November 2014 - The one where they won't stay still.

[MrsAukerman]

New thread, new moves, new poo!

DH got up with the DDs again today and got them dressed while I had breakfast. I was reminded why I always left clothes out when he looked after DD1! DD2 is wearing a spotty top that is part of a set with leggings that are a different not-matching colour with different coloured spots on (not the other part of the set). At least he tried. DD1 probably chose her own clothes so I can't blame him for them.

ladydolly you both look so cool!

I've been a bit quiet about nighttimes cos he was going down quickly and sleeping through. But I'm starting to discover that if he does wake up during the night THATS IT.

Last night he woke up at 2.30am. Myself & DH took increasingly irritable and snappy turns rocking him until 6am!!! Then he went back to sleep (finally) till just 7.30!

So we are like zombies today. We are "on holidays" in MILs and we were going to go on an excursion today but screw that!

Last night was so bad that this morning I told DH that maybe we shouldn't have a 2nd after all. Cos what if there were 2 kids acting up last night?! How do you folks with 2 kids ever manage at all with sleep?

Lovely pic ladydolly

Had a bit of a morning here which revolved around my Dad phoning up saying he thought he'd broken his knee and that he couldn't move from the floor....I called 999 he ends up in A&E with a fractured and dislocated knee and torn ligaments.... he lives on his own since mum passed away last year....not sure how long he'll be in hospital (he is having surgery this afternoon) or what it means re him and mobility....

You are all going to such exciting places. I consider it an interesting day if we go somewhere other than the local park.

haven't hope your dad is ok and recovers well.

DD came out in a rash yesterday. She fell asleep, and, after a while, I looked down and was surprised to see her face was all spotty. She is well otherwise except a slight cold, and it isn't itchy, so I have not taken her to OOH Dr, but it is all over her now. I assume it is either a mild viral thing or maybe CMPI. We, especially DH, are not convinced about CMPI anymore, so last weekend we all had shepherds pie with milk and butter in the mash, which is the first stage of the milk ladder that isn't biscuit or cake. She seemed fine, no problems, no more unsettled than usual, so it seems unlikely that it would take 5 days for a rash to come out as a result of that.

Happy my ds2 came out all blotchy on Fri unsure why pretty sure he didn't have anything with milk in his went within a few hrs.

Off to the docs for us, dd has eczema in exactly the same places I do so want to get some steroid cream and keep ontop of it

Am just discovering all the "inconveniences" of having the new car seat - one which has to stay in the car - DD out-grew her newborn one... How are you supposed to carry a baby out of a car with a load of bags and then put them somewhere they'll be ok before you go back and get more stuff? With the old seat, I could take that indoors and leave her there strapped in the seat whilst I got other things.... Hmm, forward planning required...

Oh, we've ordered a new pushchair - Out n' About V4 Nipper, I think it's called. Is supposed to be really good outdoors on "rough terrain" which is the thing we wanted most (it has 3 large wheels), but the big downside as far as I can see, is that the basket underneath is twitchy. Am going to have to use a rucksack as a changing bag I think as my current one definitely will not fit

"Twitchy"???!!! Bloody auto-correct. Meant "titchy"

Just popping in with a slightly late handhold, lady! Back at work, DD with mum rather than nursery as she is poorly with high temperature and three teeth emerging. Hope your return to work has been ok!

Will catch up with everyone else this evening, once I've recovered from my brain ache after a day in the office!

Anna hope the nights have been better since Saturday. I do ask myself about how people do with 2 kids and don't go mad. I am still undecided about whether I would want a second child or not. There are sooo many things making circles in my head with regards. On one hand lots of assumptions about why it is cool to stop with DD only. But then I have a friend she has 6 yo DD who has been asking for brother or sister. When our DD will be 6 I will be 45... unless you are Halle Berry or something, not exactly when you start thinking about babies. But then with DD only we would be able to have the lifestyle we want not the one we can afford and DD would have parents who are not exhausted looking after a number of kids and so on and so on.

After 6 weeks break took DD for swimming again. How she has grown and how much she liked to be in the water! We stayed almost whole hour until she was almost falling asleep in the water. Then I realised that it's 4-5 more months left for her to go to baby swimming, then I would be back at work and she would be in nursery all day. It has been for the 1st time in my life I thought "What if I do SAHM for few years?". We could afford it financially and from many points of view it would benefit DD and I could take her more often to see my grandparents etc. I know I would fine enough things to do not to be bored at home. But I know how difficult it is to get back to the job you want if you've got a gap in your CV. Before coming to UK I was doing masters and working in Spain in a different industry had the professional midlife crisis. Arrival here did coincide with the height of the credit crunch, but getting that first job was quite painful despite the different qualifications and experience. I guess I will give it a go with return to work and will see, can quit the job any time if I am desperate, right?

Hope your first day back at work has been good Twiglet and Ladydolly!

havent we've got the nipper and I love it!

Great pic ladydolly! You both look fab!

havent hope your dad's ok. On the pushchair front we also have an Out n About 360 Nipper that was given to us. It's my favourite one over the one we bought (a Babyjogger City Versa which is pretty good in its own right but better in towns) and manages cross country like a dream. My one gripe is the ridiculously small carry net. I just wish it was a bit bigger. I also use a rucksack rather than a bag for DS, and if we really need to travel light I throw a nappy, some wipes and a change of clothes in the bottom of the buggy and go with that. If you're feeling really energetic it's also quite easy to run with once you've locked the front wheel.

I tend to leave DS in the car whilst I unload and then get him in last. Either that or stick him in baby jail whilst I do it, depends how hot it is really.

twiglet and ladydolly hope your first day back has been ok.

ark DS also has eczema which I'm gutted about. DP and I both have asthma so it's no surprise but I was really hoping he'd escape it. The HV says lots of babies get it so that made me feel a bit better.

I need a virtual hug twiglet!! dd was absolutely fine, I knew she would be. dp took and good job he did because I cried all the way to work and then some. CM was great and sent me loads of texts and pics showing happy babydolly. She was happy to be collected but not as happy as she was to see dp!
It was tough. I just have to pray for a lotto win so I can give up work for a few more years. It'll get better I'm sure.

Now I'm sure I'll regret saying this but I almost look forward to night feeds now so we can have a cuddle...

twiglet how did you get on?

Poor babies with excema, is the weather bothering them?

Thanks happy and thisis - just been to see dad...not doing too great mentally and has 4 massive metal pins in his leg and a metal bar...waiting for an MRI.

Am really looking forward to getting the Nipper - should be delivered by the end of the week

Haven't, hope he is ok better spirits tomorrow. I think it makes a huge difference to daily life if invalids are surrounded by positivity. So so hard though! Hope it's a better day for you.

Lady, gah work itself was ok but it was hard enough leaving DD with mum, so not sure how I'm going to cope on Wednesday if she goes into nursery! I nearly cried this morning so it's a sure thing I think.

Poor DD still struggling tonight, up three times already. She can have more drugs from 9:30 so going to stuff it down her at next wake up and hopefully she will sleep better than last night, when she woke at 5:00 screaming because she was so hot and uncomfortable. It's just so bloody awful when you can't do any more to help.

Eyeing up next stage car seats here too, DD pretty much outgrown her baby one. Going to have to last til next payday though as money so tight until I get my first full pay packet now I'm back to work

Strawberry we had a big talk about No.2 again today - we came down (tentatively) on the side of regretting it if we were too cowardly to try at least. Which as DH pointed out was exactly our thinking about trying for Ds and that has worked out well, despite the normal struggles.

So we're going to just leave it up to the gods i.e. Shag a bit more but do nothing else.

I honestly could not go back to a full time job at present - emotionally I mean. I don't know if its cos I'm older (40) and not as ambitious as I used to be, or whether its cos I lost my Dad, or whether this could be my only child, but I just have this massive "life is too short" feeling. But I'm fortunate that my career allows me to do part-time. I'm not going to work more than one or two days a week for the near future. If I couldn't do that I'd be taking a career break, definately & doing the SAHM thing.

But thats definately not for everyone, God knows!

Thanks twiglet

anna I could have written your 3rd paragraph - just substitute "mum" for "dad" and change the number of working days to 3.....know exactly how you feel. ...

DD drank a bottle of Wysoy yesterday and went straight to sleep for DH though she was absolutely exhausted. DH decided he will carry on doing bedtime on Mondays even though my Monday evening activity has finished for the summer. She made a face at the Wysoy but carried on drinking it. Then fell asleep, didn't wake up when put in the cot, slept for 3-4hrs, fed, fell asleep and went back in the cot for 3-4hrs. I tried for a long time but didn't get her back in the cot after that, but she lay down in the bed and slept until I got up at 7.30. So, I got to sleep lying down rather than sitting up holding her and she slept in 3-4hr blocks rather than the usual 1-2hrs, which is nice but I'm not expecting a repeat.

Anna it's a very good point and probably the best attitude to let it happen when in doubt. You will probably end up pregnant very quickly with this approach as very often women dont fall pregnant because they are too consumed about it. :)

Marking place as I keep falling off the thread!

Bad nights persist. Yawn.

Same here. I'm knackered

I started to give DD mild peppermint tea with the dinner in hope she gets bit less restless during the night. 3 nights now and it seems she has become better, although she still waves few times. At least she is not spinning around the bed like she used to. Or is this my imagination? Front upper teeth are to cut any moment, so not the best place to be.

Last night I went out We got both dds in bed before I left, they were asleep by the stroke of 7pm. DD2 apparently woke at 10pm for DH but he got her back to sleep easily apparently (I'm guessing with a cuddle and dummy). She didn't wake again until 3amish (I had come to bed just before 1am). Fed for about 10 minutes, then back to her cot without a peep until a few minutes before 7am.

THIS
IS
AMAZING
.

I think that's her first night ever with just one night feed. Going to try to get her to bed by 7pm again tonight in the hope that she feels like repeating her trick. Also send in DH for her first waking to repeat his trick.

I'm sure she'll pay us back for that good night though!

Hello all

Im new to this thread. I briefly lurked on the last November antenatal thread as I reading about your births kept my spirits up that I wouldnt be overdue and have to have a c-section instead of the vbac I wanted. Didnt work out the way I wanted though.

Anyhow fast forward and I now have a lovely cuddly teddy bear of a ds. I wanted to ask though about bedtimes of your 8-9 month olds. My ds sleeps at 9pm and I am concerned this is too late. He has one nap usually during the day in the morning whichccan be anything from an 1 2/3 - 3 hours. He also wakes up between 7-8 sometimes even 9 am. He wakes up 1 or twice a night for a quick feed then sleeps.

My concern is Im going back to work in September and I need him to sleep earlier as he will have very early starts. Not sure how to do it though. I have a 3 year old ds who can and will go to sleep earlier with a bit of nudging but his bedtime has also tended to be at 9pm. Ideally I want them both to be asleep by 7-8ish. Any tips would be much appreciated.

Hi listening. My DS is just over 8 months and goes to bed at 6.15-7pm depending on how long it takes to get him down. He usually has a dream feed at about 11 and recently has dropped his 3am feed and goes through to 5.30/6ish. Once or twice he's even made it to 7 but that's VERY rare! We still have really bad nights - I was up 5 times last night between 1 and 5 - but they seem (fingers tightly crossed) to be getting fewer.

I read somewhere that if you want to change bedtimes to do it by 10 minute increments each day/every two days. I haven't tried it but it seems a logical way to go about it. I'd love my DS to sleep longer in the morning but my evenings are so precious and I'm so worn out by 6 that I can't bear to make it any later in a vain attempt to get him to sleep longer in the mornings.