yrs we said let's not not try if that makes sense n if pregnant before ds1 starts school great if not we won't have another and ds1 started school in the Aug n baby arrived end Nov.

Hey everyone! - I'm still in the land of the living (just) .

Have been trying to keep up with the thread but it's sped up a bit and so not sure what to write about!

We're trying a new nap routine here - have ditched the "as soon as they look tired put them to bed" advice as I was finding that despite loads of eye-rubbing and looking shattered, DD was simply getting a sudden burst of energy; rolling around loads; and argh-ing for an hour before I would eventually give up trying and get her out of bed. This was definitely the case for her morning nap which tended to be about 2-2.5 hours after she first woke up (i.e. around 8 - 8.30am). So now I'm going with putting her to her first nap around 9.45 - 10ish (after her 2nd BF of the day) and so far, she's zonked out almost straight away AND napped for about an hour... 2nd nap is then after her 3rd BF - around 2ish hence why I can type this now!

Night times are getting better - much less crying up front and she's sleeping through (got 11 hours out of her last night!)...I'm convinced I can see the tip of her 1st tooth just below her gum but DH isn't so sure - really wish it would get a bloody move on!

Anna, I think about you quite a bit - have a good idea of what you were up against with your Dad and the daily hospital visits....it's...gruelling (without trying to sound heartless). He's not the most optimistic of people either, so to get a download of problems at the end of each day is just brill....still, it's not much fun for him either and I promised Mum I'd keep an eye out for him...

Oh, meant to say that think DD is virtually about to crawl too! She's got to the stage of sticking her bum right up in the air and is trying to draw her knees underneath herself . At the moment I'm quite excited about it, but can see that I may not feel that way when I have to remove everything from reach and have eyes in the back of my head!

She's very good at going backwards and doing a 360 degree turn on her tummy. A couple of days ago she rolled over from her tummy to her back for the first time too.

Anyone else find that their DC has a rather too healthy interest in what's down the front of their tops??? Am finding that DD loves to pull at my tops and then just stares at my boobs....it's ok at home (although think my clothes are being stretched out of all recognition), but when we're out and about.....

Haven't we get the top stretching too think most bf babies do it.

Wow on sleeping through as well long may it continue

dd has only just started the top pulling this last week or 2. I also just fed her in the bath, it was really the only way to fit a top up feed in between home from work and bedtime feed, it was lovely but don't want her to associate the 2... that could be awkward at swimming!!

MrsA I love the idea that these nov babies are in a cohort!!

Misinterpreted the term cohort. Sorry, ambiguous wording! I don't actually think they're in cahoots.

I think they are in cahoots!!

Ah ladies, you always cheer me up! I am so envious of all your better nights, still getting 3 or 4 wake ups here routinely. Making a real effort not to give in and co sleep and put DD back down in her cot after each feed though as feel that she will never learn to go longer otherwise!

Second week back at work a bit stressful still, just settling DD after first wake up tonight then will go down and pack everything to take to yard, as go straight to nursery then work from there. Bit down as have been looking after an additional horse for ten days as well as doing mine and the one belonging to the lady I share duties with so we each do one 'end' of the day. It's been hard as four days in a row she has done the easy end, so no mucking out, (she should have done one stable the first day but texted to say she ran out of time before work and hadn't done it) so was looking forward to quiet weekend. She texted tonight to say girl who owns other horse now back Saturday night instead of Thursday and that she was away Friday to Sunday, so could I do all three horses those three days?! I agreed because there isn't anyone else but now feeling like a bit of a mug, to be honest. Especially as I will be working Friday too.

Sorry for the whinge anyway! havent I hope you're keeping spirits up ok, thinking of you.

lady I am glad work return is ok so far, keep it up! Is it getting any easier this week? Not here so far but I live in hope.

Yes to the top pulling, also I have a small mole above my right boob and DD is obsessed with trying to pull it off. It's so sore I have had to put a plaster over it! I keep moving her hand away and saying no but not sure she is getting it

Oh twiglet you hero!! They both owe you several lay ins and cups of tea at least! Yes I think this week is easier because for me it wasn't about missing her or leaving but about the fact I want to be a sahm but I can't be. Work is so busy I don't have time to miss her too much. My mum was a childminder and I don't ever remember a child crying for more than a minute or 2 when mum left, they're always fine, that's a comfort to me. What is hard... dd coming home smelling like the childminder, I hate that, she's mine and should smell like me :(

Today was only my 5th day back and I've had to start a discaplinary (sp??) procedure with my assistant. Really not what I need but should have been done a long time ago, now I'm back with renewed enthusiasm I'm going to get it sorted. Somehow.

Ooh ladydolly I so get the smell thing. I can't bear DS smelling of anyone else's perfume, aftershave etc. In the early days just after he was born I used to get extremely emotional about it. I'm not quite as neurotic about it as I was but I still really hate it, so I completely sympathise with how you're feeling xx

My dh used to say ds1 smelt of cm too funnily he never smelt of nursery. I am a little sad ds2 will be at nursery all the time and not a cm should ds1 cm have a space come up we will take a couple days and do 50/50 cm n nursery just couldn't find another cm we liked (ok I liked)

No boob going ok still yesterday was the hardest think he realised it wasn't a phase, pumping twice a day getting 4oz per boob in 10-20mins got a medela mini as hand pump was hard work.

Had DD smelling of my mum and sister constantly while staying in parents house. Ladydolly the different smell is the sign that your DD is getting cuddles while you cannot be there for her. I think it is a great sign even though it makes us bit

DD finally has cut the bas...rd of the tooth what has been bothering her for so long. Wohoo! With the top pulling she did it about month ago, but now seems to have lost interest. Few strange situations there...

havent my Dad was a glass half empty sort too. I would go in and he'd have a long list of complaints about everyone he had come in contact with that day and their incompetence. The only joy he would get is having a right old bitch to me! But I would find myself steeling myself for it as I parked in the car park. God he could be curmudgeonly! And no particular understanding of how stressful my life was having to juggle everything and would express surprise if I was flustered! So massive massive hugs to you!

I'm currently parked in the car.park of mums nursing home d's went to sleep on the way here and I want him to sleep longer than half an hour before going in.

Is this a bit PFB? Probably!

PFB?

Anna that's exactly what it's like! Made me smile - if I hear the phrase "this is like flying economy to New Zealand" one more time.... I try to remind him that he's much luckier than the 21 year old lad in the bed next to him who broke both his legs, back and neck in a motor bike accident...

Thisis, I'm with you - PFB?

Twiglet, I have NO idea how you do it all! You're a complete ! And you must be knackered by the end of the day too...

I think I'm lucky in that I'm not going back to work until beginning of December, and DD will start at nursery from mid Nov, so at the moment I'm sticking my head in the sand re return to work and figuring out how / what / when I'm going to feed her....figured things are likely to have changed by mid-Nov and she may not actually want to be BF anymore... I can't believe I'm about to type this (considering the hell I went through for the first 6-7 weeks), but I think I'm actually going to miss it!